FabSwingers.com forum: Middle age

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When does it start?

Average life expectancy in the UK was 78.7 for males and 82.7 for females (in 2020)

So, does middle age start between 39 & 41, or is it more a state of mind?

Also, why are people often 'put out' by being classed as middle aged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 41 so guess I'm middle aged

The term makes me sound older than I feel I think.

Also no one likes to be reminded of their own mortality and that they're over halfway through their life

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Pretty sure that middle age officially starts at 40 but that is a terrifying thought as it means that you have less time to go than you have been on the planet.

I prefer to think of it as a state of mind and my mind still thinks I am in my 20s

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm middle aged and it's not a term I mind to be honest. I've lost too many friends so getting here is an achievement.

Why people don't like it, guess it's because to them it sounds old. And we are old to say a 18 year old and a spring chicken to a 90 year old. It's all about perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best years of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell , that makes me ancient and almost died

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m middle aged - how depressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 50 next year, I am definitely middle aged.. In age, anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my best friends is in his early seventies. He is fit, smart, fun and has a punch like a hammer. One of my best friends is in his early forties and is overweight, not very active and has no real social life.

Which one is middle aged?

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

"I am 50 next year, I am definitely middle aged.. In age, anyway

Your very pretty

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

"I am 50 next year, I am definitely middle aged.. In age, anyway

Your very pretty"

Is that the right word? Pretty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 50 next year, I am definitely middle aged.. In age, anyway

Your very pretty

Is that the right word? Pretty?

Eerrmmm... I would say, probably not.. But that depends on what you meant really lol

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

I'm 43. I guess I'm around middle age. I don't feel it though

( most important thing! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im an ancient bugger, then!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Because they want to be eternally youthful, society says there's value in youth. Look how many people claim they look 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 years younger than they are. Say that they feel like they are only 21 etc. Perhaps middle reminds them they've lived half their life?

I think middle aged starts from 40 and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Saying someone is middle aged is never used to compliment

. For me it implies a state of mind, a staid old fashioned person buying elasticated waisted trousers and velcro fastening sandals for comfort unwilling to be adventurous or accept new ideas. Some people commence middle age at 20

I'd far rather be called old than middle aged.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Because they want to be eternally youthful, society says there's value in youth. Look how many people claim they look 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 years younger than they are. Say that they feel like they are only 21 etc. Perhaps middle reminds them they've lived half their life?

I think middle aged starts from 40 and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. "

I don't mind people saying they feel like they're 21, I can kind of understand that. It's when they say they still act like it and they're 53

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are incredibly lucky to be living in an era and in countries where life expectancy has increased greatly over the last 100 years or so. If we’re also lucky with our personal health and keep in reasonable shape then we can enjoy active lives into our 70s or 80s. So who cares how we label it, let’s just be thankful and embrace those years as they come.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think middle aged starts from 40 and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I don't mind people saying they feel like they're 21, I can kind of understand that. It's when they say they still act like it and they're 53

I guess I'm just too darn young to understand how you can feel like you're 21 when you're twice that age.

I don't use middle aged as an insult or a compliment, it's more a matter of fact comment but having read your other post - yeah, I guess it is meant as someone ascribing to a particularly dull lifestyle *suitable* for their age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a term.

40 is middle aged simply based on numbers, can't argue that.

How you live and view life prob will be static as we're creatures of habit though some will experience events that make them rethink.

I'm WELL past middle age but I'm hardly ready for the knackers yard yet, I think folk relate the term to being past it and old when rally its just as it says, middle age/middle of your life... Enjoy it

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I do feel like I'm getting "ground rush" sometimes. The end of my life (well, Where I guess it should be ending!) used to seem so far away, but now, I realise that my time is finite and if I'm not careful, some of my unfulfilled plans will outlive me!

Luckily I've got enough food, money, sunshine and a lovely house to enjoy what time I've got left!

Gbat

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By *emptressxxWoman
over a year ago

Local

I'm 48 and in total denial.... Refusing to embrace being middle aged gracefully that's for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned 39 in april so I guess I'm middle aged but in my mind I'm roughly mid 20's

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Saying someone is middle aged is never used to compliment

I'd far rather be called old than middle aged."

I have trousers with some elastic in the waistline

They aren't beige though

I think when you start wearing lots of beige, that's the death knoll

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

"I'm 48 and in total denial.... Refusing to embrace being middle aged gracefully that's for sure.

Precisely the way indeed to embrace ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Saying someone is middle aged is never used to compliment

I'd far rather be called old than middle aged.

I have trousers with some elastic in the waistline

They aren't beige though

I think when you start wearing lots of beige, that's the death knoll

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet "

p.s. I don't have a Jaguar (or a Panama Hat)

Yet!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Saying someone is middle aged is never used to compliment

I'd far rather be called old than middle aged.

I have trousers with some elastic in the waistline

They aren't beige though

I think when you start wearing lots of beige, that's the death knoll

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet "

I also have trousers with elastic in the waistline

I'm middle aged and didn't know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to be 30 in a couple of months and I'm panicking about it, how old I look and feel and how I've wasted the first 30 years of my life so I think I'm going to have a midwife crisis soon!

I've not looked after my health and I have a lot wrong with me, so being honest I may be about half way through my lufe, maybe more. 10 years ago I genuinely didn't think I would make it to 30, and I'm actually really proud of myself for sticking around as long as I have.

There are so many challenges we go through In life and some people are taken from us too soon and never get to experience it so if you reach middle age just be grateful you get to experience it rather than thinking about how long you have left.

It's about what you've achieved, not the age you are.

Some people live to be 100, some are only young when they die so middle age can start at any time

Have fun in life, and enjoy it whilst you can

I definitely want to have more fun in my thirties as I wasted a lot of my youth not putting myself out there and exploring the world.

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By *amb47gayMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Must be well past middle aged as I've now entered my 70s, but I have a more active sex life than in my 30s

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"When does it start?

Average life expectancy in the UK was 78.7 for males and 82.7 for females (in 2020)

So, does middle age start between 39 & 41, or is it more a state of mind?

Also, why are people often 'put out' by being classed as middle aged? "

Let's just go for 40 for either gender.

I think that 'put out' happens as you are in your autumn and only winter and game over is ahead.

I follow the philosophy that I am still here and I don't have time to worry about kicking the bucket ......living is being in the now.... not organising my care home and funeral .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'm going to be 30 in a couple of months and I'm panicking about it, how old I look and feel and how I've wasted the first 30 years of my life so I think I'm going to have a midwife crisis soon!

It's about what you've achieved, not the age you are.

Some people live to be 100, some are only young when they die so middle age can start at any time

Have fun in life, and enjoy it whilst you can

I definitely want to have more fun in my thirties as I wasted a lot of my youth not putting myself out there and exploring the world.

midwife crisis

love it......

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

45. So I'm not there yet!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Molly I remember cutting my hair short at 26 cos 26 is nearly 30 and I decided I should be respectable ........ snort....

It's long now.... bit like a birds nest but ..... fuck it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"45. So I'm not there yet!"

Oh you are you are....

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet

p.s. I don't have a Jaguar (or a Panama Hat)

Yet! "

I think you’ll find the Panama hat looks much better in the back window of a Morris 1000 than a Jag anyway

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By *pellboundCouple
over a year ago

Derby and North Wales

I am 52 and I don’t consider myself middle aged at all, fuck that

I still do all the things that I did when I was 30 without two little kids demanding every ounce of my attention

I still mountain bike, run, trek, swim and fuck like a stallion

Well I think I do

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Middle age at 45,

Old age at 65.

Old Age plus at 80,

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't really see someone being middle aged til they've turned 50,I'm 53

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I think of it, you take the age you think you will live to, let's say 90. 0-29 you are young, 30-59 you are middle aged, 60-90 you are old.

Doesn't seem to be a popular view with other people, but I don't care what age I am.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

"I am 50 next year, I am definitely middle aged.. In age, anyway

Your very pretty

Is that the right word? Pretty?

Eerrmmm... I would say, probably not.. But that depends on what you meant really lol"

I mean you have a lovely face

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"Middle age at 45,

Old age at 65.

Old Age plus at 80,

I always tell anyone over 70 ‘they’re on borrowed time’

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm just old

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Well I'm 59, and having a self imposed midlife crisis

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I have trousers with some elastic in the waistline

They aren't beige though

I think when you start wearing lots of beige, that's the death knoll

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet "

Yeah, but you keep a packet of Werther's Originals in the glove compartment though

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"Middle age at 45,

Old age at 65.

Old Age plus at 80,

I always tell anyone over 70 ‘they’re on borrowed time’

I am eating into my borrowed time at an alarming rate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have trousers with some elastic in the waistline

They aren't beige though

I think when you start wearing lots of beige, that's the death knoll

I'm not ready to pop a Panama Hat in the rear window of the Jaguar just yet

Yeah, but you keep a packet of Werther's Originals in the glove compartment though

Of course, I hide them under my tan leather driving gloves though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... unwilling to be adventurous ... "

I'll be 50 in a week and sometimes I feel that I'd be quite happy in not wanting any new adventures. At the moment I can only call those type of days 'good days'.

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