FabSwingers.com forum: Not sure how I feel

By *ampshirehotwife OP Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah I know what you mean. I don’t really like it either x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We get this…’you have great boobs for your age’

‘You look hot for a silver fox’

Both compliments but both have that element of ‘erm, thanks!’ too

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'll never forget

"You've got pretty decent pins for a fat bird"

Bless him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a great body for any age I think people say it because it gets harder to maintain a good body as you get older so it indicates a lot more hard work and dedication then of you were younger. It's actually a big compliment but I know what you mean. I try to to say it because I think it can be misinterpreted even though I mean it as admiration for the work put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amateurs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a great body… it can stop there … I don’t see the need to add the age thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"

I think you are ! Just accept a nice compliment in the spirit it’s given

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I laugh when men say you have soft skin for your age.

It's like they think once we hit 50 we turn into tortoises.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I’m not a fan but they totally mean it as a compliment , there’s no backhanded compliment meant and I’m pretty sure they think we love it …. Bless them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I laugh when men say you have soft skin for your age.

It's like they think once we hit 50 we turn into tortoises.

Hahahaha tickled me this

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I laugh when men say you have soft skin for your age.

It's like they think once we hit 50 we turn into tortoises.

Yes this , although I use the word hippopotamus…

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I am going to leap slightly to their defence and suggest it is never intended to be construed in that manner and mainly that they just think you look amazing!!!

Why they can’t just say that without referencing age though I can’t say!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I laugh when men say you have soft skin for your age.

It's like they think once we hit 50 we turn into tortoises.

. Mines really soft!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.

"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"

"your body is so great, I love BBWs"

And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"

Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts

If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get "your voice is lovely" more often than I would like. M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll never forget

"You've got pretty decent pins for a fat bird"

Bless him."

Wtf!!!

how can people even say these things and be taken seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve heard 50 is the new 30

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.

"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"

"your body is so great, I love BBWs"

And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"

Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts

If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "

Oh wow!!

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I'll never forget

"You've got pretty decent pins for a fat bird"

Bless him."

FFS

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

At my age any compliments are appreciated. It does not really bother me how they are said.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.

"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"

"your body is so great, I love BBWs"

And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"

Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts

If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "

Ok yeah that’s not cool at all.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I just brush it off, it’s clumsy and age shouldn’t come in to it but it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.

"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"

"your body is so great, I love BBWs"

And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"

Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts

If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment". "

I not be able to help myself making a comment back, what response do they actually think they’ll receive back, I think it’s a complete lack of respect even if they don’t mean it to be harsh.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I just brush it off, it’s clumsy and age shouldn’t come in to it but it does"

You have amazing boobs for your age!!!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"I’ve heard 50 is the new 30

That doesn’t work with the Police when stopped for speeding.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I laugh when men say you have soft skin for your age.

It's like they think once we hit 50 we turn into tortoises.

. Mines really soft!"

I inherited my mum's good skin, and drink lots of water.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I just brush it off, it’s clumsy and age shouldn’t come in to it but it does

You have amazing boobs for your age!!!

The cheek of you !!

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By *uby Tuesday 55Woman
over a year ago

Combe Martin

I have to agree with the OP, it's one of my pet hates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At my age any compliments are appreciated. It does not really bother me how they are said."

That’s because you are a very confident woman comfortable in your own skin.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have to admit when someone said I had a lovely body for my age, I took it as the compliment it was meant to be, I don't get that many

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I get this! But I'm just gratefull at my age lol! 64 today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I get this a lot as a fat person.

"you have such a pretty face for a big girl"

"your body is so great, I love BBWs"

And my personal favourite... "you're so pretty, you'll get ALL the boys once you lose the weight!"

Just remember that people aren't doing it to be nasty. Even though it hurts

If it's someone close to me I'll let them know that what they've said is shitty. But a lot of the time I cba so just roll my eyes and accept the "compliment".

I not be able to help myself making a comment back, what response do they actually think they’ll receive back, I think it’s a complete lack of respect even if they don’t mean it to be harsh. "

I think it depends on how well you know the person though. If it's a stranger I don't really care, but if it's friends and family it really pisses me off.

When me and my best friend were still getting to know each other, he would pay me compliments like "you're so beautiful for a chubby (lol) girl, me and *our other friend* talk about it all time.", or "you carry your weight so well, on other big women it doesn't suit them at all but you really pull it off (insulting both me and other women in one fell swoop lol)".

Then one night I got really d*unk and told him how I felt when he said shit like that. He was really remorseful and ever since then he always tells me I'm beautiful with zero caveats

he always tries to make me feel good, I love him so much

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I just brush it off, it’s clumsy and age shouldn’t come in to it but it does

You have amazing boobs for your age!!!

The cheek of you !!

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By *ember101Man
over a year ago

London

No, I don’t think your sensitive, I agree that they are not full complements and can’t see why it’s a factor in anything. A bit like when people say ‘sorry if I’ve done something wrong’, it kinda comes across as neutral and not a authentic statement.

You have a stunning body btw

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I know how you feel ... I’m sensitive about my body to begin with but I hate it when people point things out. When people say I’m curvy I know I am but I hate that word I always feel like it adds 10 stone onto me in my head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday! And just for the record we would! M and N xx

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By *ampshirehotwife OP Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus "

This made me chuckle!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Why people can't just say "you look great" I'll never know. Nobody ever says "you look great for your age" to a 21 year old

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By *ampshirehotwife OP Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Happy birthday! And just for the record we would! M and N xx"

Who's birthday is it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is these folk don't intend to be insulting and everyone is different to what terminology they don't like used towards them.

Some are probably more obvious than others but still if everyone decided they shouldn't say things because it may cause upset to an individual then the chances are nobody would say anything to anybody.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I suppose us blokes are thick skinned but I have had this comment from people with age limits well below my age and take the compliment without reading too much into it, I'm easily flattered.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It is meant as a compliment. It would be more of a compliment without the 'for your age', but I guess they feel it is 'more' of a compliment.

But then I'm not one to take a compliment anyway, on anything.

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"

It's passive aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm never "thankful" for compliments. And if someone felt the need to mention my age in one they can do one. I'm not desperate.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Happy birthday! And just for the record we would! M and N xx"

Ty! So would I x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You are either sexually attractive or you are not.

People that say , 'for your age' should be shot on sight.

People are stupid though ....... they mean well.

Just say , Thank you and you are totally fucking moronic for your age......

No don't they are trying to be nice.It's annoying tho........

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By *oubletroubleCouple
over a year ago

South West

"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus "

Maybe a clowns pocket ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv done this before on accident.

I complimented a bloke on his hair as he had a great head of hair for a bloke of his age.

I mean he had a great head of hair full stop but for his age when most men his age are receding or bald it really was good.

I didn’t mean it in any kind of back handed way and I think when people say these compliments you can tell if they are being twats or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When men have said to me ‘you have a great body’ ...I always normally reply with ‘yeh it’s not bad for someone that’s had two kids’ so I actually do this back to people too about myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont know how to communicate as well as others is all i think dont know how to transfer thought to word or in some cases dont think how that could be seen as backhanded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number and after all it was actually a compliment..

I think we sometimes over think messages a little too much...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The considering you’ve had kids….

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

There should be no caveat.

And I'm not white knighting.

But they are not good compliments.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I find it a compliment if people say I look good 4 my age .x.time 2 worry is wen they say u don't look good lol x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I haven't met them in person I don't tend to believe them. Saying that, I still struggle to accept the compliment even in person x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People look at me and scream.

Take the win, OP, take the win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I defo delete

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Hate it. It's like men who tell me I should be flattered than a younger man finds me attractive. Thanks for that, eternally grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had the your incredibly stunning for a bigger girl

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I’ve had the your incredibly stunning for a bigger girl

That's really shitty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster

Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been told how flexible I was by a physio, "for my size". That went down a treat.

How attractive I could be, if I lost some weight by several and how much they are attracted to older women

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster

Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"

racist AND thick. Winning combo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster

Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"

racist AND thick. Winning combo."

Yep, although maybe I'm the thick one for saying thanks

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"It's essentially saying something positive in spite of a perceived negative.

It's like saying "I agree with you but...", just don't say the second part of that sentence and you're golden

You're not too bad, for a foolish youngster

Why thank you, the worst I had though was when I sent someone a face pic, they asked my ethnicity and then said "your (sic) not bad looking for and Indian"

racist AND thick. Winning combo.

Yep, although maybe I'm the thick one for saying thanks

Colonial mentality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s rather rude and juvenile to make mention of a persons age even if the comment may well be intended as a compliment, just bad manners from someone who may well be ill educated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are earnest in their compliment albeit with clumsy locution.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I get this too, it's like a back handed compliment. Just stick to "you look great"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus

Maybe a clowns pocket ?

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thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just don't mention age, in any way shape or form. I thought everybody knew this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other day I had a message “how’s your pussy still tight at my age” what did you expect it to look like a hippopotamus

This made me chuckle!!

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I was gob smacked mind some men are clueless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"

Ive ALWAYS said it that a guy should compliment the lady full stop....NEVER add anything else....NONE of the " for your age " craic after it....its a HUGE ..NO NO NO for me.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"That sex was surprisingly good for someone with a small cock"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been told how flexible I was by a physio, "for my size". That went down a treat.

How attractive I could be, if I lost some weight by several and how much they are attracted to older women

Some just havent a clue have they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have a great body… it can stop there … I don’t see the need to add the age thing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"

I don't get the age thing. If you're able and alive then do it. All this act your age bollocks, whaaaaat??

I 've just looked at your profile and you look amazing. End of. Anything else is just a bit beige really

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By *eivers101Couple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"When men have said to me ‘you have a great body’ ...I always normally reply with ‘yeh it’s not bad for someone that’s had two kids’ so I actually do this back to people too

about myself. "

Jane here.....yeah I've done /do that too. Daft thing is deep down I kinda know that a size 8/10 with few if any stretch marks after 2 kids and being 53 is pretty good going in the grand scheme of things but I just can't accept the compliment regardless cos wellllllll I'm 53 and don't actually do anything very much in terms of diet or exercise so it's luck over effort really and the age is irrelevant

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Get the same thing - great legs for a TGirl. I get it's a compliment, but as I aim to be as femme as possible when I dress I'd prefer to be compared to other women!

And I think they're ugly and full of scars. So I know they're talking bollocks anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy say's

"You have a great body for someone in their 50's"

Or "you look great considering your age"

Yes it's a compliment and I should be thankful,but it always seems to be a bit of backhanded compliment.

How do others feel about this??

Once again I am very grateful for the kind complimentary word's but also feel that why mention my age?

Perhaps I'm too sensitive!"

Irrespective of age you look great.Why mention age at all?

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

"You have a great body for any age I think people say it because it gets harder to maintain a good body as you get older so it indicates a lot more hard work and dedication then of you were younger. It's actually a big compliment but I know what you mean. I try to to say it because I think it can be misinterpreted even though I mean it as admiration for the work put in.

Hard work and dedication ??

Oh yeh

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By *ampshirehotwife OP Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

There's definitely food for thought in a lot of these comments. After all this is the world of fabs.....these so called compliments are ten a penny!!

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