FabSwingers.com forum: Out Of Curiosity

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I decided to bulk delete my messages at 4 to day and 3 and a half hours later I have 121 messages. 2 of these were from females. 7 from couples. The rest were from guys.

When scrolling through the massages most didn't have a profile pictures. The one or 2 I clicked had next to no bio. The ones with pictures were mostly dick pics and again mostly nothing in the profiles.

So considering how many messages I get how to guys who make practically no effort expect to get a reply?

Am I the only one who doesn't even bother looking at a message when there's no profile picture attached?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I decided to bulk delete my messages at 4 to day and 3 and a half hours later I have 121 messages. 2 of these were from females. 7 from couples. The rest were from guys.

So considering how many messages I get how to guys who make practically no effort expect to get a reply?

Am I the only one who doesn't even bother looking at a message when there's no profile picture attached?"

Yep, same here. I bulk delete messages, winks and friends requests regularly.

Lots are from silhouette heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t look if they is a pic attached to it 90% off the time it’s a dick pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We learn from women.

A lot of women have short, two paragraph profiles and either rely on profile pics, often of tits and fanny to draw men in or just rely on being female and put even less effort in.

I don't know how much luck guys with empty profiles have, but if you give nothing away, you can then message women and quickly make yourself what they want by tailoring your conversation to suit what they say in reply.

Idiots like me have a long profile. Those women who bother to read it will pick whichever element of it they don't like as a reason to not look further. I do wonder if a short profile and cock pics would open up opportunities. It's working for some guys.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fancy a shag OP?

You gotta come to me tho.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Op, in all fairness you didn't state in your profile that you would like a face pic on your 1st message.

I don't always send one.... If they ask I do. Nobby stays with his master Harry Porker! (LOL)

It's an observation by the way not a criticism!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

One sentence messages or obscene messages just get deleted. Thoughtful messages will get a response even if it's no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op, in all fairness you didn't state in your profile that you would like a face pic on your 1st message.

I don't always send one.... If they ask I do. Nobby stays with his master Harry Porker! (LOL)

It's an observation by the way not a criticism!

I didn't ask for a pic on first message. My point is if there is no pics on profile them why would a guy assume that I would even reply.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm not arsed about photos, but if the message is "hey" then his profile text needs to be incredibly funny and detailed for me to have anything to talk about.

99.9% of the time the text is "fill in later" and I end up deleting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fancy a shag OP?

You gotta come to me tho.

Deal.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't think I could cope if I got that many messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get any so no need to delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's exactly the same as I always got OP. That's why I've hidden my profile,got fed up of it.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always look at the profile, then decide if to reply/delete

We don't ask for a face pic first message, but we delete if we get a message from another couple and there are no pics of the male, or just his dick. Or if it's just close up pics of both their bits.

Miss

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"A lot of women have short, two paragraph profiles and either rely on profile pics, often of tits and fanny to draw men in or just rely on being female and put even less effort in."

You're sure they are women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of women have short, two paragraph profiles and either rely on profile pics, often of tits and fanny to draw men in or just rely on being female and put even less effort in.

You're sure they are women?"
Well they are verified as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't be arsed, I can't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've rewritten my profile and threw in a cock pic. I'll see if it makes any difference.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Perhaps you should Op? Knock your list down further. But that is your profile & your choice alone.

I'm sorry I can't speak for my fellow hairy ape knuckle draggers - I can't tell you why to that question.....

Perhaps add no profile pics, no profile blurb = no reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've rewritten my profile and threw in a cock pic. I'll see if it makes any difference."

Fingers crossed eh

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By *irtyd468Man
over a year ago

North

Setting filters might help with the amount of messages you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We learn from women.

A lot of women have short, two paragraph profiles and either rely on profile pics, often of tits and fanny to draw men in or just rely on being female and put even less effort in.

You're not the only one who's noticed this.

"I don't know how much luck guys with empty profiles have, but if you give nothing away, you can then message women and quickly make yourself what they want by tailoring your conversation to suit what they say in reply.

Very fair and valid points

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not arsed about photos, but if the message is "hey" then his profile text needs to be incredibly funny and detailed for me to have anything to talk about.

99.9% of the time the text is "fill in later" and I end up deleting."

I know this feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem... no seriously... erm no...maybe not

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We have set our filters so that people with no pictures can’t message us. Perhaps you should add this to help find what you are looking for.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't you know? All women just need to lower their standards and be grateful they're getting the attention on here that they wouldn't get in real life

(I'm joking by the way, please don't throttle me. I have a fragile disposition

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have set our filters so that people with no pictures can’t message us. Perhaps you should add this to help find what you are looking for.

Lily "

Thanks you for the tip. I'll do that now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok my profile has head shots and full bodie shots naked but no cock on show.

I did put time in to messages (read the persons profile and add parts of that into the message so they know I read it) but no luck. So i state message me saves on the bs dick pic message that you get all the time.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I even state on my profile no pictures will be an instant delete and they still msg

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Didn't you know? All women just need to lower their standards and be grateful they're getting the attention on here that they wouldn't get in real life

(I'm joking by the way, please don't throttle me. I have a fragile disposition

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have set our filters so that people with no pictures can’t message us. Perhaps you should add this to help find what you are looking for.

Lily "

I have done now. Thanks

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

And this is why I don’t message first. If someone likes the look of me, they can wink or drop me a message. If not, not.

Fab is (I think) supposed to be fun and not stressful or full of angst. So yeah, I don’t meet every day/week/month/year. S’okay. Fab is a part of my life not the whole of it, why would I waste time when the numbers are against me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And this is why I don’t message first. If someone likes the look of me, they can wink or drop me a message. If not, not.

Probably a good way to be

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By *eanyabzMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Your very hot, guys should try harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your very hot, guys should try harder "

Says the man with a one line profile

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By *ittle-unicornWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I tend to delete the ones that just say ‘hi’, or ‘how are you’ and nothing else… Also the ones that are from blank, unverified profiles.

I know some guys get really upset about it (had plenty of abusive messages to prove it) but if I replied to every single message it would be a full time job.

I’ve also noticed that if I do send a polite thanks but no thanks, guys tend to persist anyway, and then get annoyed when you ignore/delete

Life is too short, I’m just here to have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your very hot, guys should try harder

Says the man with a one line profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We learn from women.

A lot of women have short, two paragraph profiles and either rely on profile pics, often of tits and fanny to draw men in or just rely on being female and put even less effort in.

I've had some guys say to me, I usually do a form message but your profile seemed to have put effort in, so I went for a more personal touch.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Its a great way to filter 95% of people out easily. Don't knock it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I decided to bulk delete my messages at 4 to day and 3 and a half hours later I have 121 messages. 2 of these were from females. 7 from couples. The rest were from guys.

So considering how many messages I get how to guys who make practically no effort expect to get a reply?

Am I the only one who doesn't even bother looking at a message when there's no profile picture attached?"

You could have passed them to those who need a message , recycling and all that

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ll delete if one liner or no profile pic. Also if they address C as she’s a single.

We’ll reply to most others unless it’s just dick pics or they smoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they can't be arsed, I can't be arsed"

If you can't be arsed, I'm going home, no point staying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well from a gents point of view we look at the pics and think wow must speak to this gergeous beautiful girl before she is snapped up.. Without actually reading the bio..and take the time to know what she is really after.. basically we think with are dicks too quickly...

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Same. My interest in those types is about as high as the amount of effort they out into their profiles/messages.

I too look at the profile first - if unappealing then I won't bother reading the message. If the message is any of the usual turns offs - lazy one liners/free now, vulgar etc then they too will get deleted.

Buy they are exactly the ones you see bitching on here and local updates, about women being fake/stuck up. They just don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the least you can ask for is a picture on a profile.

There has to be an attraction to start a conversation and see where things go, it’s only polite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Same. My interest in those types is about as high as the amount of effort they out into their profiles/messages.

Buy they are exactly the ones you see bitching on here and local updates, about women being fake/stuck up. They just don't get it "

Same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well from a gents point of view we look at the pics and think wow must speak to this gergeous beautiful girl before she is snapped up.. Without actually reading the bio..and take the time to know what she is really after.. basically we think with are dicks too quickly..."

This made me giggle harder than I should have.

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