FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone else hate the term “playing”?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hate it, but I'd prefer an alternative that's more sutle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it."

would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee"

or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.

would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee"

or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol"

Just adult words will do.

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha "

This, It drives be crazy! I get proper ranty with people that use “fun” for sex.…..can’t help myself, not 12 any more you are allowed to say sex. Apparently people get offended if adults talk about sex on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.

would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee"

or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol

Just adult words will do.

Oh alright then fancy a fuck it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does nothing for me, playing what? u playing cards? lol

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

Exactly, it’s not playing is it? I can’t stand it.

would you say you prefer for there to be a natural urge to undress each other over a "coffee"

or I can come over and help you with a "leak" under your sink. Or invite me over to look at your new "bed sheets" you just ordered. Lol

Just adult words will do.

I bet you love being ‘nawty’

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

But even dogging sounds weird like a group of people are invited to bring their dog. People Go walking in groups hill walkers shouldn't this just be fucking like animals people Go to the pub for a drink.so off to field for a shag you go to the loo to spend a penny and you go to the woods to shed your load or empty your tank

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha "

Sex or sexual play may be involved, but what we are looking for is not just fucking someone. Using “play” is a lot less dramatic than listing what we are going to do to someone each time we talk.

Also as we use a lot if toys, play is a natural fit.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Would the people averse to the term "play" care to suggest an alternative they find more palatable?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yeah I'm with you on this one.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I am looking to have fun and play so I don't hate the terms, no.

I will have a serious fuck if I can't get anything more interesting of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would I say playing with the girls hair while she's giving me a BJ?

I like to fuck up the ladies expensive hairstyle when she's pleasuring me orally

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

London

Not sure what a good alternative is...after all it is fun and we are playing with each other.

Other’s options could get a bit long winded for example - would you like to meet for some emotion and physical stimulation?

Think I’ll stick with the fun play

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I play and have playmates, I see fabbing as my playtime, work hard play hard

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Or let’s bump uglies….

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep. Can’t stand it. And playmate! Even worse.

I don’t even like “a meet”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got used to it now.... Same for 'meet'.. Which is another one that really jars for some reason

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Anyone fancy a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of any of the swinging vernacular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to rub your genitals against my genitals?

Genitaaaaaaaaals

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

not really

It’s not all about sex or penetration for me. It’s the friendship, socialising, teasing, trying new things, using toys, getting to know people in a very deeper level. It’s all around a playful journey for me so yes I see it as a “adult play” or “adult fun” but dropping the word adult while using them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nah. Life is too short to get worked up over a word like play. You are playing.... With their genitals

I don't mind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Would the people averse to the term "play" care to suggest an alternative they find more palatable? "

Just say what you feel…. How about I wanna tear at your clothes , bite you , pull your hair and fuck like there’s no tomorrow ?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I have bigger fish to fry than get worked up over linguistics.

Ultimately we are on here to have fun and there are very few suitable alternatives that are just not crude and in my view offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really couldn’t care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, words don't bother me people do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing. "

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Would the people averse to the term "play" care to suggest an alternative they find more palatable?

Just say what you feel…. How about I wanna tear at your clothes , bite you , pull your hair and fuck like there’s no tomorrow ? "

Very appropriate in Costa on the pre social

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

I have to say I quite like the term playing. When M and I as a married couple have sex it’s very different more loving.

So when we add a third it’s just fun for everyone involved more of a game, playing even

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "

And you're contributing how exactly? At least he answered the question.

How strange indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really like it but i dont care that much either?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

We’re a sexually repressed people, even sex positive people such as are often found on here have deep seated repressions. Hence why we use words like; play, fun, dirty, naughty, etc when we actually mean sex.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

For me the problem is that the alternatives like sex or fucking seem to describe the act rather than the whole event. It can be fairly playful and why is it just children who play? Adults just play different games!

I'm open to alternative suggestions though! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "

I did didn’t I, I managed it all, while sat on my sofa drinking tea, but If you think that’s strange, wait till you hear this, when showering sometimes I cup my arms to see how much water I can collect, then I quickly open my arms again.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t mind it as a phrase. Sex should be playful

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange "

Don't be shy. We can chat in here about what people think of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun and play are cool, sometimes we meet just for a fuck but sometimes there's other aspects, toys etc so play works for as a general term. I'm more concerned when people can't use words like cock or pussy....we declined to meet a couple partly because they use words like love-stick!

Tabitha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say I quite like the term playing. When M and I as a married couple have sex it’s very different more loving.

So when we add a third it’s just fun for everyone involved more of a game, playing even

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep. Can’t stand it. And playmate! Even worse.

I don’t even like “a meet”. "

Sit down

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

For me it's part of a whole experience, so there maybe wax play, impact play etc etc going on when I meet someone as well as fucking them. And play kind of summarises everything else I'd have to say first we shall spank me arse then, we will do xyz and finally we get around to the fucking bit.

To me it's no different to saying a night out with my friends rather than saying I'm going out for a meal then we're going to a few bars and then hit a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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It is quite cringe-y , like what are playing here? A game of chess? Squash? Maybe some Super Nintendo?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

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yes was going to mention I hate the term fun on here. We are grown ups and should be capable of saying sex when that is what we mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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It makes me think of monopoly or one of my childhood board games that got played a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer fucken my transformers and he man days are long gone

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By *vor PartiesMan
over a year ago

wigan

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha "

But if someone messaged asking you to come out to Fuck, I think most lady’s would be put off. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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I don't like this word either. And the word 'fun'

Playing and fun are words I use to describe something I do with my kids and grandchildren.

I prefer people to say what they mean not use innocent words to describe what they don't actually mean....

Sorry rant over

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't hate it but I certainly don't like it. I wish there was a better word for it but I can't really think of one that conveys the enjoyment of of sex. Just saying "I'm looking for sex" or "We had sex together" seems kind of functional to me.

There is a woman we know who says of couples "I want to play with both". Saying "I want to have sex with both" instead doesn't capture a sense of enjoyment to me.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha "

Some people on here don't have sex or fuck.

I don't mind what it is called but some view fucking as derogatory.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Not keen on it either! Or 'fun' but sometimes still use it

I hate fun also!! We are grown adults! It’s sex or fucking not “playing” or “fun”.

Can you tell how much I hate it haha

Sex or sexual play may be involved, but what we are looking for is not just fucking someone. Using “play” is a lot less dramatic than listing what we are going to do to someone each time we talk.

Also as we use a lot if toys, play is a natural fit."

Exactly this. I use the term playing because I'm naturally playful in bed. I don't want someone just fucking me. We as a couple also enjoy playing as a cuckold couple. But it's not something we do in real life. So we play at it.

Mrs N

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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Playing and fun are cringe af .

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's about an ability to differentiate words for their different meanings. Multiple words have multiple meanings in different context and situations.

Is it the word you dislike (like how people dislike "moist") or you are just unable to apply a word to a different meaning?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nope, it's just a bit of fun.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seem to be some joy sponges in this thread. Playtime to me covered a wide spectrum of things. Sex, time out in my car, time under my car with tools, cooking. Sport. And other stuff I can’t remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do I change my name?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If caught dogging would their be a possibility in change of law we were out playing rather than indecent exposure fluid behaviour

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Perhaps instead of playing we should be engaging with each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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Playing and fun are cringe af .

Aren’t they?

“Do you want to play?” Yeah, hang on I’ll bring my ball.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I don't mind it. It's not just sex for us - impact play, foreplay, sub/dom play etc etc

Mrs TMN x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

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Playing and fun are cringe af .

Aren’t they?

“Do you want to play?” Yeah, hang on I’ll bring my ball. "

No need got 2 ..

Frantic fore play and then some sex our preference .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People refer to masturbation as playing with themselves.

People also call swinging a hobby.

I think most people are looking for a fun experience and to meet like-minded people.

In theory play and fun are inoffensive unspecific but suggestive and inclusive words!

I think meeting is unavoidable as a term really. I would never refer to a meet with anyone off here as a date.

Tabitha x

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Must admit it makes me cringe a bit. Also can't stand it when grown adults refer to sex as "naughty fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you like to rub your genitals against my genitals?

Genitaaaaaaaaals"

Quite possibly the post of the thread!

But whilst we’re on the topic……… yeeeeeeeees, goooooooo ooooooooooon theeeeeeeeeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I change my name?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seem to be some joy sponges in this thread. Playtime to me covered a wide spectrum of things. Sex, time out in my car, time under my car with tools, cooking. Sport. And other stuff I can’t remember. "

*joy sponges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike 'the lifestyle' but hate? Ain't nobody got time for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange

I’m trying, but failing, to understand what you’re describing here.

Can you send me an explanatory video?

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I don't mind the term, with the lack of a better alternative. At least everyone knows what you're on about.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Yeah I always find it weird I stopped coming out to play when I was 14

If I ever get a meet it’d be tempting to do

Probably last and only meet but funny.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Of all the things I give a fuck about, it’s right up there with…..nope, I’ve got nothing.

But you still posted in the thread?????? How strange

Ha ha ha ha!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes my toes curl. I know it’s probably the most used term on the site but I hate it!

Thanks

Massively. I also can't stand the terms 'meet', and the generic 'fun' that people use on here. Also when people say naughty/norty/nawty as though we're all 5 year olds misbehaving.

Urgh.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Playing is a weird one, doesn't conjure up my idea of a passionate romp round the bedroom.

Naughty kind of gets me... I guess for some people it is, but it sounds a bit childish when we're all consenting adults.

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