FabSwingers.com forum: How often

By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

How often do you reach out to people you know are struggling, be it health wise or mentally, not just on here but in the real world.

Having gone through traumatic loss and alcohol addiction recovery I tend to find I am more empathetic and willing to reach out the those close to me, or that I consider to be friends and try to do what I can, even if it's just comforting words.

Letting them know they are not alone or offering that hand when they stumble.

Who else is the same

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I am, but at the same time I do have to keep my own house in order or I'll overspend my healing levels on others and neglect myself.

I've spent the last 2 days helping my friend coz she's poorly and am quite often the person others come to when in a dilemma

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"How often do you reach out to people you know are struggling, be it health wise or mentally, not just on here but in the real world.

Letting them know they are not alone or offering that hand when they stumble.

Who else is the same"
alot more people need to be. I found my self homless a few years back, makes me appreciate all I have now and makes me a little more understand of others. I give when I can and quite regularly sit with someone sleeping rough with a coffee and have a chat.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Sometimes life gets in the way. I would like to think that I'm available to a friend in need but don't always reach out first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have to reach out to people that much, a lot of people come to me when their struggling. I like to think I help them as much as possible. But if I notice somethings a little off with someone, I will also reach out to make sure.

We all need a helping kind hand now and again

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no need to reach out anymore.

Those I did broke that trust.

So now I help others if I can when I can

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Coningsby

I'm lucky that most of my friends are understanding as they have have also had issues with mental health so we are all very supportive of each other

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t. Everyone who’s close to me knows I’ll be there in a shot if they need me. I don’t like people reaching out to me or asking me questions or mollie coddling me, I like to be left alone so if other people need me they know where I am and they know I’ll be there.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

I would 100% make it worse.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x"

This is me too , i often wish i could approach people who are close to me but never do.

To people in the outside world im absolutely fine, in reality im not .

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x

This is me too , i often wish i could approach people who are close to me but never do.

To people in the outside world im absolutely fine, in reality im not ."

Exactly this. Especially the situation I'm in now x

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

"I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x

This is me too , i often wish i could approach people who are close to me but never do.

To people in the outside world im absolutely fine, in reality im not .

Exactly this. Especially the situation I'm in now x"

100% this. Had a tough time recently and felt a bit on my own but I'm always there for everyone else x

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x

This is me too , i often wish i could approach people who are close to me but never do.

To people in the outside world im absolutely fine, in reality im not .

Exactly this. Especially the situation I'm in now x"

I'm here if you fancy a chat x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As much and as often as I can. It's very important to not leave people suffering alone.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The reason I don't is because most people who say they care, don't give two hoots in all honesty. In their company its whatever you want to hear but as soon as your out of sight, you are out of mind.

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

"The reason I don't is because most people who say they care, don't give two hoots in all honesty. In their company its whatever you want to hear but as soon as your out of sight, you are out of mind."

Amen to that. I find they just ask how you are so they can tell you all their woes x

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Due to my recent health problems I found myself in a situation, in which I had to reach out to others for help. I then discovered how much is actually available to even a ‘loner’ like me. People who I knew on a semi friendly way, would offer to put themselves out to ensure I was ok.

It was truly heartwarming and I’m sure aided my recovery.

I have actually been quite emotional with some of them due to their kindness. So any thoughts that I’m truly on my own have left me, there’s always someone who’ll come to my aid, if I need them.

So, it’s taught me to ensure I’m also available, those who supported me I now owe, they know it as well. As I don’t think I can now walk away from someone who’s struggling, it’s taught me a lesson that I’m more than willing to learn.

So if they or someone calls for help I won’t ignore it or pretend I didn’t see it, if they need me I will help.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x"

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it’s dangerous to keep bottled up so yes lucky to have a select few who do get me, do try to be there for others but know to be careful as people can abuse your trust and harm us even more

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x"

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x"

I'm on my way to give you a cuddle x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x

I'm on my way to give you a cuddle x "

I'd probably cry x

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x

I'm on my way to give you a cuddle x

I'd probably cry x"

Then I'll bring tissues x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve reached out to people on here when they are struggling, but I’m going to stop now, because every single time, men turn it around into something sexual.

It’s shame because I think this can be a lovely community at times.

Also, I think it’s important to be in a good space yourself, if you’re going to reach out.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x"

Probably wont help but im sending a huge hug and positive vibes to you x

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I never ever reach out and no-one would know what exactly is going on in my life, I keep things very close to my chest and don't let anyone in.

On the other hand I will be there for anyone who needs help, I'd gladly drop everything and do/say whatever I could x"

I'm the same as you....I'm really bad at asking for help or opening up but I like reaching out to others and being there for others

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I’ve reached out to people on here when they are struggling, but I’m going to stop now, because every single time, men turn it around into something sexual.

It’s shame because I think this can be a lovely community at times.

Also, I think it’s important to be in a good space yourself, if you’re going to reach out. "

you tried that’s all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve reached out to people on here when they are struggling, but I’m going to stop now, because every single time, men turn it around into something sexual.

It’s shame because I think this can be a lovely community at times.

Also, I think it’s important to be in a good space yourself, if you’re going to reach out.

you tried that’s all that matters

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately in work lately it feels like everyday!

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I’ve reached out to people on here when they are struggling, but I’m going to stop now, because every single time, men turn it around into something sexual.

It’s shame because I think this can be a lovely community at times.

Also, I think it’s important to be in a good space yourself, if you’re going to reach out. "
we are not all the same you know

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I totally agree . In my case my so called friend repeated our conversation to the wrong people.

It didn't end well

I can imagine and I'm sorry to hear that x

In reflection she did me a huge favour but also left me unable to trust anyone x

A few people have left me feeling like that lately x

Probably wont help but im sending a huge hug and positive vibes to you x "

Hopefully for me, it will be over soon, just a few loose ends to tie up.

Wishing you the best of luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont let other peoples problems become your problems.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

There’s a couple of people I check in on every 1-2 days and a couple others maybe once a month. That’s about as much as I can give, like peachy says you can only give so much and have to take care of yourself or you’re no good to them. I need to be checked in on occasionally too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve reached out to people on here when they are struggling, but I’m going to stop now, because every single time, men turn it around into something sexual.

It’s shame because I think this can be a lovely community at times.

Also, I think it’s important to be in a good space yourself, if you’re going to reach out. "

i know you did.

i also know how it can get to you when people throw the help back in youre face.

you question yourself a lot, wonder why often say you are giving up.

but you do it again, thats you. who you are.

its why many adore you for that

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Hard to know who's struggling though, people hide it well.

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