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Aphantasia - Cant fantasise

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else have an inability to picture in their heads?

Its something ive just accepted as my normal all my life but i now realise its impacted my sexlife, as i cant fantasise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you able to relate when someone tells you their fantasy?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does anyone else have an inability to picture in their heads?

Its something ive just accepted as my normal all my life but i now realise its impacted my sexlife, as i cant fantasise!! "

Can you tell yourself a story in your head?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you able to relate when someone tells you their fantasy?"

occasionaly, if there is more than simple visual description. id need a lot of detail, including other sensory descriptors!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have an inability to picture in their heads?

Its something ive just accepted as my normal all my life but i now realise its impacted my sexlife, as i cant fantasise!!

Can you tell yourself a story in your head? "

There are only words in there lol!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does anyone else have an inability to picture in their heads?

Its something ive just accepted as my normal all my life but i now realise its impacted my sexlife, as i cant fantasise!!

Can you tell yourself a story in your head?

There are only words in there lol!!"

I don't actually see pictures but I can describe a scene to myself. I find it fascinating the difference in how people's minds work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have an inability to picture in their heads?

Its something ive just accepted as my normal all my life but i now realise its impacted my sexlife, as i cant fantasise!!

Can you tell yourself a story in your head?

There are only words in there lol!!

I don't actually see pictures but I can describe a scene to myself. I find it fascinating the difference in how people's minds work."

Me too. and what we think is such a normal way of thinking is surprising to others!

ways ive found it affecting me here, is say admiring a sexy body .. nice, but no afterimage lingers, i couldnt fantasise about it. whereas if im sexting with someone building a scene and a mood in words thats fantastic!

so i need very articulate men to turn me on, no matter how hot and sound they are!

On the other hand, men im with can rest assured im not imagining they are someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex is exactly the same, but I don't think it's impeded his sex life any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried the story and fantasy section?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a shame if you cannot leave reality behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The minds eye is another way of saying it. I understand it's quite common but I've never associated it with sex before now. I know It can make physical problem solving quite difficult but the sex side must be a pain in the arse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats a shame if you cannot leave reality behind "

I can do escapism very well in company!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you tried the story and fantasy section? "

I do intend to. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you tried the story and fantasy section?

I do intend to. Xx"

Some of them create the details that I think you are looking for.. Then you might be able to use this to help in future to create your scenario

I have to admit, i need to be in the mood, otherwise you could be taking to a brick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The minds eye is another way of saying it. I understand it's quite common but I've never associated it with sex before now. I know It can make physical problem solving quite difficult but the sex side must be a pain in the arse."

I think it's a bonus! My ex was so good at reading a partner because he had no preconceptions about what was going to happen in advance due to over fantasising. He was so very much in the moment and had highly attuned senses. He was the most generous, sensual and satisfying lover I've ever had......*goes looking for vibrator...*

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm like that. "Picture this" hmmm ok. Nope. I can, like you, use the words or describe the sensations but there's no actual visual.

Something I do get though is at times I can smell a picture I'm looking at.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The minds eye is another way of saying it. I understand it's quite common but I've never associated it with sex before now. I know It can make physical problem solving quite difficult but the sex side must be a pain in the arse."

The biggest hurdle I've found is meditation. So much sodding visualisation that I simply cannot do. I really think that it would make a huge difference to my life if I could visualise for my mental wellbeing and general feelings of calm and fulfillment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The minds eye is another way of saying it. I understand it's quite common but I've never associated it with sex before now. I know It can make physical problem solving quite difficult but the sex side must be a pain in the arse.

The biggest hurdle I've found is meditation. So much sodding visualisation that I simply cannot do. I really think that it would make a huge difference to my life if I could visualise for my mental wellbeing and general feelings of calm and fulfillment. "

I have great visualisation skills and even I gave up on that type of meditation. Body scan and breath focussed meditations are much more accessible and fulfilling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The minds eye is another way of saying it. I understand it's quite common but I've never associated it with sex before now. I know It can make physical problem solving quite difficult but the sex side must be a pain in the arse.

The biggest hurdle I've found is meditation. So much sodding visualisation that I simply cannot do. I really think that it would make a huge difference to my life if I could visualise for my mental wellbeing and general feelings of calm and fulfillment. "

Oh meditation made me sooo confused, picture this picture that, its a total no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats a shame if you cannot leave reality behind

I can do escapism very well in company!! "
il bring the lock picks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully not! I can visualise whatever I think about pretty easily.

I find this kind of thing fascinating. I remember when I learnt that some people only think simple words and not sentences. I think it’s called aphantasia when you can't visualise?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I think it's a bonus! My ex was so good at reading a partner because he had no preconceptions about what was going to happen in advance due to over fantasising. He was so very much in the moment and had highly attuned senses. He was the most generous, sensual and satisfying lover I've ever had......*goes looking for vibrator...*"

I have been told im very involved and in the moment alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just realised the title of the thread. *facepalm*

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

This is very interesting.

OP; Can you visualise at all if someone were to describe (or possibly if you vocally prerecorded and played back) a given scene to you? A bit like the Wiccan practice of ‘Pathworking’ in effect….but with a sexual context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry just realised the title of the thread. *facepalm* "

I didn’t see that coming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry just realised the title of the thread. *facepalm*

I didn’t see that coming. "

I'm cringing! I did wonder why I remembered the name of the condition so easily! It was right in front of my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry just realised the title of the thread. *facepalm*

I didn’t see that coming.

I'm cringing! I did wonder why I remembered the name of the condition so easily! It was right in front of my eyes. "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I suffer from this and always have done. I've been asked to describe my greatest fantasy and people think it's a cop out when I say I've never had one.

I also suffer from a form of Anhedonia.

I never get excited in anticipation of anything and while I can experience pleasure it doesn't have any lasting effect. I'm very much in the moment and focused when with someone but it's like having the slate wiped immediately after.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is very interesting.

OP; Can you visualise at all if someone were to describe (or possibly if you vocally prerecorded and played back) a given scene to you? A bit like the Wiccan practice of ‘Pathworking’ in effect….but with a sexual context.

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I have to concentrate very hard for very little. But a friend of mine with experience in what you suggest did say its possible to improve the ability with such practises.

but im 46, ive lived with it ok this long! Its interesting to discuss it

thanks for the contributions all xx

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suffer from this and always have done. I've been asked to describe my greatest fantasy and people think it's a cop out when I say I've never had one.

I also suffer from a form of Anhedonia.

I never get excited in anticipation of anything and while I can experience pleasure it doesn't have any lasting effect. I'm very much in the moment and focused when with someone but it's like having the slate wiped immediately after.

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Oh now thats interesting, i never realised it impacts on anticipation but that makes so much sense now you mention it. I would tend to be overly anxious rather than excited about new things...that was a fun-spoiler

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

There are a lot of myths in pop phycology about creativity and one is that you have a very clear picture of what want to bring into being. It does happen with some people but some of the most creative people don’t work like this at all , they start with a very vague abstract idea or concept and then immediately start creating , refining, iterating, changing. This is how I write poetry and how many composers work so I’d suggest it’s just your creative style to create as you work rather than upfront. It works for sexual fantasies in the same way , it’s just a different approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are a lot of myths in pop phycology about creativity and one is that you have a very clear picture of what want to bring into being. It does happen with some people but some of the most creative people don’t work like this at all , they start with a very vague abstract idea or concept and then immediately start creating , refining, iterating, changing. This is how I write poetry and how many composers work so I’d suggest it’s just your creative style to create as you work rather than upfront. It works for sexual fantasies in the same way , it’s just a different approach "

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By *anAndLolaCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There are degrees of Aphantasia and I think Exeter University did a study a while back. Until I read an article about it I didn't realise it applied to me. I'm on the extreme end of this in that I have the complete inability to visualise anything.

I always thought that "counting sheep" to try and go to sleep was just something people said and I didn't realise that most people can actually visualise the sheep!

For me when I close my eyes that's it, no images whatsoever.

Perhaps, just thinking about it, it's why roleplay in any form does nothing for me as I can't visualise what I'm suppoed to be playing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are degrees of Aphantasia and I think Exeter University did a study a while back. Until I read an article about it I didn't realise it applied to me. I'm on the extreme end of this in that I have the complete inability to visualise anything.

I always thought that "counting sheep" to try and go to sleep was just something people said and I didn't realise that most people can actually visualise the sheep!

For me when I close my eyes that's it, no images whatsoever.

Perhaps, just thinking about it, it's why roleplay in any form does nothing for me as I can't visualise what I'm suppoed to be playing?"

Totally the same about the counting sheep lol!!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't see sheep either but have no problem visualising DIY or work projects and can come up with very unique solutions to both. I don't dream either and can't remember the last time I did

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By *anAndLolaCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't see sheep either but have no problem visualising DIY or work projects and can come up with very unique solutions to both. I don't dream either and can't remember the last time I did "

I know that I very occasionally dream as I sometimes have a very fleeting memory once I wake.

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