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"All right, maybe a bit of an odd question to ask on this kind of site, but I was interested in the potential responses. Would you start a relationship with someone if penetrative sex was not an option? Or rarely an option? Let's say, for arguments sake, that you like this person, you're attracted to them, you get on well with them. Let's also assume that there are no issues with other forms of intimacy - kissing, cuddling, touching, oral are all options. Just no vaginal and no anal. Would it make a difference if they were happy to have an open relation so that you could have sex with others?" If it works for you then yes no issues | |||
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"If I really liked them I would have a relationship without penetration. There are lots of other ways to have fun and it may be a small sacrifice compared to everything else you get from the relationship Would you OP? X" Yes, I don't think it would be a problem for me if I met a really great guy who had erection problems and wasn't able to penetrate me. It would only be an issue for me personally if he denied me other forms of affection and intimacy. | |||
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"If I really liked them I would have a relationship without penetration. There are lots of other ways to have fun and it may be a small sacrifice compared to everything else you get from the relationship Would you OP? X Yes, I don't think it would be a problem for me if I met a really great guy who had erection problems and wasn't able to penetrate me. It would only be an issue for me personally if he denied me other forms of affection and intimacy. " Little blue table may help him | |||
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"No I have to say if it was at the start then no.. I'd refuse. Its hard enough when a partner begins to reduce sexual interest once your in a relationship. I wouldn't pursue a relationship like that." That's definitely fair enough! | |||
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"If I really liked them I would have a relationship without penetration. There are lots of other ways to have fun and it may be a small sacrifice compared to everything else you get from the relationship Would you OP? X Yes, I don't think it would be a problem for me if I met a really great guy who had erection problems and wasn't able to penetrate me. It would only be an issue for me personally if he denied me other forms of affection and intimacy. " Same, affection and intimacy a must | |||
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"All right, maybe a bit of an odd question to ask on this kind of site, but I was interested in the potential responses. Would you start a relationship with someone if penetrative sex was not an option? Or rarely an option? Let's say, for arguments sake, that you like this person, you're attracted to them, you get on well with them. Let's also assume that there are no issues with other forms of intimacy - kissing, cuddling, touching, oral are all options. Just no vaginal and no anal. Would it make a difference if they were happy to have an open relation so that you could have sex with others?" Yes I could have that sort of relationship - but they would have to be a very special type of man and have no issue with including someone else in our sex life. | |||
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"I completely mis read the OP ![]() ![]() ![]() No! Sadly I lost him to it. | |||
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"I completely mis read the OP ![]() ![]() ![]() Sorry to hear this xx | |||
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"I completely mis read the OP ![]() ![]() ![]() Oh I’m really sorry to hear that. Don’t mean to be nosy | |||
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"I completely mis read the OP ![]() ![]() ![]() I appreciate that ..thank you xx | |||
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"I completely mis read the OP ![]() ![]() ![]() It's ok honestly....he was a massive part of my life. It was about 15 yrs ago now, I am happy to talk about him and remember him. | |||
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"All right, maybe a bit of an odd question to ask on this kind of site, but I was interested in the potential responses. Would you start a relationship with someone if penetrative sex was not an option? Or rarely an option? Let's say, for arguments sake, that you like this person, you're attracted to them, you get on well with them. Let's also assume that there are no issues with other forms of intimacy - kissing, cuddling, touching, oral are all options. Just no vaginal and no anal. Would it make a difference if they were happy to have an open relation so that you could have sex with others?" Yeah if there are talks about being open in the relationship. I’d miss the penetrative factor in the long run x | |||
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"Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() Sorry to hear that OP.Gosh that must be hard. Hug of support for you. | |||
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"Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() How very sad for you, but I honestly don't believe this to be a showstopper. I personally much prefer manual and oral stimulation (both giving and receiving) over pentration and could quite easily envisage a fulfilling sex life without the later. | |||
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"Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() Thank you, that's very nice to hear! I suppose, like with everything in life, it's just a matter of finding the right person. | |||
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"Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() Thank you. It is very hard to deal with sometimes. | |||
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"Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() "Thank you everybody for your thoughts and opinions. The reason that I ask is because I suffer from endometriosis. I have had issues with pain from my teens and sex has always been unpleasant at best. I have found that since I have hit my 30's, the pain has progressively gotten worse and worse, despite trying various methods of birth control and even having an operation. Currently I can't even use small toys or insert my own fingers because it hurts so much that it makes me cry. ![]() ![]() It’s not a rant it’s just an explanation as to why you asked x There will be men out there who would have a relationship without penetration it may just take a while to find the right guy. When you mention open relationship, that is fine if that is something you want to do not something you think you need to do as it could put a strain on your relationship if you aren’t fully into open relationships. The dating sites are a nightmare as I would like to find a partner but they are either dinosaurs or sex mad ![]() | |||
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"All right, maybe a bit of an odd question to ask on this kind of site, but I was interested in the potential responses. Would you start a relationship with someone if penetrative sex was not an option? Or rarely an option? Let's say, for arguments sake, that you like this person, you're attracted to them, you get on well with them. Let's also assume that there are no issues with other forms of intimacy - kissing, cuddling, touching, oral are all options. Just no vaginal and no anal. Would it make a difference if they were happy to have an open relation so that you could have sex with others?" Not for me at the start of something new. after a relationship has been established if it came to that I’d want a discussion of needs being met, be that either one of us having the issue | |||
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"No problem at all with there being no anal… oral sex but no vaginal sex? Hmmm, not sure on that one, not in a long-term, monogamous relationship - unless there was a medical reason, something that physically prevented it (e.g. a disability) that would be different. " In my case... don't know if it would be termed a disability as such, but a chronic medical condition. | |||
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"Yep. In fact it's the only kind of relationship I'd enter into in the future. I would be less worried about them cheating. There wouldn't be a reason to lie to me to get in my knickers and empty their balls. " No peas under your mattress. | |||
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"Your profile name and your behaviour doesn’t match. Thought about something more congruent. Might help people understand." Profile name is old. I created it during the period following my operation when I did get a couple of years of relief before the pain came back. Unfortunately a year of that was lost to covid, which figures really. Since I am only here for the forum, I have never bothered getting around to changing it. Might at some point, if I decide to stick around. | |||
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"Hi OP That sounds dreadful and not something I have had any experience with. I know it can't be easy but don't lose hope x Sending big hugs to you and wishing you the best with your condition and in finding an understanding partner xx " Thank you, I appreciate that. | |||
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"Absolutely. Happy to have deep intimacy without penetration if that were the only aspect of it lacking. There is far more to happiness and intimacy than vaginal and anal penetration. It’s why swinging exists. It’s possible to have penetrative sex without deep intimacy but impossible to have deep intimacy without having so much more than penetrative sex." I had never thought of it that way, but it makes perfect sense. Thank you. | |||
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