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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good morning ??

How do you take time for yourself to balance your emotions or fill your low bars when you feel like the pit has opened in your chest?

Self love? Care? Reading?

I'd love and appreciate all of your tips today.

Also, if you feel the same, feel free to share your mood below.

You are never alone.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have just said this to somebody haha I am in a mood, I'm just not entirely sure which mood.

I don't really have anything that helps, not as a go to fix anyway. I mostly just try to pass the time until my mood adjusts or aligns with a more balanced and steady mood. Sometimes the activity doesn't help. Sometimes it does.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Meditation, sleep, reaching out to understanding friends, exercise, music

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey MVL - I hope you do take some you time to recharge yourself.

For me the gym really helps, it allows me to switch off from the outside world and just be - a huge relief when you are worrying about everything. Also I try to be gentle with myself and not beat myself up over everything - quite hard to do at times but important to be aware of.

I hope today turns out to be a good say for you and everyone not feeling 100%

Mr HH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give yourself a break firstly. The biggest mistake people make when they are suffering with mental health is thinking there is a quick fix, there isn't. There also isn't one thing that works for everyone, you need to find your best method of coping.

Secondly, try to manage it through self help. Mindfulness is a good option as it especially helps to understand your bodies emotions and how to control them better. Exercise is a great tool as it puts all that energy into something positive, it does wonders for the mind and body.

Thirdly, putting down your feelings on paper can also help, keep a diary but keep two. One for your negative emotions and another just for positive things only like things you are grateful for/made you happy that day. If you seperate the two, you can see the good aswell as the bad in a day. When you are depressed, you can't actually recognise feeling ok.. you only see extreme sadness so you assume happiness needs to be that too.

Finally, I'm not going to act like it's easy because it isn't. Mental health is a huge battle but each day you get through, you are already stronger than you think you are.

Hope that helps in anyway and please reach out to someone if your struggling, you don't need to suffer alone

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By *omerset1976Man
over a year ago

Burnham

I love to get on my bike, just get out there, switch off and ride some trails. Exercise, nature and some alone time.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Anxiety..definitely exercise.. weights.cardio.swim,box..yiu sleep a lot better too.

Depression is a much trickier one.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m feeling pretty low this week, it’s situational, and I know it will pass, I just try and take it easy till it passes. Last night I fell asleep watching a film after a tin of Heinz tomato soup, white bread dipped in it, my ultimate comfort food.

Hope yours passes soon OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have any remedies for low times, I just have to wait for them to pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning ??

How do you take time for yourself to balance your emotions or fill your low bars when you feel like the pit has opened in your chest?

Self love? Care? Reading?

I'd love and appreciate all of your tips today.

Also, if you feel the same, feel free to share your mood below.

You are never alone.

??"

If it’s really bad I clamp on to bitty until I’m calm and stable other than that got me orgasms really help to lift or even me out!!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of music, and trying to be as close to my friends and family as I can x

I totally get it I’m not as anxious now luckily, as I used to be riddle with it. But I do have lots of insecurities atm that bring me down.

Sometimes a good night sleep to reset helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have BPD and get hit by waves of it fairly often. Exercise is the biggest lift for me, I put on my trail shoes and go for a brisk 10km and I’m sorted for a while

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Honestly, I felt embarrassed to talk about as I felt not coping was an alien concept to me , but in the end I had to let it all out and luckily for me some wonderful friends on here were actually the ones who pulled me through.

So my advice is talk about your feelings, it doesn't make you any less of a man and may just get you through

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Talking to friends who understand and don't judge helps me, writing hoe I feel down.

My meds are working well at the moment that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression Naps- the fewer waking hours the better! I've had depression and anxiety most of my life - it recedes occasionally, but never fully goes.

If I can muster the effort, getting out into nature or high places really helps me. Exercise helps, and productive hobbies (where there's tangible evidence of the time spent, I crochet and paint) are a good boost too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cut all online contact. The roller-coaster of instant gratification and rejection is a slippery slope to more anxiety/depression.

And the rejections make you more determined to get an acceptance, which in turn leads to more rejections.... When it's bad, do yourself a favour and go out without your phone! Go anywhere without it.

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By *incscarcoupleCouple
over a year ago

GRIMSBY

If i feel that way sometimes I just need a peaceful drive stop somewhere chilled with nice view and have a cigarette,

I don't smoke anymore unless I feel like down or anxious, I just find it calms me and resets me for a while,

might not be a healthy way of dealing with things but it works for me

Sometimes even 5 mins of time clearing your mind can do a world of good! Although I understand its not as straight forward in some instances

but it does always help to try and understand that no matter how isolated you feel your never alone

A x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow, i turn away for an hour whilst supplying front line care at work and look at the level of response!

I want to thank you all deeply for the reciprocation and for sharing your empathy with me.

Coming forward to share your emotions when things are too much and you are not able to laugh into the abyss, it just tries to consume you.

I will try to reply fully during lunch.

Thank you beautiful, filthy and oh so deep humans, animals or however you identify.

There is faith in compassion, the compassion we give one another during every experience or scene.

Thank you for challenging those feelings and pushing beyond those limitations.

Thank you for being there and providing care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cut all online contact. The roller-coaster of instant gratification and rejection is a slippery slope to more anxiety/depression.

And the rejections make you more determined to get an acceptance, which in turn leads to more rejections.... When it's bad, do yourself a favour and go out without your phone! Go anywhere without it. "

This is so relevant to how coping mechanisms have tried to form over the last two months and I've noticed it, trying to catch myself before pursuing more instant gratification, which in turn leads to more emptiness.

Do you have any other tips?

Feel free to message me directly if you would prefer privacy, but it may help more that read this post. (:

Thank you for sharing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually it’s a good walk on my own that he loss me out things into perspective. It’ll either resolve itself through thinking about it. Or I’ll put a plan in my head about dealing with it. Talk to a close friend who I think will give me the best advice. Fir me that’s all I’ve ever needed. But if I was advices by a mate to seek more help I think I would listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning ??

How do you take time for yourself to balance your emotions or fill your low bars when you feel like the pit has opened in your chest?

Self love? Care? Reading?

I'd love and appreciate all of your tips today.

Also, if you feel the same, feel free to share your mood below.

You are never alone.

??"

As I said in a previous post, people close to me suffer with desperation and other mental stuff greatly. always sad to see when someone cannot appreciate the beautiful world around them fully! Start with appreciating the little things In life first, the birds chirps in the morning. They are all singing for you to lift your sprit, watch the sun rise bare footed in natural earth, drink plenty of water, take a walk down the canal, smile at the world and watch it smile back, realise you are able to do anything you choose, mental thought will manifest the world around you so keep it positive! Help others and you will help you're self, join a group you have an intrest in, cycle, run swim, allow your body to flood with natural endorphins and pump blood through your heart to your mind and let it race through your body. Read be inspired, listen to audio books or pod casts, stay away from the news and main stream media, love with every ounce of your body, be aware of your soul and subconscious thought put to rest any problems you have with people stay straight with your family find faith in something, have routine, study psychology write down your thoughts maybe even make them rhyme! Find other positive people but most of all be happy, i kmow it doesn't seem Like it but happiness is a decision we forget to make sometimes and things like medication I don't belive will help much in the grand scheme of things, as I like to say..

We was all born to suffer but The meaning of life is to be happy, because once you decide to be happy you are shitting on everybody else!

Peace love prosper my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realising the truth of “I am” removes all obstacles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Music and movement help me.

Getting into a practice of examining/identifying triggers, and the root of them can be a useful tool, when you’re feeling good.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have various music playlists that give me something for what I need, uplifting, sad etc.

I also need my sleep. And fresh air.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Please note Admins/moderators I am not condoning the use of drugs. just sharing my personal story.

I (T) like most dudes my age took a cocktail to survive of anti anxiety meds, depression ones, and sleeping tablets! till last september when a colleague got me to try edibles. (had never even tried before) and for me, life changing. within 1 week I was off all my pharmaceutical meds.. now I just get monged out every few days and it is incredible. never been happier.

again, not advocating drug use blah blah blah dont ban me.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

"Good morning ??

How do you take time for yourself to balance your emotions or fill your low bars when you feel like the pit has opened in your chest?

Self love? Care? Reading?

I'd love and appreciate all of your tips today.

Also, if you feel the same, feel free to share your mood below.

You are never alone.

??"

Definitely in a good place right now personally but such a nice post to read.

Also... Awesome name OP... have you got a winged hat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Medication … (works for me )

Mindfulness/meditation

Talking to someone who understands, I can recommend talking therapy/CBT enough. Used to be a major sceptic thought it was all hippy dippy s**t , but turns out it’s pretty good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

struggled with anxiety for years without realising what it was and only when i noticed similar traits in my son that i realised i had it (despite a friend saying she saw it in me years ago)

Personally i have it pretty bad (imo) can have sleepless nights if ive bought a xmas present and a week later its £2 cheaper, have made a ton of mistakes in the past flying off the handle after misreading things, smallest thing can set me off for weeks

now ill leave it 30mins and re-read it usually with a better outcome, ill explain things to the missus and she can reel me back in if it gets particulary bad

Depression wise, 99% of the tile it feels like whats the point, why go to the gym as still be an uglier f’er, why do any work on the house as itll still look shit, constantly tell the wife she can do way better than me and shes free to move on if she wishes, during lockdown its hit me that bit harder, hit 40 which was due to be trip to japan with mates, big birthday party (which i really needed, just too see if people actually cared) and of course no chance of it happening

in reality, i just put it too one side, kids come 1st and as long as there happy and healthy then life is not bad at all, i feel pretty good at the moment and have done jobs round the house ive been planning for 10years

stay strong people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise helps me (even if just for the moment I'm doing it) but I don't do it regularly or only when I feel like it. Reading helps me relax and take my mind off things. And even the Fab forums can boost my mood a bit.

At the moment I'd say I was low level depressed after having a minor crisis this week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning ??

How do you take time for yourself to balance your emotions or fill your low bars when you feel like the pit has opened in your chest?

Self love? Care? Reading?

I'd love and appreciate all of your tips today.

Also, if you feel the same, feel free to share your mood below.

You are never alone.

??"

Mindfulness and medication were and are a winning combo for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently times have been tough on us all. I’m very head strong and never experienced any anxiety/depression etc. Then lockdown hit. Not seeing my friends was a massive blow, I realised been there for them and feeding off knowing I was appreciated all vanished as we were all kept apart due to lock down.

To be honest, I struggled, 5 months off work and finally I’m on the up. Started back at work this week, friends are all reunited and damn, I appreciate that more than ever. I know now this can happen to anyone and it’s not obvious to spot as I hide it from myself.

Chin up everyone. Talking always helps and no judgment felt. One way or another, we have all took a blow. Let’s get back to living again, hopefully England will help out by “bringing it home”.

Love to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Health issues for while now have me up & down like a roller coaster, anxiety & a degree of depression too! A lot to do with waiting for consultations, etc, doesn't help either!

I try to keep looking on the positive side, I know there's people far worse off than I am. Also tend to the garden & get in the fresh air, I find that helps. As well I do arty stuff, meditation, music & reading. Pretty much things that distract I guess.

Yes I have some meds & yep I enjoy a drink but not excessively, if I still had certain contacts I'd probably have a small smoke as well, again within reason.

Most comforting thing I've found is Furraphy! A cuddle with a cat or dog I find very relieving & always come away feeling good!

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