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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No not what you're thinking!!

When you see a message of yours to someone has been read how long should you wait until you follow up (you can see its not deleted)

Should you?

Don't want to come across as desperate

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

At least four moons, one of them in Taurus, then I’d consult the bones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t. I’d presume they were not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

messaging back will come across as desperate, I’d take the hint and leave them alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least four moons, one of them in Taurus, then I’d consult the bones!

"

I giggled a bit too much at that, my kind of humour

OP my advice is not to send chasing messages.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One message no reply just dont follow up.

It's kinda the thing to do on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I wouldn’t. I’d presume they were not interested"

Or too busy at the moment. But if they’re keen and open to take it further then they’ll have replied within a week or two. After that forget and move on.

This place is a bit like the bar at Yo Sushi. You have to grab you chance - but if it passes by then wait and something similar will be along soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait until they reply to your first one.

Here's what site FAQ's say about a non-response :

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well op

I was chatting recently, exchanged numbers had a chat on the phone, talked about respect and trust etc etc

I had a read message and I'm my opinion no reply after 2 days was a scalable offense

I can't gain trust in someone who is ignorant

No longer interested just say

Anyone can bite the dust

Millions more women out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well op

I was chatting recently, exchanged numbers had a chat on the phone, talked about respect and trust etc etc

I had a read message and I'm my opinion no reply after 2 days was a scalable offense

I can't gain trust in someone who is ignorant

No longer interested just say

Anyone can bite the dust

Millions more women out there "

Sackable*

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


" I wouldn’t. I’d presume they were not interested

Or too busy at the moment. But if they’re keen and open to take it further then they’ll have replied within a week or two. After that forget and move on.

This place is a bit like the bar at Yo Sushi. You have to grab you chance - but if it passes by then wait and something similar will be along soon enough. "

Obviously not been to Yo Sushi for a while - you now order what you want and the belt delivers it right to your spot....doesn't sound like Fab at all any more

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No reply usually equals not interested.

Just move onto the next lady!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I wouldn’t. I’d presume they were not interested"

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

No reply within a 24 hour period max = not interested.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

No point with a follow up message, first one not read or answered then take it a good solid not interested....they are not busy or distracted, they just ain’t interested.

J

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

If it’s for a couple and it’s read, wait for few days and delete the convo afterwards as I take it not interested or indecisive. If it’s a single profile and read, again delete the convo next day. Never do follow ups as I always add something for people to reply to so no response, no follow up for me

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I'd personally leave it and just make a private note on their profile.

If you do feel you have to send another message, wait a few weeks.

Miss

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We can sometimes read a message and then mark it as unread until the other one of us gets a chance to read it.

So it can be a couple of days before we respond. Draw you’re own conclusions after that.

- John

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does it change people's perceptions if I add that I had been chatting with this person quite a bit during the day and then noticed the read message and no reply???

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Does it change people's perceptions if I add that I had been chatting with this person quite a bit during the day and then noticed the read message and no reply??? "

I sometimes do this I read a message and then log off and sometimes I forget to reply, as I'm just on the forums. I guess it depends on how long it's been.

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By *tticus Finch 76Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I have no issue if someone doesn't reply mid chat....maybe I bored them to sleep, maybe real life got in the way, who knows. I would probably send them a message the next time I logged on but if no reply then I would leave it.

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