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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

She’s not fine

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It all depends in what context.

If you’re unsure, ask

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that"

I don't understand

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"She’s not fine"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is she saying that you're fine or she's fine ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said nothing you can do to effect whether its true or not all you can do is offer a helping hand

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is she irritated because you keep asking "are you OK" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say ‘I’m fine’ and I actually mean it.

Unless you have pissed her off somehow before ?

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

Maybe she needs a bit of space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shiiit! it's like a grenade has been thrown into your foxhole and you don't know which way to run! ...left, it might blow up that way ...right, it could blow up that way ...run over the top you're gonna get shot.

Only answer is to pick it up and throw it back before it blows!

Ask her, making light of the reputation of the word 'fine', if there's anything you can offer in support (if it's needed of course, she may just be in actual fact ~ 'fine'!)

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Confused. How is I'm fine a reason to worry? Maybe she is just fine? I often say I'm ok meaning I'm not supergreat but nothing to worry about.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Confused. How is I'm fine a reason to worry? Maybe she is just fine? I often say I'm ok meaning I'm not supergreat but nothing to worry about. "

This you always talk sense

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that"

Just say, you’re not fine and give her a list of your ailments. At the end of your own rant, tell her you feel a lot better now and that she’s a great listener.

Almost guaranteed a reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's bored

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

She will block you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give that answer repeatedly as I’m asked soooooo many times every day “how are you?” and it’s monotonous. I answer to be polite but it’s a tedious question to be honest.

Maybe she’s just sick to the bath teeth of being asked “how are you?”.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You’re asking the wrong question OP. How are you ? Etc. Is checkout banter

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Maybe she's sandpaper.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another time waster. Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm presuming to mean you've had more than a few words in other messages but without context it's difficult to go on.

I am also presuming you've asked her how she is which, unless there is a good reason to ask her (ie she hasn't been 'fine'), after a few weeks of messaging you shouldn't need to do.

Either 'I'm fine' means she really is fine or she's getting a bit bored with messaging or she's not 'fine' but doesn't to elaborate or she was in a hurry but wanted to reply something or the messaging is gping to fizzle out ... or other reasons.

Message back with 'That's good.' and see what happens (use my advice at your own risk).

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

She’s not fine

And you need to figure out why and quick

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Did you by any chance ask her if she's ok?

I have a friend who does that constantly my replies are quite varies and sometimes hostile.....

Lazy conversation .... Lazy

She's got 2 choices.

I'm okay thanks.

I'm not okay thanks.

Sometimes my response is ....... FFS ! Why ? Why do you keep asking if i'm okay .......

It's a lazy way in. It's not genuine concern.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S.

Phone her up and chat. If you get stonewalled stop texting and phoning.....

Don't be manipulated.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Have you asked her what she meant?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Maybe she is fine or maybe she's not, can't say without knowing the actual conversation.

If you carry on chatting it will usually become clearer.

Why are you worried?

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry bit more context.

We have been chatting daily for number of weeks and lately she’s been having a tough time. I went away for a long weekend and messaged this morning to catch up, yes i asked how she was then got the dreaded I’m fine message nothing more nothing less

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

She is probably fed up that you didn't contact her over the long weekend when you knew she was having a tough time

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

RUN !!!! Phaze 2 is having things thrown at you x

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"Sorry bit more context.

Did you forget to bring back a stick of rock for her?

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By *akeyFunTimesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Mexborough

"Sorry bit more context.

She’s not fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might have misspelled ?

Finn

Thin

Phine

Thine

Maybe she was texting someone else

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Or simply something newer and shiny has popped up that’s if more interest now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you by any chance ask her if she's ok?

I have a friend who does that constantly my replies are quite varies and sometimes hostile.....

Lazy conversation .... Lazy

She's got 2 choices.

I'm okay thanks.

I'm not okay thanks.

Sometimes my response is ....... FFS ! Why ? Why do you keep asking if i'm okay .......

It's a lazy way in. It's not genuine concern. "

yeah, but, ARE you OK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't realised it OP but you are already dead and posting from the afterlife. Hard luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry bit more context.

If you can sense a problem with you both, maybe just ask her to be honest with you and let you know if you've done anything to upset her.

Maybe she's upset you didn't speak to her over the weekend if you usually speak every day? Or maybe it's just a case of she's bored of you and not interesting in chatting anymore.

I hope you get an answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She is probably fed up that you didn't contact her over the long weekend when you knew she was having a tough time "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry! It's fine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry! It's fine! "

Don't mess with his head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that"

Ring her & don’t text - tone can be misinterpreted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that

Just say, you’re not fine and give her a list of your ailments. At the end of your own rant, tell her you feel a lot better now and that she’s a great listener.

Almost guaranteed a reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that

Just say, you’re not fine and give her a list of your ailments. At the end of your own rant, tell her you feel a lot better now and that she’s a great listener.

Almost guaranteed a reaction

Bloody false nails…. Was meant to say

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Help!!! Been speaking to this lass for few weeks slow build up however now she’s hit me with the dreaded I’m fine. How do you take that

Just say, you’re not fine and give her a list of your ailments. At the end of your own rant, tell her you feel a lot better now and that she’s a great listener.

Almost guaranteed a reaction

Bloody false nails…. Was meant to say

tell me about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry bit more context.

If you can sense a problem with you both, maybe just ask her to be honest with you and let you know if you've done anything to upset her.

Maybe she's upset you didn't speak to her over the weekend if you usually speak every day? Or maybe it's just a case of she's bored of you and not interesting in chatting anymore.

I hope you get an answer!

This.. Also, maybe her head is just full of everything going on and she just doesn't have the space / energy to respond

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Shiiit! it's like a grenade has been thrown into your foxhole and you don't know which way to run! ...left, it might blow up that way ...right, it could blow up that way ...run over the top you're gonna get shot.

Only answer is to pick it up and throw it back before it blows!

Ask her, making light of the reputation of the word 'fine', if there's anything you can offer in support (if it's needed of course, she may just be in actual fact ~ 'fine'!)"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry! It's fine!

Don't mess with his head!

I'm not. If I say I'm fine, I am in fact fine. Maybe she's the same!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Don't worry! It's fine!

Don't mess with his head!

I'm not. If I say I'm fine, I am in fact fine. Maybe she's the same! "

So you're 'fine fine' and not just 'fine'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she meant to say 'send wine' and it came out as 'fine'

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Maybe she meant to say 'send wine' and it came out as 'fine' "

Maybe she said come and pin me down and do bad things Daddy. But he coughed and misheard ?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I kind of dislike it when people say there’s nothing bothering them when something clearly is. Especially if they’re expecting you to pick up on the mixed signals and hold it against you.

Either express the issue and deal with it like adults or handle their own issues and leave others out of it.

Assuming others are psychic and can grasp mixed signals is more than a little bit toxic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She isn’t fine. And I hate it when women say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she meant to say 'send wine' and it came out as 'fine'

Maybe she said come and pin me down and do bad things Daddy. But he coughed and misheard ?"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Did you by any chance ask her if she's ok?

I have a friend who does that constantly my replies are quite varies and sometimes hostile.....

Lazy conversation .... Lazy

She's got 2 choices.

I'm okay thanks.

I'm not okay thanks.

Sometimes my response is ....... FFS ! Why ? Why do you keep asking if i'm okay .......

It's a lazy way in. It's not genuine concern.

yeah, but, ARE you OK?

I'm fine

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I kind of dislike it when people say there’s nothing bothering them when something clearly is. Especially if they’re expecting you to pick up on the mixed signals and hold it against you.

Either express the issue and deal with it like adults or handle their own issues and leave others out of it.

Assuming others are psychic and can grasp mixed signals is more than a little bit toxic"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I kind of dislike it when people say there’s nothing bothering them when something clearly is. Especially if they’re expecting you to pick up on the mixed signals and hold it against you.

Either express the issue and deal with it like adults or handle their own issues and leave others out of it.

Assuming others are psychic and can grasp mixed signals is more than a little bit toxic"

That's one way of looking at it.

Or maybe they've learnt it's safer to say "Fine" than dare voice an opinion and the consequences.

Anyone who's had the misfortune of dealing with an other half with rage issues or who is abusive in any way can probably relate to that.

Or maybe they are actually just fine?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Sorry bit more context.

Just tell her she knows where you are if you want to talk about anything

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