FabSwingers.com forum: Does lamp post pissing work?

By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

You know what I mean. If you know that someone is regularly scent marked by another member here, either with forum comments or lovey dovey verifications, do you then avoid that person as you consider them "taken"? Or likewise if you see someone doing the pissing, do tou think that they only have eyes for that one person so give them a swerve?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope. I assume if they were taken they’d tell me so no if I like someone I speak to them/meet them. I do say I won’t veri and make sure they keep it to themselves though. I don’t like people knowing my business x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes it's just for fun and they are two friends flirting because it's amusing, nothing else.

Having typed that, yes, I do tend to avoid talking to/my form of flirting with someone when the scent of urine is strong on them. People gossip and also I've seen the fallout of things played out too often on here. Maybe I'd meet them for a social.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Don't really take much notice of it if I'm honest, I've seen a few profiles where about 80% of her veris were from the same guy, but we've still flirted, chatted and met

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that. "

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Nope. Except where I am pretty sure that there will be major drama ensuing if I so much as glance at the person.

There are people who will deliberately seek out those being pissed on in order to attempt to screw someone else over. Those people I do avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it depends on the severity. If possessive words start being used and it's mad keen then I tend to roll my eyes and make a mental note to swerve it.

If it outwardly appears to be nothing serious then it wouldn't put me off. I'd still approach and if I subsequently received a message from an aggrieved 3rd party then again, commence the eye roll again and move on.

I can't be bothered getting involved in any nonsense like that. It's not who I am and I haven't got time for it.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing. "

Ha ha it’s a regular in my northern vocabulary!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing. "

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?"

Yes I think so. I'd not heard of it until a very Northern sounding person taught me it. It sounds brilliant and perfectly describes mithering.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?"

I’ve no idea! Maybe…I’ve always used it and heard it

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Just have visions of everyone pissing on lampposts....reminds me must take the hound of the Baskerville out for his walk.....

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that. "

I’d speak to them, it’s not always their fault they were scent marked and it sometimes becomes a bone of contention they didn’t anticipate or ask for. I wouldn’t necessarily meet for anything other than a social, otherwise that’s where you become embroiled in someone else’s jealousy. You see it time and time again here with people who can’t get their head and emotional stability around NSA…..

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Who cares? I am largely oblivious to it all now. It’s gone on for years. Would I want to be pissed on? (Erm….

). No. Because it happened in the past and it was just too much drama, drama I didn’t need or want, nobody owns me and I don’t own anyone. Maybe that’s a little sad, but maybe that’s the way I like it.

Do I look like a lamppost though. Yes. I concede I do. But that is by the by.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?

I’ve no idea! Maybe…I’ve always used it and heard it

It’s a very ‘you’ word

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If I think someone is taken, I will still chat, or meet for a social, but that will be as far as it will go, as I have too much respect for people's relationship status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never even saw this as a thing. It’s a swingers site. Of course there is going to be flirting and people will have people they like more than others but i don’t see anyone on here as a “lamp post”

If you feel like other people might be “lamp post pissing”, you might need to have a think about yourself.

Maybe you are the problem yourself?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?"

Ma Mam's side of the family are from Hull, and they use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was setup recently by someone who made out they were single but clearly wasn't.

He got a bit shitty with me then blocked me.

A friend told me they had joint status exactly the same word for word on both their single profiles so clearly they were hooked up together.

It's put me off single women for a while and tbh I maybe dodged a bullet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I’m not into water sports so I’d be grateful if nobody pissed on me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’d avoid speaking to someone obviously scented as that usually leads to drama. Can’t be mithered with any of that.

Mithered! I've recently been taught this word, it's amazing.

Mithered is a class word! Only recently I learned it wasn't very widely known. Is it just a Manchester/Northern thing?

I’ve no idea! Maybe…I’ve always used it and heard it

I use it and my folks do. It’s a manc thing I think x

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I didn’t particularly want a previous involvement with someone to become public knowledge on here however it did through flirtation on forums. During that time I would never expect other people not to message him or vice versa but I don’t do drama, I think if you get a sense that it cause more hassle than it was worth then best to step aside, I’m here to have fun, I love a good flirt and if people don’t like that so be it x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I didn’t particularly want a previous involvement with someone..."

Previous?

What is going on with the world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it’s a bit of a deterrent for me. Because I don’t know how involved the people are and don’t want drama. And also I have learnt that discretion works best.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

Flirting with a friend (benefits or not) on the forum is what a lot of people do. The better the friend, the more flirting often ensues. If someone looking on sees that as LPP then that's their issue and it shouldn't affect the dynamic between those people.

We like to use the analogy of the lounge in particular as being a bar, right? If two people in a bar were flirting every time they saw each other no one would think anything of it unless they were actively throwing daggers at anyone else. If they were doing it in the bar of a swingers club, even less likely to think anything of it.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Never even saw this as a thing. It’s a swingers site. Of course there is going to be flirting and people will have people they like more than others but i don’t see anyone on here as a “lamp post”

If you feel like other people might be “lamp post pissing”, you might need to have a think about yourself.

Maybe you are the problem yourself? "

Just because you don't see it, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen or that I am the problem. As you can see in the responses, other long-term members have confirmed that it happens.

I'm well aware that this is a swinger's site, not least as I was previously here as part of a couple. But thanks for the bonus mansplain.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% agree with this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel like other people might be “lamp post pissing”, you might need to have a think about yourself.

Maybe you are the problem yourself?

Just because you don't see it, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen or that I am the problem. As you can see in the responses, other long-term members have confirmed that it happens.

I'm well aware that this is a swinger's site, not least as I was previously here as part of a couple. But thanks for the bonus mansplain."

Ooooh. Never been accused of mansplain before. Hope you have a lovely afternoon.

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

There's a definite difference between banter, flirting and obvious lamp post pissong. I can be an outrageous flirt devoid of any subtlety but I would hope that it's obvious to all that it's just that - flirting. Lamp post pissing is different and most of us more intuitive or longer term members can tell them apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I don’t it’s a swingeing site

If the person them selfs haven’t told me they not in to me then it’s pritty much fare game so to speak there no place for jealousy here if your the jealousy type then this place definitely isn’t for you

That being sed I don’t meet one hafe off a couple well on the first meet anyway both don’t need to play but both need to be present during small talk I will bring up if one hafe is ok with the other hafe just playing them selfs if it ever crops up but also do expect to see both hafes sometimes

Ie one meet single the next both and so on

I also respect couples and such if say they were here single and then coupled up and only here to keep in touch with friends and such

But only if stated

Always say the best policy is be open and honest you have a blast

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

This is why I very rarely meet anyone from the forums....to much drama....Too much going on in my life away from here to be dragged into that kinda crazy x

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m far too stupid to notice these things!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Nope, I'll talk to who I want to, if they're taken in the sense of not meeting others because of that person then I would expect them to say so, so we both know where we stand. Some people are just very flirty with others, I won't have someone marking territory act as a deterrent though as the person being marked is their own person and can decide what they want to do or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I'll talk to who I want to, if they're taken in the sense of not meeting others because of that person then I would expect them to say so, so we both know where we stand. Some people are just very flirty with others, I won't have someone marking territory act as a deterrent though as the person being marked is their own person and can decide what they want to do or not

Good afternoon.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"There's a definite difference between banter, flirting and obvious lamp post pissong. I can be an outrageous flirt devoid of any subtlety but I would hope that it's obvious to all that it's just that - flirting. Lamp post pissing is different and most of us more intuitive or longer term members can tell them apart."

You would think so. But that doesn't appear to always be the case.

I'm apparently an outrageous flirt but some people don't seem to grasp that's all it is and think I'm LPP. And they've been long term members who would in some cases say they're intuitive.

It's usually in the eye of the reader.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Fuck it. I'm pissing on your lamp post

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

I get that to...its always the same people guaranteed

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

Yes, this. Well I'm not newish at all but you can almost predict who will respond, how etc. And as much as this might be like a lounge, it's a swingers site, whatever... sometimes people just don't play nicely with other people. That's not in my head, it's down to almost a decade of reading fall outs, comforting friends etc.

Swingers aren't an enlightened group of peaceful folk and sometimes they don't like sharing and sure as hell want others to know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. Except where I am pretty sure that there will be major drama ensuing if I so much as glance at the person.

There are people who will deliberately seek out those being pissed on in order to attempt to screw someone else over. Those people I do avoid."

I agree with the second bit.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Fuck it. I'm pissing on your lamp post

Scent away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it to Mr HH all the time, and sometimes I wonder whether people look upon it as lpp him, but to be fair we are together, and we have a couples account too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only flirt ironically or sarcastically. The person I’m closest to, we do the opposite, we rarely acknowledge each other in the forums, just to keep people off the scent, because we know what this place is like, so nobody knows and that’s the way ahuh we like it.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Exactly, hence my earlier post. I've been on here for coming up to 15 years,(yes, I'm a Dinosaur) but I can tell the difference between people who like to write veris for each other, and those who are marking out their territory so to speak

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anyone as taken, it's not a dating website. If someone is 'exclusive' to another user it's up to them to tell people, otherwise they are free to be approached.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t. "

Crap. You flirt with me

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t. "

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off "

Who!! Feel free to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m new to the forums and always flirted and commented on threads with a great person I got chatting to. It quickly became common knowledge, it was fun and it lead to an amazing weekend together.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

When we 1st joined the forums back in 2015 LPP was rife. I actually felt really embarrassed for 1 person. They’re not on here now (that I know of) but used to blatantly LPP & would message you if you met someone they thought was exclusively theirs.

J x

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

Swingers aren't an enlightened group of peaceful folk and sometimes they don't like sharing and sure as hell want others to know that."

Amen to all of that. Hence many newer people feeling excluded. It's natural that real life friends gravitate towards each other but sometimes the cliquiness is just plain rude, with threads being taken over with "in jokes" etc...and that's before we even consider the scent marking!

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"When we 1st joined the forums back in 2015 LPP was rife. I actually felt really embarrassed for 1 person. They’re not on here now (that I know of) but used to blatantly LPP & would message you if you met someone they thought was exclusively theirs.

J x"

I remember stuff like that, although not quite as far back as 2015.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm relatively new to the forums compared to most but always know who's going to come along and make comments on certain people's comments

Swingers aren't an enlightened group of peaceful folk and sometimes they don't like sharing and sure as hell want others to know that.

Oh you mentioned the 'c' word...dont you know that doesn't exist in fab land

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off "

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with."

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with."

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll tell you when I've finished

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t like watersports

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on the fora for just over two years now and agree it can be a fun place to flirt. People naturally enjoy flirting and that’s ok but we’re not kids and many don’t realise or don’t care when it starts getting embarrassing or just boring for others. Funny that some of the loudest voices on here are, in my humble opinion, some of the worst pissers...

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I’ve been on the fora for just over two years now and agree it can be a fun place to flirt. People naturally enjoy flirting and that’s ok but we’re not kids and many don’t realise or don’t care when it starts getting embarrassing or just boring for others. Funny that some of the loudest voices on here are, in my humble opinion, some of the worst pissers...

Yes, I think that is called being "entitled"...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Wondered how long it would take for the "clique" to come up

Ever considered that maybe those that you perceive to be in a clique might think that about you?

And that's the general "you". At anyone who likes to throw the word clique around.

I get told I'm in a clique. I also get told I'm inclusive. Again, like LPP, it's all down to the perception of the reader.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I just wanna know who’s lamppost I’m pissing up

. I’ve even green arrowed myself! Unless it’s someone I don’t know is taken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I think that is called being "entitled"..."

Oh no I wouldn’t say that. Natural chatters in real life mean larger than life personalities on online platforms. It just happens naturally for them. Perhaps mega flitters would be a more appropriate phrase than Lamp post pissers.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about! "

Me Nora! Stop it please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I think that is called being "entitled"...

Mega flirters

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"You know what I mean. If you know that someone is regularly scent marked by another member here, either with forum comments or lovey dovey verifications, do you then avoid that person as you consider them "taken"? Or likewise if you see someone doing the pissing, do tou think that they only have eyes for that one person so give them a swerve?"

I haven't read the entire thread so sorry if someone has brought this up already.

But to slightly go off topic, this is one of the issues I think is happening.

Many are using the site like a dating site rather than a swinging site.

User A looks for a long term partner.

User B comes along and they hit it off.

They then proceed to plaster status updates about how great the other person is"you know who you are"

Then user C comes along and is attracted to either A or B.

But C is put off as it's clear that the others aren't interested in meeting anyone else.

So yeah it is off putting.

As a couple we get very confused if we are on the wrong site, these days it does seem to be 95% singles looking for other singles looking to mark their territory.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

It's me!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yes, I think that is called being "entitled"...

Mega flirters

That's kind of proving my point.... it is down to the perception of the reader.

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Wondered how long it would take for the "clique" to come up

Ever considered that maybe those that you perceive to be in a clique might think that about you?

And that's the general "you". At anyone who likes to throw the word clique around.

I get told I'm in a clique. I also get told I'm inclusive. Again, like LPP, it's all down to the perception of the reader."

It CAN be cliquey and plain rude. I think that's less about perception of the viewer and more about those engaging being oblivious.

The endless "which forumite..." posts are completely inclusive to those more "known" and I'm also seen people imply that forum men are somehow "better" than the kind of men who regularly get moaned about for sending shitty messages etc. I've also seen people use terms as "You'll find that most forumites don't like/do..." etc, suggesting that they are an authority on whatever matter is being discussed.

Of course some of it is just "new girl" syndrome, like starting a new school when friendship groups have already been formed. But at times it can genuinely be rude .

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Get in your car then! I'll be naked waiting

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

I haven't read the entire thread so sorry if someone has brought this up already.

But to slightly go off topic, this is one of the issues I think is happening.

Many are using the site like a dating site rather than a swinging site.

User A looks for a long term partner.

User B comes along and they hit it off.

They then proceed to plaster status updates about how great the other person is"you know who you are"

Then user C comes along and is attracted to either A or B.

But C is put off as it's clear that the others aren't interested in meeting anyone else.

So yeah it is off putting.

As a couple we get very confused if we are on the wrong site, these days it does seem to be 95% singles looking for other singles looking to mark their territory.

#YouKnowWhoYouAre

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I see it as a challenge and like to see how the people concerned react to my attention

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’ll get me coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll get me coat. "

Shut it loud mouth

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I have wrongly thought that folk were connected before, so now I don’t judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wondered how long it would take for the "clique" to come up

Ever considered that maybe those that you perceive to be in a clique might think that about you?

And that's the general "you". At anyone who likes to throw the word clique around.

I get told I'm in a clique. I also get told I'm inclusive. Again, like LPP, it's all down to the perception of the reader."

The clique does exist, I can confirm it because I am in a clique of my own!!! Enough said!!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’ll get me coat.

Shut it loud mouth

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I haven't read the entire thread so sorry if someone has brought this up already.

But to slightly go off topic, this is one of the issues I think is happening.

Many are using the site like a dating site rather than a swinging site.

User A looks for a long term partner.

User B comes along and they hit it off.

They then proceed to plaster status updates about how great the other person is"you know who you are"

Then user C comes along and is attracted to either A or B.

But C is put off as it's clear that the others aren't interested in meeting anyone else.

So yeah it is off putting.

As a couple we get very confused if we are on the wrong site, these days it does seem to be 95% singles looking for other singles looking to mark their territory.

#YouKnowWhoYouAre"

It's the worst isn't it.

Maybe fabs is missing a trick and should start doing their own merch.

You know who you are.

The T shirt.

Length or girth bumper sticker.

Think I'm going to start a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love you NotSoPosh….I do have membership for one more to join my clique.

It’s free lifetime membership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’ll get me coat.

Shut it loud mouth

want me to take your round the lingerie shops of Exeter?……….. again

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret"

In this case so am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll get me coat.

Shut it loud mouth

want me to take your round the lingerie shops of Exeter?……….. again

Sure if I get some pasties again

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

Of course some of it is just "new girl" syndrome, like starting a new school when friendship groups have already been formed. But at times it can genuinely be rude ."

Totally agree. As another "new girl" this is very apparent; I had a profile for 6 years before this one and having to start again has really emphasised the established groups and the feeling like you're looking through a pane of glass at the bustling group indoors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#Iknow.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Love you NotSoPosh….I do have membership for one more to join my clique.

It’s free lifetime membership.

I thought I was already in it!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’ll get me coat.

Shut it loud mouth

want me to take your round the lingerie shops of Exeter?……….. again

Sure if I get some pasties again

Tinkle….tinkle….tinkle

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Does LPP work?

It’s fun to watch, and while I would love to say it wouldn’t stop me approaching someone, it all depends on the person and their situation.

But then most of the people into what we are into are likely already “owned”.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'd quite like my lamppost pissed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love you NotSoPosh….I do have membership for one more to join my clique.

It’s free lifetime membership.

I thought I was already in it!

But this one is the cliquiest of the cliques.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

I've shagged everyone

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

I've shagged everyone

You were fabulous too x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I only flirt ironically or sarcastically. The person I’m closest to, we do the opposite, we rarely acknowledge each other in the forums, just to keep people off the scent, because we know what this place is like, so nobody knows and that’s the way ahuh we like it. "

So that's why you never reply to any of my forum posts

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The only lamp post pissing that I have ever really taken notice of is when someone starts name-dropping people they have met.

This has happened a couple of times in private messages and even in the forums. It's done as a way of showing the type of circles they hang out in so for that reason alone I just block them and don't engage.

I've no issue with people flirting publicly if they know each other but it's when it reaches the schoolyard level and the " do you wanna be in my gang?" attitudes that it becomes stupid and inane.

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By *elethWoman
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% agree with this x"

I agree with this too, have to say I'm pretty oblivious to LPP though, so innocent and naïve

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The only lamp post pissing that I have ever really taken notice of is when someone starts name-dropping people they have met.

I've no issue with people flirting publicly if they know each other but it's when it reaches the schoolyard level and the " do you wanna be in my gang?" attitudes that it becomes stupid and inane. "

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I'd quite like my lamppost pissed up"

Euw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course some of it is just "new girl" syndrome, like starting a new school when friendship groups have already been formed. But at times it can genuinely be rude .

It can be like that for everyone. I have been here 12 years this year and I feel like that at times.

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"The only lamp post pissing that I have ever really taken notice of is when someone starts name-dropping people they have met.

I've no issue with people flirting publicly if they know each other but it's when it reaches the schoolyard level and the " do you wanna be in my gang?" attitudes that it becomes stupid and inane. "

Agree

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Wondered how long it would take for the "clique" to come up

Ever considered that maybe those that you perceive to be in a clique might think that about you?

And that's the general "you". At anyone who likes to throw the word clique around.

I get told I'm in a clique. I also get told I'm inclusive. Again, like LPP, it's all down to the perception of the reader.

It CAN be cliquey and plain rude. I think that's less about perception of the viewer and more about those engaging being oblivious.

Of course some of it is just "new girl" syndrome, like starting a new school when friendship groups have already been formed. But at times it can genuinely be rude ."

So change it. Be the change you want to see. Then it'll be less obvious.

We were all new once. I lurked for 2 years almost because the couple of times I tried to get involved I got ignored.

So when I start threads I'm inclusive. I reply to everyone (except yesterday. That was a blip)

Because everyone should have a voice. Everyone has the right to a reply. That's how I feel about it. And if other people don't do it like that then that's their call. But I do me. They do them.

And I stay off the threads like you picked out where I either don't get mentioned or do and it's a

moment. Or I'll go on and piss off the OP (probably) by refusing to name names.

But forums are all the same to a lesser or greater extent, as adults we are all responsible for our own journey on them. As long as there isn't abuse and cruelty it shouldn't be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice people having had liaisons perhaps but it doesn’t stop my ‘flirting’, which is merely friendly repartee. It’s not my problem if the supposed injured party perceives it to be more.

I respond to anyone who wants some lighthearted fun and in turn, respond to me. The issue would be between the two people to resolve themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never even notice it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I’m far too stupid to notice these things! "

You and me both!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I notice people having had liaisons perhaps but it doesn’t stop my ‘flirting’, which is merely friendly repartee. It’s not my problem if the supposed injured party perceives it to be more.

I respond to anyone who wants some lighthearted fun and in turn, respond to me. The issue would be between the two people to resolve themselves."

My thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK so ive just read the whole thread and I'm still really confused because I genuinely dont understand LPP And like I said very rarely notice it.

I really dont get what it means because Does that mean me and Ash do this or is it people that are just flirting and not in a relationship can someone explain this properly to me please.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"OK so ive just read the whole thread and I'm still really confused because I genuinely dont understand LPP And like I said very rarely notice it.

I really dont get what it means because Does that mean me and Ash do this or is it people that are just flirting and not in a relationship can someone explain this properly to me please. "

It's essentially someone making a claim with suggestive comments that have a back off undertone to all reading them is how I interpret it

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"OK so ive just read the whole thread and I'm still really confused because I genuinely dont understand LPP And like I said very rarely notice it.

I really dont get what it means because Does that mean me and Ash do this or is it people that are just flirting and not in a relationship can someone explain this properly to me please.

It's essentially someone making a claim with suggestive comments that have a back off undertone to all reading them is how I interpret it"

Couples don't really count as we all know the score it's mainly singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK so ive just read the whole thread and I'm still really confused because I genuinely dont understand LPP And like I said very rarely notice it.

I really dont get what it means because Does that mean me and Ash do this or is it people that are just flirting and not in a relationship can someone explain this properly to me please.

It's essentially someone making a claim with suggestive comments that have a back off undertone to all reading them is how I interpret it

Couples don't really count as we all know the score it's mainly singles "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK so ive just read the whole thread and I'm still really confused because I genuinely dont understand LPP And like I said very rarely notice it.

I really dont get what it means because Does that mean me and Ash do this or is it people that are just flirting and not in a relationship can someone explain this properly to me please.

It's essentially someone making a claim with suggestive comments that have a back off undertone to all reading them is how I interpret it"

OK because thats where i have always got confused whether it's just open flirting but I get what you mean now.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I have avoided LPP people for various reasons. For some you can see it’s new, fresh and they are excited about it, why would you want to step into that. Some just because the wrong word in banter gets someone’s heckles up or they PM you asking if stepping on your toes.

Makes an easy filter system of individuals I wouldn’t meet or trust. My business is my business and no one else’s

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!! "

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

#notsosly

#shesbonkingthemall

#pissypants

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate.

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By *elethWoman
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

#notsosly

#shesbonkingthemall

#pissypants"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate. "

You did a bit but we still love you.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

#notsosly

#shesbonkingthemall

#pissypants"

I’m always pissing on Mr M

. Could be anyone. I’m obviously not going to be told so not sure the point of the little dig at me really. I shall step out of the playground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have avoided LPP people for various reasons. For some you can see it’s new, fresh and they are excited about it, why would you want to step into that. Some just because the wrong word in banter gets someone’s heckles up or they PM you asking if stepping on your toes.

Makes an easy filter system of individuals I wouldn’t meet or trust. My business is my business and no one else’s "

This

Beyond socials I can't imagine ever advertising who I was meeting and why, least of all in Forum !

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate.

You did a bit but we still love you.

guilty. We live and learn!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate.

You did a bit but we still love you.

guilty. We live and learn!!! "

In my case it paid off so worth looking a twat for. X

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

#notsosly

#shesbonkingthemall

#pissypants"

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

I've shagged everyone

You were fabulous too x"

I know

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate.

You did a bit but we still love you.

guilty. We live and learn!!!

In my case it paid off so worth looking a twat for. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I should also say that I think people are too ready to "accuse" others of lamp post pissing.

And if you did think anything of it, that would be your issue, not theirs.

It makes me laugh and roll my eyes when I see people moaning about others doing it and then acting exactly the same way themself though

100% this!!

. I flirt with everyone except anyone I’m meeting, we purposely don’t.

You always make it obvious who’s lamppost your pissing up ….. every time! It stands out a mile off

Ouch!

I’ve always seen Nora as an equal opportunities flirter!! She has a harem of lovely candidates to have a crack with.

On my life I’ve no idea who she’s talking about!

Me Nora! Stop it please

I’m proper flummoxed

but it’s just digging. I shall leave it there. FAF?

Nora, you’re making it very difficult to play this charade of ignoring each other if you keep insisting on this.

I shan’t tell if you won’t!!

I’m secretly shagging everyone really.

#notasecret

In this case so am I

Oh! I wonder if it’s you!

WHO IS IT NORA?!? I won’t sleep if I don’t know now

. Well the only 2 I could think of N&H and Chillout both laughed so other than that I’ve no idea!!!

You sure you’ve not been bonking Mr Mystique on the sly?!!!

#notsosly

#shesbonkingthemall

#pissypants

I’m always pissing on Mr M

. Could be anyone. I’m obviously not going to be told so not sure the point of the little dig at me really. I shall step out of the playground. "

ya Nora

Does this count as Lamp Post Pissing??

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?"

You can lick me all you like

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?"

And that's why we ended up in lockdown

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't pay enough attention to notice that kind of thing

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate. "

You dont have to be celibate saff

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m pretty good at picking up on who is after who so I tend not to get too involved. I also don’t meet from the forums, less drama. I think we have all seen examples of where it has gone a bit Pete Tong..

But then saying that I tend not to get too involved with anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

You can lick me all you like

Am screen shotting right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

And that's why we ended up in lockdown

I’m licking you

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Well I guess if I did LPP Ash it kinda worked because we are getting married.

You are the living proof that pissing works

I’ve no idea. I did it once, badly and looked a twat. Now I’m celibate.

You dont have to be celibate saff"

Been in crutches for 5 months and now have lockdown lard so no chance I’m changing that anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue. "

And thighs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

And thighs!

Lick them as much as you want

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

"Nope. I assume if they were taken they’d tell me so no if I like someone I speak to them/meet them. I do say I won’t veri and make sure they keep it to themselves though. I don’t like people knowing my business x"

I totally agree, as most of it is mind games anyway. No one knows who actually says what to other people behind your back. I joined to have fun and intend doing so. The forums have helped me to understand different scenarios throughout the site, hopefully will contribute to everyone in the future.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

And that's why we ended up in lockdown

I’m licking you

Right back atcha

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue. "

I'm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, it wouldn't stop me interacting with someone just because other members were all over them. People are crazy on here, and if you like that person then why not proceed? If they're taken or uninterested you will soon find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

I'm in

Seems like there’s a queue forming. Anyone else?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

I'm in

Seems like there’s a queue forming. Anyone else?"

I prefer a bundle to a queue

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I take no notice of it what so ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

I'm in

Seems like there’s a queue forming. Anyone else?

I prefer a bundle to a queue

Either or….. just no pissing. I’m not a lamp post.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I met a woman down the Naafi once. She was with a guy, he was a bit odd and a hostile passive aggressive undertone towards me (I think). The impression I got was he was freinds zone territory with her. I fancied her, she was feisty, short, broad shouldered and I'd just watched her wrestle a guy to the floor outside. Just my type. Anyway while out side this guy told me that she was his girlfriend and not to get any ideas. I thought to myself I'm pretty sure she's not. Plus it also told me he (knowing her) thinks she attracted to me (I'm a little on the spectrum and sometimes do pick up when I'm being flirted to). So I simply went up to her, asked her out to dinner and she said yes. He did not look happy.

So the lamppost pissing didn't deter me and it didn't work for the guy.

(Mr)

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m game for licking. I’ve got a tongue.

I'm in

Seems like there’s a queue forming. Anyone else?

I prefer a bundle to a queue

Either or….. just no pissing. I’m not a lamp post. "

So picky!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Scent Marked. That’s a new one on me. Lol

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"I see it as a challenge and like to see how the people concerned react to my attention

Tell me you’re from the East End without telling me you’re from the East End

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are my shoes wet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like tit amd cock blocking... yes and no.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Why are my shoes wet?"

Incontinence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And now time to settle and read the thread

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

You can lick me all you like

Am screen shotting right now

For your to 'do' list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what I’ve never heard of lamp posting , gosh I’ve lead a sheltered life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much to read...I've got a headache from the sun and bodka slush puppies so if anyone fancies doing a synoptic

It's still a yes and no, I also tend to steer away from someone who I perceive to be in a group of people. Regardless if they have had dalliances or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too much to read...I've got a headache from the sun and bodka slush puppies so if anyone fancies doing a synoptic

It's still a yes and no, I also tend to steer away from someone who I perceive to be in a group of people. Regardless if they have had dalliances or not

Hold the vodka and I'll be right over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

You can lick me all you like

Am screen shotting right now

For your to 'do' list

Well, that’s you, my to do list

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"What about if you lick people rather than lpp?

You can lick me all you like

Am screen shotting right now

For your to 'do' list

Well, that’s you, my to do list

If we are licking people can I get in on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too much to read...I've got a headache from the sun and bodka slush puppies so if anyone fancies doing a synoptic

Gosh typos!

Aww fool, I fear I'd be asleep by the time you got here

It's still a yes and no, I also tend to steer away from someone who I perceive to be in a group of people. Regardless if they have had dalliances or not

Hold the vodka and I'll be right over!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I'd quite like my lamppost pissed up"

*cocks leg*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate this lamppost pissing thing on fab.... Two people can just lark about and flirt on the forums and somehow it's a negative thing called lamp post pissing.

Being open about the fact you're a thing with someone is seen as being possessive... And I struggle to see how. Its a swingers site. Shouldn't we expect people to flirt and couple up etc?

Why is not weird to act like your not a couple?

I don't get it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Too much to read...I've got a headache from the sun and bodka slush puppies so if anyone fancies doing a synoptic

It's still a yes and no, I also tend to steer away from someone who I perceive to be in a group of people. Regardless if they have had dalliances or not

Some say yes, some say no....you've not missed anything

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Just have visions of everyone pissing on lampposts....reminds me must take the hound of the Baskerville out for his walk....."

Why is it they have to piss up every lamppost and tree? Sure no piss left long b 4 end of walk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too much to read...I've got a headache from the sun and bodka slush puppies so if anyone fancies doing a synoptic

It's still a yes and no, I also tend to steer away from someone who I perceive to be in a group of people. Regardless if they have had dalliances or not

Some say yes, some say no....you've not missed anything

Pmsl! Cheers me dear

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I think people are misunderstanding what I believe LPP to be...for me it's not just flirting, it's the possessive, passive aggressive comments that are oozing with "keep your grubby mitts off" vibes.

I find it highly amusing, especially when people do it to someone that they're unaware is involved with someone else

Personally, unless people have a note on their profile saying that they're involved with someone, or tell me directly that they are, I'd presume that they were still looking to meet others...and that the LPPer was just desperately grasping at straws to stake claim on someone that doesn't want to be possessed.

(closed, thread got too big)

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