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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know it's likely had the life discussed out of it but body shaming

I myself would've once shared what at the time seemed to be a funny meme

But for a long while now I have reflected on a lot of things that gets shared on social media and since have stopped sharing said memes

I'm a fairly slender bloke

Apparently it's seen by a lot as not manly enough to be slender

I once had a guy sending me ( not on here ) photos of his biceps because they was much much bigger than mine, after her asked for a photo of my biceps, with the captions look at my big guns,

He then went on to send me photos of his legs with the captions look at the size of my legs, size of your waist, why this guy felt the need to send me them I have no idea

I have no real idea why I even sent him a photo of my biceps

I did initially feel a little down hearted

But then I remembered who the fuck i am

And sent him a photo of my cock

At this point it was game over for Mr Biceps

I'm not a duck head honest

My question is has any of you lot encountered situations like this and if so how did you react and what did you do ?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

The ones with the big arms and legs forget it makes other things look smaller... Plus all the steroids they take tends to shrink their manhood.

Your build, appearance, looks has nothing to do with how manly you are. It's more about how you conduct yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The ones with the big arms and legs forget it makes other things look smaller... Plus all the steroids they take tends to shrink their manhood.

Your build, appearance, looks has nothing to do with how manly you are. It's more about how you conduct yourself."

I'm a dad first and everything else second including being a man, I'm consistent in my kids lives and I work my arse off to provide them with some things I never had but I also try to teach them to appreciate the importance of having nothing

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Well that's plenty manly enough! And far more important than how much you can lift and how big your arms are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it's likely had the life discussed out of it but body shaming

I myself would've once shared what at the time seemed to be a funny meme

But for a long while now I have reflected on a lot of things that gets shared on social media and since have stopped sharing said memes

I'm a fairly slender bloke

Apparently it's seen by a lot as not manly enough to be slender

I once had a guy sending me ( not on here ) photos of his biceps because they was much much bigger than mine, after her asked for a photo of my biceps, with the captions look at my big guns,

He then went on to send me photos of his legs with the captions look at the size of my legs, size of your waist, why this guy felt the need to send me them I have no idea

I have no real idea why I even sent him a photo of my biceps

I did initially feel a little down hearted

But then I remembered who the fuck i am

And sent him a photo of my cock

At this point it was game over for Mr Biceps

I'm not a duck head honest

My question is has any of you lot encountered situations like this and if so how did you react and what did you do ? "

Sounds like the person you was talking to has his own insecurities to deal with. Take away his big arms and big legs and there’s just an insecure little man in there. I wouldn’t give him a second though though mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To paraphrase the mighty Mr. T

“I pity the fool who derives self-esteem

from mocking other people”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To paraphrase the mighty Mr. T

“I pity the fool who derives self-esteem

from mocking other people”"

Yes :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never played that game with other female fabbers

-look my nipples are bigger!

-ha! but my bum is firmer!

-fine! Shut your cunt. Look how beautiful is mine.

And so on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learning to be confortable in your own skin is bloody difficult.

Up until I was 40 I had a turbo fast metabolism. I was really skinny, 28 inch waist. I had strength and stamina but no muscle tone to speak of.

As I approach 50, I'm pushing a 32 waist, there's a chunk of fat around my middle which won't shift and because my knees have needed knackered cartilage removed, running isn't an option any more.

I'm not even blessed with a bigger than average cock.

However I've been lucky that the only comments on my physique is banter from work colleagues. The rest of the criticism is in my own head.

Reading women's wants on here is demoralising as no matter how they express their preference, you will rarely find someone who writes a description that matches how you see yourself.

As others have said, anyone who puts people down bases on their looks is dealing with their own insecurities.

I'm not prepared to spend hours in the gym to get buff when I know that at some point I'll have to stop and all that bulk would turn to fat.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Body shaming is unacceptable. Everyone has their preferences which seem to range from super skinny to very large so everyone here will find their fans. Just be more kind my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will always be a better body than “yours “. Competition never end. This is why cosmetic make billions.

But I did had some hurt butt moment when I chat with ladies, good fun convo then come to the show me your face. I am lucky to have a well proportioned body with no fat, same weight nearly since 19, but unfortunately I loss hair on top.

Then some just stop chatting, the “bald” moment! Even on here some put it on their preferences….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here. "

I am sorry but I had to check and must say who ever transform your cock into your kitty is a talented surgeon

Some are just nasty because they are fucked up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slender men with natural tone and a girthy cock are a weak spot for me, especially if they are on the short side

I'm not overly keen on tall men or overly muscly ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lovely message has given me the confidence to upload my dad bod pic! It's now my profile pic for a bit. I still blame covid and the fridge being well stocked up!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here. "

My word, this is sad and shocking in equal measures. Bullies, unkind people are usually unhappy and insecure people or they would not feel the need to belittle others.

Your pictures are beautiful. Walk tall! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slender men with natural tone and a girthy cock are a weak spot for me, especially if they are on the short side

I'm not overly keen on tall men or overly muscly ones "

6ft

6ft an 2/8 in the morning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble "

Sound like Simone song

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble

Sound like Simone song "

I have not the foggiest what that means lol ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here. "

That’s so unacceptable of people to even say these things to you. That’s so disrespectful as well and pretty much unkind.

Like I, as a trans girl, find comments like that to be totally disrespectful. For me, they eat away at me as I’ve already got my own self that picks apart pieces and over Analyse them… it could be my arms, my shoulders, my height, my feet, or my legs… my brow… like I take turns on what to pull apart and judge.

Having said that, I don’t also need the pressure of being also made to feel bad by other people… I have enough of my plate

It is bad especially when it is said and spoken … like Fuck off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble "

*HighFiveGIF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble

Sound like Simone song

I have not the foggiest what that means lol ?"

Nina Simone Ain’t go..

But what have I got?

Let me tell ya what I've got

That nobody's gonna take away

I got my hair on my head

I got my brains, I got my ears

I got my eyes, I got my nose

I dot my mouth, I got my smile

I got my tongue, I got my chin

I got my neck, I got my boobies

I got my heart, I got my soul

I got my back, I got my sex

I got my arms, I got my hands

I got my fingers, got my legs

I got my feet, I got my toes

I got my liver, got my blood

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here. "

Im so sorry you have had to put up with this crap. For the record you are very attractive and clearly cis female.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"A lovely message has given me the confidence to upload my dad bod pic! It's now my profile pic for a bit. I still blame covid and the fridge being well stocked up!"

So proud of you!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"There will always be a better body than “yours “. Competition never end. This is why cosmetic make billions.

But I did had some hurt butt moment when I chat with ladies, good fun convo then come to the show me your face. I am lucky to have a well proportioned body with no fat, same weight nearly since 19, but unfortunately I loss hair on top.

Then some just stop chatting, the “bald” moment! Even on here some put it on their preferences…. "

Bald can be very sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There will always be a better body than “yours “. Competition never end. This is why cosmetic make billions.

But I did had some hurt butt moment when I chat with ladies, good fun convo then come to the show me your face. I am lucky to have a well proportioned body with no fat, same weight nearly since 19, but unfortunately I loss hair on top.

Then some just stop chatting, the “bald” moment! Even on here some put it on their preferences….

Bald can be very sexy. "

I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There will always be a better body than “yours “. Competition never end. This is why cosmetic make billions.

But I did had some hurt butt moment when I chat with ladies, good fun convo then come to the show me your face. I am lucky to have a well proportioned body with no fat, same weight nearly since 19, but unfortunately I loss hair on top.

Then some just stop chatting, the “bald” moment! Even on here some put it on their preferences….

Bald can be very sexy. "

Agreed oh my, I’ve seen some right eye candies!

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Also a slim guy here; I've been privy to some negative conversations between women about my figure.

It doesn't really bother me. I'm not going to be everyone's type, and I know there are people out there that like what they see; that's good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble

Sound like Simone song

I have not the foggiest what that means lol ?

Nina Simone Ain’t go..

But what have I got?

Let me tell ya what I've got

That nobody's gonna take away

I got my hair on my head

I got my brains, I got my ears

I got my eyes, I got my nose

I dot my mouth, I got my smile

I got my tongue, I got my chin

I got my neck, I got my boobies

I got my heart, I got my soul

I got my back, I got my sex

I got my arms, I got my hands

I got my fingers, got my legs

I got my feet, I got my toes

I got my liver, got my blood"

Thats a great earworm!

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Alot of guys on here turn to body shaming when you reject their advances.

It's horrible, knocks you for a few minutes, then you get up and remember who's boss on here

I love my body but often want to change it due to what I presume others must think. It's unfortunately just the way of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty low to body shame someone just cause they aren’t interested in you…

People see attraction in all sorts and if we where all the same life would be rather dull.

Just my opinion obviously

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

It seems to me from my experience that a lot of people body shame others because of their own insecurities, a former friend was constantly taking the pis5 out of my big ass and boobs turned out she was seriously insecure about her own lack of both, I just feel bad for anyone who can't embrace themselves, it doesn't matter if you are fat, thin, tall, short, have a huge cock, have a tiny cock, it's all about how you present yourself, if you're content with yourself other people will find you attractive, there's a key for every lock.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I make no secret of the fact I'm a very fat bird. My weight is a physical fact, and I'm very comfortable discussing it in a way I wouldn't have been in my late 20s/early 30s.

I'm fine with messaging someone and being rejected because they don't find me physically desirable (I'm fine, honest... *sniff*), because we all have our preferences and I appreciate I am not to the taste of a lot of people.

My weight is not a moral issue. I am not somehow a lesser person for being fat. Anyone trying to pass some form of moral judgement on me for the shape of my body can fuck the fuck off.

Where the OP talks about sharing memes, fat people are the punchline to many, many jokes and 90% of the time I don't even notice as I've become inured to it. I accept that it's rarely personal so I choose not to take it personally. It's only body shaming to me if I'm ashamed.

There are some insecure people who have a knack for recognising other people's insecurities and playing on it, whether that's body shape, being bald, being short, wearing glasses, not being manly enough or feminine enough (wtf?), having a lot of verifications, having no verifications, whatever the hell they can find that needles.

They snipe, they get a reaction, they keep going.

Bullies are going to bully, report the ones that are abusive and block the ones who are just unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is ladies and gents

I'm in no way envious or jealous of a single soul on earth and do you know why that is ?

Because I'm me nobody else, my thoughts, my feelings , my mistakes my good times and my bad They all belong to me and nobody can take those away from me

The man

The myth

The legend

That's life and well

Then we did

Cookies do crumble

Sound like Simone song

I have not the foggiest what that means lol ?

Nina Simone Ain’t go..

But what have I got?

Let me tell ya what I've got

That nobody's gonna take away

I got my hair on my head

I got my brains, I got my ears

I got my eyes, I got my nose

I dot my mouth, I got my smile

I got my tongue, I got my chin

I got my neck, I got my boobies

I got my heart, I got my soul

I got my back, I got my sex

I got my arms, I got my hands

I got my fingers, got my legs

I got my feet, I got my toes

I got my liver, got my blood

Thats a great earworm! "

Just a great song… you see, simple not complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been body shamed luckily but imt aware of how slim I am and how that's perceived, especially combined with my height. I didn't feel manly enough because I thought women wanted to feel protected when with a man hence the reason they like tall, broad men.

So I started going to the gym to try and bulk up and appeal more to women but the better I feel by going to the gym, the more I'm doing it for myself. I know as soon as I have other priorities and the gym comes seconds, third, fourth, fifth, I'll continue to be slim and there's nothing I could do about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, I get messages all the time about how if I list some weight I'd be alright but a bit to fat for them at the minute, or size 14 isn't curvy it's fat.... I put some pics up of me and my fwb amd got so much abuse because he's a bigger guy, one man took particular offence and sent me a long message asking if I fucked fatties because I have low self essteam and it makes me feel better about myself? And it's discussing, did I know putting those pics on semt me from being a 7 to a 2.... Its laughable that so many people put so much importance on other people's body types... I don't get it

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

What is wrong with people????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy being the full package

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I make no secret of the fact I'm a very fat bird. My weight is a physical fact, and I'm very comfortable discussing it in a way I wouldn't have been in my late 20s/early 30s.

I'm fine with messaging someone and being rejected because they don't find me physically desirable (I'm fine, honest... *sniff*), because we all have our preferences and I appreciate I am not to the taste of a lot of people.

My weight is not a moral issue. I am not somehow a lesser person for being fat. Anyone trying to pass some form of moral judgement on me for the shape of my body can fuck the fuck off.

Where the OP talks about sharing memes, fat people are the punchline to many, many jokes and 90% of the time I don't even notice as I've become inured to it. I accept that it's rarely personal so I choose not to take it personally. It's only body shaming to me if I'm ashamed.

There are some insecure people who have a knack for recognising other people's insecurities and playing on it, whether that's body shape, being bald, being short, wearing glasses, not being manly enough or feminine enough (wtf?), having a lot of verifications, having no verifications, whatever the hell they can find that needles.

They snipe, they get a reaction, they keep going.

Bullies are going to bully, report the ones that are abusive and block the ones who are just unpleasant."

What she said! Because I am nowhere near that eloquent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it's likely had the life discussed out of it but body shaming

I myself would've once shared what at the time seemed to be a funny meme

But for a long while now I have reflected on a lot of things that gets shared on social media and since have stopped sharing said memes

I'm a fairly slender bloke

Apparently it's seen by a lot as not manly enough to be slender

I once had a guy sending me ( not on here ) photos of his biceps because they was much much bigger than mine, after her asked for a photo of my biceps, with the captions look at my big guns,

He then went on to send me photos of his legs with the captions look at the size of my legs, size of your waist, why this guy felt the need to send me them I have no idea

I have no real idea why I even sent him a photo of my biceps

I did initially feel a little down hearted

But then I remembered who the fuck i am

And sent him a photo of my cock

At this point it was game over for Mr Biceps

I'm not a duck head honest

My question is has any of you lot encountered situations like this and if so how did you react and what did you do ? "

Literaly couldn’t care less about any of the size issues you refer too. Bicep to legs to waist to cock… all juvenile insecurities to me

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I've been told numerous times what gender I was born ( I'm a biological female.)

Because I have broad shoulders and no proper boobs yet ( they may arrive eventually!) I've been told I look like a man or a male to female trans and clearly not a convincing one like most on here if they feel the need to bring it up. I even had a t**t tell me he can tell I used to be a man because I have big hands.

I've been told you can tell from my genitals that my "cock was cjanged to a pussy."

I've been asked if I'm a herm_phrodite.

So yes I've had the very worst of body shaming and I'm open enough to admit it's eaten away at any confidence I had and if I'm not called beautiful without prompting I feel like I'm seen as ugly.

I've spoken about nasty comments a lot then a lot on fab have a go at me for being " too miserable."

Luckily I haven't received any of these comments for a while but the damage is done and it makes you despair at society sometimes. Luckily I've received support too but it's nasty.

I feel for anyone who is made to feel worthless or undesirable, but you have to remember you're a much better human being than them. I try to remember now that bullies and trolls who are unkind aren't worth thinking about, but it's tough if you're not super popular on here. "

That's horrible

No idea why others have to put people down to feel good

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I make no secret of the fact I'm a very fat bird. My weight is a physical fact, and I'm very comfortable discussing it in a way I wouldn't have been in my late 20s/early 30s.

I'm fine with messaging someone and being rejected because they don't find me physically desirable (I'm fine, honest... *sniff*), because we all have our preferences and I appreciate I am not to the taste of a lot of people.

My weight is not a moral issue. I am not somehow a lesser person for being fat. Anyone trying to pass some form of moral judgement on me for the shape of my body can fuck the fuck off.

Where the OP talks about sharing memes, fat people are the punchline to many, many jokes and 90% of the time I don't even notice as I've become inured to it. I accept that it's rarely personal so I choose not to take it personally. It's only body shaming to me if I'm ashamed.

There are some insecure people who have a knack for recognising other people's insecurities and playing on it, whether that's body shape, being bald, being short, wearing glasses, not being manly enough or feminine enough (wtf?), having a lot of verifications, having no verifications, whatever the hell they can find that needles.

They snipe, they get a reaction, they keep going.

Bullies are going to bully, report the ones that are abusive and block the ones who are just unpleasant.

What she said! Because I am nowhere near that eloquent! "

Flattery will get you everywhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I make no secret of the fact I'm a very fat bird. My weight is a physical fact, and I'm very comfortable discussing it in a way I wouldn't have been in my late 20s/early 30s.

I'm fine with messaging someone and being rejected because they don't find me physically desirable (I'm fine, honest... *sniff*), because we all have our preferences and I appreciate I am not to the taste of a lot of people.

My weight is not a moral issue. I am not somehow a lesser person for being fat. Anyone trying to pass some form of moral judgement on me for the shape of my body can fuck the fuck off.

Where the OP talks about sharing memes, fat people are the punchline to many, many jokes and 90% of the time I don't even notice as I've become inured to it. I accept that it's rarely personal so I choose not to take it personally. It's only body shaming to me if I'm ashamed.

There are some insecure people who have a knack for recognising other people's insecurities and playing on it, whether that's body shape, being bald, being short, wearing glasses, not being manly enough or feminine enough (wtf?), having a lot of verifications, having no verifications, whatever the hell they can find that needles.

They snipe, they get a reaction, they keep going.

Bullies are going to bully, report the ones that are abusive and block the ones who are just unpleasant."

This! I back all that u said!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is wrong with people???? "

A mixture of jealousy envy and intimidation

Most folks don't like comfidence, they like uneven less with cockiness

But above all else most blokes are intimidated by women

Not this cream Cracker

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