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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment my body confidence is low.

Never really been an issue but I've been badly injured this year and training has suffered. As a consequence I've lost 16kg,nearky all muscle and I'm tiny, I hate it and think I look awful.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I don’t. It’s face only until I get back to usual shape after a shitty injury... And consoling myself with ice cream in lockdown.

Still can’t walk properly so it’ll be a slow progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely have to love yourself for who you are and the body confidence will grow. Always shows on the outside what you are feeling on the inside. One day at a time OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment my body confidence is low.

Never really been an issue but I've been badly injured this year and training has suffered. As a consequence I've lost 16kg,nearky all muscle and I'm tiny, I hate it and think I look awful."

Been there mate, lost months or even years of proper training before. During the last major episode, I became super strict with diet, like daily dedication and to my amazement I was building muscle size from that alone, people who know me noticed. If not already doing so focus on diet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comes and goes depending on my moods body fat % just wont drop no matter what i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have little body confidence and BPD. Part of making myself a better human being (other than losing all this flab) is pushing myself to do things I wouldn’t dream of doing.

My pics, such as they are, are a way to put myself out there without the terrifying humiliation of being rejected outright in person and in public. I know this site is probably unhealthy for me in the long run, and I’ll have to give it up before it becomes a path to self destructive behaviour. But for now it gives me what I need, sometimes a little lift to my mood when I get a compliment and more often than not a good laugh.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I think it can be a tricky path to walk, full of contradictions. I mean for me, I'm not happy and that's partly why I'm working hard in the gym but at the same time, I really give zero fucks about whether someone likes what they see or not. I'm over 40, I've had children and it shows. Too bad if mum tums and stretch marks turn you off.

But I also know how to make the most of what I've got - which angles and lighting are flattering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've probably shown almost every part of me nude at some point on here and it's never bothered me getting naked in front of someone either.

Maybe for some doing body shots on here feels slightly removed than showing it in person.

Start on here doing clothed shots of body then work your way up to nude. It might help with body confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it some days and others I don't. I just figure, this is me. I'm not perfect, but I'm me and that's ok. I've gained a stone during lockdown and as a result I'm curvier now whereas before I was a lot slimmer. But fab has shown me that some guys like curvy, and some like slim. Both are ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have it some days and others I don't. I just figure, this is me. I'm not perfect, but I'm me and that's ok. I've gained a stone during lockdown and as a result I'm curvier now whereas before I was a lot slimmer. But fab has shown me that some guys like curvy, and some like slim. Both are ok "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I also know how to make the most of what I've got - which angles and lighting are flattering."

I'm in the same boat with angles and lighting, and have met one or two who, when seen in the flesh, I did think weren't quite like their photo's, and I know they will have likely been thinking the same of me.

But that matters not, a connection had been built, the attraction was no less and more so, made in the head and not in the eyes. I find whenever with someone 'in the moment', what we look like is often forgotten as two people just enjoy each other (in fact, one meet, with a woman who looked incredible, knew it, and was preoccupied by it, was disappointig because of it).

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think it's about being kind to oneself. And it's also about faking it until you make it and pushing your own boundaries in a controlled environment.

Used to hide my body all the time. Then I started showing more and more until I'm more comfortable. Now I'm comfortable with pictures not as much in real life, everything wobbles. But I'm gradually working on it and I'll get there.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It's taken me a while this time round to be confident to put a full body pic up, but after a couple of meets where they have complemented on my body I got my confidence back a bit

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By *acksLamentMan
over a year ago

Wales

As a guy on the slimmer side,not skin and bones but not ripped gym goer either, I find body confidence hard to come by...especially when reading the profiles of a lot of the ladies of fab who all seem to want muscles,six packs or rugby players!

Ladies...are there any of you out there that prefer the more svelte figure??

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"As a guy on the slimmer side,not skin and bones but not ripped gym goer either, I find body confidence hard to come by...especially when reading the profiles of a lot of the ladies of fab who all seem to want muscles,six packs or rugby players!

Ladies...are there any of you out there that prefer the more svelte figure?? "

Me though I do like a variety of body types

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I’m always fat, and always too big. How I view myself depends on my mood. I’ve managed to loose enough that Im getting my curves back and I’ve lost enough that I can feel a difference in myself. That’s enough to allow me to meet.

Not sure how guys from here see me. Probably don’t want to know to be fair.

But next week I could feel like shit and stop meeting. I hope not though. Im much happier having sex

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think there's another angle to consider (and no not the one that you think reflects you best in pics ) - is it possible that *by* posting pics on here that it can help increase your body confidence?

And I'm not talking about the blowing smoke up someone's derriere that getting loads of Fabs might bring (in the case of most ladies) although that to an extent plays a part - more taking the step to post revealing pics I'm the first place, and then find that no-one screams how awful they are, boosts confidence in a way.

I know when I first signed up and took initial steps into all this I was incredibly wary of posting pics or revealing too much of myself in clubs and the like - but found with time that I actually enjoyed taking pics, and that the experience of dropping the towel in a club was not only very liberating, but the fact others didn't bat an eyelid or point and stare, was actually quite the confidence booster in itself.

We all have things about our bodies we don't like, and for some it can reduce confidence for sure, but seeing that others don't see it the same way we do can in itself have a positive effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why all my pics are from pre dec 2020.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me a long time to accept my self

But glad I have and rock it well as people can probably tell I definitely have loads by the sheer amount off pics and not afraid to show everything

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By *arrapsMan
over a year ago

port talbot

Me, I’m a little, overweight, short arsed grey haired old sod.

Yes , I’d like to be six foot plus but I’m not, other people have to deal with it and I’m very comfortable in my own skin.

Years ago I was given a piece of advice

“ it’s not the size of the dog that counts. It’s the size of the fight in the dog “

Be happy in your own skin, cosmetics can change the exterior, but the interior is all you ….

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I've certainly got a lot more than I used to have, it's still very much a work in progress though and I'm still taking a million pics before I find one I'm happy to post, but I'm actually posting them, the thigh Thursday this week was definitely a step out of my comfort zone

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've always been body confident one on one, whether I'd venture back into a club currently remains to be seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have body acceptance. I think it's ok, nothing I really dislike, and I'm very relaxed being naked around others (with their consent!). I generally prefer clothed or semi clothed photos on Fab so they're the ones I show of myself.

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By *atureguy555Man
over a year ago

Fareham

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By *atureguy555Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"I have it some days and others I don't. I just figure, this is me. I'm not perfect, but I'm me and that's ok. I've gained a stone during lockdown and as a result I'm curvier now whereas before I was a lot slimmer. But fab has shown me that some guys like curvy, and some like slim. Both are ok "

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By *weetncurvyWoman
over a year ago

Perth

Zero body confidence here. I was happy in myself before covid, the gyms closing, weight gain, health issues and the enforced isolation have all had a massive impact on my body confidence. I have taken a break from my main profile on here which i've had for a few years as i don't look like my pics at the moment and not a hope in hell i'm gonna update them until i lose the lockdown weught. I set up this profile so i can still enjoy the forums as it's been a lifeline to me over the past 18 months x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Zero body confidence here. I was happy in myself before covid, the gyms closing, weight gain, health issues and the enforced isolation have all had a massive impact on my body confidence. I have taken a break from my main profile on here which i've had for a few years as i don't look like my pics at the moment and not a hope in hell i'm gonna update them until i lose the lockdown weught. I set up this profile so i can still enjoy the forums as it's been a lifeline to me over the past 18 months x"

The hardest part is putting your trainers on , over time you will acheive your goals! If you want it enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence has soared since I joined here & started posting photos.

Not because of receiving compliments because I know that they may not be genuine but because it’s made me view myself in a different way/light.

So I now look at myself and think yeah you’re actually alright. Plus from a few experiences I’ve had I’ve realised that guys are totally not bothered by my wobbly tum or cellulite. So if they aren’t bothered no need for me to be either.

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By *urvesaplentyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I’ve suffered some serious health issue last few years that have effected my mobility

I’m finally getting back to normal and my weight gain is slowly coming off (always a slower process for me because of PCOS and an under active thyroid) so I’m not as confident in my body as I once was

But I don’t doubt I’ll get it back in time everything worth having in this life comes from working hard to achieve it

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By *weetncurvyWoman
over a year ago

Perth


"Zero body confidence here. I was happy in myself before covid, the gyms closing, weight gain, health issues and the enforced isolation have all had a massive impact on my body confidence. I have taken a break from my main profile on here which i've had for a few years as i don't look like my pics at the moment and not a hope in hell i'm gonna update them until i lose the lockdown weught. I set up this profile so i can still enjoy the forums as it's been a lifeline to me over the past 18 months x

The hardest part is putting your trainers on , over time you will acheive your goals! If you want it enough. "

So true, the gym i was using closed and the only gym in my area is the one used by selfie taking teens and meat heads. I lasted less than 30 seconds on my visit there so gym is not an option x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Clever camera angles, I'm not into filters.

I honestly hate how I look right now but can do little about it unfortunately but hopefully soon.

Until then, clever angles and lighting

Jo x

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’ve suffered some serious health issue last few years that have effected my mobility

I’m finally getting back to normal and my weight gain is slowly coming off (always a slower process for me because of PCOS and an under active thyroid) so I’m not as confident in my body as I once was

But I don’t doubt I’ll get it back in time everything worth having in this life comes from working hard to achieve it "

Is your GP helping you with this, I’ve had pcos for 20+ years and suffer an under active thyroid after having half removed some years back, I know if my medication isn’t right I feel blah as one of these can be a nuisance let alone both together.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Zero body confidence here. I was happy in myself before covid, the gyms closing, weight gain, health issues and the enforced isolation have all had a massive impact on my body confidence. I have taken a break from my main profile on here which i've had for a few years as i don't look like my pics at the moment and not a hope in hell i'm gonna update them until i lose the lockdown weught. I set up this profile so i can still enjoy the forums as it's been a lifeline to me over the past 18 months x

The hardest part is putting your trainers on , over time you will acheive your goals! If you want it enough.

So true, the gym i was using closed and the only gym in my area is the one used by selfie taking teens and meat heads. I lasted less than 30 seconds on my visit there so gym is not an option x"

I was struggling to find an exercise that worked for me without going to the gym and started walking - the kind of brisk walking that raises the pulse a little but not excessively so - do about 90 minutes a day now, but started at 45 mins to an hour. Have lost 3st since the end of January as a result.

Read somewhere that 30 mins steady and brisk walking burns similar calories to a 15 minute run (without the attached injury risks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have too many lumps and bumps that I care for. When I start getting down about it I remember that I am 47 and meant to have a couple of bumpy bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very little body confidence and body dymorphia. I'll only point the camera at myself if I'm feeling alright in myself. I avoid full length as I'm too much of chubby bunny at the moment. I only share my body with those I trust and feel comfortable with. And Fab just gets little glimpses, mostly clothed as I look much better that way.

Don't feel pressured to share photos. It's your body. And unless you're planning to meet someone to get naked, you're not obligated to show them you if you feel vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment my body confidence is low.

Never really been an issue but I've been badly injured this year and training has suffered. As a consequence I've lost 16kg,nearky all muscle and I'm tiny, I hate it and think I look awful."

Yeah I get that, had few serious injuries that left me deflated, lost lot of muscle mass. Back on track now so love showing off the hard work. Seems to be appreciated.

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By *weetncurvyWoman
over a year ago

Perth


"Zero body confidence here. I was happy in myself before covid, the gyms closing, weight gain, health issues and the enforced isolation have all had a massive impact on my body confidence. I have taken a break from my main profile on here which i've had for a few years as i don't look like my pics at the moment and not a hope in hell i'm gonna update them until i lose the lockdown weught. I set up this profile so i can still enjoy the forums as it's been a lifeline to me over the past 18 months x

The hardest part is putting your trainers on , over time you will acheive your goals! If you want it enough.

So true, the gym i was using closed and the only gym in my area is the one used by selfie taking teens and meat heads. I lasted less than 30 seconds on my visit there so gym is not an option x

I was struggling to find an exercise that worked for me without going to the gym and started walking - the kind of brisk walking that raises the pulse a little but not excessively so - do about 90 minutes a day now, but started at 45 mins to an hour. Have lost 3st since the end of January as a result.

Read somewhere that 30 mins steady and brisk walking burns similar calories to a 15 minute run (without the attached injury risks)"

Wow! Well done you! That's fantastic, maybe i need to take a leaf out of your book. Thank you for your reply. Fingers crossed i get past the first hurdle x

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

My body confidence is always low but sometimes goes lower, like when I put on the freshly washed skinny jeans and feel two stone heavier than I am! My head doesn’t accept it’s because they’ve just been washed and so tighter! However I absolutely love to be naked and happily walk around a club naked all night! Also happy to take naked pics, it’s weird really and doesn’t make much sense haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it? "

Diet has everything to do with it...people eat loads of the wrong stuff...put on weight..then try to work it off and put themselves under so much pressure trying to do so whereas IF you cut back on the crap..eat healthier then you wont be putting it on to have work it off...its really about getting a healthy balance...l know people are prone to eating what they like to eat, pussy included but less crap ...plus people should realize that everything is age related ..as the body ages so does its natural method of keeping things " in their place "...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Husband of the couple here.

I am far more comfortable with my body now, podge and all, than when I was in my early 20's spending 6 hours a day in various gyms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident enough with static pictures on here. You get to show exactly what you want how you want it. Doesnt mean I would be confident face to face

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


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Diet has everything to do with it...people eat loads of the wrong stuff...put on weight..then try to work it off and put themselves under so much pressure trying to do so whereas IF you cut back on the crap..eat healthier then you wont be putting it on to have work it off...its really about getting a healthy balance...l know people are prone to eating what they like to eat, pussy included but less crap ...plus people should realize that everything is age related ..as the body ages so does its natural method of keeping things " in their place "..."

Ah the simplistic "eat less crap and you'll have body confidence" answer.

How I've missed this.

It's not that simple I'm afraid. Losing weight, getting healthier, does not give you body confidence. Sorry to burst that bubble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm becoming more confident the older I get, I do get lots of compliments on my photos that's when the panic sets in because I don't think it reflects my true body, just good photos taken a flattering angles. But I take what I can get in my maturing years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am confident enough with static pictures on here. You get to show exactly what you want how you want it. Doesnt mean I would be confident face to face "

This is very true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my gingerness can be overwhelming to some women.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I am slowly getting back to my old self after a horrendous couple of years with compartment syndrome.

Reckon I’m a month away from ticking the athletic box. A bit more waist shrinkage and I’m gtg.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve been fat, slim and fat again and I’ve always gotten a shag, so I just get on with it.

You will always be someone’s cup of tea, just got to find them is all and if you’re not happy with you, then work on it, but otherwise just get on with living life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Diet has everything to do with it...people eat loads of the wrong stuff...put on weight..then try to work it off and put themselves under so much pressure trying to do so whereas IF you cut back on the crap..eat healthier then you wont be putting it on to have work it off...its really about getting a healthy balance...l know people are prone to eating what they like to eat, pussy included but less crap ...plus people should realize that everything is age related ..as the body ages so does its natural method of keeping things " in their place "...

Ah the simplistic "eat less crap and you'll have body confidence" answer.

How I've missed this.

It's not that simple I'm afraid. Losing weight, getting healthier, does not give you body confidence. Sorry to burst that bubble."

I totally agree with you on this

Iv been 8 st and 13 st and all the increments in between

Confidence is confidence

It's hard to describe without sounding like the cockiest most arrogant prick on the planet

But here I am fucking killing it

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it? "

Because I am tired of trying to being the person others want me to be just to fit in. I know my looks won’t appeal to everyone, but then not everyone else’s looks appeal to le, but thats okay because the things that define us are how we act. Our actions are what determines if we are beautiful, with the outside being just the vessel that carries us. Our action are more important than how we look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence is hugely down to the men I've met on fab that have given me that confidence from meeting them and as I've got to know them over time.

This time a year ago I never would of been happy taking pictures and uploading them onto fab.

Still wouldn't be able to do clubs though I'm not that brave to walk round in my undies just yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit meh on that one. It’s more about taking a pic that the iPhone doesn’t make me look horrendous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it?

Because I am tired of trying to being the person others want me to be just to fit in. I know my looks won’t appeal to everyone, but then not everyone else’s looks appeal to le, but thats okay because the things that define us are how we act. Our actions are what determines if we are beautiful, with the outside being just the vessel that carries us. Our action are more important than how we look."

Square pet

Round hole

Fitting in sounds so boring to me

I like to stand out whether I look a year or not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it?

Because I am tired of trying to being the person others want me to be just to fit in. I know my looks won’t appeal to everyone, but then not everyone else’s looks appeal to le, but thats okay because the things that define us are how we act. Our actions are what determines if we are beautiful, with the outside being just the vessel that carries us. Our action are more important than how we look.

Square pet

Round hole

Fitting in sounds so boring to me

I like to stand out whether I look a year or not lol"

Twat

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm a big lass, always have been and up to yesterday it didn't affect my confidence in the least. However, I saw a holiday pic of me and my daughter - and mum had taken the shot with us stood side by side. I'm in a swimsuit and look the size of a bloody whale. So, until I get over the shock of just how big my belly really is - then I'm going into hiding (and weight loss isn't a option).

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Just have to love who u are lumps and bumps an all I find x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


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Diet has everything to do with it...people eat loads of the wrong stuff...put on weight..then try to work it off and put themselves under so much pressure trying to do so whereas IF you cut back on the crap..eat healthier then you wont be putting it on to have work it off...its really about getting a healthy balance...l know people are prone to eating what they like to eat, pussy included but less crap ...plus people should realize that everything is age related ..as the body ages so does its natural method of keeping things " in their place "...

Ah the simplistic "eat less crap and you'll have body confidence" answer.

How I've missed this.

It's not that simple I'm afraid. Losing weight, getting healthier, does not give you body confidence. Sorry to burst that bubble."

Yep with you totally posh had less confidence when I was a size 12.

It's not all to do with dress size. I'm more confident than some of my slimmer friends, it's more to do with how you view yourself not a label on an item of clothing.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Confident enough to post the pictures I choose to. Not confident enough to post the pictures I’ve chosen not too.

In real life the attitude and behaviour of the people around me do often play a large part in whether I feel not too self conscious but sometimes nothing and no one can help. It really does come down to me.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence wasn’t great, because I spent 20 years not being good enough. It was only when I joined fab and left that *insert appropriate rude word here* that I realised that there’s nothing wrong with me.

Fab has done me a lot of good.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Fab is not good for male body confidence.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I seen the self confidence thread yesterday and got me thinking...I saw a few comments from people about body confidence....can I ask if you have little body confidence but can show it here...how? I have no body confidence hence only face pics and at this present time there is no way I could go to a club...hopefully in the future that will change....so how do you do it?

Because I am tired of trying to being the person others want me to be just to fit in. I know my looks won’t appeal to everyone, but then not everyone else’s looks appeal to le, but thats okay because the things that define us are how we act. Our actions are what determines if we are beautiful, with the outside being just the vessel that carries us. Our action are more important than how we look."

And to an extent I think you have hit the nail on the head there - body confidence, in fact any kind of confidence, has to come from within yourself, it can't be taught or shown - it's about accepting yourself for yourself - and not trying to fit to what you "perceive" others to want.

Likewise, no matter how much someone might tell you you're attractive, have nothing wrong with you etc - unless you truly believe that for yourself you'll never accept it is the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body Confidence is a strange thing

It is a view of self as opposed to a view from others

Without naming names, I have looked at various profiles in this thread alone and thought 'I'd kill to look like that'

My only chance of true body confidence would only come with the assistance of a surgeons knife - and a great psychologist afterwards

So, I have learned to accept and adapt

I'm not 100% there, but I have more good days than bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t usually have a problem with body confidence at all but lack of exercise over the past year- hmmm not that confident about stripping off atm.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I have very little body confidence but I have photos up on here.

I'm looking to meet rather than just to chat on here, and I figure people need to have a realistic view of me before meeting up, hence the photos.

I don't particularly enjoy taking photos and I'd vastly prefer not to bother with them, but my body is what it is so anyone I meet is going to see it anyway! May as well get it over with up front and out approaches from people who are never going find me desirable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have very little body confidence but I have photos up on here.

I'm looking to meet rather than just to chat on here, and I figure people need to have a realistic view of me before meeting up, hence the photos.

I don't particularly enjoy taking photos and I'd vastly prefer not to bother with them, but my body is what it is so anyone I meet is going to see it anyway! May as well get it over with up front and out approaches from people who are never going find me desirable."

But you would have a social first so both can see each other....that's fine for me

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

My body confidence is constantly in flux. Recently I've had some health issues which have made me feel not so strong.. This I find more challenging than other things like weight, stretch marks, ageing. I realise I love to feel embodied and capable over feeling attractive to others.

I wander around naked with my partner but I noticed I want to put something on yesterday.

It changes. It will change again.

Body confidence is an ongoing adventure in Life for many of us. It makes me sad AND its good work on the path to self love and acceptance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence is very low, I carefully select the best pics so, I’m not showing the bad bits. I look at some of the ladies on here and think I’d love to look like them, but I know that I have to accept myself for who I am. X

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I have very little body confidence but I have photos up on here.

I'm looking to meet rather than just to chat on here, and I figure people need to have a realistic view of me before meeting up, hence the photos.

I don't particularly enjoy taking photos and I'd vastly prefer not to bother with them, but my body is what it is so anyone I meet is going to see it anyway! May as well get it over with up front and out approaches from people who are never going find me desirable.

But you would have a social first so both can see each other....that's fine for me"

Very true, but if someone finds obesity a massive turn off (pun intended) then it's pointless wasting both our limited free time having a social. My photos are equal parts advertisement and warning.

I try to find flattering angles and lighting but I don't airbrush anything, I feel like they're a decent representation of me. I may not care for them or enjoy looking at them, but to achieve what I'm looking to on here I appreciate they are necessary.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

My body confidence really isn't great at the moment and it's something I feel like I need to get back, just need to work out how.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would rather someone judged my face on here then body on social...before any sexy fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather someone judged my face on here then body on social...before any sexy fun"

You could always post a fully clothed pic to give a general idea of your physique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know what? My body is nothing to write home about.

It never has been, but I've had good strong relationships because I've always been about who I am and what I have to offer beyond mere physicality.

I know this sounds trite. But I don't have a big dick, I don't have a ripped torso and I don't pretend to be some dickhead variety of "alpha" male. I'm just a standard man with a few kinks and a lot of empathy and that shit has legs.

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