FabSwingers.com forum: What makes you go for the block button with forum members?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't block anyone in the forums unless they persistently push the button in a private response...I appreciate the fact we are all different and have different opinions.

Now stepping off the soap box

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't block anyone in the forums unless they persistently push the button in a private response...I appreciate the fact we are all different and have different opinions.

Now stepping off the soap box

Can totally understand if they try and contact you privately.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't block I make a private note on their profile Instead

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By *olmateMan
over a year ago

west mids

I dont block usually

Always respond even if it is a polite "No"

Only block those who bully, insult and or pester with annoying messages!

I wonder what makes females and couples to hit the block button?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s just a way of saying we’re not compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste? "

I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason

Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)

Left me baffled tho I must say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullying.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't block anyone - generally.

I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.

How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?

Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.

I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We wouldn't block anybody because of their forum activity. It would only be about what they write to us.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Bullying. "

Yes. That's worth blocking for.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don't really block anyone off here because like you said, you can still see their forum posts so doesn't really seem to be any point. Now if there was a function to block those on the other hand..."

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Misandry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand tho like a forum is a public place so I think fair enough that you can still see people that u may have blocked. You can just ignore the posts as they are anyway directed to the general public

This confuses me

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

People block for all sorts of reasons; if they don’t want private interactions, if they’re not attracted to them, if they disagree with their opinions, if they don’t want them to see their profiles, if they’re just plain pissed at them.

They’re all valid in their own way.

It’s kind of pointless though, we can still see postings and I tend to find that disagreements are usually resolved at a later date given a willingness to resolution.

I very rarely block, mainly because I know that people are imperfect and even the most extreme disagreements can be moved past if you’re both grown up about it

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have rarely blocked forum users.

If I have it's probably because they blocked me and I don't want them unblocking me to look at my profile. But that would be a very rare thing.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Don't think have ever blocked of the back of a forum thread

Generally block if they are a nuisance or abusive

I expect to not always agree with peoples views, that's just life

Jo x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste?

I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason

Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)

Left me baffled tho I must say x "

I'm the same.. confuses me muchly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not found a reason yet... but then I spend very limited time on the forum.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Bullying.

Yes. That's worth blocking for. "

Can an adult be bullied online? When I started online dating about 6 years ago I was told “only believe a fraction of what you are told & see”. “Develop a thick skin & quick”. “Don’t worry about rejection”. “Online is not real, you can’t have a friend you haven’t met”. Stood me in good stead on POF and on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never blocked someone in the forum, everyone is entitled to thier view even is i dont agree, thats kind of the point of a forum

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I've never blocked someone for things said on the forums.

The only blocks I've done are for people who continue to PM me after they have been asked to steop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?"

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This confuses me "

Some of them aren't directed at the general public though, it's used for 2 or more people to have their own little love-in which makes me eye-roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste?

I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason

Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)

Left me baffled tho I must say x

I'm the same.. confuses me muchly

Same. I just presume they don’t like me or what Iv posted which is fine as I don’t care.

Iv blocked a couple who I think/feel don’t like me so they can’t be nosey at my profile when it’s open.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Bullying.

Yes. That's worth blocking for.

Glad you took those messages on board and that they've helped you. I disagree with them to quite a large extent.

Online IS real. I'm real. I take it you are real.

The children who are groomed are real. The groomers are real.

The children that bully their school mates online are real .

The newspapers, police and companies that use 'online' are real.

I get that people can 'masquerade' online but so what ...... it's not their fantasy that harms but the real stuff they do and say to others.

I believe it is possible to bully online but one person falling out with another is not bullying.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Don't think I ever have yet ..

And ive had good reason to but I'm not that petty tbh.

I know I've been blocked by 2 or 3 before which was bizarre but hey ho no real issue .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I say bullying I mean anyone who cones across as a bit nasty or says something there was no need to say. I just block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

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you look alot different to how I imagined you would look

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

As had been said above, it's pointless blocking people just off the back of forum posts as you can still see what they post

The only time I really block people is if they're looking for something I can't possibly match (eg I'm not black, and no amount of personality I'd going to make up for that) or they're into something too extreme for me.

Or in one case, someone I had a meet with that I don't want to be reminded of....

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Bullying.

Yes. That's worth blocking for. "
And putting other people down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't block anyone - generally.

I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.

How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?

Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.

I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.

I don’t always see eye to eye with you but I still listen to what you say and more than half the time you do say some pearlers and your advice can be amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying. "

Absolutely, it's been so hard for me to word it in a way for people to understand but you've absolutely hit the nail on the head with a simple analogy of how I feel

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

You are a marmite person so not that surprising.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

you look alot different to how I imagined you would look"

Oh, explain? How did you imagine me to look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I've blocked anyone off the forums yet but if somebody I'm not remotely interested in keeps clogging up my local feed with pics or come-ons, they get a block just so I don't have to keep seeing them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

You are a marmite person so not that surprising. "

You mean half the people hate me and half the people would love to have me on the end of a knife?

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

I don’t like ignorant unhelpful comments and when challenged too many then make comments about your profile. Yes I know they get a ban but I think I don’t want this person knowing anything about me.

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

I try to ignore the idiots as best I can, they don't seem to last long when they have crashed and burned on a thread. I have blocked a few guys that keep sniffing around my inbox with the one liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

you look alot different to how I imagined you would look

Oh, explain? How did you imagine me to look? "
not sure I just imagined you would have different features

this isn't negative btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste?

I don’t usually block unless someone is being a dick privately and sends very unpleasant messages or is a constant annoyance. I have 4-5 people on my blocklist for that reason

Having said that I have been randomly blocked by some forumites (name the sin not the sinner ahah) for reasons unknown as I haven’t engaged with them privately really …(maybe lurked)

Left me baffled tho I must say x

I'm the same.. confuses me muchly

Same. I just presume they don’t like me or what Iv posted which is fine as I don’t care.

Iv blocked a couple who I think/feel don’t like me so they can’t be nosey at my profile when it’s open. "

Yeah but as you can still see them on the forum etc, then blocking seems pointless if you never engaged privately.

Also I don’t really care who lurks at my profile

but I get it if you think they are nastiessss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullying.

Yes. That's worth blocking for.

Glad you took those messages on board and that they've helped you. I disagree with them to quite a large extent.

Online IS real. I'm real. I take it you are real.

The children who are groomed are real. The groomers are real.

The children that bully their school mates online are real .

The newspapers, police and companies that use 'online' are real.

I get that people can 'masquerade' online but so what ...... it's not their fantasy that harms but the real stuff they do and say to others.

I believe it is possible to bully online but one person falling out with another is not bullying. "

how and earth did it go from banning a forum member to child grooming, these forums never cease to amaze me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t like ignorant unhelpful comments and when challenged too many then make comments about your profile. Yes I know they get a ban but I think I don’t want this person knowing anything about me."
this

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"I understand if you’ve private messaged a person but if you’ve never done that or never shown interest in them in any way shape or form it is kind of baffling.

I always look at peoples profiles if they say a comment to me directly and I’ve discovered that I’m blocked by quite a few people.

You are a marmite person so not that surprising.

You mean half the people hate me and half the people would love to have me on the end of a knife?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only use the block button for people that we have chatted to and are not compatible with so it’s more of a filter for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont block from the forums...if I cant take it then I shouldn't give it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont block from the forums...if I cant take it then I shouldn't give it...."

Amen

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've been blocked by other forum users from what I can only presume is off the back of a forum post.

I have blocked if somehow has been particularly rude, just so they can't message me. Had someone start having a go at me on the forum and then privately. So I like to nip it in the bud.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don't block anyone - generally.

I value the opinions of other people even if I don't agree with them.

How does anyone grow if they don't listen and think ?

Swatting others away all the time reflects your fears in that you cannot hold a mirror up to your own beliefs or have them tested.

I've blocked if someone keeps messaging me to labour a point from the forum but even then it's not always permanent.

I don’t always see eye to eye with you but I still listen to what you say and more than half the time you do say some pearlers and your advice can be amazing. "

Thank you for that.

It depends on which me is on. The adult me on a serious thread or the childlike me that comes on for a piss about with other idiotic vulgar idiots.

There should be coloured text, black for serious, purple for messing about , and red ( which I wouldn't have anymore ) for being seriously sexy or just pink for flirting.......

100% eye to eye bit would make conversation like a narcissistic love in ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont block from the forums...if I cant take it then I shouldn't give it...."

bend over then

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too "

I don't block those that I've perceived as dickheads in the forum.

That's a good point though. They wouldn't show up in a search..... that would be a good reason for blocking. I don't equate searching with forum natter tho .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying. "

Also, you act like I said I would want to block everyone on here when that's not the case. In real life, I wouldn't surround myself with people you don't get on with if I could help it because that's a silly thing to do. In my opinion, the same applies here.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do. "

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too "

But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.

Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too

But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.

Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place. "

First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point

Second point, no it doesn’t

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying.

I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.

In 'real life' I don't hang out with those I don't like either but they might still be in the same pub and as they use the same facilities as me it's probably best that I am aware of them and what they are saying.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess. "

Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.

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By *aughties PartyCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.

Can’t believe many would block you to be honest. "

No idea I don't check

I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....

It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list? "

That's not what I said.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

There would be less complaints - too many folk are unable to just ignore those they don’t get along with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too

But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.

Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place.

First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point

Second point, no it doesn’t "

Umm but it does. If you’re saying you block people due to not wanting to meet them or have them show up in a search. If that person you’re blocking isn’t interested in the first place what’s the point in the block?

It’s like a shop being closed and you saying oh I don’t want to go in that shop anyway, the shop doesn’t give a fuck whether you wanted to go in it, it’s shut regardless.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I find it a bit childish to be honest. I only really use it for messages if I’m not interested then I just delete and block. You can still see people on the forum if they’ve blocked you or vice versa.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?

That's not what I said. "

What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*crying and reading from paper* I wish we could all get along like we used to in middle school... I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.………….

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Thins out the heard. If I’ve decided you’re an awful person on here it means you’ll never show up in my search too

But that makes no sense if someone for example was in Scotland and I’m all the way down in South Wales, I wouldn’t pop up on their searches anyway.

Also that makes an assumption that I would be interested in anyone doing the blocking in the first place.

First point, doesn’t matter. I might travel to Scotland and be within their distance at some point

Second point, no it doesn’t

It’s like a shop being closed and you saying oh I don’t want to go in that shop anyway, the shop doesn’t give a fuck whether you wanted to go in it, it’s shut regardless. "

The pure mental gymnastics you have to go through to go from “they blocked me” to “they must assume I’d be interested” is outstanding.

They just want less fluff on their search list. Which included people that aren’t interested, whether that person is interested or not, they’re still not wanted on the search page

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have blocked very few forum people. I did block that horrible poster that was trolling people but he's probably banned anyway. And there was someone who was clearly racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only used it a couple of times for persistent men who wouldn't take a polite no for an answer.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?

That's not what I said.

What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting. "

I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.

Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.

No idea I don't check

I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....

It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old. "

. See I believe older the wiser. If I go doctors give me the old one with the common sense and logic and experience before the young one doing everything because the computer or the text book says so!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I block when I've seen something I don't like, or had an unfavourable interaction that has caused me to not want the potential chance of a private discussion with them.

I can ignore what they say on the forum (mostly). I can ignore messages they send too. A block is just an extra barrier there I guess.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

Well it’s a site function I’m more than happy to use, when I want to. If that makes me childish then so be it.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?

That's not what I said.

What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting.

I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's."

Still don’t think the analogy works

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

Well it’s a site function I’m more than happy to use, when I want to. If that makes me childish then so be it."

I wasn’t referring to you, sorry. You didn’t say how you used it. I just meant in general.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If they're really cringey.

If they have awful attitudes.

If they're Debbie Downers.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think it’s just a way of saying “I don’t like you, or some of the things you’ve said - therefore you’re not for me”.

I get that if it was for a meet search but just people talking in a forum ?

Imagine work if everyone stuck their fingers in their ears every time someone said something they disagreed with

Except that analogy doesn’t work because you can still see what they put on the forum they just don’t show up on you search list?

That's not what I said.

What did you say then? Because it sounds like you meant blocking someone on here via the forum is like putting your fingers in your ears to block yourself heading what people say at a work meeting.

I said the paragraph above yours and below Luna's.

Still don’t think the analogy works "

What analogy ?

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I usually block the men who moan about women not replying as it saves them getting their pants in a bunch when I don’t reply to them

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.

Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.

No idea I don't check

I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....

It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old.

They have age filters on so it blocks me.

I don't worry about it. I just can't give the advice they asked for so ........ fuck em.

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

I normally only block if they’ve beat me to it. Sometimes I can’t be arsed even doing that, it’s easy enough just to avoid them.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t block specific forum members. I do block anyone who says they are not interested in meeting. That way I don’t embarrass them and myself by messaging them again in the future. It’s not that I’ve taken my ball home. Lol.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t block forum people as it means they can’t play secret service and other stuff I sometimes do.

I'll give you 3 guesses Nora of what comes up when someone's asked for information and I try to message them ....... go on ......guess.

Can’t believe many would block you to be honest.

No idea I don't check

I'll TELL you Nora seeing as you won't guess.....

It says........... Too bloody old Grannie.......... too bloody old.

They have age filters on so it blocks me.

I don't worry about it. I just can't give the advice they asked for so ........ fuck em. "

Oh I see!! Sorry I’m only on my first cuppa

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t block specific forum members. I do block anyone who says they are not interested in meeting. That way I don’t embarrass them and myself by messaging them again in the future. It’s not that I’ve taken my ball home. Lol. "

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying.

I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.

I see what you're saying and I guess the overall point is that you can just ignore and move on. My initial point was a bit tongue in cheek anyway as I know that function isn't going to come into place

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"

But you still see what they say though. I think that’s what Annie’s trying to say. What’s the point? Is it also so they don’t try and interact with you privately?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's detrimental to yourself surely ?

How so? If anything it gets my back up less seeing stupid posts. Sure it only lasts for like 10 seconds before I move on and ignore, but that could be 0 seconds

Bit like the Queen strolling through a painted land , smelling the roses and guarded from the possibility that others exist.

I get what you are saying.

I act ? I didn't say you wanted to block everyone.

Sometimes it takes effort to ignore but i've long since learned that there's no point in pushing against something so solid that it's incapable of thought.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory

I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.

LvM

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me"

How opinionated is 'over' opinionated ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!"

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve blocked forum members purely on some of their actions or comments, not my type of person so why would I want to associate with them. They are simple to ignore and skim past in the forum too

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I'd rather not accidentally message someone in the future who has some shitty opinions or attitudes is all. I usually leave a note on their profile as to why they're blocked, usually with the link to their comment if I fancy refreshing my memory

I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.

LvM"

We all have different opinions and unless someone is being outright offensive for the sake of it, the forums are just that, forums. We have blocked a few (thanks to the virus thread) but it wasn't like we where going to ever meet those guys anyway. Outside of "that" forum, we mostly like what a lot of people have to say on here. Even agree with them on a lot...but they still might be blocked. It's just a filter for us for future meets, not because we don't like or disagree with what people say here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste? "

I generally block anyone who's nasty or a bully. But mainly those that are two faced (preach one thing in the forum and then do the exact opposite in messages to me), won't stop messaging and even get other forumites to join in on their stupid games using the forum to get at me.

Yes I can still see their posts, but I can just scroll past them and resist the urge to out them or bite at the lies they post.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.

LvM

F.Y.I. I like your picture it always makes me smile. In a good way.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Can't think that I have ever blocked anyone just because of forum posts. Noticed a few today have blocked me though. Always makes me chuckle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive just remembered i have blocked someone, as thhey sent a pm rather than reply in the forum, i dont want my inbox full of things that should be in the forum, how is anyone else going to see it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!!

I can see it as a good thing oddly enough. It shows you've put yourself out there to the point people made that judgement on whether they like you or not. Neutral, wishy-washy comments don't really get the same attention.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

Chuckle I've done that a couple of times this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never blocked anyone of the forum don't see the point but I have blocked people off the site who are incompatible or aren't interested in talking.

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Negative attitude towards the virus spamming links privately any kind of bullying and fakes claiming to be someone who they aren't.

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

Oh I’m going to try that now…

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!!

I am a bit of a straight talker but I never get personal, I hope I don’t anyway. If I did I’d hope someone would take it up with me as I would with them. We all have different opinions on things. Some of the people I disagree with the most are actually quite good friends on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally make a private note but have also blocked the odd person if they have been particularly nasty to someone as I don’t want them popping up in my inbox. We should all act as adults on here and remember there are real people behind the comments so no need to get nasty just because we don’t agree with each other.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Some take it as an attack if you don't agree with what they say ..... sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cos you can still see what they write in the forum.

Is it just a way to show your distaste? "

Yes and to stop them from interacting with me.

I tend to block trolls and people who are just out to score points off "the other side" whatever that might be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have blocked a few people who have had a very nasty attitude, just so there is no possibility of them contacting me privately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv blocked 2 forum users, both because they are always right and everybody else is wrong and way to over opinionated, how they get away with what they say is wayyyyyy beyond me

Everyone feverishly checking if it was them now

. I did!

I did too! Done it with everyone that’s commented and I’ve been blocked by 3 people in this thread alone

. I think you’re right that you’re a bit marmite though. I’ve often thought that about myself. Although you’re definitely more marmitey than me!!

I absolutely fucking love marmite though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People block for all sorts of reasons; if they don’t want private interactions, if they’re not attracted to them, if they disagree with their opinions, if they don’t want them to see their profiles, if they’re just plain pissed at them.

They’re all valid in their own way.

It’s kind of pointless though, we can still see postings and I tend to find that disagreements are usually resolved at a later date given a willingness to resolution.

I very rarely block, mainly because I know that people are imperfect and even the most extreme disagreements can be moved past if you’re both grown up about it"

This /\

Dude, can we call you the oracle, or the guru or something!!

Personally have only ever once blocked someone and it wasn't forum related.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Regards the forum, I tend to block those who I wouldn’t be compatible with (they hate body hair for example or detest fat folk and say so in a rude manner). You sometimes get pm’d by them and it just saves agro. I knew if I’d blocked them then I’d blocked them for a reason, however I now tend to just make use of the private note function instead.

I block those who persistently message asking to meet but live ruddy miles away and won’t take a no.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

I do wish it would hide their forum activity too though.

LvM

F.Y.I. I like your picture it always makes me smile. In a good way. "

I always smile when I see the name Granny Crumpet. No idea what you look like IRL but I have this mental image of of the sweet little old lady from the Tweety Pie and Sylvester cartoons in a dominatrix outfit. No doubt the furthest thing from reality but I find it highly amusing.

What you don't see in that picture is where my wife had her hand....in the middle of a restaurant. Probably explains the slightly glazed look in my eyes! She's a very naughty lady and I'm lucky to have her. Dunno why she's stuck with me for 25 years. She'd have gotten less for murder!

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I never block anyone, ignoring is far more effective, and their repeat messages exemplify their obvious frustration

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