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Social first? Or chica chica

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So when you arrange to see that person is it all about the social 1st? I've always said I would prefer social before any cheeky cheeky happens I always prefer to have someone 1 I feel compatible with I know that may sound a little bit stupid but that's just the way I am I can't go put my willy in a woman that I don't physically like

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Definitely a social first, but social meets sometimes turn into more if the chemistry is there.

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

Social, certainly

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

Its whatever you want it to be, I've had a social walking to our hotel on a first meet, I knew as soon as we hello kissed I wanted to get in his boxers, there are no rules just preferences

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Social. Always. No exceptions for me

(Well except the one time but that’s all!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAF message and 5 minutes later balls deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chica chica

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Always a social first.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"chica chica "

You keep your hands to yourself.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

If I'm doing myself up we may as well

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By *randMrsCambridgeCouple
over a year ago

Stansted (Herts/Essex)

Single women - it is up to them (they are in control unless they don’t want to be)

Couples - separate social then arrange a play

Single men - a separate social with Mr C only

(pick the bones out of that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like a social first but have had meets at short notice.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We like a social first. If it leads to more then it’s a bonus

J x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Social first always. Sometimes a social has turned into more but it's rare that happens.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Always a social first, which will sometimes only be that but will occasionally lead on to organising another meet for more.

Only exception to that is in a club or party situation.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Social first ideally, but we have had some first meets that were straight into play.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Social first, but if that leads to play all well and good, always best to go in with no expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social without exception. I have no interest in having sex with strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face time, social, jigi jigi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight into the business end. I don't want a social to put me off having sex with them.

Don't hate, it's just a joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Always prefer spending some time socially with someone before anything else, regardless of it being a first meet or something more regular - aside from the obvious reason, I find it a bit too clinical when it's just sex.

That said I have had meets that are a "social with a view to more" where we're pretty sure it will go further and have a room booked on the express understanding that if either of us has any doubts the lady keeps the room and I come home.

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By *lessedXXXWoman
over a year ago

“I never meet”

3 socials

First just a social nothing more

Second social kissing etc

Third is a social and then get down to do the deed

No social means no sex it’s that simple

I need to get to know someone and make a connection with them before I jump between the sheets with them

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"So when you arrange to see that person is it all about the social 1st? I've always said I would prefer social before any cheeky cheeky happens I always prefer to have someone 1 I feel compatible with I know that may sound a little bit stupid but that's just the way I am I can't go put my willy in a woman that I don't physically like "

Happy with either. Most common experiences tend to be social then meet.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Social first, but if the chemistry is there I'm open to going further

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Question - if a social is held and I walk out of the meeting place and straight back in, does that count as a second meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm young I'm free blow caution to the wind, none of my meets have been social, but have had socials days after we fucked etc.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Social 1st ...its tells u a lot about a person wen ur face 2 face witch leads 2 a more intimate 2nd date x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social first. Always careful being a female alone. Plus a social could lead to a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think saying you social first and acting like anything other then that is derogatory or distasteful is low-key slut shaming and puts other people off been honest and saying yeah I get straight to the fuck and ride the Polony pony like a rabbit cowgirl on a packet of pro plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the meet, if I'm comfortable with the person I'm happy to have the social in the hotel room. Easy access to the bed if things progress that way.. worked for me so far!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think saying you social first and acting like anything other then that is derogatory or distasteful is low-key slut shaming and puts other people off been honest and saying yeah I get straight to the fuck and ride the Polony pony like a rabbit cowgirl on a packet of pro plus

"

I don’t see anyone that has inferred that on this thread. Where did that come from?

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I like to arrange a social first but I’m always open to that becoming more if I’m comfortable with the guy I’ve met. I’ve usually chatted here then WhatsApp first anyway as I can’t meet instantly so have a good feeling before I’ve agreed to the social meet

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Social for an hour or so, then Let's get ready to rumble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think saying you social first and acting like anything other then that is derogatory or distasteful is low-key slut shaming and puts other people off been honest and saying yeah I get straight to the fuck and ride the Polony pony like a rabbit cowgirl on a packet of pro plus

I don’t see anyone that has inferred that on this thread. Where did that come from?"

No one really or I'd of likely straight posted a reply to the said post, just something I could see happening easily, as there was a post about slut shaming yesterday or the day before. Don't mind me

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I have no set rules regarding social/play, I've always taken each person and set of circumstances individually...the one constant is a mutual understanding that if either of us aren't 100% happy then we say so and go our separate ways.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Social first for us always

It's hard to gage four way attraction until you meet and chat face to face.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

L

Social always for me first without any expectations from either side x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I arranged all my meets as straight down to business. We had pretty much worked out if we fancied each other beforehand with messages and pictures. And obviously, either was free to scream and run away upon meeting, but it was a straight up to the room type of affair. Feels really bizarre looking back on it now, but fun.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We always have a social first.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Always a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bow Bow….

To be fair, it just depends on the situation, I’ve ended up hooking up same night with people who I haven’t intentionally been meeting for that.

So either or

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, doesn’t mean more won’t happen that night though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting my ladybird book on HTML out. It's time to create: FAB SOCIALS

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Social first, doesn’t mean more won’t happen that night though "

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Social first. Wont stop us playing a few hours later though.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Always a social first."

Lorraine! Would you make them fly back the following week . So mean! Haha x

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