FabSwingers.com forum: Block instantly

By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because it saves being hassled by those who refuse to take no for an answer.

Block is an answer, and it prevents nasty comeback.

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By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Because it saves being hassled by those who refuse to take no for an answer.

Block is an answer, and it prevents nasty comeback."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don’t block I get the same copy and paste messages 3 weeks later I sed no ones not going to change my mind if I block them they can’t

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By *ondonerMan
over a year ago

London / Essex borders

I use it to block people who state 'no beards/no bald guys' etc saves them coming up in searches so I don't get my hopes up when a hot couple are looking for a meet lol

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By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"If I don’t block I get the same copy and paste messages 3 weeks later I sed no ones not going to change my mind if I block them they can’t "

This copy-paste I don't get it too but come on? (No thank you very much ) would be sufficient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A block is a no! Says so when you join, also don't take it too seriously as you say yourself in ryour profile. It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be blocked if I've messaged and it clearly means I'm not for them, saves coming across their profile again and just in case they don't I do it for them.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

OP, if you do a forum search for "manners" you'll find all the threads where this has been discussed and all the reasons behind using the block button rather than replying with a rejection are laid out in those threads.

A lot of people use blocking as a "thanks but no thanks", not worth worrying about.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Perhaps whenever someone types this into the opening format of a new post, it should redirect them to the THOUSANDS of posts that have already answered this a thousand and one times.

Move along! Nothing to see here. Move along!

Gbat

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

"OP, if you do a forum search for "manners" you'll find all the threads where this has been discussed and all the reasons behind using the block button rather than replying with a rejection are laid out in those threads.

A lot of people use blocking as a "thanks but no thanks", not worth worrying about."

Honestly the block button is my best friend on this site. Because some people can’t take no for an answer, or you end up having abuse thrown your way

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I get what the OP is saying - it may feel a bit harsh to be blocked when sending a nice message.

But it really is the best way to avoid repeat messages and ongoing messages asking you to justify why you don't feel attracted in the hope you d change your mind.

Just take it as an accepted "avoid further problems" OP - not as a harsh message x

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Because it saves being hassled by those who refuse to take no for an answer.

Block is an answer, and it prevents nasty comeback."

Exactly that. If I politely decline I may get asked why or verbally abused - this is very common. If I just ignore and delete there's a very good chance they'll try again, sometimes with the same copy and paste crap.

Having preferences and standards isn't considering yourself God-like, it's a basic right. Nobody owes you anything like and just because you think you've done everything "right" and consider yourself a match, that doesn't mean it's actually the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody is owed anything .. do you reply to all the junk that comes thru your letter box ?

its your choice to message someone as is it there choice to ignore or block

the block button on this site has made the site very easy to use for me i block those i have no interest in as well as the rude and abusive i also block racist sexist status and remarks.

i dont answer those im not interested in because of the oh why not or the abuse

nobody owe anybody anything

block button is thee best tool on fab

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By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

I really hate when it comes to the point of a abuse or something like that and truly agree with all of you people who reply to this thread but I still don't like the blocking bottom

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A lot of people use blocking as a "thanks but no thanks", not worth worrying about.

Honestly the block button is my best friend on this site. Because some people can’t take no for an answer, or you end up having abuse thrown your way "

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

"nobody is owed anything .. do you reply to all the junk that comes thru your letter box ?

its your choice to message someone as is it there choice to ignore or block

the block button on this site has made the site very easy to use for me i block those i have no interest in as well as the rude and abusive i also block racist sexist status and remarks.

i dont answer those im not interested in because of the oh why not or the abuse

nobody owe anybody anything

block button is thee best tool on fab"

True that

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

A woman can have hundreds of messages a day from single men, there is no rule that says they have to reply, if they did, they would spend the best part of a day sending thanks but no thanks replies, and then contending with the why not question.

Accept it for what it is, the ladies choice to read, reply, delete or block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your problem is one of expectation. You appear to be of the impression that because YOU have made an effort you deserve a reply from someone who isn't interested. By this logic, every time you are stopped by a chugger in the high street you should stop and interact with them because they have gone to the effort of setting up their stand. Every unsolicited email you get you should reply to because the people who sent it went to a lot of effort to create the best mail they could.

The thing is, people on here may describe in general terms what they like and you may think you match that but ultimately it is their decision, any message you send is unsolicited, they haven't asked you to message.

On top of this as others will no doubt say, the number of times a polite no thanks is ignored on an attempt to maintain a conversation or becomes an excuse for abuse is unreal.

Stop believing you are entitled to anything just because you make an effort, sadly buddy, despite what modern media would have you believe you are not owed anything in life. Just be grateful your biggest issue is a lack of reply after a carefully thought out email. Imagine living a life where despite working and trying as hard as you can you don't have money, food, clean water or safety.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I don't block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time it takes me to log in i've usually been blocked 16 times

. It really is nothing to stress over!

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By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I get what the OP is saying - it may feel a bit harsh to be blocked when sending a nice message.

But it really is the best way to avoid repeat messages and ongoing messages asking you to justify why you don't feel attracted in the hope you d change your mind.

Just take it as an accepted "avoid further problems" OP - not as a harsh message x"

The best reply so far and thanks for your time to write ... I really like this website.. you find nice people here and really sometimes making nice connection with someone ... I'm not taking to seriously again for people who said that it's just I had this on my mind for long time and now I have some free time I just thought why not? To see what people have to say? What are they're thoughts ?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Don’t send any messages and you won’t get upset then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of being called a blocked button it should be a 'politely declined'button. May not feel like such a jolt to the system. Especially if you are new, and feel being blocked is a personal slight against you.

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By *heekyeyes OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Don’t send any messages and you won’t get upset then

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or like I was told on here once. "if you cry, build a bridge then get yourself over it!" harsh but true!

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By *atch0101Man
over a year ago

Here

If the sender doesn't accept a "No thank you", a block is well deserved.

Otherwise I think its just rude and bad mannered.

Earlier someone mention if "someone came up to you in the street after setting up their stand", well I certainly wouldn't blank them.

If I am not interested I will always say a firm No thank you.

In life if a stranger on a bus stop asked you a question, within reason of course or tried to engage in conversation, would you just blank them?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

When I look at messages I look at profile first. If I’m not interested I delete and block. It’s not personal it’s just easier that way. It’s only a tool.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"When I look at messages I look at profile first. If I’m not interested I delete and block. It’s not personal it’s just easier that way. It’s only a tool.

And right now I have 630 messages. I don’t have time to say no thank you to all of them.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"When I look at messages I look at profile first. If I’m not interested I delete and block. It’s not personal it’s just easier that way. It’s only a tool.

And right now I have 630 messages. I don’t have time to say no thank you to all of them. "

I have triple

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

No one owns you nothing op now more on..

That's the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I block everyone I speak to that isn’t going to either a friend or a meet, why would I need to hear from them again ? It’s not because I’m nasty or wanting to be rude or anything like that it’s just because I have no need to hear from them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be wondering why you had beef with mr potter first drako

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are far to sensitive these days and that’s not just aimed at you OP just move on … I’ve they block you or give you a polite no thank you what’s the difference ? Your obviously trying to message them again so really they’ve made the right choice in blocking you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Instead of being called a blocked button it should be a 'politely declined'button. May not feel like such a jolt to the system. Especially if you are new, and feel being blocked is a personal slight against you. "

Now there's an interesting concept. Or or you have both so you know if you really pissed them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mate, similar threads like this pop up frequently.

to be brutal men simply have to accept rejection frequently on here, its pointless dwelling on it as life is way too short and if you are blocked then you will never know why so its a waste of energy wondering....move on and try again is what i would advise which I know isnt a popular answer but is a practical one.

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By *oooner1Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

We get a lot of messages, don’t always get time to reply to them all especially if there’s real life stuff going on.

If she has time, Deb will send a “sorry, not my type”, mostly it’ll just be a delete without reply. Depending how much trouble they’ve gone to with their message.

We only block when we get several replies from the same person who obviously can’t take a hint.

Had a message through a couple of days ago, the usual “you’re sexy, do you want to fuck?” One-liner. Didn’t reply. 45 minutes later a second message from the same guy “a thanks but no thanks is considered polite”

Replied “So is waiting more than a few minutes for a reply” and promptly blocked him.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Rather than look at it negatively OP (and anyone else who does) put a positive spin on it:

- By blocking you, they won't come up in your searches again so you won't have your time wasted by sending another message (on the chance you overlook you've already sent one).

- They're not interested and so not compatible - would you want to meet people you're not compatible with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

OP, you really should familiarise yourself with the site FAQ's. It will help you with your sense of entitlement.

What the site owners say about a non-response to a message :

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

The point is that those you have messaged have not asked for your message. It is up to them how they respond, not you.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

I block as I’ve had abuse previously, for saying I’m not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the guys got a profile that’s very negative and full of boring cock pictures, why bother communicating with him

As others have said previously, plenty of threads with horror stories from women on here and the abuse they’ve received by replying to those they’re not interested in.

Also I note you haven’t answered every comment on your thread, bit hypocritical to complain about something your unwilling to do yourself.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

I block as I’ve had abuse previously, for saying I’m not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the guys got a profile that’s very negative and full of boring cock pictures, why bother communicating with him

As others have said previously, plenty of threads with horror stories from women on here and the abuse they’ve received by replying to those they’re not interested in.

Also I note you haven’t answered every comment on your thread, bit hypocritical to complain about something your unwilling to do yourself.

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in 12 years being on this site I have never received one abusive msg to me telling them no thanks and I've turned down thousands trust me , indeed if anything I've more often got a msg saying saying something like " ok thanks for replying" it's about time the single men bashing was stopped on this site

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Because they're aren't enough hours in the day to reply to every single message, so a block saves time and means your can't make the same mistake twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t understand why people find it so hard to accept that blocking someone is a good thing. You’re saving yourself and the other person wasting yours and their time. I couldn’t care less if I was blocked by half the site! At least then I’d know where I stand with those who are left. More people should use the block feature, in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I think op is this

A true gentlemen wants equality and lives by that

A true gentlewoman is his equal

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We have many criteria for blocking, age being one of a number of them.

It just saves all the hassle and says sorry, not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the block as well, dont see an issue with myself.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

I block as I’ve had abuse previously, for saying I’m not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the guys got a profile that’s very negative and full of boring cock pictures, why bother communicating with him

As others have said previously, plenty of threads with horror stories from women on here and the abuse they’ve received by replying to those they’re not interested in.

Also I note you haven’t answered every comment on your thread, bit hypocritical to complain about something your unwilling to do yourself.

in 12 years being on this site I have never received one abusive msg to me telling them no thanks and I've turned down thousands trust me , indeed if anything I've more often got a msg saying saying something like " ok thanks for replying" it's about time the single men bashing was stopped on this site "

Stop bashing single men then.

Obviously you don’t get my point

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There is an extremely simple solution to this age old problem.

Stop thinking you are entitled to something.

Problem over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it saves being hassled by those who refuse to take no for an answer.

Block is an answer, and it prevents nasty comeback."

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

How many times am I expected to say no thanks to the same “meet for sex now?” type message from the same profile? Once, twice, three times?

Blocking them saves their time and mine.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I don’t often block people these days. I use my message filters, so I don’t get inundated with dross messages. I therefore always reply with a thanks but no thanks message on the few occasions I turn my filters off. Maximum time I leave them off for is 48 hours.

I block people that are rude or cannot engage in conversational messaging.

Everyone is entitled to use the site in the way they see fit.

Try not to take it personally OP. You’re being judged on a few photos, your profile text and your initial message. They saw something that they weren’t interested in and saved you the bother of wasting your time wading past their profiles again to find other more suitable people.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

I block as I’ve had abuse previously, for saying I’m not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the guys got a profile that’s very negative and full of boring cock pictures, why bother communicating with him

As others have said previously, plenty of threads with horror stories from women on here and the abuse they’ve received by replying to those they’re not interested in.

Also I note you haven’t answered every comment on your thread, bit hypocritical to complain about something your unwilling to do yourself.

Stop bashing single men then.

Obviously you don’t get my point

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haha the irony

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By *ild-mWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I actually reply I'm sorry not interested but good luck....and then blocked...and a couple of times the same people have made new accounts so they can either send back messages saying ahh I wasn't really interested fat slag, and another was ignorant bitch...so you can't win when your polite!

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you

I block people who I messaged and got a ‘no’ from

I also block anyone who has ‘White guys only’

I also block who sounds like a dickhead from their profile

Just saves them coming back up on a search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

Think of it this way,when the local takeaway put a leaflet through your door,do you send them a letter to say that you aren't interested,so why should people reply to you???

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Can't be arsed answering something that gets asked at least two/three times a month by others who also feel as entitled as you do OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blocked instantly when I saw my daughter on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blocked instantly when I saw my daughter on here. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually reply I'm sorry not interested but good luck....and then blocked...and a couple of times the same people have made new accounts so they can either send back messages saying ahh I wasn't really interested fat slag, and another was ignorant bitch...so you can't win when your polite!"
that's so nice to hear, it shows courtesy, and respect that a person messaged you

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

Have you any idea how many times a day/week/month women and couples would have to do that and the hassle they'd get if/when they did from all lazy entitled men who believe they deserve a response even when they don't even bother to read profiles before making contact?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you stress about why people do things on here, you're knackered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both ways, answer and a block. I find though, some are returning after I've said 'you are not for me' ...

Not sure what people are getting out of that.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

I block as I’ve had abuse previously, for saying I’m not interested or thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the guys got a profile that’s very negative and full of boring cock pictures, why bother communicating with him

As others have said previously, plenty of threads with horror stories from women on here and the abuse they’ve received by replying to those they’re not interested in.

Also I note you haven’t answered every comment on your thread, bit hypocritical to complain about something your unwilling to do yourself.

...and in over 10 years on this site I finally learned to block with impunity after the abuse following most 'no thanks' messages I sent out.

All of them came from men bar one from a woman who clearly had some mental health issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's in the sites rules that a non reply should be taken as a polite no thankyou, no one here ows anyone there time just because they would like it, that includes the time to reply to unsolicited messages

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Only ever block rude/vile/abusive people x

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

OP why should we reply to anyone who clearly didn't bother to read our profile and doesn't meet our basic criteria? Out of politeness maybe? Why does anyone who totally disregards our profile deserve a response? We make it clear that we're looking for a tall, straight guy, who's over 40, a non-smoker and lives or can provide a hotel locally to us in Kent. What exactly do we owe to a short, fat, 20 year old bi-guy who smokes heavily and lives in Scotland, Manchester, Leeds, Wigan, N. Wales, Bolton, Cumbria, Lands End etc etc etc. and can't travel?

Yes, the vast majority of guys who contact us fall into that category and that's why we don't bother replying to them and just put them on the block list. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually block everyone that reads my message and don’t reply, it gets them off my search list too so I don’t have to check their profile anymore only to find out that I’ve already messaged them. The list is getting very long lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to reply to everyone when I first joined. And honestly it's not possible to do.

It might seem harsh and personal, but don't take it that way. Its not intended that way. Its more not wasting there's or your time.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"I actually block everyone that reads my message and don’t reply, it gets them off my search list too so I don’t have to check their profile anymore only to find out that I’ve already messaged them. The list is getting very long lol"

Exactly this. What's the point in wasting anyone's time?

If more guys read profiles and only responded to those which are a good match there'd be a whole lot less need to block anyone and they'd be a lot less frustrated.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

27 messages today. Not one of them had a read a word of our profile.

5 minutes to write and send no thank you to every one, then block them.

135 minutes, or 2 1/4 hours of my life I'll never get back.

No thanks to no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it saves being hassled by those who refuse to take no for an answer.

Block is an answer, and it prevents nasty comeback.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I auto block certain ppl right off so they can't even think sending a message.

If i ask for something & than figure I'm not interested I write back saying so.

If a message was sent & it's clear they didn't read than yes it's an auto block. If they're rude enough to do so than I can be just as rude to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

So, by using the block button on a profile who we have no interest in makes us appear god like? We’ll change our profile name to Eros and Aphrodite.

We are certainly not obliged to reply to every message we receive. Unfortunately even when we are polite and say ‘thanks but you’re not for us’ we can still get a hostile reply. There’s no need for that.

The block button ensures we don’t receive that sort of reply from someone who clearly can’t take a polite rejection. Some people don’t take a simple no.

The block button also saves us receiving messages from the same profile who just scatter send tedious messages.

The block button is a good tool and I couldn’t agree more with most of the replies you’ve received OP.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

We’ve tried this, telling people a polite no. Then they ask why, and we tell them. And they don’t like it, they call us names or threaten us. So we either ignore or block. Simple solution to a problem that shouldn’t exist!

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Ok ...I know some people here think they are like God but if basically read the profile ..you even do what they're asking which in my opinion is something that it shouldn't be like that!

And even do what they asked ..write nicely ..like a true gentleman should be writing to every woman over here and you still facing with a big and massive block !

What is that?

Why?

Can't you just say thanks but you're not for me?

A easy No it's enough !

Please those one who thinks they're smart to coment on this post (save it for yourself)

This is a genuine questions for people who likes blocking bottom

Think of it this way,when the local takeaway put a leaflet through your door,do you send them a letter to say that you aren't interested,so why should people reply to you???"
is there any expectations from the take away premises who post Thier leaflets through our doors that we will ring them or write to them saying we are not interested ?

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