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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no

I know I have done this before but I just want everyone’s honest opinion and thoughts about my profile. It’s unhidden now 14:30

(Women&couples)

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I think it's a good profile. It says what you're looking for, it says what you don't want, it's nicely written. It's polite, there's no denigration of others that have different tastes.

You don't have any of the silly Sydney university or Facebook disclaimers.

You've got very nice photos (love the mauve and pink bra on the first few!), they show enough to let people appreciate who you are, without going into explicit detail (obviously I've only seen your public pics but that's fine, you may or may not choose to show more in your friends only pics, but then they are intended for those who you have built up some rapport with).

A woman looking for women and couples is one of the more difficult dynamics on fab, but I hope that you do manage to find some compatible folk. Best wishes, Polly xx

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By *ambo1450Man
over a year ago

Newport

For what it’s worth, it looks good. Maybe a little too much personal information (where you live), but it there’s nothing glaringly wrong. Like the other comment, maybe you’re aiming at a smaller audience than some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr"
the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate....

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate.... "

How do you get the hate though if you’ve blocked them?

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too "

And the reason why it’s repetitive is because people still ask why I’m from and it just makes it easier to put it on my profile

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate....

How do you get the hate though if you’ve blocked them?"
because when they comment on forums posts saying how I blocked them for no reason

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Still not sure if you're looking for single men or not though...

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr"

And obviously I will tell the person I am talking to about what I like and dislike, it just makes it easier because as everyone says on here everyone is different

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Its very clear with nice pictures. I'm not sure I'd pinpoint my location though. It's a little repetitive.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate....

How do you get the hate though if you’ve blocked them? because when they comment on forums posts saying how I blocked them for no reason "

They’re not allowed to do that. Report if they do

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

From the responses you are giving to people's suggestions here it doesn't seem as if you actually want the advice you've asked for, as you don't appear to be taking any of the comments on board?

However, I'd remove the more personal details and also the part where you tell people to block you. If you block them and they comment about it on the forum then they're doing it against the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate....

How do you get the hate though if you’ve blocked them? because when they comment on forums posts saying how I blocked them for no reason "

That should get them a ban.

I'm not sure why you want people to block you though? We all have our own reasons for blocking people and it's totally up to you if you do so and you certainly don't deserve hate for it. For us though we block for specific behavoirs (dick pics and repeat messaging after being declined mostly) I certainly wouldn't go looking for the block button after checking through a list of criteria I need to fulfil - tbh if I had stumbled across your profile I would have got to about the third "don't" statement and hit the back button.

I feel bad being this blunt but you have asked for constructive feedback. I'm not telling you that your profile shouldn't read the war it does or that your reasons for writing it are not valid. I can only give my opinion on how I would feel reading it.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too

And the reason why it’s repetitive is because people still ask why I’m from and it just makes it easier to put it on my profile "

You don't think your location set as "messagemetofindout" might be the reason behind that? Just a thought.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"From the responses you are giving to people's suggestions here it doesn't seem as if you actually want the advice you've asked for, as you don't appear to be taking any of the comments on board?

However, I'd remove the more personal details and also the part where you tell people to block you. If you block them and they comment about it on the forum then they're doing it against the rules."

I am taking the comments on broad, and I haven’t changed anything yet because I’m in the middle of writing a new one, and the personal details part is because I’m sick of writing the same message again and again, and honestly I’m not putting my whole address on my profile.......

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Personally I'm not a fan of profiles that come across as negative or aggressive.

Fine to state your preferences though I prefer to see this weighted to what you do like rather than a list of what you don't - that comes across to me as a very negative personality. You start off with a general description of what you're looking for which is great though.

You have lots of 'block me' statements and while I'm sure it wasn't intended that way, I find profiles that tell me how to react quite aggressive. You're free to react to me any way you want and likewise with I don't need telling how to react to you?

Mr the reason why is because when I ask for people to block me they say they don’t want to and it’s a free country, and when I do the blocking I get a load of hate....

How do you get the hate though if you’ve blocked them? because when they comment on forums posts saying how I blocked them for no reason

That should get them a ban.

I'm not sure why you want people to block you though? We all have our own reasons for blocking people and it's totally up to you if you do so and you certainly don't deserve hate for it. For us though we block for specific behavoirs (dick pics and repeat messaging after being declined mostly) I certainly wouldn't go looking for the block button after checking through a list of criteria I need to fulfil - tbh if I had stumbled across your profile I would have got to about the third "don't" statement and hit the back button.

I feel bad being this blunt but you have asked for constructive feedback. I'm not telling you that your profile shouldn't read the war it does or that your reasons for writing it are not valid. I can only give my opinion on how I would feel reading it.

Mr"

Honestly me telling people to block me is more for the people that complain about me blocking them, and it’s not so much when I ask it’s when I’m having a conversation with someone and you can tell they are not interested so that’s when I ask them to block me and they are like no why can’t you do it

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too

And the reason why it’s repetitive is because people still ask why I’m from and it just makes it easier to put it on my profile

You don't think your location set as "messagemetofindout" might be the reason behind that? Just a thought. "

So should I put my location where that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single male so won’t give my opinion but that first pic of yours and your dong scared the shit of me…

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Informative but not very fun. Personality doesn't come across to me. That's just my view. No disrespect intended.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too

And the reason why it’s repetitive is because people still ask why I’m from and it just makes it easier to put it on my profile

You don't think your location set as "messagemetofindout" might be the reason behind that? Just a thought.

So should I put my location where that is"

Yes I would, then you can remove it from your main text. I’d also remove ‘I live alone’ that’s a huge red flag for me and a safety issue Unfortunately the web, and here has some unscrupulous individuals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“My name is Roxy I live in Taunton Somerset. This is my sixth Time trying to make a decent profile.

I am a 28-year-old woman I live in Taunton Somerset near the train station.

I live on my own in my apartment.”

This is repetitive and far too much personal information it would be enough with the first line. I would take of your Skype details too

And the reason why it’s repetitive is because people still ask why I’m from and it just makes it easier to put it on my profile

You don't think your location set as "messagemetofindout" might be the reason behind that? Just a thought.

So should I put my location where that is

Yes I would, then you can remove it from your main text. I’d also remove ‘I live alone’ that’s a huge red flag for me and a safety issue Unfortunately the web, and here has some unscrupulous individuals "

I was just about to mention this too

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Roxy glad your back

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Hey Roxy glad your back "

I’m not exactly back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the responses you are giving to people's suggestions here it doesn't seem as if you actually want the advice you've asked for, as you don't appear to be taking any of the comments on board?

However, I'd remove the more personal details and also the part where you tell people to block you. If you block them and they comment about it on the forum then they're doing it against the rules.

I am taking the comments on broad, and I haven’t changed anything yet because I’m in the middle of writing a new one, and the personal details part is because I’m sick of writing the same message again and again, and honestly I’m not putting my whole address on my profile....... "

If you're sick of writing your location then simply stop doing so. The only people who need to know more than "Taunton" are those who you have had a social with and intend to invite into your home. For everyone else it's simply none of their business. Taunton isn't a big place, you've told them you live near the train station and live alone. That coupled with your pics makes you very easy to find which is a safety issue. Anyone asking where in Taunton you live is someone to be very wary of. In many years on Fab between us we have never been asked for an address and very very rarely what part of town we are in by anyone other than those we're planning to meet.

I may be wrong but it feels like you have been very trusting with people and friendly in your chats and getting shit for it. Your boundaries will be more effective if you apply them rather than tell people what they are. If you block someone and they whinge just ignore them. You can block all single males from being able to message you and even wink at you in your profile settings. If you don't want to do something then just don't, no need to announce it first.

Good luck OP, hope you find what you want.

Mr

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't think you need to tell people all the time to block you. It sounds defensive and you don't need to be. Own your choices. Otherwise it's generally a good profile.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Looks good to me x

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Ok, Nice pics - very clear Op.

If I were you:-

1. I'd take out where you live bit. To avoid perhaps being pestered either shopping or doing your da-to-day things where you live. Save it for people you click with - tell them once you feel you can trust them?

2. Don't give someone an excuse to block you! I would put rather: "if you do not read my profile properly and you message me - I will block you!" Something like that perhaps? I've seen other female profiles that state that....!

3. "Message me to find out" bit I would put that next to or below "if I wink you it means I like you! "Message me....etc.

4. Where you put "message me to find out" - perhaps StraponVille? PeggingLane? MaskUponMe? Get creative....

5. Look at other peoples suggestions - good advice!

6. Don't take crap off any one on a forum/messaging you! Report/block - you have advice on that.

7. I like what you put! Not my thing.... You don't have much to change by the way though. A tweak here & there! I'm always changing mine on mood, whim etc.

I hope you get to tick all the boxes on your bucket list OP. Have fun!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Hello. For me your profile text is a bit abrasive and it’s not fun. The blunt, repetitive statements would put me off. Your pics are nice, you look hot. I can’t tell what your profile pic is though, whatever it is isn’t clear in the thumbnail image.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t see it. So sorry can’t comment. All the best.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no

Thank you everyone for your opinions I’m going to make the changes now thank you again

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over a year ago

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