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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton

Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

"

Are you asking us how to ask for consent?

Just ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One in the cunny, one in the bum (using her own love juice). Just do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get them in there fella!

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Don’t let her catch you smelling them afterwards

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Just feed the horse and slip one in there when lubricated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do it to her just be prepared to have it done back to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her. Consent and communication is always key.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I cant see how your fucked her and not had fingers in first lol

Must have been a very quick meet

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

And some guys try to do it by mistake.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I cant see how your fucked her and not had fingers in first lol

Must have been a very quick meet "

I thought that but I think perhaps he’s talking about fingers up the bum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know one thing about women it’s they love sex to be called ‘conventional intercourse’, really gets their juices flowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Let's just pop the extractor fan on, get a through draught going."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's let you put your dick in her, I'd be fairly certain she's up for a finger or two! She's pretty wondering why you haven't done out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she's let you put your dick in her, I'd be fairly certain she's up for a finger or two! She's pretty wondering why you haven't done out lol"

*Done it

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London


"If you do it to her just be prepared to have it done back to you! "
he may like it

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Next time you are with her and in the throws of passion, softly whisper in her ear “you up for a finger blasting?”

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By *night_in_rusty_armourMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

If your talking about anal fingering then chat to her about it don't just go ahead and do it, if she doesn't like or want that then you WILL know about it. Be respectful.

If your talking about vaginal fingering then stimulating her clit will get her wet, then you could run your finger around just inside and see how she reacts....if she enjoys it then slip it in further....and don't forget that G spot

Ultimately communication is best.

Good luck buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

"

How is it possible to have had oral and inserted your penis without having put your finger in ? I would have th6if she doesn't mind your tongue in her thfn a finger would be ni problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where are you getting these urges. During actual sex, sitting on a sofa watching tv, doing the washing up? Timing is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

"

If you go straight in with the fist then it’ll distract her from the finger situation and you can completely bypass the awkward conversation if she didn’t want fingering… you’re welcome

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Make sure your nails are trimmed and no sharp edges.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've never had one man ask if he can put his fingers inside me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask for consent go slow take things at her pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

How is it possible to have had oral and inserted your penis without having put your finger in ? I would have th6if she doesn't mind your tongue in her thfn a finger would be ni problem "

Go in nice and slow clip your nails keep your hands clean incase she wants to taste the juices, or suck the fingers before they go in. Bite her lips,kiss her kneck, nipple her lobs and wisper in her ear. Roll your fingers in circles to get the circulation going along the roof of the vagina, and do a come here motion from front to back, listen and pay attention to movements and ques from her, as all vaginas are different and what works for one may not work for the other. If your struggling to find the sweet spot whilst your fingers are in use the other hand to push down slightly on the pubic area (not the bladder) Don't forget to also pay attention to the clit gently flick squeeze stroke slap and suck till it looks like ita going to grow its own penis , once your running out of room in there and she's swelling up instead of in out come here motions go from up to down with a good curl in your fingers if she's aroused properly you should be able to fit three fingers in no issues. Once she's squelching give it some beans you should be able to feel presure I'n there, then put your cock in and it moves to fucking antitque

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South


"Next time you are with her and in the throws of passion, softly whisper in her ear “you up for a finger blasting?” "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i think I understood this thread wrong hahabaha!

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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"If she's let you put your dick in her, I'd be fairly certain she's up for a finger or two! She's pretty wondering why you haven't done out lol"

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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

How is it possible to have had oral and inserted your penis without having put your finger in ? I would have th6if she doesn't mind your tongue in her thfn a finger would be ni problem

Go in nice and slow clip your nails keep your hands clean incase she wants to taste the juices, or suck the fingers before they go in. Bite her lips,kiss her kneck, nipple her lobs and wisper in her ear. Roll your fingers in circles to get the circulation going along the roof of the vagina, and do a come here motion from front to back, listen and pay attention to movements and ques from her, as all vaginas are different and what works for one may not work for the other. If your struggling to find the sweet spot whilst your fingers are in use the other hand to push down slightly on the pubic area (not the bladder) Don't forget to also pay attention to the clit gently flick squeeze stroke slap and suck till it looks like ita going to grow its own penis , once your running out of room in there and she's swelling up instead of in out come here motions go from up to down with a good curl in your fingers if she's aroused properly you should be able to fit three fingers in no issues. Once she's squelching give it some beans you should be able to feel presure I'n there, then put your cock in and it moves to fucking antitque "
wow... superb reply thanks for taking the time

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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"Where are you getting these urges. During actual sex, sitting on a sofa watching tv, doing the washing up? Timing is important "
ha ha.... you been spying on me ?

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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"If your talking about anal fingering then chat to her about it don't just go ahead and do it, if she doesn't like or want that then you WILL know about it. Be respectful.

If your talking about vaginal fingering then stimulating her clit will get her wet, then you could run your finger around just inside and see how she reacts....if she enjoys it then slip it in further....and don't forget that G spot

Ultimately communication is best.

Good luck buddy "

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Whatever you do, wash your hands and lick your finger(s) before going in!

My experience is that these are basics that not many men know to follow.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"If I know one thing about women it’s they love sex to be called ‘conventional intercourse’, really gets their juices flowing.

"

Please don't! When you say it I get a knee trembler........

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Whatever you do, wash your hands and lick your finger(s) before going in!

My experience is that these are basics that not many men know to follow."

I don't want spit up me foof......

Can't he go in and THEN lick his fingers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just finger blast her!

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Whatever you do, wash your hands and lick your finger(s) before going in!

My experience is that these are basics that not many men know to follow.

I don't want spit up me foof......

Can't he go in and THEN lick his fingers ?"

But surely not a dry, salty finger either?

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"If you do it to her just be prepared to have it done back to you! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just finger blast her! "

You primal thing you

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By *unny and HimCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"If I know one thing about women it’s they love sex to be called ‘conventional intercourse’, really gets their juices flowing.

"

Do you like me doing that? Shall I do it more quickly or shall I maintain the same speed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just finger blast her!

You primal thing you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I being fingered. Can’t you just linger around the knicker area and see if she swats you away? If she lets you go inside her knickers then maybe she wants to be touched there?

Obviously assuming you’re getting hot n heavy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Finger Removed by poster at 28/06/21 20:10:05]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m baffled how you had sex but haven’t fingered her, how did you prime her up first ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Finger Removed by poster at 28/06/21 20:10:05]"

I double posted you handsome bugger.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I only know one thing in life for certain it's that you will never find out what someone is thinking by asking people who've never met them.

Ask her op, speak to her and listen to her answer. For many women a man who talks to and listens to them is a huge aphrodisiac

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

There was a time, not too long ago, when fingering in the back row of the cinema was the only sex you were likely to get this side of the wedding night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Finger Removed by poster at 28/06/21 20:10:05]

I posted you my handsome burger. "

Can’t wait

Did you get a tracking number?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where are you getting these urges. During actual sex, sitting on a sofa watching tv, doing the washing up? Timing is important "

Exactly - fingering is great as part of play but I hate it when someone just sticks their fingers in without a build up and a long kiss first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where are you getting these urges. During actual sex, sitting on a sofa watching tv, doing the washing up? Timing is important

Exactly - fingering is great as part of play but I hate it when someone just sticks their fingers in without a build up and a long kiss first."

I agree.

I’m also partial to a five guys beforehand as well please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I being fingered. Can’t you just linger around the knicker area and see if she swats you away? If she lets you go inside her knickers then maybe she wants to be touched there?

Obviously assuming you’re getting hot n heavy. "

Haha you got good practice in swatting away prying certain tattooists hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I being fingered. Can’t you just linger around the knicker area and see if she swats you away? If she lets you go inside her knickers then maybe she wants to be touched there?

Obviously assuming you’re getting hot n heavy.

Haha you got good practice in swatting away prying certain tattooists hands "

Yeah but I wanted him to go inside but I couldn’t trust myself!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Hey guys,

Been fooling around with lady.

For my part I,m kinda keen on her.

Done conventional intercourse, and mutual oral things.

How ever keep having urge to insert fingers,but restraining myself?

As if I,m waiting for a invitation or maybe fear of being told off. Have hinted and been given no clear indication if would be received well.

Be mortified if lady is yearning me to but to reserved to say.

Bit awkward.

"

How did you make it to 41 , I’m genuinely confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awh allow it

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Op, where are you wanting to insert fingers?

Nose? Mouth? Ears? "Bum hoolio"? You don't seem able to communicate it to us let alone her?

I would think outside the box (sorry pun not intended!)

How about asking your gorgeous gal whether she has a "sexual bucket list". You never know it may pop up on hers.

If it doesn't pop up on hers, she's bound to ask you what's on your's...

You could also add if she thinks it's a bit pervy then she doesn't have to do it or feel any pressure to. Both bases covered.

Fuck me I've become Dear Dierdrie (if only I had the boobs to play with... Mork from Orc - Over & Out)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get her a kit kat and ask her does she prefer chinky or fingers and how many...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I know one thing about women it’s they love sex to be called ‘conventional intercourse’, really gets their juices flowing.

"

Sounds like a Partridge line ….. classic conventional intercourse …. Textbook stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear lady, wouldst thou mindeth if a placed a digit in your lady garden whilst we frolick this evening?

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