FabSwingers.com forum: Do other straight men find it hard to meet up on this site?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on fab a while, and though I have met a few people on here I generally find it hard to meet up with people…

It might be me, (ha) but just wondering if other straight men for it hard to chat or meet up in general?

(I appreciate there/is a pandemic going on but prior to that I felt the same)

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

Absolutely impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't break into a sweat about it, it'll happen if it's meant to...just chat be happy and see what the outcome is

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

A few years ago was great but it’s now so hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me 8 months to get my first message and that was one I sent to myself by accident, heartbreaking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It took me 8 months to get my first message and that was one I sent to myself by accident, heartbreaking. "

Haha Gutted mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't break into a sweat about it, it'll happen if it's meant to...just chat be happy and see what the outcome is"

Yeah true, that’s what I am doing but wanted to get a general feel about other peoples experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on fab a while, and though I have met a few people on here I generally find it hard to meet up with people…

It might be me, (ha) but just wondering if other straight men for it hard to chat or meet up in general?

(I appreciate there/is a pandemic going on but prior to that I felt the same) "

I get a lot a straight guys messaging me to meet up, about half are genuine. Of course, as far as I'm concerned that makes them bi curious, not straight, but I'm happy to help them out regardless of what they label themselves.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

3 months isn't long here at all and there's people that have been talking to each other for ages that still haven't met because of the current situation. I had meets planned but they went out the window because of covid

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"It took me 8 months to get my first message and that was one I sent to myself by accident, heartbreaking.

Haha Gutted mate"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people will be along shortly to tell you 3 months isn’t that long, they’ll also mention the pandemic, even though you already mentioned it, one bloke will probably say ‘Patience is the key!’ And another will say ‘Stay strong buddy!’

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Some people will be along shortly to tell you 3 months isn’t that long, they’ll also mention the pandemic, even though you already mentioned it, one bloke will probably say ‘Patience is the key!’ And another will say ‘Stay strong buddy!’"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahaha

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Been on fab a while, and though I have met a few people on here I generally find it hard to meet up with people…

It might be me, (ha) but just wondering if other straight men for it hard to chat or meet up in general?

(I appreciate there/is a pandemic going on but prior to that I felt the same) "

I found it hard work to be a solo straight guy in any of the swinger clubs I visited.

I’ve never had any success posting for hotel meets whenever I’ve been away for the weekend.

Using Fab to find genuine people within my county I’ve had considerable success with though

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Don’t forget that one-answer-fits-all reply; “Go to a club”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Been on fab a while, and though I have met a few people on here I generally find it hard to meet up with people…

It might be me, (ha) but just wondering if other straight men for it hard to chat or meet up in general?

(I appreciate there/is a pandemic going on but prior to that I felt the same) "

The hard fact is there are thousands and thousands of single guys looking for meets on here.

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By *r naughty1Man
over a year ago

Bexley

With the ratio of guys to women it's extremely difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here ."

Attraction is the main one though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though! "

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"It took me 8 months to get my first message and that was one I sent to myself by accident, heartbreaking. "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Don’t forget that one-answer-fits-all reply; “Go to a club”

I think you may have read a couple of these threads. But it is all still true. Though i don't know about the club one as i haven't been to one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's virtually impossible for any bloke to get a meet on here

Open your eyes lol

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Use fab for the forums and tinder for meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months isn't that long and we're in a pandemic. Patience is key. I have heard going to a club is probably best.

Stay strong buddy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep.. even harder if you tell them you’re partnered and looking for sex on the side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm new to fab and so far found it much harder to get replies or meets than other sites I've used in the past

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I wouldn't say it's been difficult tbh, but maybe I've just been extremely lucky.

I joined just as we entered lockdown and used that time to read profiles, chat on forums threads, post photos and generally just get a feel of the site. I hardly messaged anyone as it seemed a bit pointless.

Some lockdown started easing, I've met an amazing women on here who I'm now seeing regularly and having a great time with.

I wouldn't say I'm anything that special, or have an brilliant profile. I'm just polite and respectful and put a little effort into everything that I do and I think that has shone through.

Good luck with your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With the ratio of guys to women it's extremely difficult

Your location doesn't help

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"It took me 8 months to get my first message and that was one I sent to myself by accident, heartbreaking. "
so, so funny... With that humour, your go far...

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By *r naughty1Man
over a year ago

Bexley

"With the ratio of guys to women it's extremely difficult

Your location doesn't help

That's very true too

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area."

So you are saying that people fuck others even they are not attracted to them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep.. even harder if you tell them you’re partnered and looking for sex on the side"

Can you understand why that is though? When there’s literally 100’s of single men, why choose someone that’s cheating on their partner and wants someone for their bit on the side?

This is where I frown at men because if the situation was reversed and it was the woman cheating I don’t think it would bother them.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Yep.. even harder if you tell them you’re partnered and looking for sex on the side"

Can we play with your partner rather than you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you understand why that is though? "

Oh, yeah! Definitely.. But then how many men/women on here lie about their relationship status only to get muddled in a web of lies.

I'm not saying its right or wrong but I'd rather be up front, so at least both sides know what they're letting themselves in for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

So you are saying that people fuck others even they are not attracted to them??"

From looking around this area.

A possibility yes.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

So you are saying that people fuck others even they are not attracted to them??

From looking around this area.

A possibility yes."

A new one on us!!

But hey ho!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Don’t forget that one-answer-fits-all reply; “Go to a club”

I think you may have read a couple of these threads. But it is all still true. Though i don't know about the club one as i haven't been to one. "

You’ll be fine as a single female in any swinger club; you’re the demographic most in demand, so will be well looked after.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I can't say that I'm short of interest, but I'm very aware that being able to accommodate, overnight if required, does have a significant impact. Guys who can accommodate generally seem to go to the front of couples preference, and occasionally single women who like to ensure that there is no wife lurking in the background.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

Can you understand why that is though?

Oh, yeah! Definitely.. But then how many men/women on here lie about their relationship status only to get muddled in a web of lies.

I'm not saying its right or wrong but I'd rather be up front, so at least both sides know what they're letting themselves in for."

Is there such thing as a selective liar??

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

No idea what you guys are doing wrong. I’m fighting them off with a big stick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

So you are saying that people fuck others even they are not attracted to them??

From looking around this area.

A possibility yes.

A new one on us!!

But hey ho!!"

debauchery maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area."

I find alot of men don't care about at least some level of attraction where all the women I know, insist on it

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

I find alot of men don't care about at least some level of attraction where all the women I know, insist on it"

Exactly.

Men just want sex with anyone.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

3 months isn't that long and we're in a pandemic. Patience is key. I have heard going to a club is probably best.

Stay strong buddy!"

If I had a pound for every time I heard “patience is key”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location, timing and mutual interests is a big thing on here .

Attraction is the main one though!

Not in all cases , maybe its just my area.

I find alot of men don't care about at least some level of attraction where all the women I know, insist on it

Exactly.

Men just want sex with anyone."

Edited responses but OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here 9 weeks, had 11 meets, 1 regular that I meet minimum of 3 times a week and a mixture of singles and couples, some who play MMF and some who play voyeur and watch me with their Mrs.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I think the others have covered it really. It's not easy for men here at the best of times as the maths works against you.

At least you live inba more densely populated area so that should make it easier when things go back to normal. You may find you're at the back of the "queue" as many people will have people they've been wanting to meet for ages but have been unable to because of restrictions.

Having a hidden profile won't help #JustSaying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started using fab around 8 years ago, it used to take single guys, on average, around 6 months to get their first meet.

Given the high proportion of men vs women and couples and that, over time, this has got even higher, that's probably getting to around 9 months to a year. Some do better, others less so.

But that was also when things were normal.

It may have escaped your attention, but for the last 15 months we've been living in a global pandemic and for most of that time, shouldn't have been meeting anybody.

There are still a lot of members here who are still not ready to start meeting again.

Back to your original question though OP, I do wonder what your expectations were on joining the site and what how you're going about finding people to play with.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I’ve never had any success posting for hotel meets whenever I’ve been away for the weekend.

What's going to be in it for them if they are not on the game?

...Now, there's a hint. If you want a shag in the hotel that much, why not book an escort. They exist precisely because men can't get it for nothing on Fab Swingers!!!

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

Impossible to meet single ladies and MF couples. Did meet a woman on another site and had a great time, but I think I was very fortunate

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

Hey my man. I’ve had a fair few meets now mostly all good. But if you have standards and a type then I guess yes it’s not that easy.

It’s basically facts that if you want to hook up, other dating apps (more main stream) would be way more successful. That being said I’m on here for what fab offers. Free thinkers like me that don’t really have hang ups. I think I would be hard pushed to find couples away from here.

So it really depends what your using the site for. A quick shag your better off going on popular dating apps

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Is there such thing as a selective liar??"

Of course not!!!

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

Best reply ever hahahaga

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

3 months isn't that long and we're in a pandemic. Patience is key. I have heard going to a club is probably best.

Stay strong buddy!

If I had a pound for every time I heard “patience is key”.

patience is the key. £1:00

Brought to you by The Ministry if Charity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay strong buddy

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Impossible to meet single ladies and MF couples. Did meet a woman on another site and had a great time, but I think I was very fortunate "

That is strange? You are Bi. I find over 50% of profiles seem to want bi men. que sera sera...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it all depends, I’ve had a few meets from here, but it like I say, depends, mainly on your expectations, what you’re looking for, if you’re a likeable guy, if you send a message that will get somebody’s attention, if there’s a mutual attraction, how you portray yourself and most importantly if you’re trying to punch above your weight or not, for example, sending a dick pic with the words “free to fuck now” probably won’t work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had Interest from women wanting to meet up with me. Not as part of a couple. Just me.

I didn't have many pics up and none of them were nudes. I'm not exactly a model either.

Maybe I am lucky.

It can be frustrating. I understand how you feel. But I do think you should just keep chugging along

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By *ark_KnightsMan
over a year ago

london

Make to female ratio through the roof

So it’s way harder it seems

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Not really.

Even though I know I'm not Fab royalty or a fittie - i think i do OK.

It could be my charming personality.

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By *andyBlax_XLMan
over a year ago

Mansfield

I’ve never managed to meet anyone from here but I’ve regularly more options in real life outside Fab. I guess this platform like other’s plays on the human weaknesses of wanting but also gambling/rewards aspect of the brain.

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