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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One day you wake up and recieve a message inviting you round to play no prior conversation not even a wink. You politely say no thanks you aren't what we're looking for and get told...

'Get off the site then time wasters this is meant to be a site for everyone. It being picky people like you make the site a shitty place leave this site'

If you had looked at our profile it clearly says that if we want single guys we will find you, I haven't wasted your time, you didn't read our profile and decided to take a chance.

Yes this site is meant to be for everyone, is it being picky or is it having a clear boundary. Are we not included under 'everyone'. Because we're on a swingers site does that mean we have to fuck everyone that offers or else we're picky? We are on this site to experience the things WE want to. Not to please other people!

3. The male half of our profile has a single profile. He's had meets as a single guy which is why we haven't blocked single men  from messaging us, which is why we understand it can be tough as a single guy on fabs. But at least have a little bit of respect! For yourself but also for the people you are trying to meet.

Because we don't want to meet single guys (which is my choice - f) you think we shouldn't be on this site?! Who do you think you are telling me what my boundaries should be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not meant to post the content of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re not meant to post the content of messages. "

Yup.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's not word for word, it just gives you an idea of what was said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds devastating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not word for word, it just gives you an idea of what was said "

I’m not dismissing your experience at all, it sounds awful, but you can’t post message content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating."

I'm sure if you had the same amount of silly messages, you'd get annoyed too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are weird try not to get too annoyed about it x But i get ur frustration x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not word for word, it just gives you an idea of what was said

I’m not dismissing your experience at all, it sounds awful, but you can’t post message content "

There is NO message content...as she said, its not word for word, so where is the message content you're referring to?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

For some this site is just about holes and things to stick in them.

Which is fine, but don't berate people who aren't just looking for holes abs things to stick in them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly my thoughts thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating.

I'm sure if you had the same amount of silly messages, you'd get annoyed too"

God yeah of course, I'd be straight on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some reason alot of people on here view anything with a vagina as being somone they are entitled to just because thay want to put there penis inside it... I can't get my head around some profiles... No text no pictures but send messages like 'free to meet now?'... Free for what? Like I'm gonna meet a total stranger off the back of one message we're not free sex toys just sat around waiting to be summoned by somone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating.

I'm sure if you had the same amount of silly messages, you'd get annoyed too

God yeah of course, I'd be straight on the forums."

If the post offends you, if it seems a bit close home, you could just pass it by and not read or comment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For some reason alot of people on here view anything with a vagina as being somone they are entitled to just because thay want to put there penis inside it... I can't get my head around some profiles... No text no pictures but send messages like 'free to meet now?'... Free for what? Like I'm gonna meet a total stranger off the back of one message we're not free sex toys just sat around waiting to be summoned by somone "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore it and block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating.

I'm sure if you had the same amount of silly messages, you'd get annoyed too

God yeah of course, I'd be straight on the forums.

If the post offends you, if it seems a bit close home, you could just pass it by and not read or comment!"

Glad you managed that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not word for word, it just gives you an idea of what was said

I’m not dismissing your experience at all, it sounds awful, but you can’t post message content

There is NO message content...as she said, its not word for word, so where is the message content you're referring to?"

Ok, I’ll stop trying to help

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Half my messages are like that. The other half pretty vile. It’s how it is. Delete block and move on is the best bet x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Obviously can't hack rejection,

They're wasting their own time not reading your profile, I even state that in my profile.

It makes me laugh when people have a go at others for how they run their profiles and say it spoils it for others, er no it doesn't especially if they've been clear about what they're here for.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some reason alot of people on here view anything with a vagina as being somone they are entitled to just because thay want to put there penis inside it... I can't get my head around some profiles... No text no pictures but send messages like 'free to meet now?'... Free for what? Like I'm gonna meet a total stranger off the back of one message we're not free sex toys just sat around waiting to be summoned by somone "

Wot! That's you off my hotlist then.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol

I was once told I'm too picky for a single guy and that's why single guys struggle on here. Most people have had those kind of messages OP,just block and move on

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I would have just hit delete and thought about what ti have for breakfast. I just treat 90% of messages like I do spam, delete and don’t think about it, it’s really not worth engaging your brain on such messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth getting upset over, someones will always be upset with others for not fitting their criteria. Had an angry self-entitled asian guy recently attack me for asking for white men on my profile, literally ‘how dare you’ territory. Going to get these types on here, part of the territory

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"Just ignore it and block them. "

This. Ignore and block.. no point in wasting good typing time.

Besides. The FAQs of FAB express to individuals the no reply policy and they canny be bothered to read that. Then the dinnay deserve a reply, rather a swifty boot to the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like a common theme on here, especially by the vibe I get on a lot of forum posts.

Men talk about how they struggle as a single male on this website for one reason or another.

Women and couples about how they get constantly bombarded with abusive messages.

In your case, by your post, you show understanding and get "rewarded" with abusive messages from people that don't even have the common decency to read your profile and respecting boundaries.

Unfortunately there doesn't seem a solution other than "growing thicket skin" which sucks and doesn't really solve anything.

My suggestion would be to grab a glass of wine, relax and if you can, laugh it off and try to enjoy the rest of your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an idiot. Never know things so bad on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems like a common theme on here, especially by the vibe I get on a lot of forum posts.

Men talk about how they struggle as a single male on this website for one reason or another.

Women and couples about how they get constantly bombarded with abusive messages.

In your case, by your post, you show understanding and get "rewarded" with abusive messages from people that don't even have the common decency to read your profile and respecting boundaries.

Unfortunately there doesn't seem a solution other than "growing thicket skin" which sucks and doesn't really solve anything.

My suggestion would be to grab a glass of wine, relax and if you can, laugh it off and try to enjoy the rest of your day "

Thank you I've got the wine mark decided on pop corn haha x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not word for word, it just gives you an idea of what was said "

your not aloud to talk about others as in messages i know ive been on that naughty step...

now the question theres no such thing as being picky you like what you like and its that simple if other are calling you picky thats their problem not yours..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from men all the time cock pics the works..

I don't mind banter or a chat .. but ive been pestered I just ignore and block.. your always going to get people like that.. it doesn't matter what site your on it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another whining post

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Everyone thinks that their way of doing things is the right way and often that it’s the only way, then abuse others for not conforming to their idea of how the world works.

There’s no right way or only way to do things on here and acceptance and respect will get a person much further than it would without.

It’s clear that you’re frustrated OP but I think the only way forwards is to block, report and try not to let it bother you beyond the words of someone who doesn’t understand or want to.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol


" another whining post "

Another special one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating."

Lol thought you were drama free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds devastating.

Lol thought you were drama free "

I bring the drama for free

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