FabSwingers.com forum: Pickle - message or not message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay I’m a bit in a pickle here and would like to know your opinion..

Basically I met this guy a few times and I really enjoy the time we spend together, just to clarify it’s mainly good sex and that’s absolutely fine (I ain’t looking for anything more than sex)…

now,now… our schedules haven’t been aligning lately and all, so we haven’t been able to meet but I’m really dying to have some good sex again with him. He’s got such big dick energy (btw I’m not sex starved as I’ve got options lol) that just melts me and brings the sexual bitch that is in me out.

Im pretty positive to say he enjoys sex with me btw, like. I leave my guys well satisfied lolol

Wanted to point out neither of us initiated message for weeks btw .

Should I circle and send a little message? Should I refrain from messaging and wait until he messages first? Am I over thinking this????!!!???

Why is it so hard to be a COOL girl lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be cool, just message and hopefully get lots of lovely sex. He can’t read your mind, but he can read a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would message. What have you got to lose? At worst he'll ignore you or say no, or you'll have a great time.

Mandy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just message him, most guys like a confident woman who knows what she wants

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By *irthlingMan
over a year ago

stroud

You’re overthinking it - message the guy and get your kicks!

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Message him, what do you have to lose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message him! Get the dick girl!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Just message him.

Life is too short!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah just message him!

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By *inge1969Man
over a year ago

leeds

Go for it there’s only one way to find out

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

He might be thinking exactly the same as you.

Imagine your original post as if it had been written by the guy?

It doesn’t matter who makes the first move, as long as you both have a good time. Personally I like it when a woman approaches me.

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

"Don’t be cool, just message and hopefully get lots of lovely sex. He can’t read your mind, but he can read a message

Pretty much this OP - what if he’s having the same thought process then you eventually just drop off & lose contact.

You’ll probably contact him & the conversation will pick up were you last left it! Stop being a Willy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your over thinking it, you enjoy each other’s company and you enjoy the sex so why not enjoy more and just message him.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Go get him girl!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea how dynamics loke this work but.. yes, i think you’re over thinking it.

Ask and you shall receive (or not)

Nothing ventured nothing gained.etc.

Unless both of you are telepathic then someone has to make the first more

Good luck and hope you have a happy ending

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Gurl

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By *atch0101Man
over a year ago

Here

No harm in just saying a hello.

It might even make his day. A little smile moment in a hectic day

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Wait if he doesn't message

You don't message

Meet some one else we dont

Do pining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez just message the guy

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Jeez just message the guy

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Message him!!!...if you don't I will

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If I have a connection with a guy il text him

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Don’t ask - don’t get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I’m a bit in a pickle here and would like to know your opinion..

Im pretty positive to say he enjoys sex with me btw, like. I leave my guys well satisfied lolol

Wanted to point out neither of us initiated message for weeks btw .

Should I circle and send a little message? Should I refrain from messaging and wait until he messages first? Am I over thinking this????!!!???

Why is it so hard to be a COOL girl lol ??

You could get a friend to tell him my mate likes you ?? Stop bein daft an tell him u liked him hes probably playin it cool too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know …. I feel like I’m being a weirdo and like not playing it cool!!!

In my defender… I guess I’m more used to guys messaging me than the other way round so…(I’m not being precious btw)

I should just message and demand that big dick energy again

FFS u guys!!!!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Okay I’m a bit in a pickle here and would like to know your opinion..

Im pretty positive to say he enjoys sex with me btw, like. I leave my guys well satisfied lolol

Wanted to point out neither of us initiated message for weeks btw .

Should I circle and send a little message? Should I refrain from messaging and wait until he messages first? Am I over thinking this????!!!???

Why is it so hard to be a COOL girl lol ??

You could get a friend to tell him my mate likes you ?? Stop bein daft an tell him u liked him hes probably playin it cool too"

My mate fancys you how old are we

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Overthinking it.

Message the geezer he’ll be over the moon and you’ll get what you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know …. I feel like I’m being a weirdo and like not playing it cool!!!

In my defender… I guess I’m more used to guys messaging me than the other way round so…(I’m not being precious btw)

I should just message and demand that big dick energy again

FFS u guys!!!!

*defence

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Definitely message x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I know …. I feel like I’m being a weirdo and like not playing it cool!!!

In my defender… I guess I’m more used to guys messaging me than the other way round so…(I’m not being precious btw)

I should just message and demand that big dick energy again

FFS u guys!!!!

What's his number ya tart il phone him for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice to anyone on a fuck site .. if you want to fuck someone tell them. It’s why the site is here.

And on that basis .. my inbox is currently in the “receive” position

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Message him! Get the dick girl! "

I’m loving this energy tho!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I’m a bit in a pickle here and would like to know your opinion..

Im pretty positive to say he enjoys sex with me btw, like. I leave my guys well satisfied lolol

Wanted to point out neither of us initiated message for weeks btw .

Should I circle and send a little message? Should I refrain from messaging and wait until he messages first? Am I over thinking this????!!!???

Why is it so hard to be a COOL girl lol ??

You could get a friend to tell him my mate likes you ?? Stop bein daft an tell him u liked him hes probably playin it cool too

My mate fancys you how old are we

Exactly !

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Message....fuck ...or don't fuck ...but communication is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's probably up to eyes with work and family/sport/social activities. With life slowly getting back to normal, we're all becoming much more busy.

Message him and you'll soon know how things are. If he's married and has kids, sometimes the guilt sends them dark at times.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

You have played it cool and thats not working so yes go ahead and message. You might just have fallen off his radar. It happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He's probably up to eyes with work and family/sport/social activities. With life slowly getting back to normal, we're all becoming much more busy.

Message him and you'll soon know how things are. If he's married and has kids, sometimes the guilt sends them dark at times."

No he’s not a married guy with kids but let’s just say he’s the kind of guy who probably has women throw knickers at him…… but he is also quite a busy person with work and all x

I just hate coming across like that kinda girl in general (I mean don’t know the kinda girl I mean but u know …)

Anyway, I’m pretty convinced guys , there’s no harm …

Dying for that fucking D

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Report back with an update

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Report back with an update

Haha omg u guys!! It will be so embarrassing if I’m left on seen….

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Cool girls get their needs met, message him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is fab.

Message him.

And even if it wasn't and you were doing the whole should I or shouldn't I say in dating. I would. Be you girl!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report back with an update

Haha omg u guys!! It will be so embarrassing if I’m left on seen….

As if

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is fab.

Message him.

And even if it wasn't and you were doing the whole should I or shouldn't I say in dating. I would. Be you girl!x"

Haha well this turned out to be quite positive as I believe u were all gonna say. Refrain from fucking messaging u (greedy) cow lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fab.

Message him.

And even if it wasn't and you were doing the whole should I or shouldn't I say in dating. I would. Be you girl!x

Haha well this turned out to be quite positive as I believe u were all gonna say. Refrain from fucking messaging u (greedy) cow lol"

You gotta eat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is fab.

Message him.

And even if it wasn't and you were doing the whole should I or shouldn't I say in dating. I would. Be you girl!x

Haha well this turned out to be quite positive as I believe u were all gonna say. Refrain from fucking messaging u (greedy) cow lol

You gotta eat

Yes she does! And I’m in the mood for THAT particular dick. What can I say

Jesus help me!!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My regular partner is extremely busy and sometimes doesn't contact me for a while, so, I message him to remind him of what he could be having, if he saw me.

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