FabSwingers.com forum: Is fab dead for single men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol

I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,

But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation

Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?

Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yes. It's all those people with dick pic profiles I blame...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People still aren't meeting

I am double jabbed, but just because I am, doesn't mean I'm gonna start 'double jabbing' other folk

I need to see how this plays out before I start with the random nobbery

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

You could always go down the other alley OP

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

No I don’t think so , it is harder for single man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don’t think so , it is harder for single man "

It seems a lot harder these days then what it used to lol x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

While the pandemic has and still does play a part, for the majority of single men it's always been difficult to get replies/meets and always will be - the key is finding an approach that works for you, it doesn't have to just be blind messaging other profiles in the hope of getting a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people jittery to meet still. Im double jabbed. But I’m still a bit unsure.

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Bear in mind not everyone will be meeting yet; I'm not.

I'm still getting approached though.

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By *ornyharry39Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not dead for men at all on here be polite show respect have manners and most of all patience good things come to those who wait had some really great meets on here few lined up too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all just insta shag isn’t there for single guys as there so meny off them

They need to up they game so to speek

Or in less your that lucky profile that gets picked at random something to scratch a itch as in yes there is time I just pick a random profile and send out a faf message

to scratch it

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By *rof. Brian cocksMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not dead but people like myself say, rarely meet anyone, most probably because I'm not their type. I accept it, no issue & everyone to their own.

Yes the women are spoilt for choice, lucky them & that's great, go for it ladies & enjoy yourselves.

If you're a freebie account what harm is it to stay on board? You'll probably get the usual stuff about profile could be better, pictures, blah,blah, but it's your choice, do what you're comfortable with, not what others tend to dictate. What one person says chances are another will disagree!! Yes it can be helpful but you decide.

People always hit me with the picture bit, NO!!! F-off! My choice !!

Stick around. There's always newbies joining so you never know. Just check in every so often, join in on the forums if you wish but don't expect too much & don't make it a mission as such.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not dead for men at all on here be polite show respect have manners and most of all patience good things come to those who wait had some really great meets on here few lined up too "

Always have and always will be polite on here, Always read the profiles etc,

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By *ewismixedbbcMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."
...... well said that statement couldn’t be truer ... the funny fact is that I’ve picked up more swinging couples out in real life on nights out than I have on here for the past year

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."

Completely agree, don’t get me wrong I can completely understand the frustration from the female/MF couples point fo view, they tend to get bombarded with dick pics and vulgar messages on a daily, just seems a bunch of idiots have made there way to the site and it’s ruined it for the genuine males on here, which is a shame

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Choose who you contact wisely, if there are demands, hoops to jump through or any whiff of superiority don't message.

There are many more single men than women or couples but each one of them has a right to be here.

Concentrate on how you interact and the debris will sink to the bottom. Don't assume that you're owed anything from fab or the other members either.

That's my personal take on things anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. It's all those people with dick pic profiles I blame...

LvM"

Totally agree. Filthy fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think men can give other men a bad name. If you don't behave like that, you have nothing to worry about. I take each indiviual at face value.

That being said, it can become a little exhausting when your time gets wasted more and more the longer your on here. It has made me a little more cautious and has caused me to give up a little with this place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think men can give other men a bad name. If you don't behave like that, you have nothing to worry about. I take each indiviual at face value.

Yeah I think a lot of woman and couples on here have got fed up though, and rightfully So, no one should have there time wasted

Anyone that has wasted your time must be crazy! I would of taken that opportunity gracefully! X

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

No, I’ve met plenty of guys with loads of verifications on here, the difference is they work out the best way to approach the site and the members.

A great profile is a good start, but if no one sees it, what’s the use ? So get on the forums or other areas that fab have to connect with people.

Not everyone wants to go to a club or social, but that’s part of the scene as well. Some people are just better in person than online.

If no guy was actually successful the site would die, the fact so many are on here, means some have found the magic key.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."

There’s a 2 clues there, can you solve the puzzle?

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."

Isn’t this the issue … a majority of men sending 1000’s of messages , women and couples being inundated by copy and paste drivel whether the said men fits their preferences or not ?

bringing on a general apathy and lack of enthusiasm…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent....

Isn’t this the issue … a majority of men sending 1000’s of messages , women and couples being inundated by copy and paste drivel whether the said men fits their preferences or not ?

bringing on a general apathy and lack of enthusiasm…"

Most definitely is the issue,

A genuine message with effort is easily missed or lost in a sea absurd messages x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Seeing as the majority of the users of this site are single men, it’s the opposite of dead for them. If anything it’s too alive with single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets my wishes perfectly and so many decent and fun people here of the same mindset. Long live fab !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to not send messages anymore, from what I read here there would always be a reason for a women to complain about it.

Thankfully some contact me first and I've built up very nice relationships with them.

Only messages I would send are just short ones saying how I find them attractive and enjoy seeing them around. If that makes them feel good then great. No harm in it.

But in the main I feel approaching a women via a message is a waste of time.

Just being honest about it

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By *aptainhornpipeMan
over a year ago

manchester

Not if you like cock, the amount of by and gay profile views and fabs I get would suggest there is opportunity to get laid even for an ugly bugger like me

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don’t think it’s dead for single blokes I just find some don’t make an effort. I think out of the 100s of messages I’ve had theres two that stand out as genuine and not as Pervy ... everyone’s filth but I hate the leery comments before you’ve even said hello ... always off putting in my eyes

Remember less is more and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are lazy and don’t have time to take thousands of selfies, check the likes and read messages. And they have their best friend on batteries handy, locked in the bedside table

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By *ydia_LovegoodWoman
over a year ago

St. Ives

I sincerely hope not! As a single woman who very much is into the male body, I'd be lost without them..

Having said that bombarding women with 1000s of messages in the hope that something will stick is not the way to win!

As has been said on here many times, take the time to compose your message, choose your woman wisely... And this is harsh but stay in your lane... Would you honestly go up to a willowy, stunning, blonde beauty in, say a pub and tell her you wanna cum inside her?? Noooo... So don't do it here.

Single women are in the majority here, we can be choosy, it's the way of FAB and always has been...

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By *ydia_LovegoodWoman
over a year ago

St. Ives

"I don’t think it’s dead for single blokes I just find some don’t make an effort. I think out of the 100s of messages I’ve had theres two that stand out as genuine and not as Pervy ... everyone’s filth but I hate the leery comments before you’ve even said hello ... always off putting in my eyes

Remember less is more and all that

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think it's a mixture of things,

Many still not looking at full on meets at min, me included.

Plus so many seemed to have joined during covid, loads of posts about people getting let down for meets lately.

People are just maybe getting a bit jaded with it all.

Believe it or not, it's not easy for couples too. Getting a 4 way attraction and then available can be a nightmare.

Maybe try a club or social of you feel comfortable to op.

Miss

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To turn it around though - why should anyone (men, women, couples, TV/TS alike) expect to get anything from the site? Or for it to be easy?

As a bisexual man I could probably find sex via the site every night of the week if I wanted to, but doesn't mean I do, or will, in fact in five years here I've not met a single guy for sex on my own - it's the same for women who are inundated with messages and could probably get sex every night if they wanted to, but they don't and the primary reason in most cases probably is finding the right connection, not just any connection.

Yeah for single guys it is harder because of the sheer volume of men on the site - but for the guys that get it, who have figured out the right approach, have the right attitude and their expectations set correctly they get along just fine and have a good experience of the site without finding it "hard" they just accept that they need to put some effort in to how they go about their Fab business.

It's the same with the hoary old chestnut of other men ruining it for others - no-one ruins my experience of the site other than me, yeah other guys may send abusive messages or otherwise put people on their guard but that doesn't ruin things for me in the greater scheme of things - if people judge me based on the actions of others then so be it, but I'd question if they were the type of people I'd have wanted to meet anyway.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."

Certainly an element of truth in that. Since the Craigslist rejects and dogging enthusiasts have joined, the quality has gone downhill, plus the men who think it's Instashag or just somewhere to play when bored. Ir does make women and couples more weary and we're spending even more time wading through sludge messages and keep getting our time wasted.

I'm not sure it's fair to say that we're arrogant, although some will be. Being called arrogant and stuck up is a fairly standard response when telling people no. Likewise the illusion of choice - you've already mentioned the absolute dross on here, if you exclude all them, there's actually very little choice. It's akin to being hungry and someone telling you to eat out of the bin as there's food waste in there

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

No.

It is what you make it

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

As the ratio gap furthers it becomes more and more of a numbers game.

Most don’t want to admit it, but it’s the truth.

For every 1000 single guys that join the site there’s gonna be a bunch of huge cocks, stunning bodies, and great personalities.

That overall just lowers the chance you’ll get picked.

I’ve had more fwb in 1 year from tinder than I hand meets in a good 4-5 years on here.

Use the site for what it is. Enjoy the forum, send out the best messages you can and block anyone that doesn’t reply.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No, I'm loving all the single men.

But only if they make an effort, are polite, can string a sentence together and not talk to me like I'm a free sex worker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As the ratio gap furthers it becomes more and more of a numbers game.

Most don’t want to admit it, but it’s the truth.

For every 1000 single guys that join the site there’s gonna be a bunch of huge cocks, stunning bodies, and great personalities.

That overall just lowers the chance you’ll get picked.

I’ve had more fwb in 1 year from tinder than I hand meets in a good 4-5 years on here.

Use the site for what it is. Enjoy the forum, send out the best messages you can and block anyone that doesn’t reply. "

Agree, oddly enough if you want a FWB or ONS there are better places. I too just enjoy the forums and perving, little expectation to actually meet.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Fab dead ? I didn't know it was unwell...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab dead ? I didn't know it was unwell..."

It's not, just on life support!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet single men, so I don't think fab is dead for them!

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I only meet single men, so I don't think fab is dead for them!

No but there is a bloody long queue

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By *ugsly95Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne

I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Single men are very welcome, with me OP. It's just about the right guy/right time, to an extent. People are very concerned about the exponential growth in the virus infection numbers. They are also overwhelmed again now that meets have started. I'm slow sometimes with replies but eligible single men always can fix up a date with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I met one the other day and chat to various others. It's not dead for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "

And I'm far from put off seeking out those I'm interested in by the few that act like dicks. Fab really doesn't work like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's dead for single women too OP don't worry.

Or at least it is for this single woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "

Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Not if your name is Erect Jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like single men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like single men..."

Single man here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "

I see things differently, those dicks make those of us who can string a sentence together look like erudite renaissance men.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I find the guys I like are nowhere near me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys

Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here"

Well said that man.

I'd also suggest the expectations of most who complain are probably unrealistic, leading to their self induced frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys

Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here"

Absolutely 100% this!

To answer the OP, no fab is not dead for single men. You get out what you put in. I see a lot of similar posts usually saying it’s fakes and time wasters that make it hard. If that’s the case and you’re not one of those, you should stand out then… Don’t blame others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the men who meet me would say no

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I don’t think it is. I enjoy the site more than I ever have.

If you engage on here with all sexes you will come across as someone reasonable and respectful. The right woman/women will spot you and they won’t be shy in coming forward.

If you’re a dick, you don’t get to use yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."

Maybe refresh your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had much luck tbh spoke to a few nice people tho and the forums entertain me but saying that I have got a meet from tinder 2night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I sat and observed the forum amd the behaviours long before I contributed.

A lot of man contradict themselves. Aka think they are different, smarter better than other men. But a simple look at their forum engagement tells you something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's dead for single women too OP don't worry.

Or at least it is for this single woman

Not for this one, I do pretty good. But then I'm also whats considered fresh meat! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "

Us women are pretty good at separating

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Ask Mrs M if the single guy she was with last night thinks so!

She rated him a 9/10.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."

And this post really says it all

Do you really find thousands of women attractive enough to want to spend time with them? Or are you just looking for a wet, warm hole in which to place your penis?

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By *orkshirefucktruck3Man
over a year ago

rotherham

hang in there,this site does work,granted its over loaded with men but half of them let themselves down.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

The short answer No

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope. ...if you play nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent....

And this post really says it all

Do you really find thousands of women attractive enough to want to spend time with them? Or are you just looking for a wet, warm hole in which to place your penis? "

my guess is warm and wet may just even be a bonus

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol

I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,

But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation

Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?

Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ? "

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

We’re all dead, who’ll mourn us at our funerals?!

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

No different than a night out in my opinion, you can politely ask and if a no comes your way then move on. Admittedly in person you have eye contact but surely like minded people feel the Same on here. Been here a short while, several meets with people and hopefully many more to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol

I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,

But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation

Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?

Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ?

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re all dead, who’ll mourn us at our funerals?! "

You can pre hire people

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By *risky businessMan
over a year ago

APharaohWay

All I can say is be yourself don't give up you get there in the end # pay attention to who your messaging and what your putting just have a read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at local updates, sometimes someone catches my eye on there for positive or funny posts so update your updates!

And no it’s not dead for single men but please write more than a one liner and if you repeat message please don’t send exactly the same message and pictures as you definitely loose points, also quite a few men assume it’s the man running the couple profile-don’t! X

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Corrrrect.
"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth! "

That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair it’s effort just to get a response lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I can imagine that as a guy, even when they are not making it tough for themselves that it can still be difficult to connect with someone on here.

Tailor your messages to that person...keep it light!

Different things from different messages catch my attention, for me there is no one rule.

A good profile pic always helps too.

Good luck with it all OP.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I certainly hope not.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"We’re all dead, who’ll mourn us at our funerals?!

You can pre hire people"

Meh, what if they don’t perform?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth!

That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good

None of those apply to me

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

"Yes. It's all those people with dick pic profiles I blame...

LvM"

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

If your old, fat and bald your fooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is dead just a really long queue like a new ride at Disney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re all dead, who’ll mourn us at our funerals?!

You can pre hire people

Meh, what if they don’t perform? "

Well i did think that, how would you know if your rent a mourner didn't show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here pre pandemic, people were more open to chat. Came back in the last few months and it seems a lot harder just to get a response or even someone who knows how to hold a conversation. Covid has had a devastating impact on this site. You can go on any dating app/site and it’s the same. It does seem to be people are focussing more on the social side and ignoring anyone who messages them they haven’t met. I’m just looking to do the social side, as messaging people I don’t know and haven’t met is a complete waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was on here pre pandemic, people were more open to chat. Came back in the last few months and it seems a lot harder just to get a response or even someone who knows how to hold a conversation. Covid has had a devastating impact on this site. You can go on any dating app/site and it’s the same. It does seem to be people are focussing more on the social side and ignoring anyone who messages them they haven’t met. I’m just looking to do the social side, as messaging people I don’t know and haven’t met is a complete waste of time."

Maybe people have re evaluated their lives ect during that time

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Who wants one of my ladies? - i have too many to cope with.

I'm kidding obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who wants one of my ladies? - i have too many to cope with.

I'm kidding obviously.

...but you're not really dude! Fuck, even I've thought about getting some blue undies!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Who wants one of my ladies? - i have too many to cope with.

I'm kidding obviously.

...but you're not really dude! Fuck, even I've thought about getting some blue undies!

Embrace the BLUE.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Short answer yes, long answer also yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be a lot of ladies or gents twiddling their thumbs if that was so. Can't fuck ourselves you know. Or, well maybe

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth!

That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good

None of those apply to me"

Maybe not, but I bet there are very few single guy profiles in here, 6 months old with 8 meet veris

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Something has changed. Not entirely sure what. I’m getting nowhere near the amount of views I used to get.

Also, after the first lockdown last summer, Fab went a bit crazy for me, for three months. Since the second lockdown has eased, things have been a lot more calm. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!

The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise

) in here.

Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......

All the best fella

In hindsight hiding the profile would have been the smart move,

But at the time I had met someone and got into a relationship, she had no interest in the swinging world, so out of respect for her I deleted my profile

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By *igpack82Man
over a year ago

Harrow

Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male. ...... well said that statement couldn’t be truer ... the funny fact is that I’ve picked up more swinging couples out in real life on nights out than I have on here for the past year

Very true. There comes a point when you wonder why expend so much time on fabs messaging people when it's easier to find normal people interested in the real world. Singles, couples, freaks. Seems fabs if anything selects for non-singers. Mostly the single guy chancer looking to get a quick 5min lay that will save him a few Bob instead of paying for an escort.

I guess we all have different ideas of what a swinger is.

I always liken dating/matchmaking to the job application process.

1. (single guy perspective) You're more than qualified, but get rejected as people assume you are like the others (2).

2. (couple/single woman perspective) low quality guys message with low quality messages. The Very qualified guys turn out to be major disappointments/fakes, 5 minute men etc.

So again, it's the same everywhere. Your average builder over promises and under delivers. While the exceptional builder has to wade through the crap and prove themselves.

The game isn't really in what you traditionally think. The game is how can single guys determine how to convince people to meet up with them, and how can single women/couples better identify who will genuinely do what their profile purports they can do. A constantly evolving game of cat and mouse.

Investing time to study how it works from both sides definitely helps.

Have to laugh at the single women/couple profiles that put a list of demands down, only to check that their verifications suggest they completely ignore their demands or Simped way to many times with low quality guys/fakes. I'd rather laugh than see the sad state of society that this indicates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pointless being here

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm good on here

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.

Messages just get buried, go unread or people’s standards are way above what I can deliver. The numbers allow for women and to a lesser extent, couples, to be extremely picky

Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not at all OP

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.

Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy"

The thing is that I'm not sure what you describe is swinging. "Chances" at what? For me, swinging is about getting to know people. It's a community. Maybe it's extra noticeable in South Wales, but everybody seems to know everyone. There's no six degrees of separation here. It's usually one or two. And if you're an attentive sort of bloke who isn't a total throbber, you tend to do OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all OP "

There's some interesting alleys in Shrewsbury.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

All these sites are a challenge for solo guys, the perception is skewed. It I not about the others that give the "genuine" (define genuine) guys a bad name, it is about a specific criteria for those that are looking. Very often that criteria is a small percentage anyway. So larger collective would not be considered anyway, as they are outside of that criteria - simples.

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

The ladys seem to want you to make effort.

But when you do there's a lot of rejection.

I send winks and like pictures

As the women must know its a sausage fest.

Its more logical for her to make the first move.

I like the chat anyway.

Makes me horny

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I think it's great! Nothing good comes from something rushed. Sit back and enjoy. All about patience....more you force it the less it happens.

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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago

clifton ish

It’s slow but not entirely dead just alot of people using this as a dating or flirt site and it’s not ok meet new friends but mainly just about having wild filthy sex with no ties or commitments fine if something happens after but it’s not badoo or whatever

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I agree with you op ok I ain’t been on here long but get maybe 1 reply to messages I send I don’t think they are seedy but not sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a hard days work being a single man on here there are way to many of us on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definitely something wrong here. As long I sits here and being more active it's seams to be a huge fake and prank site going.

I have an account 1,5 year, I have no idea how many different women I have texted but never got replies. On forum mostly are same people active each day. From the beginning my profile wasn't so attractive but I have change a bit my profile, added more photos, being active on forum but strange us that selected people just response for comments and doesn't matter if you answer from forum to privet both ways no response but the person is active and commenting comments etc.

So why can't and for mine give answer. I'm always Culter, respectful and honest. Don't have and don't send dick pic. I can't belive that if all will be fine with that site I couldn't find a Fab for myself

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

Just because you song up to something does not mean you will get laid.

If no one messages you back then accept it.

Impossible to attract everyone.

Just enjoy the forums and have a good perv if this place ain't for you its not.

I dont sign up to tinder expecting a wife.

I find leaving it up to the girls gets me more messages anyway.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.

Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy

There’s plenty of single women and couples on other dating apps that are part of the swinging scene

I’ve met more couples from dating apps in a year then I have off my entire time using Fabs

And single women? Like 10x as many

Fabs for me is about using the forums because it’s funny. If someone messages me along the way then great. And I might send out the odd message too, but with less than 5% of them even being opened I don’t see the point anymore.

Use fabs for what you want, what makes you happy, what you find fun. And I can guarantee, as a single guy, sending out 1000 messages for 0 replies probably isn’t fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely something wrong here. As long I sits here and being more active it's seams to be a huge fake and prank site going.

Women are here on fab for their own reasons, just because they are online doesn’t mean they have to reply to their messages, they are free to use their time as they see fit.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like fab. Fab likes me. Works for both of us.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Difficult but not dead, patience is a virtue, change tactics, be nice and wait. Someone for everyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol

I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,

But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation

Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?

Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ? "

Blimey, we hope not! Single guys are our main interest.

Perhaps a lot of couples are staying away from meeting even though restrictions on movement have been lifted. We have to stay in and it is driving us a bit nuts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost exclusively look for single males on here, unfortunately lock down did seem to bring a lot of new people (male and female I'm sure) a lot of who seem to be fantasists, the 'Hay available for me to come fuck you right now?' messages are at an all time high and when you point out you don't just meet random people you've never spoken to, have never seen a picture of simply because they ask, the abusive/your such a time waster replies are very boring....

I think there are quite a few women like me who still can't meet post lock down because of thr school holidays, I'm hoping once those are out the way fab starts going back to some kind of normal

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

It’s purely the way of the world on here.

We get numerous messages every day from single guys so we have a choice. Not all of them tick our boxes, a few do.

Admittedly our location doesn’t help but we would love to hear from couples or women but it rarely happens.

Fab isn’t dead for single guys but it’s a very competitive market

Jxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sincerely hope not.. although it is difficult and surprisingly some of the profiles can surprise you with replies.. many weeks later.. hang in there.. respect with your messages pays off.. especially if you can find common ground like the forums..

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

belfast

Not if your half decent and not a nut job?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and here we go again guys blaming other guys for their non meets its getting boring now and a turnoff in its self a so called bad guy ruins it for himself no one else guys stop blaming others for your getting nowhere .....

its always been the same for guys on here its a numbers game first n formost made worse by the sheer numbers that have joined in the last 2 years add that to the fact alot of women and couples dont meet and then alot of women and couples only meet in clubs slims it down even more....

the ratio just by numbers must be 50 men to each woman the factor in most women like to take there time and again alot of women dont meet just here for friends and then the hey look at me crowd the one that live on fab just to be wanted and liked without ever meeting that leaves an even smaller pool of women that meet making that 50 to 1 seems like 1000 to 1...

add covid and how that has changed every one way of life and how they play then that 1000 to one keeps getting bigger ....

so there it is its a numbers game always have been always will be except the numbers are getting higher..

and how people use the site i would not mind betting that half the women on here dont meet or very rarely meet or along with alot of couiples only meet in clubs or socials (rightly so too their life there choice i might add)

numbers numbers numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to work at it bud

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Here you go OP...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-search/Is%2bfab%2bdead

Same old same old.

If you're not getting meets, the common denominator is you.

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Yup, it's stone cold dead for single men. So you should just all close your accounts and leave all the pretty ladies to me

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

No it isn't

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

I’ve not had any meets yet but I wouldn’t say it is dead at all. I’ve made some friends already, I’ve messaged a few people and I’ve gotten involved on the forum. I’d like to meet some people, of course, but the social side of things is important too and is helping me to come out of my shell somewhat.

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