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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

About a month ago I’d had one too many in the local and saw my mates wife out with her mate and we got chatting outside.

Like I say I was tipsy and stupidly told her I’d had experience of this site and had met other couples and wives in the past. Can’t remember the exact conversation but I know she said she wasn’t very satisfied in the bedroom.

Since then she’s messaged me on socials saying she wants to meet me.

I don’t know what to do.

She’s a friends wife (she is mega).

She knows me and I feel it’s too risky.

Probably going to come off here soon.

I’m basically fucked ain’t I.

Any suggestions.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

Just because you had a conversation doesn't mean you have to fuck her. Tell her where you stand, block her profile on here.

Carry on being a mate.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"About a month ago I’d had one too many in the local and saw my mates wife out with her mate and we got chatting outside.

Like I say I was tipsy and stupidly told her I’d had experience of this site and had met other couples and wives in the past. Can’t remember the exact conversation but I know she said she wasn’t very satisfied in the bedroom.

Since then she’s messaged me on socials saying she wants to meet me.

I don’t know what to do.

She’s a friends wife (she is mega).

She knows me and I feel it’s too risky.

Probably going to come off here soon.

I’m basically fucked ain’t I.

Any suggestions.

"

Avoid. Theres 3.5 billion women on this planet, why you gotta fuck the only one that would hurt your mate?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

You are both married, it could end both marriages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact your asking this question probably means you know it's wrong but are going to do it anyway. Looking for justification on something doesn't make it right, do the decent thing and leave it alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a month ago I’d had one too many in the local and saw my mates wife out with her mate and we got chatting outside.

Like I say I was tipsy and stupidly told her I’d had experience of this site and had met other couples and wives in the past. Can’t remember the exact conversation but I know she said she wasn’t very satisfied in the bedroom.

Since then she’s messaged me on socials saying she wants to meet me.

I don’t know what to do.

She’s a friends wife (she is mega).

She knows me and I feel it’s too risky.

Probably going to come off here soon.

I’m basically fucked ain’t I.

Any suggestions.

Avoid. Theres 3.5 billion women on this planet, why you gotta fuck the only one that would hurt your mate?"

Yes what he said. And doesn’t Jean you have to come off the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just because you had a conversation doesn't mean you have to fuck her. Tell her where you stand, block her profile on here.

Carry on being a mate. "

Doesn’t have a profile on here.

I’m more worried about how she’ll react and tell others about my ‘secret’ being on here.

Thanks though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact your asking this question probably means you know it's wrong but are going to do it anyway. Looking for justification on something doesn't make it right, do the decent thing and leave it alone "

I’m not looking for justification I can assure you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About a month ago I’d had one too many in the local and saw my mates wife out with her mate and we got chatting outside.

Like I say I was tipsy and stupidly told her I’d had experience of this site and had met other couples and wives in the past. Can’t remember the exact conversation but I know she said she wasn’t very satisfied in the bedroom.

Since then she’s messaged me on socials saying she wants to meet me.

I don’t know what to do.

She’s a friends wife (she is mega).

She knows me and I feel it’s too risky.

Probably going to come off here soon.

I’m basically fucked ain’t I.

Any suggestions.

Avoid. Theres 3.5 billion women on this planet, why you gotta fuck the only one that would hurt your mate?"

You’re right.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Simple. Say no. Hide your profile. Mates first always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd sit down with her and have a conversation about why it lacks and explain that you feel like you're doing your mate over by getting with his lass. Just make your feelings clear as you can't avoid her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok.

First few responses have cleared this up.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the issue is you on here and what you choose to do. The issue is your mates other half basically needs to soaek to your mate.

If my mates partner was coming on to me I'd tell them.

If you have been engaging in naughty messages with her well thats on you and you wouldn't be much if a mate.

There's girl code and boy code. But both codes are about valuing your friendship

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By *ightmovesTV/TS
over a year ago

Ipswich

Don't get tipsy so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you had a conversation doesn't mean you have to fuck her. Tell her where you stand, block her profile on here.

Carry on being a mate.

Doesn’t have a profile on here.

I’m more worried about how she’ll react and tell others about my ‘secret’ being on here.

Thanks though."

Why is it a secret? Who will she tell? Only a problem if you’re married/partnered, that aside it’s probably fairly easy to not bum a mates wife (with morals) and carry on as normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First off not worth lose a friend over

Next you don’t need to come off can block also

If your worried about her tell anyone we’ll now she needs to explain that she’s on here as well

Seems to me like the problem is you want to and can’t trust your self to say no

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

What a predicament.

Tell your mate his Mrs has been messaging wanting to meet up with you after you got loose lipped and inappropriate after a few too many. Possibly risk her saying she was doing it to test whether he was a good mate to her hubby.

Don't say anything and risk your friend being taken for a complete prick by her, wasting more years in a relationship and the emotional and financial cost that could come with it. A decade down the line he comes to you telling you he's a broken man and she's ruined his life, when you could have potentially given him the info he needs now to make an informed choice over his future.

Or you could tell her to back the fuck off and work on her relationship instead of taking the easy route and doing something that will end in tears one way or the other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People,

Overwhelming message here is to AVOID.

thanks.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No,no and no. Your friends wife do you despise your friend that would be a shitty thing to do?!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

you text back and say ....

God, I remember saying I was on a swingers site ......... christ, I shouldn't mess about when I've had a drink.

Still I can fantasise can't I? I'd never join one though ....

Hope you are okay ..... Say hi to my mate for me ...... bye xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you had a conversation doesn't mean you have to fuck her. Tell her where you stand, block her profile on here.

Carry on being a mate.

Doesn’t have a profile on here.

I’m more worried about how she’ll react and tell others about my ‘secret’ being on here.

Thanks though."

Back up i missed a bit, so your also married and on here without your partners consent?

I'll leave this to the others, the only secrets in life should be happy suprises. In my op. So me and my bias are going for a cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First off not worth lose a friend over

Next you don’t need to come off can block also

If your worried about her tell anyone we’ll now she needs to explain that she’s on here as well

Seems to me like the problem is you want to and can’t trust your self to say no "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a predicament.

Tell your mate his Mrs has been messaging wanting to meet up with you after you got loose lipped and inappropriate after a few too many. Possibly risk her saying she was doing it to test whether he was a good mate to her hubby.

Don't say anything and risk your friend being taken for a complete prick by her, wasting more years in a relationship and the emotional and financial cost that could come with it. A decade down the line he comes to you telling you he's a broken man and she's ruined his life, when you could have potentially given him the info he needs now to make an informed choice over his future.

Or you could tell her to back the fuck off and work on her relationship instead of taking the easy route and doing something that will end in tears one way or the other."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you wouldn't do that to a friend, sorry!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Get the message loud and clear.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something I wouldn't recommend as you can't avoid her as she's is your best mates wife. Like you'll see her all the time. I'd tell her your feelings towards this like an adult. And if she's trying to get with you it means she's already trying with other guys so I'd definitely a word with your mate too. Your mate is your mate she's just the baggage. Do you want the baggage or your mate. That's the decision

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"You are both married, it could end both marriages."

Ah, I didn't realise. So you're basically shitting bricks in case your own skeletons get let out the closet.

Not so much "fun" now the consequences look like they could turn into reality eh?

"Instead of asking God for the strength to keep winning

We cheat to get ahead, and then we ask Him for forgiveness…"

I ain't religious but if there ever were 2 lines that hit the mind regarding human behaviour its these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get the message loud and clear.

Thanks."

Mate you've opened a thread, one with opinions this will role until it gets too big

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

"

Throw yourselves to the wolves, your gonna get bit I'm afraid. Asking for someones opinion and then calling them judgy wont do you no favours.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

"

You'll find mostly the judgey people are the ones who's lives as they knew them have been destroyed by lies and cheating. The ones who have had to start again, from their knees. Those who can't find it within them to trust again, who have wanted to die because they felt so worthless and unlovable they never believed they could recover. Those who no longer know which way is up, which is down and if someone told them it was raining they'd have to look out the window and check because they don't trust anyone anymore, even over trivial things. But worst of all, they no longer trust themselves to make good judgement, to love properly again, to not condemn themselves to the misery of the mental torture that comes with hating yourself for being so fucking stupid.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"People,

Overwhelming message here is to AVOID.

thanks."

As you observe OP, the consensus is overwhelmingly NO.

So, purely in the interest of providing a balance, I say, GO FOR IT.

Just be fully prepared to live with the consequences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

You'll find mostly the judgey people are the ones who's lives as they knew them have been destroyed by lies and cheating. The ones who have had to start again, from their knees. Those who can't find it within them to trust again, who have wanted to die because they felt so worthless and unlovable they never believed they could recover. Those who no longer know which way is up, which is down and if someone told them it was raining they'd have to look out the window and check because they don't trust anyone anymore, even over trivial things. But worst of all, they no longer trust themselves to make good judgement, to love properly again, to not condemn themselves to the misery of the mental torture that comes with hating yourself for being so fucking stupid. "

And with that…. Here Endeth my FAB journey.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

You'll find mostly the judgey people are the ones who's lives as they knew them have been destroyed by lies and cheating. The ones who have had to start again, from their knees. Those who can't find it within them to trust again, who have wanted to die because they felt so worthless and unlovable they never believed they could recover. Those who no longer know which way is up, which is down and if someone told them it was raining they'd have to look out the window and check because they don't trust anyone anymore, even over trivial things. But worst of all, they no longer trust themselves to make good judgement, to love properly again, to not condemn themselves to the misery of the mental torture that comes with hating yourself for being so fucking stupid. "

And those with values, don't need to have been chewed up and spat out to know that there are certain no no's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve posted about my circumstances on other threads…… lots of judgey people when it comes to this scenario. I understand.

You'll find mostly the judgey people are the ones who's lives as they knew them have been destroyed by lies and cheating. The ones who have had to start again, from their knees. Those who can't find it within them to trust again, who have wanted to die because they felt so worthless and unlovable they never believed they could recover. Those who no longer know which way is up, which is down and if someone told them it was raining they'd have to look out the window and check because they don't trust anyone anymore, even over trivial things. But worst of all, they no longer trust themselves to make good judgement, to love properly again, to not condemn themselves to the misery of the mental torture that comes with hating yourself for being so fucking stupid.

And with that…. Here Endeth my FAB journey.

X"

Your legacy post shall live on... *bows*

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"About a month ago I’d had one too many in the local and saw my mates wife out with her mate and we got chatting outside.

Like I say I was tipsy and stupidly told her I’d had experience of this site and had met other couples and wives in the past. Can’t remember the exact conversation but I know she said she wasn’t very satisfied in the bedroom.

Since then she’s messaged me on socials saying she wants to meet me.

I don’t know what to do.

She’s a friends wife (she is mega).

She knows me and I feel it’s too risky.

Probably going to come off here soon.

I’m basically fucked ain’t I.

Any suggestions.

Avoid. Theres 3.5 billion women on this planet, why you gotta fuck the only one that would hurt your mate?"

Dear god that's twice I've agreed with you today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, that was quick

36 minutes from OP to MIA

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

Fuck her in the a.... He's gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does your mate know you are on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your mate know you are on here?"

He's not

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