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By *cot611 OP   Man
over a year ago

carterton

Might be a stupid thought but here goes. If you've gone to the bother of writing sentences in the queens English language. Included humour and excluded penis portraits. Put the code word in the subject and more or less won a Nobel peace prise for literature for the message content. Then attach a new photo to the message.....

Is there anything else you can do to try and prevent your message and effort and will to live slipping through the message system, something that could let the recipient know that it's not spam a cock pic or a mass copied lazy attempt.

Thanks in advance for your help beautiful swingers.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If you find the answer can you make the rest of us aware please

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those things are only important, once attraction is established... So no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes just don’t look at any first message with a pic attached to it as I do

Your profile pics should be anuff for me to just glance and your profile and see if I want to message you back if I want to see more I will ask easy filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scrap the lot of it, blow up your inbox and just be dashing and clever on the forum instead

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Truthfully? All of the above is irrelevant if the message doesn't pique the recipients interest and/or the recipient doesn't find you desirable unfortunately....sucks, but that's the way it is.

Hopefully you're actually tailoring your mails to the profiles you're sending them to? But even then, the above still applies

Best thing you can do, is send it, and forget about it. And keep plugging away, if you're being interesting and respectful then one day you'll get a bite, but until then it is really out of your hands. As long as your profile is up to scratch (see numerous threads on profile advice) then it is literally a patience and thick skin game....all the good spelling and humour in the world will rarely work unless YOU appeal to the profile you're sending to

Best of luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a flip of a coin .

If they having a bad day you could write the best ever message.

It ain't getting through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. By being what the recipient is actually looking for.

Not being funny OP, but regardless of how much time and effort and how well crafted your message is, the recipient is going to check out your profile before even thinking if reading it.

If on doing so they figure you're not what they're looking for, dislike something in your bio or your status or simply don't fancy you, there's nothing much you can do about it.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

In a word....no

Sorry

Jo xx

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

If they are not visually pleased by the photos you have, no message will go past the filter, no matter how much time and effort you spend writing it.

Brutal, but true.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The only other thing you can do OP is accept that it *may* get a reply or it *may* not - if it does, then great, if it doesn't then take it on the chin gracefully.

There are no guarantees on here regardless of your gender - ultimately as others have said you could write the most eloquently worded message and be George Clooney's doppelganger and still not get a reply - if the recipient doesn't find you attractive then they don't find you attractive - it really is that simple.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No, but you might get a "cute, but not for me" if it's particularly well thought out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might be a stupid thought but here goes. If you've gone to the bother of writing sentences in the queens English language. Included humour and excluded penis portraits. Put the code word in the subject and more or less won a Nobel peace prise for literature for the message content. Then attach a new photo to the message.....

Is there anything else you can do to try and prevent your message and effort and will to live slipping through the message system, something that could let the recipient know that it's not spam a cock pic or a mass copied lazy attempt.

Thanks in advance for your help beautiful swingers."

No

Missy x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Meet people, go to clubs.

Anybody can be what they want on the forums, a figment of unfulfilled wants.

Face to face there is no pretence, just people who want to explore their fantasy.

Everybody has the right to dream, we prefer those who want to make them real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might be a stupid thought but here goes. If you've gone to the bother of writing sentences in the queens English language. Included humour and excluded penis portraits. Put the code word in the subject and more or less won a Nobel peace prise for literature for the message content. Then attach a new photo to the message.....

Is there anything else you can do to try and prevent your message and effort and will to live slipping through the message system, something that could let the recipient know that it's not spam a cock pic or a mass copied lazy attempt.

Thanks in advance for your help beautiful swingers."

… … …

Women don’t know what the photo attachment is before opening a message so I would say don’t attach any photos to a message - there’s little point anyway as your face and dick are on public show anyway.

There’s a typo in your profile

You say what you like to do sexually (basically everything) but don’t say anything about what you are looking for in terms of age, shape, etc

If your profile is too generic then it will not register with your ideal women - same as any marketing for businesses to be honest

Keep your messages specific to your location unless there’s a good reason not too. Anyone who messages me from an unrealistic distance is a fast delete with their message unread

- Feisty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and join groups / clubs. I've made friends in real life who ignored my message but once you meet it's so much easier.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Well I’m thinking you can always carry cake.

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