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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Nope, should I?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don’t feel excluded, I just don’t know many people as I haven’t been here long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope, should I? "
think u kinda of missed the meaning of the question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

Wouldn’t say excluded but I’ve only recently come here and I’m guessing people have been chatting a while so most likely takes a minute to build connections etc

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Definitely not, it can get a bit hectic at times

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Wouldn't go as far as excluded. The regulars definitely have a rapport. I was more regular before and coming back it is like starting all over again.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

When lots of regular posters reply mainly to each other, it can feel like you are being excluded.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

All the forums are open to all. You just have to dive in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only just started looking at the forums. What am I missing?

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands


"Nope, should I? think u kinda of missed the meaning of the question!"

The question sounds like you think the lounge is very exclusive rather than inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely not, it can get a bit hectic at times"
I think u well known on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When lots of regular posters reply mainly to each other, it can feel like you are being excluded."
this

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't use the forums to feel like one of the crowd.

I flit from thread to thread and post if I can be bothered.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Nope, should I? think u kinda of missed the meaning of the question!"

No I fully understand I was being sarcastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I post what I have to say on the matter at hand and if people what to talk they talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like a group of people who meet at a bar, the ones that know each other do chat to each other, it’s human nature, and as other people arrive into the group and get chatting, then they are more known too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope, should I? think u kinda of missed the meaning of the question!

No I fully understand I was being sarcastic! "
I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't feel this way. But I guess it's like any social group, you have to put a bit of time in at first if people don't know you, then you build rapport with people and you start to understand the dynamic between others also.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It can feel like that at times, especially if you’re used to other SM platforms where there are likes for comments, etc.

It can be hard to remember that just because you’ve not been replied to, that your post has been read and digested by others.

I’m a fairly regular poster but even on a good day, from 30 odd posts, I might only get replies to a couple of comments.

Just keep posting and you’ll get to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you feel excluded OP?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I just join in anyway

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By *ung fun walesMan
over a year ago

up the road

The lounge is like walking in to any room full of strangers, mix and mingle and one by one the strangers get to know you a bit more soon there aren't many strangers in the room,

But walk in sit in the corner and avoid talking then the room will always be full of strangers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you feel excluded OP?"
yes lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I don't feel this way. But I guess it's like any social group, you have to put a bit of time in at first if people don't know you, then you build rapport with people and you start to understand the dynamic between others also. "
so what happens if u join in and get ignored..smacks exclusive

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

Sometimes but I don’t think it’s intended, just the way threads go. Some posters know each well so understandable if you get skipped in thread.

I don’t post as much as I used to so I can only blame myself really.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I tend to push my way in. Like it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you feel excluded OP?yes lol "

That’s quite sad - very nice to meet you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the forums are open to all. You just have to dive in

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I have

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By *ittle-Miss-Cunty-1Woman
over a year ago

Your basement, Cuntsville

I join in on some of the threads, it's what you make it, I've not been on them long, but when I have took part, 99% of the time someone has replied back to me and if they don't then it won't stop me speaking on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When lots of regular posters reply mainly to each other, it can feel like you are being excluded."

They're just scared, so squeeze in together

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Not at all. There are small pockets of friends on here that have fast threads that is hard to keep up with, but generally on most threads people will reply to a question, but not necessarily comment on a comment that is made on the thread

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By *ung fun walesMan
over a year ago

up the road


"Do you feel excluded OP?yes lol "

Hi op hope your enjoying getting to know us all a little , we all need to step on the floor sometimes and let others get to know us .

Just remember nearly everyone knew hardly anyone here before they spent the time getting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the forums are open to all. You just have to dive in

I have "

You can always talk to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

I belive its known as the fab cliche

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

Some one listed you as there fab crush in the lounge, thread fab crushes. You can't be that excluded!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post a lot of sarcastic/funny comments, I’ve found it’s helped hugely with not being spoken to even more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it will always be harder for a man.

thats just the reality of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When lots of regular posters reply mainly to each other, it can feel like you are being excluded."

Agree with this. It can be hard to get noticed and easily overlooked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with any forum, you'll notice there are regular posters that are familiar with others, they get to recognise one another's posting ways, who to have a joke with, who's up for a flirt and who likes to ruffle feathers, etc etc etc

Like in real life, in a bar, people tend too mix better and more with those they're already familiar with.

Don't take it personal.

I think they can forget at times that a forum is open to all, and all should be welcomed, that they too were once new here.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

The more you post, the more you'll feel included, as long as it's not derisive stuff

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It can be hard to get a proper feel for the place, took me ages to make friends and feel comfortable. But now I leave for 6 months at a time and come back and it’s loads of new faces and we start again. It’s fun once you get settled keep posting x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Easiest way to deal with OP is to just join in, post what you want to say, reply to others comments. The most important though is don’t expect a response.

The more you post the more you become a face people remember. We were all new one point in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I post a lot of sarcastic/funny comments, I’ve found it’s helped hugely with not being spoken to even more lol "

Exhibit A)

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Shhh, the Clique™ might hear you

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shhh, the Clique™ might hear you

LvM"

I'm very noticeable

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

Not this old chestnut again!

There are frequent forum posters, that seem to be on here all day, every day, there's a lot of familiarity between them, but most of them are pretty good eggs

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Between wisbech & Kings lynn

Not at all. I post regularly, sometimes it gets a response other times not but an active presence will always help as people recognise you more and more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only!

Not this old chestnut again!

There are frequent forum posters, that seem to be on here all day, every day, there's a lot of familiarity between them, but most of them are pretty good eggs "
all day every day..jeez sad

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. "
I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered "

And now - they luv our sexy asses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. "

Works for me too dude!

As a few have pointed out OP, many many comments through a thread go unreplied to, it's not that they're ignored.

I've only been back a couple of weeks and I'd say 90% of my comments don't get a reply, doesn't mean I'm not being included, I'm including myself by adding a comment.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It's tough to have a conversation on the forum, because there are a lot of people who have known each other a long time and have a friendship that means they naturally respond to each other's posts first, and the layout doesn't lend itself to every post getting some sort of response.

I dip in and out of here, I'm not a regular in here or particularly well known. I'd guess a good 95% of my comments elicit no response at all. Am I being excluded? Dunno, and can't bring myself to worry about it!

My advice, for what it's worth: if you've something to say then just say it. Dont worry about whether people respond to it or not, because it'll be read even if nobody comments.

If someone interests you and you'd like a conversation with them send them a message (accepting that it's like any message, there's a possibility it'll just be deleted). I've had some great conversations prompted by forum posts, but they've not taken place in the forum.

Don't be disheartened

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"The lounge is like walking in to any room full of strangers, mix and mingle and one by one the strangers get to know you a bit more soon there aren't many strangers in the room,

But walk in sit in the corner and avoid talking then the room will always be full of strangers "

I always (been on here for about 14 yrs) treat it like a pub, you can sit on a back seat and listen, or jump in and post random inane drivel, like I do

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. "
your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I don't feel this way. But I guess it's like any social group, you have to put a bit of time in at first if people don't know you, then you build rapport with people and you start to understand the dynamic between others also.

so what happens if u join in and get ignored..smacks exclusive "

I don't always get replies to my comments, but that doesn't mean they weren't read. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Just keep posting, over time people get to know you, then more people will reply. But it's not all about the replies!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

No, I just behave like a panda - eats shoots and leaves.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol"

Excuse me - I've seen you get compliments left, right and centre. Fair play to you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only!

Not this old chestnut again!

There are frequent forum posters, that seem to be on here all day, every day, there's a lot of familiarity between them, but most of them are pretty good eggs all day every day..jeez sad "

I wonder why people aren't being inclusive.... You seem wonderful and totally non judgy

I have been on these forums for well over 12 years now. They ebb and flow in terms of regular posters and flirtations between certain people.

Some times even I get ignored!

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol

Excuse me - I've seen you get compliments left, right and centre. Fair play to you. "
that's not me that's the suits and the Braces, lol, your the open book pal, so fair play to you, and your sexy ass,

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not.

Works for me too dude!

As a few have pointed out OP, many many comments through a thread go unreplied to, it's not that they're ignored.

I've only been back a couple of weeks and I'd say 90% of my comments don't get a reply, doesn't mean I'm not being included, I'm including myself by adding a comment."

I've had this said to me before.

.

Everyone can't be replied to all the time.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol

Excuse me - I've seen you get compliments left, right and centre. Fair play to you. that's not me that's the suits and the Braces, lol, your the open book pal, so fair play to you, and your sexy ass, "

We work with what we have.

Fortunately - i have my 'buns of steel'. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still looking for my first reply and quote. It’s tough sometimes, after a year of texting into the void without so much of a ‘This ’ Hopefully someday, but till then I will keep sending my pearls of wisdom through the ether, in the hope that one day, it may touch someone’s soul enough for a reply, until then I will plough a lonely furrow. But, I must stay strong and resist the urge to text in swingers chat, or heaven forbid the virus forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I don't feel this way. But I guess it's like any social group, you have to put a bit of time in at first if people don't know you, then you build rapport with people and you start to understand the dynamic between others also. Kitty you are one sexy lady ok..u don't need to rely on replies to total shit lounge topics..your pics are alone enough to get attention..Happy fabbing sexy lady

so what happens if u join in and get ignored..smacks exclusive

I don't always get replies to my comments, but that doesn't mean they weren't read. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Just keep posting, over time people get to know you, then more people will reply. But it's not all about the replies!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m still looking for my first reply and quote. It’s tough sometimes, after a year of texting into the void without so much of a ‘This ’ Hopefully someday, but till then I will keep sending my pearls of wisdom through the ether, in the hope that one day, it may touch someone’s soul enough for a reply, until then I will plough a lonely furrow. But, I must stay strong and resist the urge to text in swingers chat, or heaven forbid the virus forum. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m still looking for my first reply and quote. It’s tough sometimes, after a year of texting into the void without so much of a ‘This ’ Hopefully someday, but till then I will keep sending my pearls of wisdom through the ether, in the hope that one day, it may touch someone’s soul enough for a reply, until then I will plough a lonely furrow. But, I must stay strong and resist the urge to text in swingers chat, or heaven forbid the virus forum.

This "

Finally, see fellas, patience is key.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I’m still looking for my first reply and quote. It’s tough sometimes, after a year of texting into the void without so much of a ‘This ’ Hopefully someday, but till then I will keep sending my pearls of wisdom through the ether, in the hope that one day, it may touch someone’s soul enough for a reply, until then I will plough a lonely furrow. But, I must stay strong and resist the urge to text in swingers chat, or heaven forbid the virus forum.

This

Finally, see fellas, patience is key. "

And a virtue.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

When I start a thread here (which is rare) I try reply to all who reply or interact to the original Question or statement, but I don't jump in between 2 or a few people having a back and fro on the topic, I suppose on threads this could be seen as regulars freezing others out, but usually these heads know each other years on here and the replies come hard and fast so they miss others interaction, I wouldn't say (for the most part) it's intended.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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" My advice, for what it's worth: if you've something to say then just say it. Dont worry about whether people respond to it or not, because it'll be read even if nobody comments.

"

Brilliant advice. Post because you want to.

Do I think the forums could be more friendly? Sure.

Is it a bit, well... not cliquey but difficult to break into? It can be.

Do I think newbies could perhaps be more involved/interesting to engage with? Yes.

Do I receive a reply to everything I post? No, not by a long shot. No one on here does.

I don't think that pitching forum users as being this evil entity necessarily warms users to a poster (not saying you've done that OP).

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol

Excuse me - I've seen you get compliments left, right and centre. Fair play to you. that's not me that's the suits and the Braces, lol, your the open book pal, so fair play to you, and your sexy ass,

We work with what we have.

Fortunately - i have my 'buns of steel'. Lol"
I have my gingerness and braces, I'm now thinking of getting ginger braces,, ohhh that might blow the place right up

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"When I start a thread here (which is rare) I try reply to all who reply or interact to the original Question or statement, but I don't jump in between 2 or a few people having a back and fro on the topic, I suppose on threads this could be seen as regulars freezing others out, but usually these heads know each other years on here and the replies come hard and fast so they miss others interaction, I wouldn't say (for the most part) it's intended. "
not intended

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to push my way in. Like it or not. I with CGent on this 1.

And as the saying goes, Fffk em if they are bothered

And now - they luv our sexy asses. your ass good Sir, my accent and Gingerness lol

Excuse me - I've seen you get compliments left, right and centre. Fair play to you. that's not me that's the suits and the Braces, lol, your the open book pal, so fair play to you, and your sexy ass,

We work with what we have.

Fortunately - i have my 'buns of steel'. Lol I have my gingerness and braces, I'm now thinking of getting ginger braces,, ohhh that might blow the place right up "

Or blow the ladys' minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive. "

Not even a bacon butty? Disgraceful.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Easiest way to deal with OP is to just join in, post what you want to say, reply to others comments. The most important though is don’t expect a response.

The more you post the more you become a face people remember. We were all new one point in time. "

Spot on.

If you've got owt to say, say it.

I post mainly to amuse myself. Sometimes other people get it, sometimes they don't.

That's ok by me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I feel invisible. I could leave tomorrow and nobody would notice and nobody would care.

I am not a vital component of Fab. I’m just part of the furniture.

This isn’t unwanted invisibility though, it’s how I like it. Quietly observing, dipping in and out with no pressure to entertain.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I’m still looking for my first reply and quote. It’s tough sometimes, after a year of texting into the void without so much of a ‘This ’ Hopefully someday, but till then I will keep sending my pearls of wisdom through the ether, in the hope that one day, it may touch someone’s soul enough for a reply, until then I will plough a lonely furrow. But, I must stay strong and resist the urge to text in swingers chat, or heaven forbid the virus forum. "

He vents his anger in the Politics Forum ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel invisible. I could leave tomorrow and nobody would notice and nobody would care.

I am not a vital component of Fab. I’m just part of the furniture.

This isn’t unwanted invisibility though, it’s how I like it. Quietly observing, dipping in and out with no pressure to entertain.

"

I’d notice, I’m a fan of your understated work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive.

Not even a bacon butty? Disgraceful. "

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel invisible. I could leave tomorrow and nobody would notice and nobody would care.

I am not a vital component of Fab. I’m just part of the furniture.

This isn’t unwanted invisibility though, it’s how I like it. Quietly observing, dipping in and out with no pressure to entertain.

I’d notice, I’m a fan of your understated work! "

Me too!

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I’m mainly a lurker but have started commenting recently, not too fussed if anyone notices me, it kills a bit of time if I feel like adding to a thread

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me "

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me "

This . I forget I’ve commented half the time!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I’m mainly a lurker but have started commenting recently, not too fussed if anyone notices me, it kills a bit of time if I feel like adding to a thread "
the multi coloured hair profile pic does catch the eye.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive.

Not even a bacon butty? Disgraceful.

Never "

Extra bacon for you then.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though "

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

It's like any community. You feel like an outsider at first, don't know anyone, don't quite get the in jokes. Then you either ease your way in gradually or you choose to stay out.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think if you are the kind of person who is very sensitive to how others perceive you or if you are not in a good place mentally, these forums can be a bit of a nightmare.

Post because you want to and don't even look to see if anyone has responded to you. Eventually you will get to know people and start to be included more.

It is not any kind of judgement on you as a person - noone knows you enough to have formed any sort of opinion of you.

Every now and then a troll comes along. Report them but do not feed them.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM


"I’m mainly a lurker but have started commenting recently, not too fussed if anyone notices me, it kills a bit of time if I feel like adding to a thread the multi coloured hair profile pic does catch the eye. "

That should be changed now really… I’m a blonde again now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still feel I’m a thread killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here a few years on and off. Don’t considered it exclusive or necessarily inclusive. The archaic shot show that passes for forum software does not help as the quoting system and lack of ‘modern’ tools make it hard sometimes to follow who’s reply or reacting to what.

I’m sure like any social ‘club’ there are cliques and those that know each other better than most. And there is most certainly a high degree of angst and sycophancy coming from various and differing quarters. (Those angry at no meets or desperate to ‘impress). But can’t say that there’s necessarily an exclusive vibe. I think on the whole it is quite welcoming to newomers - at least those who are respectful and show some Decorum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you feel excluded OP?yes lol "

See perceptions are weird. I had the idea you must have been here before me (I'm only a veteran of a few weeks so basically still newb status) and had the idea you were part of the furniture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still feel I’m a thread killer "

So long as you're not a serial killer you will do alright

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if you are the kind of person who is very sensitive to how others perceive you or if you are not in a good place mentally, these forums can be a bit of a nightmare.

Post because you want to and don't even look to see if anyone has responded to you. Eventually you will get to know people and start to be included more.

It is not any kind of judgement on you as a person - noone knows you enough to have formed any sort of opinion of you.

Every now and then a troll comes along. Report them but do not feed them.

"
thanks for reply ..im in a good place though clearly don't belong on forums..its ok ..i won't bother again..I just lurk and smirk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still feel I’m a thread killer

So long as you're not a serial killer you will do alright "
no chance of that I couldn’t do the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people "
and get ignored again lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments "

It doesn't have to be a thread where you have to reply to everyone individually, just let everyone join in and let it go with the flow. Sometimes I don't log in for a couple of days, then things have moved on

I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol "

I bet you don't.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol "

Meh. I always get jumped over on the one above threads, especially if a slim, pretty lady has posted before me. Sometimes I make a face lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments

It doesn't have to be a thread where you have to reply to everyone individually, just let everyone join in and let it go with the flow. Sometimes I don't log in for a couple of days, then things have moved on

I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic "
good for you..let's be clear I aint panicking..just being ignored on the oh so inclusive lounge is sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments

It doesn't have to be a thread where you have to reply to everyone individually, just let everyone join in and let it go with the flow. Sometimes I don't log in for a couple of days, then things have moved on

I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic good for you..let's be clear I aint panicking..just being ignored on the oh so inclusive lounge is sad"

you are noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol

Meh. I always get jumped over on the one above threads, especially if a slim, pretty lady has posted before me. Sometimes I make a face lol "

Yeh if I'm honest, I'm not a massive fan of the one above threads. But some of the others can be fun at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol "

I'm not ignoring you

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol

Meh. I always get jumped over on the one above threads, especially if a slim, pretty lady has posted before me. Sometimes I make a face lol "

Not the only one hun

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments

It doesn't have to be a thread where you have to reply to everyone individually, just let everyone join in and let it go with the flow. Sometimes I don't log in for a couple of days, then things have moved on

I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic "

I didn't even know there was a games room lol

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive.

Not even a bacon butty? Disgraceful.

Never

Extra bacon for you then. "

What, no sausage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I think it depends on how important it is for you to have your posts acknowledged. It doesn't matter to me, as I don't expect every post to be followed up on.

Sometimes I post stuff, forget about it and notice ages later that someone replied to me

Haha, I've started threads from months ago that someone has ressurected, damned if I can remember starting them though

I don't have that problem, I don't think I've ever started a thread...I don’t have the commitment to respond to comments

It doesn't have to be a thread where you have to reply to everyone individually, just let everyone join in and let it go with the flow. Sometimes I don't log in for a couple of days, then things have moved on

I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic good for you..let's be clear I aint panicking..just being ignored on the oh so inclusive lounge is sad"

But are you though. Someone mentioned the games and one tonight ‘this is you’ you got 3/4 responses. So maybe ignored isn’t the right word more maybe not the number of responses received.

As been said before post to say what you want to, just for fun, no response to that specific comment doesn’t mean it hasn’t been read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an occasional poster, there are lots of new faces, which keeps the conversation interesting

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I think if you are the kind of person who is very sensitive to how others perceive you or if you are not in a good place mentally, these forums can be a bit of a nightmare.

Post because you want to and don't even look to see if anyone has responded to you. Eventually you will get to know people and start to be included more.

It is not any kind of judgement on you as a person - noone knows you enough to have formed any sort of opinion of you.

Every now and then a troll comes along. Report them but do not feed them.

thanks for reply ..im in a good place though clearly don't belong on forums..its ok ..i won't bother again..I just lurk and smirk "

Glad you're in a good place, but why do you think you don't belong on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect "
Ok your started wars pyjamas rock?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect "

But your avatar is so small I can't see the print!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect Ok your started wars pyjamas rock?!"
star ffs

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just jump in, the nocturnal thread and the early morning one usually guarantee a reply, if I start a thread I try to reply to everyone but sometimes it's not possible or life gets in the way, or more often than not my threads die an early death

Don't loose heart

Jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect Ok your started wars pyjamas rock?!"

Aww thanks, didn’t think anybody had noticed

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I just throw a stupid comment here and there

If you were in a room full of people having a conversation, not everyone will have a response but you will be heard.

Play some of the forum games, they're a fun way to get to know people and get ignored again lol

Meh. I always get jumped over on the one above threads, especially if a slim, pretty lady has posted before me. Sometimes I make a face lol

Yeh if I'm honest, I'm not a massive fan of the one above threads. But some of the others can be fun at times "

They can move very quickly and it’s easy for people to be missed out. If I post a response and realise someone posted in between I’ll post twice to pick that individual up

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect "

You're wearing pyjamas?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect

But your avatar is so small I can't see the print! "

Think I should just zoom in on the pjs?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Flirt with one of the popular men.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Im never offered breakfast. I dont think its fully inclusive.

Not even a bacon butty? Disgraceful.

Never

Extra bacon for you then.

What, no sausage "

That's for second breakfast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect

You're wearing pyjamas?! "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I rarely get any replies to comments I post in the lounge it doesn't bother me though. I just post in threads that take my interest if anyone replies great if not it's not that big a deal. I only pop in and out of the lounge .But like others have said it takes time for people to get to know you also. It's not that you are purposely ignored it's just people may not know you yet and not always reply to you .

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Flirt with one of the popular men."

Or me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Got to admire the effort put into that though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect

But your avatar is so small I can't see the print!

Think I should just zoom in on the pjs?"

That would help me a lot, thanks

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Bloody hell! That's top level petty shit!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I've got about 3 threads running in the Games Room at the moment, but if nobody replies in the next day or so, I'm not gonna panic

I didn't even know there was a games room lol "

Yeah, it's at the bottom of the corridor, about second on the left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Wtf? why would they do that to you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect

But your avatar is so small I can't see the print!

Think I should just zoom in on the pjs?

That would help me a lot, thanks "

I’ll keep it in mind for when I update it next time

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only! "

I personally feel as if everyone is welcome.

Cal x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Wish I could say that surprised me but it doesn’t .

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

The forum's are very fast paced and unless you have a lot of time to spend replying and starting your own threads then it's hard to get noticed. Once you connect with just a few people it gets easier though as people do respond to those they know more.

Kx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

Wish I could say that surprised me but it doesn’t . "

Me neither.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect Ok your started wars pyjamas rock?!

Aww thanks, didn’t think anybody had noticed"

I hadn't, soz. Old eyes small pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you’ve got it bad? Not a single person has complimented my Star Wars pyjamas… you have no idea how it feels like to be excluded until you’ve experienced that level of neglect Ok your started wars pyjamas rock?!

Aww thanks, didn’t think anybody had noticed

I hadn't, soz. Old eyes small pic. "

I’m glad this is finally getting the attention it deserves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

Bloody hell! That's top level petty shit! "

sadly once i posted her verification they knew who outted them, then they outted her from the 'fabladies' group and started on her.

you have to understand that as a man you do anything a women disagrees with on the forum and they are a member of a secret chat group that exchanges reviews on others you can be signing your own death warrant.

this is why i no longer show my verifications and why i never ever say who im talking to.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

This is really shocking, well I'm shocked anyway....sorry to hear this

Jo xx

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Small minded children ! Some need to take a good hard look at themselves

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

I can't believe people would have so little going on in their lives that they would set up a Facebook page to warn people off you. Unless you are a serial killer. Are you?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Sheeeeeeeeeet. Ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake "

Unfortunately, there's unpleasant people everywhere.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

Bloody hell! That's top level petty shit!

sadly once i posted her verification they knew who outted them, then they outted her from the 'fabladies' group and started on her.

you have to understand that as a man you do anything a women disagrees with on the forum and they are a member of a secret chat group that exchanges reviews on others you can be signing your own death warrant.

this is why i no longer show my verifications and why i never ever say who im talking to.

"

It happens to women too. Believe me.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake "

What?!?! Clearly an arsehole.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Not excluded but it is cliquey and I'm not in it.

Terms like "Forumite" and all the "appreciation" posts don't help make it a more welcoming and inclusive place. Perhaps people could save the circle jerks for WhatsApp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women have the power.

you need to understand these groups on facebook etc are invite only so you cannot see who is posting on them.

i was lucky i had someone who did. and to be honest a lot of time they hadnt even met the person they were damning, it was just because he posted a remark she took personally.

admin cannot control these groups as they fall outside the site, also they will not take action because they need women to be here to get the money rolling in and attract the bees to the honey.

is it still going on ? yes.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

The weather has been nice today.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake "

Just their thoughts not others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t give that much thought to it. I just post and reply to what I want

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"The weather has been nice today. "

It’s honking it down here

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"The lounge is like walking in to any room full of strangers, mix and mingle and one by one the strangers get to know you a bit more soon there aren't many strangers in the room,

But walk in sit in the corner and avoid talking then the room will always be full of strangers "

This x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here."

Really? Wow.

That's some online bullying right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not excluded but it is cliquey and I'm not in it.

Terms like "Forumite" and all the "appreciation" posts don't help make it a more welcoming and inclusive place. Perhaps people could save the circle jerks for WhatsApp?"

Circle jerks!!! Oh my god my new favourite phrase

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't feel excluded by others here, quite simply because I don't allow myself to feel excluded by others - if no-one replies to me then *shrug* no big deal, I posted whatever I posted because I believed it worth posting if others don't think so, or choose to ignore it, then no skin off my nose.

The only people that matter to me, are those that know me.

The *only* person that can exclude me, is me - and being honest I've found myself doing that more and more lately as the forums just don't hold my interest as much as they may once have done.

As for the behind the scenes stuff, that goes beyond the pail and is completely playground - I've seen evidence of it first hand, have even been proudly told by certain people (who hold themselves up as paragons of virtue publically) what they have done behind the scenes, and being honest it sickens me that supposed grown adults on a site for adults can behave in those ways without a thought for the harm they may be causing.

It speaks volumes about those that do it to be quite frank.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"The weather has been nice today.

It’s honking it down here "

Honk honk (squeezes her boobs).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake

What?!?! Clearly an arsehole. "

Oh I know, I found it hilarious x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake "

what?! Well for what it's worth I definitely don't hate you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake

Just their thoughts not others "

Yep childish xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now… "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do u feel excluded? Is the lounge for inclusive only!

The more you post, the more you'll feel included, as long as it's not derisive stuff "

I'm having de ja vu. But I think you're statement stands now more then ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel excluded at all because it's not something I want to be part of. I'm happy just adding my 2 cents now and then. Those that tend to dominate, seem to spend more time on here than I care to invest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't feel excluded at all because it's not something I want to be part of. I'm happy just adding my 2 cents now and then. Those that tend to dominate, seem to spend more time on here than I care to invest. "

I miss your arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now… "

Im squinting closely. Looks like little ghost faces. Cute.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now… "

Utterly shameless look at me post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when you post it’s very much like typing words into a box and pressing ‘Post’, where it goes after that is out of my hands, if my comments enhance lives and bring people together then that’s a bonus, at the very minimum I think people are a lot wiser after my web postings and musings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

Im squinting closely. Looks like little ghost faces. Cute. "

They’re storm troopers lol but thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

Utterly shameless look at me post "

No such thing as shame where Star Wars pjs are concerned I’m afraid

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I think when you post it’s very much like typing words into a box and pressing ‘Post’, where it goes after that is out of my hands, if my comments enhance lives and bring people together then that’s a bonus, at the very minimum I think people are a lot wiser after my web postings and musings. "

I wouldn't say wiser, but many of your quick witted humourous ones are unique

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"women have the power.

you need to understand these groups on facebook etc are invite only so you cannot see who is posting on them.

i was lucky i had someone who did. and to be honest a lot of time they hadnt even met the person they were damning, it was just because he posted a remark she took personally.

admin cannot control these groups as they fall outside the site, also they will not take action because they need women to be here to get the money rolling in and attract the bees to the honey.

is it still going on ? yes. "

Feel free to PM and let me know who

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

Im squinting closely. Looks like little ghost faces. Cute.

They’re storm troopers lol but thank you"

You can't beat stormtroopers.

(Unless you're an ewok).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

Im squinting closely. Looks like little ghost faces. Cute.

They’re storm troopers lol but thank you

You can't beat stormtroopers.

(Unless you're an ewok). "

Or can shoot

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

Bloody hell! That's top level petty shit!

sadly once i posted her verification they knew who outted them, then they outted her from the 'fabladies' group and started on her.

you have to understand that as a man you do anything a women disagrees with on the forum and they are a member of a secret chat group that exchanges reviews on others you can be signing your own death warrant.

this is why i no longer show my verifications and why i never ever say who im talking to.

It happens to women too. Believe me. "

Im too unpopular to be talked about.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I feel like everybody has been distracted from my Star Wars pyjamas now…

Im squinting closely. Looks like little ghost faces. Cute.

They’re storm troopers lol but thank you

You can't beat stormtroopers.

(Unless you're an ewok).

Or can shoot"

My aim is fine, thank you very much.

I just lack practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope everyone feels included sometimes posts do get missed… there’s no rhyme or reason it just happens, it’s the nature of the fast paced threads sometimes

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"any of the game threads the popular ones will always get more attention and you ignored.

i was once subjected to a campaign by some to get me off the forum. they had a group on facebook which another women showed me telling other women not to meet certain me and to outcast them from the forum by ignoring every post they make.

she even showed me the whatsapp chat others were involved in.

some of them are still here.

That's disgusting! Some think they are bigger than the forum and it's just sad

I got told recently in PM that I was hated on the Forum by 'everyone'

Right you are cupcake "

You know you're bloody adorable, Dreavus

I'm just rather glad that Im blissfully aware of all this shit going on. I have favourite people that I interact with; people that make me laugh; people that cheer me up and a few that just plain get on my tits. I'll continue to just be me & do my thing xx

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