FabSwingers.com forum: Message read but did not delete

By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

This old chesnut again!

I can understand when couples and women get upwards of 51,716 messages a day [

] they will not reply very often. No problem.

What I struggle with is, if they read the message and are not interested, why keep the rejected message? Surely it just clogs up their in box?

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Just respect the fact you didn't get a reply and leave it at that.

How a person or persons handles their inbox is up to them isn't it?

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Because it keeps the single guys living in hope

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What does it matter... Are you peeved because they are giving you false hope?!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Because it keeps the single guys living in hope

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Why does it bother you so much???

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

It's 100% not worth worrying about, my friend.

I thoroughly recommend never checking what's happened to your sent messages. It serves no purpose at all.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Simply don’t check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its their inbox. I dont really understand the issue - perhaps Ive missed the point?

How would you feel if someone dictated how you should manage your messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave it

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It is just part of fab life, it normally means they are not interested, or it could be you have been shortlisted for some point in the future.

Get used to the fact that you are not owed a reply from anyone

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Women can't win.

If we read and delete straight away someone moans we are rude. If we ignore and leave unread people moan that they don't know what we are doing.

Now if we read and dont delete we are still wrong.

We will do what we do and run our inboxes as we see fit.

Send your message and forget it if you get a reply it's a bonus.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Because sometimes some people manage their inboxes differently

We probably have some read but not deleted

Depends what you are doing or if you shut you phone down quick, don't read into it you will tie yourself up in knots

Jo x

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I am not bothered about it, honest. Please don't assume things. It was an academic question.

I started on here with a couple profile almost 10 years ago so I do know the score. Then we deleted no interest messages as it kept our in box free for those new messages and ones we wanted to respond to. Tidy like; see.

People can do what they want of course; no worries. I just wondered why they leave message litter lying around. Simple as that.

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What does it matter... Are you peeved because they are giving you false hope?!

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It is just part of fab life, it normally means they are not interested, or it could be you have been shortlisted for some point in the future.

Get used to the fact that you are not owed a reply from anyone"

I agree. That is how I deal with it.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Delete message - get abuse

Don’t delete message - get abuse

Leave unread - get abuse (or continuous messages)

Reply no thanks - get abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm lazy I don't delete anything. Doesn't bother me but I didn't realise my behaviour bothered others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it keeps the single guys living in hope

Oh the age old paradox of is hope the extention of suffering

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

One of us will quite often read a message and if we’re unsure we’ll mark it as unread for the other to read when they have time.

This could take a couple of days if one of us is busy.

We’ve had people block us in this time as they’ve wrongly decided we’re not interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could be many reasons.

Sometimes we do this because only one has read and we wonder if the other may find interest.

It really doesn't matter what happens to the message once sent, what's important is if there is a reply.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Send a message then delete it.

It feels like a lovely surprise if you get one in return, almost like they've messaged you first otherwise forget about it as it'll just make you feel down you didn't get a reply

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Because I'm lazy I don't delete anything. Doesn't bother me but I didn't realise my behaviour bothered others!

Not bothered. Thanks for the answer.

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"There could be many reasons.

Sometimes we do this because only one has read and we wonder if the other may find interest.

It really doesn't matter what happens to the message once sent, what's important is if there is a reply."

Good point.

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By *iman2100 OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"One of us will quite often read a message and if we’re unsure we’ll mark it as unread for the other to read when they have time.

This could take a couple of days if one of us is busy.

We’ve had people block us in this time as they’ve wrongly decided we’re not interested!"

Thanks for your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a message then delete it.

It feels like a lovely surprise if you get one in return, almost like they've messaged you first otherwise forget about it as it'll just make you feel down you didn't get a reply

I have done that quite a lot, not always, but done it many times

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