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By *usman 199 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Do you have yours or have you lost it

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think I ate it in lockdown

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By *usman 199 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I think I ate it in lockdown "
what did it taste of x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x "

Magnums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums "

Iv literally just eaten one.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one. "

I need counselling to stop…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one.

I need counselling to stop… "

Why! They are sooooo good.

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By *usman 199 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one.

I need counselling to stop… "
come to my parlour in Stockport x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one.

I need counselling to stop…

Why! They are sooooo good. "

2 stone Lorna.. 2 bastard stone…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one.

I need counselling to stop…

Why! They are sooooo good.

2 stone Lorna.. 2 bastard stone… "

But if you only eat magnums and nothing else it will soon come off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown what did it taste of x

Magnums

Iv literally just eaten one.

I need counselling to stop…

Why! They are sooooo good.

2 stone Lorna.. 2 bastard stone…

But if you only eat magnums and nothing else it will soon come off. "

I highly recommend the magnum flavoured salad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Self confidence is never lost I am just bubble me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t think I’ve ever had it

I had my vulnerabilities with humour

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah I've got it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days more. Some days less. Depends who I surround myself with too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it then lost but finding it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lots of it, probably a bit too much. I’m at the age where I genuinely couldn’t give a fuck what people think of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have lots of it, probably a bit too much. I’m at the age where I genuinely couldn’t give a fuck what people think of me."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you have yours or have you lost it "

Its hard to know...you think you're doing ok till someone blows the crap out of it BUT to me the key is not to give a fuck and keep the " its their loss " mentality and on ya go .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you have yours or have you lost it "

Still got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have lots of it, probably a bit too much. I’m at the age where I genuinely couldn’t give a fuck what people think of me.

this "

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm rocking mine

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I do and I don't - in some things I am very confident in myself, in others full of self-doubt - it makes for quite the cocktail at times and can mess with my head although I mask it well mostly

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.

Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.

Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.

Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can have confidence in some areas and not in others, and it can fluctuate depending on other factors.

Mine not great at the moment, but will (hopefully)improve.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I've always got mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and don't at the same time. I know my worth, but there are still things about me that I'm less confident about and I certainly get nerves when I stand fully naked in front of someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like a lot of men on here... it comes and it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in a hmm not sure situation. I had grown confidence in my self due to my pregnancy as it’s something I thought my body was unable to do and I’m in awe that it’s managing to grow this life inside of me.

But my confidence was majorly hit due to a ex partner making me feel like crap on a day when I was getting lots of bad news at the antenatal clinic where my body isn’t naturally doing what it should be.

So I guess I’m not really sure. I’m hoping I can regain it in the future

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Mine comes and goes. Just gotta take it a day at a time

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think I ate it in lockdown "

. Love this. This is me too

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Mine comes and goes. Just gotta take it a day at a time "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.

Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.

Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.

Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie. "

Couldn't have expressed it better.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I have an abnormally objective grasp of my own strengths and shortcomings.

Sometimes this is perceived as confidence or even arrogance, and makes people mad.

Sometimes it is perceived as self-deprecation, and makes people mad.

Can't win either way. I need to learn to lie. "

I’d give you a round of applause for this, but you wouldn’t hear it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It fluctuates… some days I feel super confident, some other days it’s so low I start picking at pieces of me that “aren’t quite right”… so, yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days full of confidence and sexuality others I’m Gollum.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"Do you have yours or have you lost it "

I have it. And self respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm pretty confident but was thinking about it the other day and its dipped. Thinking a combination of tiredness, apathy and putting on a little weight during lockdown has taken its toll. Not to mention hayfever! I'll get it back though.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I have it where I think it's warranted and not where it's not. I recognise there are things that I can and can't do. I don't want confidence in things I can't do. When people say I lack confidence, it seems to me that they are simply saying they have a different opinion to me about the things I can and can't do. Who's right? It could be either but in general I'd say I know myself better than others do. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown "

Lol same here

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on what you mean by self confidence.

Looks wise not really, my ability to do my job, drive my car safely, cook a really good meal yes.

We base so much of our worth and self confidence on the way we look, when it's only a small fraction of who we are

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A guy told me I had no confidence as we left a party. This was because we didn't find anybody there was our cup of tea and rather than have sex with someone we didn't want to we explained to our host it wasn't our thing and thanked him for his hospitality. He took this as a sign that I lacked confidence even though Mr N felt as I did too

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I have self confidence in that I’m a decent human being and treat people right! But am very critical of my body, def lack self confidence in that! Luckily stubbornness and a hunger for fun allows my head to accept being on here!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I give off the impression I have it but deep down I’m not.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Been smashing my self in the gym being strict with my food and of the beer Yes full of confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm amazing. People either agree or disagree with me and that's OK but it doesn't change my perception of myself.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I have plenty of confidence.

I'm even happy to take the piss out of myself, just for laughs.

Big hugs to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not what it used to be, not by any stretch of the imagination.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

There are different kinds of self confidence.

In my job = I ooze in the brain and charisma department, just lack physically after I've been there 11 hours and start to ache.

In my body = nah mate, lost that way before I ripped out my work shirt coz I've chunked a stone n half on.

In the bedroom = it's just for sleeping in these days and I'm pretty confident I can sleep when I'm tired. As for sexual confidence, long gone. It went away at the same time as my faith in people.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I think I'm amazing. People either agree or disagree with me and that's OK but it doesn't change my perception of myself."

You maybe or i maybe mixing thinks up but

Self worth and self confidence are different happy within my self but dropping my trousers in a room full of people makes me a bit worried..

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I have enough to get by

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Mine is fighting to get through!

I want it now but its taking baby steps to get me there. I'm making progress though.

Jo.Xx

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Mine is improving, it has been incredibly low but I’m at a point where I don’t give two monkeys. I know my body is powerful, I know my mind is strong, I know I’m a good person. I have my flaws, but don’t we all.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Mine is fighting to get through!

I want it now but its taking baby steps to get me there. I'm making progress though.

Jo.Xx "

Fantastic blue undies Jo. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is good now, I just lost 4 and a half stone but prior to that my self confidence was at an all time low!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It ebbs and flows but there is always enough to get me through.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Mine is improving, it has been incredibly low but I’m at a point where I don’t give two monkeys. I know my body is powerful, I know my mind is strong, I know I’m a good person. I have my flaws, but don’t we all. "

We certainly do.

We work with our positives and keep our faults to one side. Xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Mine is fighting to get through!

I want it now but its taking baby steps to get me there. I'm making progress though.

Jo.Xx

Fantastic blue undies Jo. Xx"

Awe thanks CG.

Jo.Xx

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

In most situations im confident. I present for a living and even have done some stand up comedy. I change jobs a lot - 10 in 12 years at least- and i have to quickly feel comfortable with people etc... however i am not as good one on one with anyone i fancy...i kind of dissolve a bit a d fail to flirt successfully - mostly this is down to women just not fancying me - which feeds the down spiral when it comes to my love life

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Some days... Depends on my mood really!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Mine is good now, I just lost 4 and a half stone but prior to that my self confidence was at an all time low! "

Well done you should be full of confidence with a great achievement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an abundance of it, mainly because I like me and I’m comfortable with people not liking me, unless it gets to the point that 7 billion people don’t like me then I’ll probably just carry on as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm amazing. People either agree or disagree with me and that's OK but it doesn't change my perception of myself.

You maybe or i maybe mixing thinks up but

Self worth and self confidence are different happy within my self but dropping my trousers in a room full of people makes me a bit worried.. "

If they were expecting me to drop my trousers then, yeah, I'd do it. The worst they could do is laugh or say something hurtful. So what. I don't care what they think. Have you seen the news where they interview the man or woman on the street for their view on some current news item? Most are buffoons. Opinions are like arseholes, everyone's got one and most are full of shit.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I say to myself "be bold, a faint heart never fucked a maiden", and "don't be shy, your mother wasn't".

It's difficult though but I've taught myself self reliance and self worth. Conference comes for free after that.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm rediscovering mine. I had it in abundance last year, possibly to the point of irritation for those who interact with me.

And then I sort of lost mine. I started thinking maybe I'm not worth the time and effort and others are more deserving of it because I was made to feel like that. So self doubt crept in.

Now I'm finding mine again, I'm enjoying being happier and things being easier. Self confidence is a funny one - it can definitely be affected by others if you're that way inclined. I think some people naturally always have relatively high levels of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work Hope - buckets of the stuff.

Fab Hope- no it went and I doubt it will ever come back. So other than the forums and fab female friends there is not a real reason for me to be here any longer.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I have a ridiculous amount, and some of it's real and not fake-it-til-you-make-it.

Years ago I had very little indeed, but I got to a certain age and just thought 'eff it who cares' and it's seemed to work (so far).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I ate it in lockdown "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I have no idea anymore lol.

I'm pretty narcissistic. I don't care how other people think of me "opinions are like assholes, everyones got one and they tend to stink" but I do care an awful lot, sometimes too much, about how I feel about me to the point where I'll completely avoid something. Hell, I was a pretty chubby kid and because I hated my body I wouldnt let anyone else like it. Took time but I managed to slim down, I was so hell bent on it that I was already in my 20s before I even considered having sex.

All of the confidence in the world, more than any man should have really xD until something comes up that I have decided I dont deserve and then confidence bottoms out lol

Its funny how the human psyche works. Probably a little bit of an overshare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost it completely over the last few years.

I was quite content and confident with myself them bam, I had a baby, stopped exercising, ate too much and them bam, lockdown, continued bad habits and more weight gain and most of my confidence has vanished.

O.o

I'm slowly making progress.

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By *h508Man
over a year ago

Guildford

I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

My self confidence isn't great just now, but I'm trying hard to find it again, I suspect it is buried under the weight of lockdown (and I mean the emotional weight as well as physical)

K

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud. "

No reason why you shouldn't congratulate yourself on your not inconsiderable achievements. It always sounds patronising but "well done". I'm glad it feels good to acknowledge it openly

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Do you have yours or have you lost it "

I lost mine for 20years but it has returned since I joined Fab.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

My self confidence is pretty robust currently.

I enjoy being me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took a smashing last year but its getting back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud. "

It’s a big deal, and why wouldn’t you congratulate yourself. Now the hard bit, maintaining it. I was 16st at my heaviest and am currently sitting just above 10st. I fluctuate but I’ve never been back to the 16st. Be kind to yourself and ignore people who don’t understand that.

Well done x

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By *h508Man
over a year ago

Guildford


"I’m easily the most self-confident I’ve ever been. I’ve lost nearly 3.5 stone (to the point where I need to take some new pictures!), my acne is finally clearing up, I’m starting to see some results in the gym. It just feels like things are coming together! Sounds a bit self-congratulatory, I know, but I haven’t really talked to anyone about it and it feels good to say it aloud.

It’s a big deal, and why wouldn’t you congratulate yourself. Now the hard bit, maintaining it. I was 16st at my heaviest and am currently sitting just above 10st. I fluctuate but I’ve never been back to the 16st. Be kind to yourself and ignore people who don’t understand that.

Well done x"

Yeah that’s definitely the hard bit! I lost maybe half this much a few years ago and put some of it back on. I’ve learnt a lot since then and feel much better-equipped this time. I’m not done yet either

Congrats on the 6st, that’s super impressive!

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By *adyP123Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I think I ate it in lockdown "

This is the most relatable thing I’ve read today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally bulletproof!!

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By *issMeSlowlyMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Never had it to start with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have lots of it, probably a bit too much. I’m at the age where I genuinely couldn’t give a fuck what people think of me."

This is it. The older I get the less fucks I give.

Its so liberating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had too much became humbled growing it back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had it to start with... "

Behave! Life is way tooooo short for that! you've got every reason to be confident!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had much in the first place but even less now

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I genuinely wish that everybody started liking themselves.

Forget what other people told you about yourself and make a fresh start. It does not matter what negative stuff people in the past said about you - they probably did so to make themselves feel better or to lash out at you. Forget it... absolutely time to forget those voices and make a fresh start!

Everybody deserves respect, kindness and love. Start taking your portion from the table that is your oyster.

Confidence is so healthy and so incredibly sexy. And yes, everybody is beautiful and attractive in their own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some days more. Some days less. Depends who I surround myself with too. "

I think it is human nature to be self critical. I (Senpai) have been training hard to keep sane through this last year, and am fitter than i have ever been. But i still have self doubts.

Its like Tuberose says, surround yourself, and interact with positive people and those that buoy you up. The people that drag you down, leave them, you dont need them in your life!

Then think about how others think of you, and try to be someone who buoys and supports their friends too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. Zip. Zero.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non existent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m finding it again little by little thanks to some wonderful people on here and that’s without meeting

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