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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill"

Have you tried turning it off then turning it on again ?

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I can't give profile advice without you asking...

The lack of an avatar won't help.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I wouldn't engage with anyone with one sentence on their profile personally.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Do you feel you profile and pics give enough information for someone to think you are worth meeting? That’s what you need to ask yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill

Have you tried turning it off then turning it on again ? "

Is it plugged in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill

Have you tried turning it off then turning it on again ? "

Think it’s the turning on but he’s having dramas with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill

Have you tried turning it off then turning it on again ?

Think it’s the turning on but he’s having dramas with "

Ahh right

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either."

Yeah right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either."

Well not with that negative attitude

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you aren’t getting replies then normally it’s 3 things…your profile wording, your pics and/or your message content.

Does your profile sell you?

Can you add more to your profile wording?

Can you change your pics to appeal?

Do you sound exciting in your messages and are polite and not vulgar?

If you’ve covered all 3 then you’ll get messages…if you haven’t then look at getting better at all 3.

Good luck

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

Well not with that negative attitude "

Us ladies don’t like a wet lettuce

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you want profile advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you aren’t getting replies then normally it’s 3 things…your profile wording, your pics and/or your message content.

Does your profile sell you?

Can you add more to your profile wording?

Can you change your pics to appeal?

Do you sound exciting in your messages and are polite and not vulgar?

If you’ve covered all 3 then you’ll get messages…if you haven’t then look at getting better at all 3.

Good luck

K

"

That 4 pointers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for a few months now and am itching to go but whenever I send a message it gets politely declined or ignored - ok I’m a bit old but not in bad shape and not bad looking - is it because I can’t get any verifications?

Thanks

Bill"

In all seriousness there’s many ways you can improve your profile, a better description, it looks like you’ve just blanket checked all the interest boxes, different pictures, not all ladies want to see your cock from the get go, maybe just put some effort in to it

Or failing that, pictures of puppies, chicks dig puppies

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

Barry if you want advice people will give it but you must ask for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want profile advice? "

Yes please

Oh… that dude, he does too yes

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you want profile advice?

Yes please

Oh… that dude, he does too yes"

Don't think you need any help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

Well not with that negative attitude "

Twas a joke, not a dick.

Don't take it do seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All good thinks cum to those who wait...or at least she hopes when you message a lady of interest.

Don't force it, patience is a virtue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

Well not with that negative attitude

Twas a joke, not a dick.

Don't take it do seriously."

I didn’t…

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Lol

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

Well not with that negative attitude

Twas a joke, not a dick.

Don't take it do seriously.

I didn’t… "

I see. My apologies then!

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Cheers K - thought it was ok but let me take another look

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry brother, no one will shag me either.

Well not with that negative attitude

Twas a joke, not a dick.

Don't take it do seriously.

I didn’t…

I see. My apologies then! "

No worries pal

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Nice one - understand - cheers

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By *ere comes the sun OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Nice one - understand - cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, verifications are not as important as you think they are. It doesn't make a difference to me if someone is verified or not.

All I will say is expect nothing! And that way, you won't be disappointed. But also, a profile photo will make a difference. It isn't easy for men on here unless you're extremely good looking, so be yourself and keep trying.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

At least you do get some polite replies even if they are a no thanks. So that is one plus.

Seriously no profile photo that Will immediately put some people off. Six photos three of which are dick pics. Get rid of two of them. The other photos are OK but try to entice and show off the real you.

Profile write up is woefully inadequate. You need to sell yourself, what do you have to offer and what are you looking for. Doesn't have to be long.

A well thought out profile shows you care enough to put the effort in. Currently looking at your profile you wonder if any meet would be as quick as your profile with as little effort.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"If you aren’t getting replies then normally it’s 3 things…your profile wording, your pics and/or your message content.

Does your profile sell you?

Can you add more to your profile wording?

Can you change your pics to appeal?

Do you sound exciting in your messages and are polite and not vulgar?

If you’ve covered all 3 then you’ll get messages…if you haven’t then look at getting better at all 3.

Good luck

K

"

Would agree with these but add a further three vital ingredients...

Expectations - are they correctly set? Do you think that just by having a profile you are entitled to meet? They need to be set to the lowest possible setting then turned down another notch.

Attitude - have you got it right? Do you stay positive, polite, respectful and courteous at all times? Do you accept rejection with good grace?

Approach - and this is one that a lot of guys get wrong - have you found the right approach that works for you? Now that might be message style, but it's not all about sending blind messages to people you've not interacted with before - there are other approaches to the site like the forums or chat rooms, or getting along to group socials or clubs (when they open) all of which are good ways to get to know people and them you.

Couple those three with the advice above and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience of the site

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

P.S. if you use the reply and quote button we can see who you're replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you done the 2021 update.....its wall to wall action once you do that.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If you aren’t getting replies then normally it’s 3 things…your profile wording, your pics and/or your message content.

Does your profile sell you?

Can you add more to your profile wording?

Can you change your pics to appeal?

Do you sound exciting in your messages and are polite and not vulgar?

If you’ve covered all 3 then you’ll get messages…if you haven’t then look at getting better at all 3.

Good luck

K

That 4 pointers "

4 questions - 3 areas you can improve on

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