FabSwingers.com forum: Feel on brink of panic attack

By *ull_circle OP Woman
over a year ago

Brighton

Have a job interview tomorrow and feeling strangely panicked about it. Give me your top tips for remaining calm and making the anxiety do one...

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Listen to some bad ass bitch playlists on Spotify. Sounds daft but can change nerves to feelings of empowerment.

Good luck with the interview

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By *elltravelledmanMan
over a year ago

bradford

lay down in a dark room

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Live in the moment. Interview could be cancelled? You know you’re ready. Enjoy tonight, get an early night and take tomorrow as it comes.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Have a wank

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Panic attacks are caused by a disruption in the oxygen carbon dioxide interchange, causing you to have too much CO2. A paper bag and regular breathing or anything that will help you to focus on your breathing and allow the O2 balance to redress.

Even knowing this can help you to panic less, it will pass, and you are in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breath in 4 hold 7 exhale 4

Keep doing this, tell yourself i am safe, i am just a little nervous.

I've got this. No matter what ive got this

Keep doing the breathing...message me if you go full scale x

You've got this

Its just your mind

Breatu deep into your stomach not your chest

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go have a long bath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Focus on the physical sensation of your breath. The wind feeling in and out of your nostrils. If your mind wanders, bring it back. Your anxiety exists, but it's not all of your experience. Your breath is still there.

Alternatively, find a part of your body that doesn't have the physical sensation of panic. Fingers and toes are good. Focus your attention on them. Are they hot, cold, wet, dry, tight, something else? Really focus on those sensations, that are not your anxiety.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Stick it in the not thinking about it brain compartment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent you a private x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you walk around the block?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Good luck with the interview op your going rock it and get the job x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a yoga practise on youtube

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!"

This, I can never remember the order!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!"

Never heard of this

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Good luck for tomorrow OP....take a deep breath. At this point you've got nothing to lose....go get that job!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How you doing there sweety?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!"

Good shout

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Stay at home. Don't out yourself through the pain

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

If your not ready then your not ready .

Why put yourself through the stress..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't help with the anxiety but one thing that always helped me in interviews is remembering that you're there to make sure they're the right fit for you as you are for them, so you're interviewing them too in a sense.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a job interview tomorrow and feeling strangely panicked about it. Give me your top tips for remaining calm and making the anxiety do one...

(Mr) best advice I was given was not care about the outcome.

Go into it as if you don’t care whether you get the job or not - whilst avoiding arrogance and indifference - think in your mind that you’re there to evaluate them as a client/employer and not the other way around.

Chances are that the interviewers - unless they are experienced professionals - may be just as nervous about you - many are.

Make sure you know 3 facts about the employer that you can mention. Make sure you have 3 interesting questions about the job that you can ask.

In many sectors it is currently a sellers market - there's a lot of competition for good talent and staff.

All the very best of luck :

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Stay home .. why torture yourself.. there will be other opportunities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't help with the anxiety but one thing that always helped me in interviews is remembering that you're there to make sure they're the right fit for you as you are for them, so you're interviewing them too in a sense.

Good luck xx"

Agree! Alternatively look at it as a day out lol

I get in a right state so I feel the pain and the pressure x

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Stay home .. why torture yourself.. there will be other opportunities "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay home .. why torture yourself.. there will be other opportunities "

Really?!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

Oh ok...sounds good. I would give this a try myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent you a private x"

OP, from the pearls this one alway posts, you can guarantee that message will be gold.

Stay you, be cool, you got this.

Best of luck (luck)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a job interview tomorrow and feeling strangely panicked about it. Give me your top tips for remaining calm and making the anxiety do one...

Know why you want the job? Check!

Know why you’re good for it? Check!

Are you interested in it? Check!

You’ll be fine - go smash it

Do let us know how you get on !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's asking about managing a panic attack not how to swat up for an interview.

All of that is irrelevant when your hearts pounding hour heads buzzing and you know your possibly on the brink.

Let's help her down first, sit with her first

I know it's well intentioned but a panic attack is not nice, logical or illogical it's scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck xx"

Can you interview me for a job please?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"If your not ready then your not ready .

Why put yourself through the stress.. "

Sometimes we don't know what we are capable of unless we test/push ourselves.

You can't let fear/stress stop us..if at all possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

Oh ok...sounds good. I would give this a try myself

Its good for reconnecting with self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk into it like Pickford stepping up to his goal line on Sunday's penalties and tell yourself 'no problem'

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

First.. Before anything else. Accept that part of you that is feeling panicky. Don't try to make it go away before you've acknowledged it and applied heaps of self Compassion.

Can you work out what it is? Fear of rejection? Not wanting to be seen? Fear of fucking up and looking daft? Whatever it is... Acknowledge it as a very human part of you which needs some attention and love. It also needs to know that there is no need for it to have weight in this interview.

Then..get alongside it.

What I mean is something like

"even though I am nervous, panicky and overwhelmed with feelings.. I can perform to my best in the interview".

I have in the past suffered terrible blanks and stage fright in interviews. It's horrible but you know (and the interviewers know) that it doesn't reflect your ability to do the job.

It's an option to tell the panel that you have had overwhelm and would appreciate some allowance for it. To maybe even write an answer down if the words don't come. Remember.. They are on your side too.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not very good at the calm thing but wanted to wish you lots of luck! x

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

No job is worth the mental torture of that interview..

Tell them to poke it .

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

Oh ok...sounds good. I would give this a try myself

Its good for reconnecting with self "

Tbh...I could really do with some of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!"

This works. Good luck for your interview OP

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I was just about to say. The panic attack could be entirely unrelated. You’ve just added some stress. I use the 54321 thing when I’m flying. I also remind myself I’m no in any danger and the panic is a natural physiological reaction and that it won’t hurt me. Deal with that in a way that allows you to breath. I find doing something physical helps be get my heart rate under control, sitting still with a pounding heart is hard to manage.

Let yourself ride it out rather than stop it. But control it enough to stop it taking over.

Take the interview tomorrow as it comes. When you are in control remember it’s only an interview. Panic can come on because you feel out of control. An interview is a two way thing. Be prepared with your questions for them. That’s gives you some control.

Feel better soon

V x

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Have a job interview tomorrow and feeling strangely panicked about it. Give me your top tips for remaining calm and making the anxiety do one...

They chose you.

That means you have something they are interested in finding out more about.

You'll do great. And even if you don't succeed this time out. It gives you experience for the next one which might just be your dream position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though sounds stupid but often times when they ask 'how are you' I will literally say 'Not gonna lie I am quite nervous, I don't handle X well'. Any decent human being will help set you at ease. When I've done this, it's never cost me a job. If anything it shows the interviewer you're honest and a normal human being...not some dullard with no personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

Oh ok...sounds good. I would give this a try myself

Its good for reconnecting with self

Tbh...I could really do with some of that!"

You could go outside and do it now

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Close your eyes. Lie or sit in a relaxed/comfortable position for you.

Put your hand on your heart. Breathe in & out (that's 1 cycle.) Do a total of 9 cycles.

Whilst you are breathing in & out think of someone; something; a moment in time when you were last happy & what you felt like; a smile; a kiss; sex; eating food eg: chocolate etc.

Hope that works - they teach that to soldiers when thety are under presure or moments of stress.

Ask questions towards the interviwer (if you can think of some), I always found it made them do something and took pressure off myself as they were doing all the talking instead of me...

Good luck!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It sounds silly but breathe, breathe in for 7, hold for 4 and breathe out for 7 seconds, it will help.

It stops me having a panic attack because I'm concentrating on my breathing.

Tell the interviewer your nervous.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"It sounds silly but breathe, breathe in for 7, hold for 4 and breathe out for 7 seconds, it will help.

It stops me having a panic attack because I'm concentrating on my breathing.

Tell the interviewer your nervous. "

I think that's a good idea to acknowledge that you're a little nervous, to the interviewer...may even break the ice a little.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Either go for it and quell the nerves with the advice from concerned posters on here or abort and save the trauma...

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Good luck OP

Hoped you nailed it

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

You got this OP!

Go get that job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk in like you own the place, smash it out of the park and just be the best you you can be XX

The sun is shining, today's your day

now breeeaaaathe!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The 54321 method

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste.

Breathe slowly and deeply as you do it.

Good luck!

Never heard of this

Its also used in grounding and mindfulness

Oh ok...sounds good. I would give this a try myself

Its good for reconnecting with self

Tbh...I could really do with some of that!

You could go outside and do it now"

I have a lunch break soon..I'll do it then.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Let us know how you got on OP..we are all rooting for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a job interview tomorrow and feeling strangely panicked about it. Give me your top tips for remaining calm and making the anxiety do one...

Stop caring if you look a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did it go?

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