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Asian men. They ain't interested

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By *ansb101 OP   Man
over a year ago

Telford

You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men have a tough time. It's nothing to do with race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of single men on here luck out bud, it’s a fact of the ratios and expectations.

Is it any worse for you because you’re Asian? Honestly I dunno. People have preferences so for some that would rule you out but not for all.

However, I had a little nosy on your profile and I see you’re bi curious. I’ve seen a lot more “no bi guys” on women’s profiles than I have “no Asian guys”.

Keep your chin up and expectations of a meet exclusively through fab low. On the plus side, there’s more to fab than just trying to get a meet. Enjoy the hot pics, the forums and stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my humble opinion it has nothing to do with being Asian but more to do with approach and effort and for us ultimately personality but again that’s just my opinion.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m Asian and had a few meets through here with single ladies and a couple. It’s all down to approach, timing and most importantly being normal and respectful

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We would meet asian couples but not single asians but that is just down to our needs.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a Asian guy,

A true gentleman,

Left him with my wife,

And we met up again a few weeks later,

Not had a problem

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By *ontyguy 39.Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I love Asian guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met 2-3 Asian guys and they were amazing x I admit I have a preference for white boys but don’t give up as I’m sure you will have people who want to meet you. I think here guys in general tend to struggle x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Who says we're not interested in Asian men?

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Who says we're not interested in Asian men? "

Good morning maybe not you but a lot of profiles you read all say the same thing no Asians. On one profile was repeated several times and in CAPS to.

For ever what the reason maybe race for any colour people will always have a preference. The one I never get is ohh were not racist we have Asian friends. But don't want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are good looking (to me)

If we like the same things

If we want the same from a meet

If we are able to balance diaries

Then we will meet - assuming it is agreeable to both of us

That includes the loose term 'Asian Men'

The trouble I find with the 'Asian Men' I have chatted with is that, invariably, they look for the things I don't

Last minute 'anonymous' meets, fuck & go's, little body contact, little sensuality, no kissing, always wanting to be the 'top'

I'm sure much of this behaviour is cultural as opposed to racial and, yes, I know there are Caucasian guys that behave like this too, but the traits are more prevalent in 'Asian Men'

That said, if we are attracted to each other and if we want the same from a meet, let's do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love East Asian and SE Asian men myself, one of the hottest guys I’ve ever met was from Laos

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You've been here 5 months.

Even pre pandemic that's still less than average time it would take single men of any ethnicity to get a meet unless they were right place right time kinda thing.

I dunno if you've seen the news over the last 18 months but there's been a bit of a bug going round, dunno if you've seen the news at all this week but the bug hasn't gone away and numbers are rising again.

So you go ahead and play the race/colour card. You go ahead and ignore the fact that it has always been this way for ALL men other than those who get lucky or make an effort to actually get off their arses and go to clubs or organised socials.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on. "

If I excluded every guy of a particular ethnicity because of one time that happened, I would be quickly running out of ethnicities . White guys would have been out 100 times over!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on.

If I excluded every guy of a particular ethnicity because of one time that happened, I would be quickly running out of ethnicities . White guys would have been out 100 times over! "

Have you got a still got a slot for a irish/Asian mix?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on.

If I excluded every guy of a particular ethnicity because of one time that happened, I would be quickly running out of ethnicities . White guys would have been out 100 times over!

Have you got a still got a slot for a irish/Asian mix? "

I think that's obscure enough to still be eligible

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why assume it's due to race ?

And it clearly is an assumption.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on.

If I excluded every guy of a particular ethnicity because of one time that happened, I would be quickly running out of ethnicities . White guys would have been out 100 times over!

Have you got a still got a slot for a irish/Asian mix?

I think that's obscure enough to still be eligible "

That's what I was hoping. I'll get application in.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Not at all, I've only met one as he's the only one I've connected with and got on with

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"There is a lot of 'oh this Asian guy was entitled and pushy at a club once so I'm never going to sleep with Asian guys again'.

But then there's also a lot of people who don't give a crap what colour you are. Find those people.

It's tough on here as a guy, accept it or move on.

If I excluded every guy of a particular ethnicity because of one time that happened, I would be quickly running out of ethnicities . White guys would have been out 100 times over!

Have you got a still got a slot for a irish/Asian mix?

I think that's obscure enough to still be eligible

That's what I was hoping. I'll get application in. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me tell you though, as soon as you decline a meet with an Asian guy, you get the “it’s because I’m Asian, we aren’t all the same, you need to give us a chance etc etc” even if you didn’t mention race! They won’t hear that it’s nothing to do with race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually object to that sweeping assumption and suggest that possibly it's an attitude rather than a skin colour issue.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??"

Seen many in club's do very well .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says we're not interested in Asian men?

Good morning maybe not you but a lot of profiles you read all say the same thing no Asians. On one profile was repeated several times and in CAPS to.

For ever what the reason maybe race for any colour people will always have a preference. The one I never get is ohh were not racist we have Asian friends. But don't want to meet them."

I hell of alot of profiles also say 'BBC ONLY' ect. Its just preference. Ive a asian friend on here thats always meeting people.

Approach is everything get envolved in forum games ect that helps. Create a interesting profile.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I avoid profiles and delete messages that make reference to colour or ethnicity. I've not seen any race abusive ones but I'm even put off by race fetishism.

So if someone comes at me and says, do you like Asians, my answer is, not interested, sorry.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If like to know what reasons you think women/couples may turn white men down, or black men down, or whoever the gell they turn down ... down.

And why oh why is it they aren't the very same reasons they turn Asian men down?

Could it perhaps be, by any chance, that they only meet maybe 1% or less of people that contact them? Or is that just not what you want to hear?

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By *atermelodyMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Fab isn't what it used to be 10 years ago when I first joined. There's alot more competition now for single guys. There are many tall, olive skinned and handsome 6 foot men with big muscles and six-pack, which seems to be the preference for 99% of the women on here lol.

My advise is just be yourself and focus on people who have no racial preference or people who do like meeting Asians.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??"

I hate to dissapoint your stereotype, but (for us) that's not correct.

We'll meet anybody. From Fab, if they've read our profile and send a polite introductory message, if we're (me) attracted to them, if the conversation flows and isn't hard work, if they're polite and respectful, if they have a decent profile.

Lot of "ifs" there, they're all key to whether we choose to meet up.

None of those "ifs" are specific to race, creed or colour.

Just be a decent human being.

E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question OP should be asking is why can't "I" meet anyone.

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I do think that race plays a part in people's preferences (not everyone but enough to matter to an individual such as the OP).

True- it's tough for single men and we are in a pandemic but if you are in a minority that isn't regularly fetished (as problematic as that is) you are going to fair far worse - that's what I think intersectionality is about but I need to read up on it.

I think it's dangerous to dismiss other people's lived experiences.

If someone believes they have been marginalised by their race it doesn't really help to say 'no that's not what it's about'

No amount of 'asian friends' hooking up change the reality of the OP

Even if you are asian yourelf and do particularly well - it doesn't change the OPs experience.

Race is a triggering conversation for many but I do think it's a privilege to say that discrimination doesn't exist or to use phrases like 'the race card' (as if people can put on and take off race and racial discrimination at will)

This site is a microcosm of the wider world after all.

OP - your profile isn't the greatest but even if you re-wrote it and took all of the (well meaning and not so well meaning) advice touted on here... if people are not attracted to your race you'll need to adjust your expectations.

Maybe chat on here where you'll become a 'forumite' and be recognised as an idividual rather than a stereotype etc.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think that race plays a part in people's preferences (not everyone but enough to matter to an individual such as the OP).

True- it's tough for single men and we are in a pandemic but if you are in a minority that isn't regularly fetished (as problematic as that is) you are going to fair far worse - that's what I think intersectionality is about but I need to read up on it.

I think it's dangerous to dismiss other people's lived experiences.

If someone believes they have been marginalised by their race it doesn't really help to say 'no that's not what it's about'

No amount of 'asian friends' hooking up change the reality of the OP

Even if you are asian yourelf and do particularly well - it doesn't change the OPs experience.

Race is a triggering conversation for many but I do think it's a privilege to say that discrimination doesn't exist or to use phrases like 'the race card' (as if people can put on and take off race and racial discrimination at will)

This site is a microcosm of the wider world after all.

OP - your profile isn't the greatest but even if you re-wrote it and took all of the (well meaning and not so well meaning) advice touted on here... if people are not attracted to your race you'll need to adjust your expectations.

Maybe chat on here where you'll become a 'forumite' and be recognised as an idividual rather than a stereotype etc.

Good luck."

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm attracted to individuals. Their skin colour or ethnicity is not relevant, if there's attraction that's what matters.

At clubs with my husband, we have had great fun with a wonderful array of people. They have come from a variety of different backgrounds with equally varying skin shades.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I do think that race plays a part in people's preferences (not everyone but enough to matter to an individual such as the OP).

True- it's tough for single men and we are in a pandemic but if you are in a minority that isn't regularly fetished (as problematic as that is) you are going to fair far worse - that's what I think intersectionality is about but I need to read up on it.

I think it's dangerous to dismiss other people's lived experiences.

If someone believes they have been marginalised by their race it doesn't really help to say 'no that's not what it's about'

No amount of 'asian friends' hooking up change the reality of the OP

Even if you are asian yourelf and do particularly well - it doesn't change the OPs experience.

Race is a triggering conversation for many but I do think it's a privilege to say that discrimination doesn't exist or to use phrases like 'the race card' (as if people can put on and take off race and racial discrimination at will)

This site is a microcosm of the wider world after all.

OP - your profile isn't the greatest but even if you re-wrote it and took all of the (well meaning and not so well meaning) advice touted on here... if people are not attracted to your race you'll need to adjust your expectations.

Maybe chat on here where you'll become a 'forumite' and be recognised as an idividual rather than a stereotype etc.

Good luck."

Great post.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I dont care what race/colour anyone is, if I'm attracted to them then all good. If they meet what I want then all good.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

A lot of women on these sites, if the are genuinely looking are only interested in certain type of male despite saying otherwise. So if you don't fit in that mould you have little on no chance as a male. It is the way it is and nothing about ethnicity or race as every male on here if they don't fit then the ods are stacked against you as well as numbers

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Personally, I tend to find myself more attracted to white guys, that's not a hard and fast rule, it's just what I tend to go for and what I tend to look for.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

It's not true to say that "we're" not interested in Asian men as we're not one homogenous groups - we all have our own preferences and sadly, also prejudices.

Single men find it hard on here and will find it harder with various other factors; such as being bi or from a minority ethnic group. There's no pint pretending that it's nothing to do with ethnicity because that's a lie - for sone people it clearly is. I've seen profiles, albeit not many, state "no Asians" and also seen posts where women and couples have expressed that they won't meet Asian men due to bad experiences with a couple of them I clubs.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I do think that race plays a part in people's preferences (not everyone but enough to matter to an individual such as the OP).

True- it's tough for single men and we are in a pandemic but if you are in a minority that isn't regularly fetished (as problematic as that is) you are going to fair far worse - that's what I think intersectionality is about but I need to read up on it.

I think it's dangerous to dismiss other people's lived experiences.

If someone believes they have been marginalised by their race it doesn't really help to say 'no that's not what it's about'

No amount of 'asian friends' hooking up change the reality of the OP

Even if you are asian yourelf and do particularly well - it doesn't change the OPs experience.

Race is a triggering conversation for many but I do think it's a privilege to say that discrimination doesn't exist or to use phrases like 'the race card' (as if people can put on and take off race and racial discrimination at will)

This site is a microcosm of the wider world after all.

OP - your profile isn't the greatest but even if you re-wrote it and took all of the (well meaning and not so well meaning) advice touted on here... if people are not attracted to your race you'll need to adjust your expectations.

Maybe chat on here where you'll become a 'forumite' and be recognised as an idividual rather than a stereotype etc.

Good luck."

Absolutely. It's extremely easy (and rude and lazy) for white people to dismiss the racial aspect. Just because it's not an issue for you, that doesn't mean it isn't for lots of others.

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By *ansb101 OP   Man
over a year ago

Telford

I understand not everyone is the same and this isn't a "racecard" thing. Which for some reason some of you bring up so quickly. *irony*

What I was intimating was that on many profiles it states, 'not interested in Asian men'. This is on Asian and non Asian profiles.

Hence the reason for my post

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Simply choose to ignore them then... as I do the profiles who state they wouldn't find me attractive

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I understand not everyone is the same and this isn't a "racecard" thing. Which for some reason some of you bring up so quickly. *irony*

What I was intimating was that on many profiles it states, 'not interested in Asian men'. This is on Asian and non Asian profiles.

Hence the reason for my post "

Had you mentioned in your OP that you were basing your statement on *some* profiles then maybe I'd have not gone that way, however you didn't. You stated women of all colours. I'm not sure why "of all colours" needing mentioning, surely it's just women? That's why it did sound to me like a "race card" thing.

A bit like when "non gym fit" guys think all the gym fit dudes are getting laid, when bald blokes think all men with hair are getting laid, when bi blokes think all straight dudes are getting laid etc etc and they're being left out.

Bit like if I was to whinge nobody wanted to meet me because I'm short. Got fuck all to do with me being short and everything to do with me being a gobby shite who some people have zero interest in.

Apologies if I was wrong.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I once went on a date with an Asian dude in Luton many moons ago...I had to kind of hide in the car when we passed his area as he 'shouldn't' be seen with a different race! That put me off for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand not everyone is the same and this isn't a "racecard" thing. Which for some reason some of you bring up so quickly. *irony*

What I was intimating was that on many profiles it states, 'not interested in Asian men'. This is on Asian and non Asian profiles.

Hence the reason for my post "

Ah. See, you’ll see profiles on here which exclude all sorts. No single men. No straight women. No trans/TV/TS. My profile, when it’s not hidden, says no straight or dominant men.

If you were being personally rejected for being Asian, that’s one thing. But people, rightly or wrongly, put things on their profiles like that.

If you saw my profile and extrapolated from that that “no one” is interested in straight men, that’d be a bit of a leap, right?

I think you’re making a bit of a leap here too, although to be fair, I completely understand that racial “preferences” are tricky and they’re never formed in a vacuum.

I think there are plenty of people on here who are into Asian people, you just have to find them.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I really like Asian men as love their skin tone,dark hair, eyes and lashes. That does not mean I am sexually attracted to them all. I have met a couple of lovely Asian men on here.

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By *o nojohMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

As others have said it more likely because you are a single guy. We for example only meet couple it has nothing to do with race.

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By *o nojohMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"I do think that race plays a part in people's preferences (not everyone but enough to matter to an individual such as the OP).

True- it's tough for single men and we are in a pandemic but if you are in a minority that isn't regularly fetished (as problematic as that is) you are going to fair far worse - that's what I think intersectionality is about but I need to read up on it.

I think it's dangerous to dismiss other people's lived experiences.

If someone believes they have been marginalised by their race it doesn't really help to say 'no that's not what it's about'

No amount of 'asian friends' hooking up change the reality of the OP

Even if you are asian yourelf and do particularly well - it doesn't change the OPs experience.

Race is a triggering conversation for many but I do think it's a privilege to say that discrimination doesn't exist or to use phrases like 'the race card' (as if people can put on and take off race and racial discrimination at will)

This site is a microcosm of the wider world after all.

OP - your profile isn't the greatest but even if you re-wrote it and took all of the (well meaning and not so well meaning) advice touted on here... if people are not attracted to your race you'll need to adjust your expectations.

Maybe chat on here where you'll become a 'forumite' and be recognised as an idividual rather than a stereotype etc.

Good luck."

Can this post please be framed or saved as the template response.

I read these topics being a man of colour and am always disappointed but not surprised at the amount of people who are quick to delegitamise an asian man's experiences on fab.

My block list is full of people who specifically say 'no Asian' in the profile (like those signs they used to have up in shops in the 70s and 80s) or people who jump on these posts and state 'it's all preferences'. I'm mean that is closet racism right, because that's painting us all with the same brush. I'm mean for every Apu, there's a Riz Ahmed, after all.

If you can't be understanding or have nothing to say that is positive or constructive to the OP, then just ignore the post.

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By *untimeabcWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes


"A lot of single men on here luck out bud, it’s a fact of the ratios and expectations.

Is it any worse for you because you’re Asian? Honestly I dunno. People have preferences so for some that would rule you out but not for all.

However, I had a little nosy on your profile and I see you’re bi curious. I’ve seen a lot more “no bi guys” on women’s profiles than I have “no Asian guys”.

Keep your chin up and expectations of a meet exclusively through fab low. On the plus side, there’s more to fab than just trying to get a meet. Enjoy the hot pics, the forums and stories. "

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By *untimeabcWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes


"A lot of single men on here luck out bud, it’s a fact of the ratios and expectations.

Is it any worse for you because you’re Asian? Honestly I dunno. People have preferences so for some that would rule you out but not for all.

However, I had a little nosy on your profile and I see you’re bi curious. I’ve seen a lot more “no bi guys” on women’s profiles than I have “no Asian guys”.

Keep your chin up and expectations of a meet exclusively through fab low. On the plus side, there’s more to fab than just trying to get a meet. Enjoy the hot pics, the forums and stories. "

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By *untimeabcWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes


"A lot of single men on here luck out bud, it’s a fact of the ratios and expectations.

Is it any worse for you because you’re Asian? Honestly I dunno. People have preferences so for some that would rule you out but not for all.

However, I had a little nosy on your profile and I see you’re bi curious. I’ve seen a lot more “no bi guys” on women’s profiles than I have “no Asian guys”.

Keep your chin up and expectations of a meet exclusively through fab low. On the plus side, there’s more to fab than just trying to get a meet. Enjoy the hot pics, the forums and stories. "

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

For most on here it's about personal preference

I personally don't care what colour someone's skin is... If I find them attractive then I find them attractive

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By *wing-a-LingCouple
over a year ago

London

I've seen profiles stating 'No black men' then another shortly after saying 'BBC only'.

I've seen profiles stating 'no bi guys' then another shortly after saying 'bi men only'.

I've seen profiles stating 'No Asian men' but am yet to come across one stating 'Asian men only'

Regardless, as you've seen from the responses in this thread, not every woman has an aversion to Asian men. As a single guy, it's always an uphill battle. Your race may be a limiting factor for certain women, but for many others it won't be. The same can also be said for your height/body type/hairstyle/eye colour etc.

For what it's worth, I'm an Asian guy. My wife and I have met many incredible people in this lifestyle. We're aware that we would sometimes get turned down because of my race. No harm, no foul. For every couple who is averse to my race, there's another one out there who isn't. Those are the ones we want to meet.

Since joining Fab, we've blocked every single profile we come across which mentions 'No blacks/Asians' etc. Over time, and hundreds of blocked profiles later, we hardly ever see those sorts of profiles anymore. I think we've got them all!

Either way, I understand why you feel discouraged but I think race is just one factor out of many that could cause rejection. Not everyone will reject you because of your race. Hang in there, and I'm sure you'll find some amazing people who couldn't care less about what colour your skin is. Or might even be attracted to you because of it. They're out there, trust me

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I've seen profiles stating 'No black men' then another shortly after saying 'BBC only'.

I've seen profiles stating 'no bi guys' then another shortly after saying 'bi men only'.

I've seen profiles stating 'No Asian men' but am yet to come across one stating 'Asian men only'

Regardless, as you've seen from the responses in this thread, not every woman has an aversion to Asian men. As a single guy, it's always an uphill battle. Your race may be a limiting factor for certain women, but for many others it won't be. The same can also be said for your height/body type/hairstyle/eye colour etc.

For what it's worth, I'm an Asian guy. My wife and I have met many incredible people in this lifestyle. We're aware that we would sometimes get turned down because of my race. No harm, no foul. For every couple who is averse to my race, there's another one out there who isn't. Those are the ones we want to meet.

Since joining Fab, we've blocked every single profile we come across which mentions 'No blacks/Asians' etc. Over time, and hundreds of blocked profiles later, we hardly ever see those sorts of profiles anymore. I think we've got them all!

Either way, I understand why you feel discouraged but I think race is just one factor out of many that could cause rejection. Not everyone will reject you because of your race. Hang in there, and I'm sure you'll find some amazing people who couldn't care less about what colour your skin is. Or might even be attracted to you because of it. They're out there, trust me "

Eloquently put chap

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By *ansb101 OP   Man
over a year ago

Telford

I world like to reiterate this is not a 'racecard' thing.

It's an observation.

It's all good, if it happens it happens otherwise I don't lose anything.

As mentioned in the manu replies, it's not just Asian It's bbc only, over a certain size/age, hair, no hair, etc, etc.

Nothing bitter just pointing out what I've seen.

I pointed out Asian in the thread title just because I saw this written by Asian and non Asian women. Which definitely limits things.

Also just to point out, men aren't that bothered ?????

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By *erostringMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I love East Asian and SE Asian men myself, one of the hottest guys I’ve ever met was from Laos "

It's rather encouraging and reassuring to hear that *wink* *wink*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says we're not interested in Asian men?

Good morning maybe not you but a lot of profiles you read all say the same thing no Asians. On one profile was repeated several times and in CAPS to.

For ever what the reason maybe race for any colour people will always have a preference. The one I never get is ohh were not racist we have Asian friends. But don't want to meet them."

And probably the same number of profiles say not fattys, or no bald guys, or 6ft plus, or 8+ inches

Some people are more selective and perhaps more demandning with their preferences than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??"

If I chucked a deck of cards at you, clearly you'd pick out the race card!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't blame you for feeling that way. It's quite sickening to see the amount of profiles with the words no Asians, blacks etc. It's pretty grim and shitty of them, so I can see why you feel disheartened.

But please remember that there are plenty of people who wouldn't dismiss you because of your ethnicity.

Stay positive, be respectful and remember that men do have a hard time on here. But if you give up, you'll definitely get nowhere. I hope you find someone to connect with soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't blame you for feeling that way. It's quite sickening to see the amount of profiles with the words no Asians, blacks etc. It's pretty grim and shitty of them, so I can see why you feel disheartened.

But please remember that there are plenty of people who wouldn't dismiss you because of your ethnicity.

Stay positive, be respectful and remember that men do have a hard time on here. But if you give up, you'll definitely get nowhere. I hope you find someone to connect with soon. "

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??"

Many like them . And they tend to have big cocks.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I’m Asian and had a few meets through here with single ladies and a couple. It’s all down to approach, timing and most importantly being normal and respectful"

That is good to hear

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I’m Asian and had a few meets through here with single ladies and a couple. It’s all down to approach, timing and most importantly being normal and respectful

That is good to hear "

'Normal'?

Damn - that's me knackered.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"If you are good looking (to me)

If we like the same things

If we want the same from a meet

If we are able to balance diaries

Then we will meet - assuming it is agreeable to both of us

That includes the loose term 'Asian Men'

The trouble I find with the 'Asian Men' I have chatted with is that, invariably, they look for the things I don't

Last minute 'anonymous' meets, fuck & go's, little body contact, little sensuality, no kissing, always wanting to be the 'top'

I'm sure much of this behaviour is cultural as opposed to racial and, yes, I know there are Caucasian guys that behave like this too, but the traits are more prevalent in 'Asian Men'

That said, if we are attracted to each other and if we want the same from a meet, let's do it

"

I agree with you and you put it so well with the ‘little body contact’. There’s usually no foreplay which for me is a big part of a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont see skin colour i just see hot guys or not

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By *ani25Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well said !!! But some people don’t want accept it’s more about good communications and friendship…..

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Sounds like you just lack manners

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I haven't read every comment on here. But, here's my take as a guy of East Asian descent.

I believe that there is less demand for people such as myself in that there is no established fetishisation of men of my race and similar. The fantasy of an Asian man doesn't really exist in the mainstream consciousness, or is very niche at best. But there is for the women. They're petite or they're mild mannered. People have an expectation of what fits into the fantasy of an Asian woman. We all know what the deal with BBC is and why most people pursue this. There is an established construct surrounding this fantasy.

Yes, there are some people who have no expectations and judge each person on their individual merits. But it may be that we're just not their cup of tea. Perhaps we're simply an acquired taste. It means we're fishing from a tinier pool and must demonstrate patience as there is no other way.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Just to throw in 2 cents again from the male half here as a half caste male from my experience asian men are often the most desperate men they try far to hard they don't read profiles and they spam you to death and this has stigmatized asian men on this site I aspire to be a gentlemen as much as possible hell khaos preference is brown men (duh) but even she says she's often put off by how desperate some people seen the complete ignorance to people's "looking for" is very annoying too and the fake couples thing is just a bit pathetic

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By *ilfbonaMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Im half indian and italian and i can say that yes, there will be always someone who doesn't want to meet an Asian person, as there are some Asian people who don't want to meet people of other races/ ethnicity.

I've always had a preference for Caucasian women...does that make me racist? I've chatted and met a few women off here and it's always about personality and attraction...i've had my fair share of rejections but the encounters I've had have sure made up for it!

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Blame the Taliban, they've put Asian men back 2000 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read every comment on here. But, here's my take as a guy of East Asian descent.

I believe that there is less demand for people such as myself in that there is no established fetishisation of men of my race and similar. The fantasy of an Asian man doesn't really exist in the mainstream consciousness, or is very niche at best. But there is for the women. They're petite or they're mild mannered. People have an expectation of what fits into the fantasy of an Asian woman. We all know what the deal with BBC is and why most people pursue this. There is an established construct surrounding this fantasy.

Yes, there are some people who have no expectations and judge each person on their individual merits. But it may be that we're just not their cup of tea. Perhaps we're simply an acquired taste. It means we're fishing from a tinier pool and must demonstrate patience as there is no other way. "

There is very much a 'thing' for Bruce Lee....

Only in the North West of the UK though

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"I haven't read every comment on here. But, here's my take as a guy of East Asian descent.

I believe that there is less demand for people such as myself in that there is no established fetishisation of men of my race and similar. The fantasy of an Asian man doesn't really exist in the mainstream consciousness, or is very niche at best. But there is for the women. They're petite or they're mild mannered. People have an expectation of what fits into the fantasy of an Asian woman. We all know what the deal with BBC is and why most people pursue this. There is an established construct surrounding this fantasy.

Yes, there are some people who have no expectations and judge each person on their individual merits. But it may be that we're just not their cup of tea. Perhaps we're simply an acquired taste. It means we're fishing from a tinier pool and must demonstrate patience as there is no other way.

There is very much a 'thing' for Bruce Lee....

Only in the North West of the UK though "

There wasn't even a 'thing' for Bruce Lee even when Bruce Lee ws alive lol. Men wanted to be him but he wasn't really a sex icon. Where's nice to visit in the North West at this time of year?

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge


"I don't blame you for feeling that way. It's quite sickening to see the amount of profiles with the words no Asians, blacks etc. It's pretty grim and shitty of them, so I can see why you feel disheartened.

But please remember that there are plenty of people who wouldn't dismiss you because of your ethnicity.

Stay positive, be respectful and remember that men do have a hard time on here. But if you give up, you'll definitely get nowhere. I hope you find someone to connect with soon. "

And this is why everyone loves lemon butter cream in their cakes x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"You definitely luck out on here if you're an Asian man (in that I'm assuming brown but I stand to be corrected). Women of all colours aren't interested. I'm not sure what Asian men have done to y'all but jeez, we ain't all the same ??"

I wouldn’t be interested as your married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only had 1 meet. Been on and off fab since 2016.

The profiles which states things in reference to race is more than hint that they are best to avoid.

At the end of the day its each individuals preference.

Yes closet racism is rife in this era but your not going to convince someone to change by being sexual with them.

Take it as a blessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read every comment on here. But, here's my take as a guy of East Asian descent.

I believe that there is less demand for people such as myself in that there is no established fetishisation of men of my race and similar. The fantasy of an Asian man doesn't really exist in the mainstream consciousness, or is very niche at best. But there is for the women. They're petite or they're mild mannered. People have an expectation of what fits into the fantasy of an Asian woman. We all know what the deal with BBC is and why most people pursue this. There is an established construct surrounding this fantasy.

Yes, there are some people who have no expectations and judge each person on their individual merits. But it may be that we're just not their cup of tea. Perhaps we're simply an acquired taste. It means we're fishing from a tinier pool and must demonstrate patience as there is no other way. "

Yes i agree. The stage was set way back in the late 50's as the Influx of the Migrants whom were invited to come to the west for labour work etc.. hard working,polite,no Machoism. No Hero status symbols etc.

This had set the stage for the minds of many upto today even.

Not viewed as "hip Cool, nor sexual objects, even though Karma Sutra came from the East.

So here we are most on fab as Meat for the Cleaver!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read every comment on here. But, here's my take as a guy of East Asian descent.

I believe that there is less demand for people such as myself in that there is no established fetishisation of men of my race and similar. The fantasy of an Asian man doesn't really exist in the mainstream consciousness, or is very niche at best. But there is for the women. They're petite or they're mild mannered. People have an expectation of what fits into the fantasy of an Asian woman. We all know what the deal with BBC is and why most people pursue this. There is an established construct surrounding this fantasy.

Yes, there are some people who have no expectations and judge each person on their individual merits. But it may be that we're just not their cup of tea. Perhaps we're simply an acquired taste. It means we're fishing from a tinier pool and must demonstrate patience as there is no other way. "

Very nice take on the subject.

In my experience, vast majority of women do not have any race specifications. Then there are a good number of women look specifically for a particular race. "White men only", "Black men only" etc. I have seen probably two profiles during my time here, which mentioned Asian men only.

Then there are some women who say no to specific races. "No whites", "No blacks", "No Asians". In this category, "No Asians" scores much higher.

The main reason as mentioned above is that Asians neither fall into the "my own race" nor the fetishised segment. The other is that some men have created a bad reputation for Asians frequently enough for women to develop a bad vibe about us. I have seen it myself in clubs.

Either way, it's their body, their wish. They have the right to choose and we shouldn't be judging them. One way you can go about it is by going to a club/party and use your charm. On a website like this, where women get bombarded by plenty of messages, it totally makes sense for women to ignore the ethnicities they are not totally attracted to. In a club though, if your physical appearance is good enough and you don't act like a creep, they will be more inclined to give you a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asians always get bad press on the media which has deterred many people from actually being interested in them.

Many people play on the stereotype claiming that Asian guys have small cocks.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Who says we're not interested in Asian men?

Good morning maybe not you but a lot of profiles you read all say the same thing no Asians. On one profile was repeated several times and in CAPS to.

For ever what the reason maybe race for any colour people will always have a preference. The one I never get is ohh were not racist we have Asian friends. But don't want to meet them."

I have fat, short, hairy, disabled, female etc friends who do nothing for me sexually...what's your point?

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Who says we're not interested in Asian men?

Good morning maybe not you but a lot of profiles you read all say the same thing no Asians. On one profile was repeated several times and in CAPS to.

For ever what the reason maybe race for any colour people will always have a preference. The one I never get is ohh were not racist we have Asian friends. But don't want to meet them.

I have fat, short, hairy, disabled, female etc friends who do nothing for me sexually...what's your point?"

Whilst I don't want to answer on anyone's behalf, I can only speculate on the point. My interpretation is that people see someone as good enough for one purpose but not for another. An example is, how many Caucasian couples are there who are happy to commit to a conventional relationship with someone of their own race. But seeking someone black to fuck on their special weekends. I guess it isn't really discussed as very few people have an issue with fetishising race.

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