FabSwingers.com forum: One night stands

By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Outside of a club, I have never had a one night stand, even in the real world.

Considering I turn 60 next year, is that a sad thing to have to admit to

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would not having random sex be considered sad ?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm 37 and I never have, and I don't plan on doing so.

I don't consider it sad, and even if it is, eh fuck it. It is my way of doing things and I'm not going to change it for such a piss poor prefer pressure reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've never had a one-night stand.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have never had one. Just not my thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of fab I havent either.

I always put it down to not having a face for pulling randoms

Hope this thread has made you realise it is ok not to have had ONS OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how it's sad not to have had one. I had a couple when I was younger and it was not great, but then I need connection to have satisfactory sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

Sth Tyne

Yes...have a word with yourself haha.

Its entirely up to you how you live your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship"

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I had a loads when I was younger….. wasn’t great.

Your not missing out OP.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

I've had a number of them when I was in my 20s it almost felt like a right of passage at the local night club alot of them I wish I hadn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t had one nor any ‘casual’ sex lasting a little more than one night.

All were my girlfriends lasting at least 4 years.

I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship.

How are you looking now, OP. Not quite as sad, right?

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Had far too many when I was younger, it's nothing your missing out on, I look back and wish I hadn't sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ons are those things that happen, you not missing out on anything as the sex is rarely mind-blowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

You’re smiling far too much nowadays. What happened to the real P6545???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

You’re smiling far too much nowadays. What happened to the real P6545???

He's in the basement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

You’re smiling far too much nowadays. What happened to the real P6545???

He's in the basement

Is he in a pod or merely shackled?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I had several before joining fab. Looking back it seemed enjoyable at the time to scratch an itch but don't consider it to be the type of thing to engage in frequently even if the opportunities are there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

You’re smiling far too much nowadays. What happened to the real P6545???

He's in the basement

Is he in a pod or merely shackled?

A small wooden box.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

I have never had a one night stand. I’ve never even kissed anyone random on a night out.

I wouldn’t choose my clothes in the dark or d*unk so I sure as hell wouldn’t choose women that way either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t even kissed someone who wasn’t my girlfriend in a long term relationship

I have done that. I'm not completely sad

You’re smiling far too much nowadays. What happened to the real P6545???

He's in the basement

Is he in a pod or merely shackled?

A small wooden box."

Did he bring the soil from his native land? I’m seeing things a little more clearly now.

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

No its not sad at all x

People have different lifestyles and wants out of their sexual needs x

Oh and yes I have In the past and intend on doing so in the future, as distance often means one night pleasure playtimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I've never had a one-night stand."

I was usually too d*unk to fuck anyway in my younger days.

https://youtu.be/8Jzdikbi9yE

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

First when i discovered sites like fab i had a coiple...besides the newness of that person i realized quickly it wasnt smart or safe.

Now its a fwb situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one or two. But generally I get seconds lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one. Kept it beside my bed

But seriously, not being a huge club goer, I've never had one and don't really feel I'm missing out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes xx

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Yes xx"
would you like to elaborate Jessica

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never had one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't make you sad. I had a few in my early 20's and ill be honest had them cause I had no self worth, did I enjoy them, I enjoyed the intimacy, usually got the guy off quick enough.

I've since learned from joining here that sex is supposed to be enjoyed, I prefer sex with someone I'm attracted to and get to know what makes them tick, what turns them on, what makes them weak at the knees.

Than again if Tom Hardy or Daniel Craig offered me a hot one night stand I wouldn't say no.

Ive never cum or orgasmed with a guy or on my own it doesn't make me sad

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By *d2k14Man
over a year ago

london

Not sad at all. Lots of people haven't. I've has a few over the years - in fact way more so than actual serious relationships so you could argue that's sad! One nighters are pot luck, some were amazing and others weren't that good. It's horses for courses as they say. I guess in the current climate and how meeting people has changed they will probably be much less common now.

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By *mateur100Man
over a year ago

nr faversham

Long time ago I hooked up with a girl at a club and she stayed over. Suffice to say we both regretted it in the morning...next weekend I woke up with the same girl!!!

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By *n080971Man
over a year ago

Newbury

Yes, but only one which remains memorable as being exceptional. The rest were mostly d*unken incidents followed by awkward mornings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. They're rubbish.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

up a bit, right a bit...that's the spot

No, it's not sad...nobody on the planet has experienced every single thing there is to experience. I've had one night stands when I was younger...they were fun, but it's not something that I would do nowadays.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've never had one either, if that makes you feel better OP

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By *lueEyesEnigmaMan
over a year ago

Dublin

When I was younger yes I had one night stands. I reached a point where there has to be an intellectual connection, chemistry and physical attraction. Not to say that I won't find that for a one night stand it's just less likely.

As I am in a new city for the next few days, meeting new friends this view may go on temporary pause

Ultimately for me one night stands depends on how I want to respect myself at any given time. It's my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a ONS either. I'm only 27 so I guess there is still plenty of time but it's not something that hugely appeals to me. I do like the idea of it as a fantasy, but in reality I much prefer something more meaningful.

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Coningsby

Never had ons either

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Never had one. I'm told they're usually rubbish but I feel I've missed out anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes xx would you like to elaborate Jessica"

Oh god, I've had loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not sad at all.

I got through a few in my 20s and they were fun, but I wouldn’t say you’ve missed out as such; if you didn’t have any, there’s probably a good reason why….they’re not everyone’s thing, maybe subconsciously you never put yourself in the right place for it?

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Yes xx would you like to elaborate Jessica

Oh god, I've had loads

xx"
from some of your forum posts, that is actually one of your preferences though isn't it

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

In my youth a few times. Thats kind of how it was, go out down town, have a good night with you mates and meet women. Next week the same. Plus in my job at the time I would travel a lot and end up drinking and flirting in different parts of the country/world. It was fun flirting with women from different places. Plus I think when you only visiting a place this helps for a one night stand for both parties. Because its a limited opportunity (now or never), there's something fun about someone from somewhere else and you both know you'll be out of each others lives in the next couple of days nice and clean (especially if they have complications where they would want people around them to know about it). Then in my early 20s I got married to my ex wife and that was then end of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes xx would you like to elaborate Jessica

Oh god, I've had loads

xx from some of your forum posts, that is actually one of your preferences though isn't it"

I like a mix tbh, but I've got no problem with one offs, they're great fun and I like the thrill of getting my hands on someone new xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Depends if its on your bucket list or not.

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

Best thing ever. Going out with the lads, having drinks, meeting a girl, more drinks and a laugh and then back somewhere together for sex all night. Hands down best times/nights of my life have been one night stands, even better when on a hot and sunny lads holiday!!

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

"Yes xx would you like to elaborate Jessica

Oh god, I've had loads

xx"

That's the spirit

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

In my defence I absolutely hated going to nightclubs (and still do).

In my 20s I was into bee keeping and miniature wargames, and there wasn't a lot of poontang at those events!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not sad not to have had any outside of clubs and it's not sad to have had loads either

Both of us had loads in our youth and in swinging.

I don't see the difference between a one night stand in a swinger's club or anywhere else.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

ONS doesn't float my boat. I'd rather build up to something Wow! then have a craving for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had far too many when I was younger, it's nothing your missing out on, I look back and wish I hadn't sometimes

Yes I feel the same

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

No it's not sad. Why would it be?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I wish I had enjoyed my ons more when I had them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don’t do one night stands they leave me feeling cold

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"No it's not sad. Why would it be?"

Because it implies you were undesirable?

Admittedly the sex wasn't good, but wouldn't you feel a little hurt if no one ever propositioned you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We were discussing this after reading this thread

We used have a lot of ons before we knew each other. We'd spend an evening with a group of people probably chatting to one in particular, exchanging banter, flirting, then go home with them. We might date them for a bit or never see them again or in our case still be together 40 years later.

It's just sex, an enjoyable way of getting to know someone a bit better for an hour or two or a lifetime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t remember most of them until I walk past someone in the street and it memories flood back. No regrets we can only change what is in the future.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I can’t remember most of them until I walk past someone in the street and it memories flood back. No regrets we can only change what is in the future."

Exactly and I don't know why anybody would regret an hour or two spent in someone's company

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