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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. Do woman here ever send the first message? Is it common? Or does the sheer disparity between guys and girls therefore mean it’s unnecessary.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on occasion but rarely!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Most of the men I have met from here I messaged first.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I never have. In a year of being on this site. I have sent a handful of first winks though.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Personally I have never sent a first messages

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yep.

I prefer a wink though..... I'm usually too shy to message.

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have on occasion but rarely! "

Love to have a rare message from you x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Occasionally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s good to know. I was genuinely curious, there’s so many great profiles here, just firefighting your inbox’s must be so time consuming let alone searching and starting new convos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I don't reply to messages very often at all. I prefer to approach those I like the look of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah sometimes

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Maybe once or twice

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Hi. Do woman here ever send the first message? Is it common? Or does the sheer disparity between guys and girls therefore mean it’s unnecessary. "

They do but I've never received one, it probably is unnecessary for them but they're limited to who messages them rather than who they fancy if they don't.

I don't understand why more don't set filters and search for who they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh that’s a good idea, keeps the secretarial costs low ??

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

It does happen - I invariably think it’s a wind up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

???? yea I would too I guess

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I generally don't reply to received messages, I've always preferred to contact people that I like the look of...in fact, I've only ever met one person who contacted me first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to send a wink rather than a message

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Hi. Do woman here ever send the first message? Is it common? Or does the sheer disparity between guys and girls therefore mean it’s unnecessary. "

Some do, some don’t. Most of our meets have been the result of women reaching out to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged first to one guy so far!

But, now I can look at profiles without them knowing I will be sending a lot more :D

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I often message a male. Usually to compliment then on their profiles or respond to witty updates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses. Your a wonderful bunch . I think I just need to raise my profile game haha. Try and draw in a message or two. I need to become the hunted rather than the hunter

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Not all women are firefighting their inbox. Some actually take control of their profiles and use the available filters and message those who catch their eye.

90 percent of all conversations I've had since the beginning of 2020 have been initiated by the women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done it.

I don’t do it often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one message so can’t comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, occasionally. I prefer to keep my filters closed and reach out myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once and it went badly so not anymore

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

In the long time I've been on here I have had occasional but rare first messages from women and the most recent has led to great things proving good things come to those who wait eventually

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

I am not sure how many 1st messages from ladies I have had.

But I am open to receiving more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Do woman here ever send the first message? Is it common? Or does the sheer disparity between guys and girls therefore mean it’s unnecessary. "

I've made the first move several times

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Whoever the lucky recipients were, they were very lucky men...

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Yes, though more often than not the initiative has been taken by me

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Rarely unless it's off the back of a forum thread and then I will.

Kx

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It’s not an everyday thing but it’s always a pleasant surprise to get a first message from a woman.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I generally don't reply to received messages, I've always preferred to contact people that I like the look of...in fact, I've only ever met one person who contacted me first. "

Lucky him

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