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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Afternoon fabbers and fabbettes...

Just a question not a comment

Should your profile be visible whilst on the forums?

If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?

Again just a question and not a comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. We knew that would be my response lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not at all

Some people may have found the one stoped swingeing but here for the forums so to cut down on messages hide profile

Or they could be take a brake from normal fab but want to talk to friends and such on the forums

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However an option to unhind momentarily within that group and not across the platform

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Afternoon fabbers and fabbettes...

Just a question not a comment

Should your profile be visible whilst on the forums?

If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?

Again just a question and not a comment x"

Why do you think that?

What does impact does having a hidden profile have on their forum posts other than people can't be nosey or attempt to use the information on their profile in response to their comments?

I think it doesn't make a jot of difference unless they ask for profile advice. Then it's kind of key to have your profile visible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Just because someone is posting on the forum it doesn’t invite people to look at them or message them.

I don’t see the link personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them"

See I'm opposite...if someone says something that knocks my socks off in a good way I want to see who that person is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. Just because someone is posting on the forum it doesn’t invite people to look at them or message them.

I don’t see the link personally "

But you can message them anyway even with hidden profile.....I think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?"

What the other 100 people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Afternoon fabbers and fabbettes...

Just a question not a comment

Should your profile be visible whilst on the forums?

If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?

Again just a question and not a comment x

Why do you think that?

What does impact does having a hidden profile have on their forum posts other than people can't be nosey or attempt to use the information on their profile in response to their comments?

I think it doesn't make a jot of difference unless they ask for profile advice. Then it's kind of key to have your profile visible "

Say someone posts a comment that tickles you,makes you laugh...are you then not curious to see whose behind that comment? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Just because someone is posting on the forum it doesn’t invite people to look at them or message them.

I don’t see the link personally

But you can message them anyway even with hidden profile.....I think?"

Yes you can, and you can message respond privaltely...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them

See I'm opposite...if someone says something that knocks my socks off in a good way I want to see who that person is "

But they don't want you or anybody else to see them at that moment in time. Which is their prerogative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people"

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

No.

Oh and it's morning not afternoon x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No I don't think it should .People hide their profiles for lots of different reasons and I don't see why a hidden profile should not be allowed to post in the forum's.

You don't need to see a profile in order to respond to a comment they make people look at profiles for a nosey about the person. And you can always make a note on a hidden profile anyhow if it's a concern. But I really don't see why a hidden profile is that big a deal on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them

See I'm opposite...if someone says something that knocks my socks off in a good way I want to see who that person is

But they don't want you or anybody else to see them at that moment in time. Which is their prerogative. "

I'm not saying it's bad or wrong, I'm say is it not human nature to look at someone if they say something that catches your eye?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them

See I'm opposite...if someone says something that knocks my socks off in a good way I want to see who that person is

But they don't want you or anybody else to see them at that moment in time. Which is their prerogative.

I'm not saying it's bad or wrong, I'm say is it not human nature to look at someone if they say something that catches your eye?"

I see. Yes it ism

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.

Oh and it's morning not afternoon x"

Sometimes it takes time for one of my threads to get going. ..nearly went with happy Wednesday

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No, I often hide my single profile if I want to come into forum, so I can in peace, no messages etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say no, it's up to each individual what they do with their profile.

What if you have someone blocked? Should they see your profile just because you have both posted on the same thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10 "

But we aren't just talking your threads are we

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

No people can do with their profile what they wish same way you can choose not to interact with them if you don’t want to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

But we aren't just talking your threads are we "

No,that was obviously a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

But we aren't just talking your threads are we

No,that was obviously a joke"

I got it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No people can do with their profile what they wish same way you can choose not to interact with them if you don’t want to "

That's not what I'm talking about, it was a question....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Afternoon fabbers and fabbettes...

Just a question not a comment

Should your profile be visible whilst on the forums?

If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?

Again just a question and not a comment x

Why do you think that?

What does impact does having a hidden profile have on their forum posts other than people can't be nosey or attempt to use the information on their profile in response to their comments?

I think it doesn't make a jot of difference unless they ask for profile advice. Then it's kind of key to have your profile visible

Say someone posts a comment that tickles you,makes you laugh...are you then not curious to see whose behind that comment? X"

Not generally, no.

I might check someone out if their avater intrigues me or if their location is nearby maybe. But I don't think everyone should be visible by default if they post on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a forumite wants to be hidden then it should in theory make zero difference to the depth and quality of their post much the same as being blocked by people in my humble opinion.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

But we aren't just talking your threads are we "

But have you never seen a post that resonates with just you and your curious to see whose behind the comment?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

What does their profile tell you? They could post a great comment then just have 'fill in later' and friends only pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I rarely look at the profiles of forum posters unless they ask for comments on them

See I'm opposite...if someone says something that knocks my socks off in a good way I want to see who that person is

But they don't want you or anybody else to see them at that moment in time. Which is their prerogative.

I'm not saying it's bad or wrong, I'm say is it not human nature to look at someone if they say something that catches your eye?"

Definately, and I do it, if the profile his hidden no biggy...i have messaged people to tell them i think they're funny and what not

But the forums feel different to me, they seem more authentic and real. Not saying profiles aren't, but profile pics and text can create an image, that image is molded by the looker and reader. Inferences,tones conatastions are subconsioulsy heard.

The forums I find are more organic and fluid

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I sometimes look at profiles off the back of forum posts for exactly the reasons you suggest OP - however if they are hidden it's not a problem, I just accept that for whatever reason they've chosen to hide their profile and click the back button without a second thought.

I absolutely don't think they should have to be unbidden to be on the forums, their profile their choice how they use it - doesn't impact anyone if they're hidden, so not sure why you would want it otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

But we aren't just talking your threads are we

No,that was obviously a joke"

I know, my lack of emojis has people wondering lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does their profile tell you? They could post a great comment then just have 'fill in later' and friends only pics. "

Exactly that....but what if they didn't have that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sometimes look at profiles off the back of forum posts for exactly the reasons you suggest OP - however if they are hidden it's not a problem, I just accept that for whatever reason they've chosen to hide their profile and click the back button without a second thought.

I absolutely don't think they should have to be unbidden to be on the forums, their profile their choice how they use it - doesn't impact anyone if they're hidden, so not sure why you would want it otherwise?"

Not what I said. It was a question to create a conversation, not saying it has to be the law

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you profile would only be visible to other posting in that thread?

What the other 100 people

I dont get 100 people on my threads lol maybe 10

But we aren't just talking your threads are we

But have you never seen a post that resonates with just you and your curious to see whose behind the comment?"

Yes, and I'll also message to say say so both in the forum and out of if so moved to.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I sometimes look at profiles off the back of forum posts for exactly the reasons you suggest OP - however if they are hidden it's not a problem, I just accept that for whatever reason they've chosen to hide their profile and click the back button without a second thought.

I absolutely don't think they should have to be unbidden to be on the forums, their profile their choice how they use it - doesn't impact anyone if they're hidden, so not sure why you would want it otherwise?

Not what I said. It was a question to create a conversation, not saying it has to be the law"

I didn't say you did - my question still stands though, why would you want people not to be hidden - other than to have a nose at their profile? Or is that the only reason?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sometimes look at profiles off the back of forum posts for exactly the reasons you suggest OP - however if they are hidden it's not a problem, I just accept that for whatever reason they've chosen to hide their profile and click the back button without a second thought.

I absolutely don't think they should have to be unbidden to be on the forums, their profile their choice how they use it - doesn't impact anyone if they're hidden, so not sure why you would want it otherwise?

Not what I said. It was a question to create a conversation, not saying it has to be the law

I didn't say you did - my question still stands though, why would you want people not to be hidden - other than to have a nose at their profile? Or is that the only reason? "

To have a nose is exactly the point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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... But the forums feel different to me, they seem more authentic and real ... Inferences,tones conatastions are subconsioulsy heard.

The forums I find are more organic and fluid "

Can probably get a 'better' feel for a person from their forum posts than from a profile.

I'll sometimes look at profiles (any gender/sex) of forum posters but if hidden so be it - I'd still message them if I had something to say that I didn't want to be said on the forum even if hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes look at profiles off the back of forum posts for exactly the reasons you suggest OP - however if they are hidden it's not a problem, I just accept that for whatever reason they've chosen to hide their profile and click the back button without a second thought.

I absolutely don't think they should have to be unbidden to be on the forums, their profile their choice how they use it - doesn't impact anyone if they're hidden, so not sure why you would want it otherwise?

Not what I said. It was a question to create a conversation, not saying it has to be the law"

I got that, it's a curious wondering, I have lots of them, I think there also known as conversations, dialogues,chewing the fat/cud

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"What does their profile tell you? They could post a great comment then just have 'fill in later' and friends only pics.

Exactly that....but what if they didn't have that?"

You answer my question first lol what does what they are looking for in terms of meets etc which is essentially what the profile element is for, give you that is extra to their forum posts? How does it factor in to your experience of them on the forums?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

No I don't think so.

However I would like the option to accept "reply privately" responses in the forums even if I have other filters in place.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Nah doesn’t bother me if profiles are hidden or not. There are plenty of reasons why you would hide your profile but still want to engage in foruming.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If my profile is hidden it's not because I don't want people from the forums looking at it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?."

Because people are nosy

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?.

Because people are nosy"

If my profile is unbidden they can nose all they want.

If I want to hide it, tough titty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x"

But your question/statement was....

'If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?'

I get it was possibly a bit of a devil's advocate question buy people are responding to that and saying no.

It kind of reads that you think, or suggest, that in order to post on the forums you should have your profile visible and people don't want that.

Surely her humour in her posts gives you an insight in to how she posts on the forums? Or anyone for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s completely down to the person, I can completely understand why some have it set as private, my hat goes off to the couples and single ladies I can only imagine the amount of junkmail they receive every single minute of the day it must get boring !! So maybe sometimes it’s just to take a break from receiving such junk, especially if they like being part of the threads. I must say the forums are my favourite part of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x

But your question/statement was....

'If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?'

I get it was possibly a bit of a devil's advocate question buy people are responding to that and saying no.

It kind of reads that you think, or suggest, that in order to post on the forums you should have your profile visible and people don't want that.

Surely her humour in her posts gives you an insight in to how she posts on the forums? Or anyone for that matter. "

Here here

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes

And their credit card details

Inside leg measurement

Last ten takeaways they ordered

Any holidays they’ve had in the last five years.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x"

I have posters who I like, male and female, and I've told them in one way or the other...but your comment on interpretation...my previous bad typoed comment on peoples perceptions,readings of words, adding their own... I rest my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?.

Because people are nosy

If my profile is unbidden they can nose all they want.

If I want to hide it, tough titty "

I just had to have a wee peek a your profile,

WOW is all I can say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x

But your question/statement was....

'If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?'

I get it was possibly a bit of a devil's advocate question buy people are responding to that and saying no.

It kind of reads that you think, or suggest, that in order to post on the forums you should have your profile visible and people don't want that.

Surely her humour in her posts gives you an insight in to how she posts on the forums? Or anyone for that matter. "

To be fair he did preface with 'Should your profile be visible whilst on the forums?'

Maybe a ...? Or thoughts/discuss could have taken it from a perceived statement to question.

Just wondering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s completely down to the person, I can completely understand why some have it set as private, my hat goes off to the couples and single ladies I can only imagine the amount of junkmail they receive every single minute of the day it must get boring !! So maybe sometimes it’s just to take a break from receiving such junk, especially if they like being part of the threads. I must say the forums are my favourite part of fab "

Exactly. For me it's about time managment. Reducing my frustration ie I looked at your pics and messaged you either not reading my profile or worse ignoring it.

I saw a post here not long ago where someone did a time analysis of replying deleting looking at profiles leading on from message.

That post was bang on too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll give an example for me

I'm a big fan of a certain person on the forums, she makes me howl with laughter so I'm glad I clicked her profile because I found her funny videos..and that gave me an insight to her sense of humor and how she posts on the forums...if it was a hidden profile her post may have come across differently....again not saying people cant hide profile on forums...its a question to start a thread x

But your question/statement was....

'If you post in the forums then you should be visible just to other posters?'

I get it was possibly a bit of a devil's advocate question buy people are responding to that and saying no.

It kind of reads that you think, or suggest, that in order to post on the forums you should have your profile visible and people don't want that.

Surely her humour in her posts gives you an insight in to how she posts on the forums? Or anyone for that matter. "

But I do agree, see my previous about authenticity organic and fluid

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I really don't know why anyone would want to see my boring text and awful photos on my profile.

Maybe so they can block me so I can't message to meet them?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?.

Because people are nosy

If my profile is unbidden they can nose all they want.

If I want to hide it, tough titty

I just had to have a wee peek a your profile,

WOW is all I can say "

Which is why I have to hide it from the masses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need to scrutinise my profile because I've commented on the forums?.

Because people are nosy

If my profile is unbidden they can nose all they want.

If I want to hide it, tough titty

I just had to have a wee peek a your profile,

WOW is all I can say

Which is why I have to hide it from the masses "

I totally understand now why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t think they should be visible just so others can be nosey.

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