FabSwingers.com forum: Fun fun fun…

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I keep seeing that the forums are meant to be fun.

Are they meant to be? The very phrasing of that implies that they’re not always, so perhaps we should stop telling everyone what something is meant to be but isn’t always. A vibrator is meant to be a muscle relaxer, I’m not sure that it ever is!

Are the forums meant to be fun or are they something else?

Discuss please

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Depends what the topic is I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they have something for everyone.

Sometimes they are fun, sometimes they are serious or educational.

They are what they are.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The forums are meant to be forums and like any forum their content is dictated by their members - simple as that...they're not "meant" to be anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep depends if it’s a fun topic

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

It is what it is make them what you want yes they are meant to be fun

I love the emojis me

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"It is what it is make them what you want yes they are meant to be fun

I love the emojis me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the forums erratically...

Educational

Inspirational

Motivating

Interesting

Thought provoking

Emotional

Hilarious

Boring

Annoying

Eyebrow raising

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'Fun: Amusing, entertaining or enjoyable.'

So yeah maybe 90% fun.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"The forums are meant to be forums and like any forum their content is dictated by their members - simple as that...they're not "meant" to be anything else "

Then where is the basis for the term then?

I agree that the content is dictated by the users, in which case that’s what they’re meant for

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think they have something for everyone.

Sometimes they are fun, sometimes they are serious or educational.

They are what they are. "

I agree.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I find the forums erratically...

Educational

Inspirational

Motivating

Interesting

Thought provoking

Emotional

Hilarious

Boring

Annoying

Eyebrow raising

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'Fun: Amusing, entertaining or enjoyable.'

So yeah maybe 90% fun. "

Your metric is based upon whether a person finds moving their eyebrows to be a source of enjoyment…

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The forums are meant to be forums and like any forum their content is dictated by their members - simple as that...they're not "meant" to be anything else

Then where is the basis for the term then?

I agree that the content is dictated by the users, in which case that’s what they’re meant for"

You'd have to ask the people that say it for the answer to that one, but my guess is they're not liking the content that they have found and use it as a throw away rather than actually taking steps to address it

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Depends what the topic is I guess

That’s very true.

If they’re intended to be fun though, then many topics are pretty far of the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant to be fun to yourself maybe, as in something you do as a cheery distraction. Topics can be on anything but if you arent enjoying it it isnt fun and who wants to do something that makes them miserable when the whole idea is to be 'fun'

I have no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And fun for some people could be being grumpy or having a spat so they will still find it fun.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"The forums are meant to be forums and like any forum their content is dictated by their members - simple as that...they're not "meant" to be anything else

Then where is the basis for the term then?

I agree that the content is dictated by the users, in which case that’s what they’re meant for

I tend to agree.

It can also be used as a dismissive phrase if someone dislikes postings

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think they're meant to be whatever people want them to be and everyone is capable of choosing what posts they participate in to get the experience they want. Don't like something then move on or make your own. There's often a lack of personal responsibility when it comes to this subject with people thinking that everything they see has to be what they want to be on here.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

The tone, content and mood are a reflection of the people there at any one time.. it’s not meant to be anything other than a meeting place to discuss stuff. God bless the tangents!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes think those who say it should be 'fun' are the ones who think it should always be light hearted and frivolous. 'Fun' usually goes hand in hand with 'don't take it too seriously'.

I find the forums 'fun' whatever the content or 'forum atmosphere'.

I find it all interesting and interesting is fun to me. Some days I find a light hearted thread fun and other times a serious thread fun. Occasionally it seems to drag but soon picks up again.

As others have said it's what the users make of it and I think there's a good mix of people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's meant for violence and aggression!!

Forums are to chat about anything. But sometimes the forum does get a bit full of negativity, or even threads that aren't meant to be suddenly go down that route.

Some people want to lift that and have a bit of both

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Depends what the topic is I guess

That’s very true.

If they’re intended to be fun though, then many topics are pretty far of the mark"

I wouldn't say the forum is only supposed to be fun . Anyone can post a serious topic and if its a serious conversation then that's the whole point of that thread .

But yes I tend to veer towards the fun ones though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun is what fun does but forest was never a smart man so who knows if using him as an example is a good thing but jeez hes fast

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sometimes fun, sometimes educational. But mainly to pass the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can be whatever that person wants them to be....I dislike some people in the forums but I wouldn't want them to stop adding to the forums....I have fun and arguments and I gain an insight into something I've just discovered.....I personally love the forums x

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I think it also depends on the type of person you are, I stay away from the serious posts and the attention seeking posts and the posts that are obviously made to get a rise out of people.It’s just not my thing .I tend to enjoy the light hearted posts .

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think the forums should and are a mixture of what you find in everyday life.

I dislike" it's supposed to fun" comments (unless it's on an obviously fun thread). I find it dismissive of others and kind of a bit passive aggressive. Just because the more serious ones aren't your cup of tea doesn't mean you are right. You don't see people going on the fun threads saying the forum is supposed to be serious.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I think they're meant to be whatever people want them to be and everyone is capable of choosing what posts they participate in to get the experience they want. Don't like something then move on or make your own. There's often a lack of personal responsibility when it comes to this subject with people thinking that everything they see has to be what they want to be on here. "

"There's often a lack of personal responsibility" is the key phrase in there and one that can be applied to not only the forums but Fab as a whole - albeit that more often than not plays out on the forums

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m just here for the cock. If someone makes me chuckle along the way then great

But I actually prefer the more deep and meaningful threads as I don’t do “fun” in the typical sense, my sense of humour isn’t wired that way. So, lighthearted yes, but fun? no.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Fun as has been said before in the forums is subjective. One or groups fun maybe someone else's hell.

And if you don't like it stay away attitude.

Forums should be fun is simply an over used term - chiche. Given that, some of the forums can be humerus, and informative, but let's be honest most are self serving -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with many things in life, they are what you make them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand why people comment that on a thread or "this is a sex site so discuss that"

There is something for everyone on the forums.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your individual definition of fun...personally I find the more serious debate threads more entertaining (and therefore more "fun") than the copious "poster above" and attention seeking threads.

We're all individuals, and should all be able to find something in this mixed bag that we find fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone bitches that no one will message them , ghosting, time wasters, fantasists, then you have a sucky bunch of un fun topics. If it’s all about making a cake filled with loads of cream, then it’s party time. Oh I do like cake and easily pleased.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The forums are what you want them to be, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes uplifting and sometimes just a free for all for others to have a go.

If you have an opinion on a subject, post it but be aware for some backlash if others don't agree x

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It’s actually in the opening paragraph of the forum rules - “Don't forget that the forums are meant to be fun….”

In black and white by order of the management!

Does that mean all the serious bods need a stretch on the naughty step?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

The fun ones have cheered me up no end this afternoon, I rarely go on serious threads so for me personally yes they are fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be a passive observer or continue in a style you desire people to engage with. You can be a moaner or influencer. Choice is yours;-)

There is no mission statement here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what the topic is I guess

That’s very true.

If they’re intended to be fun though, then many topics are pretty far of the mark"

Depends on your idea of fun, it's subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s actually in the opening paragraph of the forum rules - “Don't forget that the forums are meant to be fun….”

In black and white by order of the management!

Does that mean all the serious bods need a stretch on the naughty step? "

Again depends om your idea of fun, I enjoy deep thinking threads, I dont enjoy crass Objectifying ones.

So I avoid those, I suspect others avoid the deeper serious ones.

It may be a site aimed at sex but that doesnt mean every single post or topic a has to be inuendo bingo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be a passive observer or continue in a style you desire people to engage with. You can be a moaner or influencer. Choice is yours;-)

There is no mission statement here. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums are what you want them to be, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes uplifting and sometimes just a free for all for others to have a go.

If you have an opinion on a subject, post it but be aware for some backlash if others don't agree x"

As i said to someone recently, either stand corrected or stand in your belief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what the topic is I guess

That’s very true.

If they’re intended to be fun though, then many topics are pretty far of the mark

Depends on your idea of fun, it's subjective "

Yes. Fun=enjoyment and we all enjoy different things. I enjoy more thought provoking threads as much as the silly ones.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The forums are what you want them to be, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes uplifting and sometimes just a free for all for others to have a go.

If you have an opinion on a subject, post it but be aware for some backlash if others don't agree x

As i said to someone recently, either stand corrected or stand in your belief "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun is a very adjective term broadly used sometimes incorrectly, what can be deemed as fun to some can also be seen as bullying in the written sense to others.

However, having been an intermittent user of the forums over the last 3 or 4 years I have seen a variety of sides to them guided very much by the thread topic and have learned to stay in the forum waters that suit my buoyancy

So yes, they can be fun if you don't offend and don't interject into any subject you know nothing of

Me now sensing I should paddle off to the shallow waters now

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've brought this up a couple of times when it is mentioned.

I even had somebody try to tell me "it's in the forum rules" so I asked them to tell me what they fun is, because I find discussion and debate fun. Even fairly heated and intense discussion but I can not stand the "person above" threads, they are not fun to me.

The person in question had no solid response to this.

As has been said, if you don't find enjoyment in something but can't handle it, don't contribute to a thread.

So yes, the forum should be fun, but dont try and dictate to me or anybody else what fun is to us.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s actually in the opening paragraph of the forum rules - “Don't forget that the forums are meant to be fun….”

In black and white by order of the management!

Does that mean all the serious bods need a stretch on the naughty step? "

I have fun from interacting in serious debates. Therfore it fits in with the forum rules.

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