FabSwingers.com forum: Long Term Relationship

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I'm curious to know...Would any young lads ever see themselves in a long term relationship with a woman way older..like say up to 20yrs older???

I'm talking a life partner. I know I've seen many statuses of young men wanting to "try" an older woman...But is that just it...??? Wanting to use her as a "try" or an "experiment"...

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By *urve lover 69Man
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme

Myself definitely long term I find older women very dam attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Myself definitely long term I find older women very dam attractive "

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Good to hear

I'd say you're a minority though...

We all know J-Lo & Madonna are still with way younger men...

But yea I'd also like to be in a long term relationship with much younger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes off corse I would if we clicked and got each other and wanted the same things then yes why not

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

When I was 28 I met and had an 8 year relationship with a lady who was 41, if I did that now, I may as well go and chat up Dot Cotton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the Q to ask is how many 40 and 50 year olds are still in a healthy and happy relationship with their partner of 60 or 70? Not trying to stir, but I expect that they are few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I'm curious to know...Would any young lads ever see themselves in a long term relationship with a woman way older..like say up to 20yrs older???

I'm talking a life partner. I know I've seen many statuses of young men wanting to "try" an older woman...But is that just it...??? Wanting to use her as a "try" or an "experiment"...

Jeez, the stench of desperation,ugh!!

You're extreme arrogance gets you points for cheek!

All you are is a fleshy old bird these young lads will secretly fuck. Nobody apart from actual sad sack losers would wife up an old woman. What can you offer a good looking young man?? Kids? 50yrsof baggage."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I'm curious to know...Would any young lads ever see themselves in a long term relationship with a woman way older..like say up to 20yrs older???

I'm talking a life partner. I know I've seen many statuses of young men wanting to "try" an older woman...But is that just it...??? Wanting to use her as a "try" or an "experiment"...

Jeez, the stench of desperation,ugh!!

You're extreme arrogance gets you points for cheek!

Where was her arrogance, I missed it? I just see a question on if any young men want a relationship with an older woman or are they just here to experiment? I don't see arrogance in that question though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the Q to ask is how many 40 and 50 year olds are still in a healthy and happy relationship with their partner of 60 or 70? Not trying to stir, but I expect that they are few and far between. "

Yours is another question but it isn’t the the one the OP is curious about. She has asked how many current young men desire this now, as they are, without the experience of a life lived.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"PENSIVE….

Natalie has already said it all. Your opinions are your own, it’s a matter of how you put them across and yours is, in this case, unnecessarily obtuse.

For someone to be quite so vitriolic in their response reflects either that they are especially uncouth in nature or is suffering a momentary lack in good fortune that has manifested in their lack of ability to function as a respectful and polite member of society.

For you sake, I hope it is the latter."

Well said that man, you put it much better than I could have done

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

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"Hi, I'm curious to know...Would any young lads ever see themselves in a long term relationship with a woman way older..like say up to 20yrs older???

I'm talking a life partner. I know I've seen many statuses of young men wanting to "try" an older woman...But is that just it...??? Wanting to use her as a "try" or an "experiment"...

Jeez, the stench of desperation,ugh!!

You're extreme arrogance gets you points for cheek!

Did no one ever teach you that if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all? What a dreadful comment to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the Q to ask is how many 40 and 50 year olds are still in a healthy and happy relationship with their partner of 60 or 70? Not trying to stir, but I expect that they are few and far between.

Yours is another question but it isn’t the the one the OP is curious about. She has asked how many current young men desire this now, as they are, without the experience of a life lived."

Quite true.

But the data point of ‘try’ is already there. The data point of ‘succeed’ is what’s really needed to comprehend the outcome probability.

I’d hazard a guess that the responses of ‘hell yes’ at the younger and of the spectrum may well be a little more skewed too - given the intended purpose of this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did no one ever teach you that if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all? What a dreadful comment to make. "

It is a comment put across dreadfully but not necessarily a dreadful opinion. I disagree that he shouldn’t voice his opinion. It is a valid one but it ought not be put across in such a manner. Every opinion matters, whether is it ‘nice’ or not but it can be put across more nicely.

It matters that we hear opposing opinions lest we rest on our laurels and free speech stagnates for fear or speaking up because it isn’t a nice to hear.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Maybe the Q to ask is how many 40 and 50 year olds are still in a healthy and happy relationship with their partner of 60 or 70? Not trying to stir, but I expect that they are few and far between.

Yours is another question but it isn’t the the one the OP is curious about. She has asked how many current young men desire this now, as they are, without the experience of a life lived.

Quite true.

But the data point of ‘try’ is already there. The data point of ‘succeed’ is what’s really needed to comprehend the outcome probability.

I’d hazard a guess that the responses of ‘hell yes’ at the younger and of the spectrum may well be a little more skewed too - given the intended purpose of this site

All OP wanted to know was would anyone be interested. Fab night not be the optimal environment for conducting a survey, and you might think you could have posed the question in a better way, but we can ask what we like here can’t we? Nothing wrong with OP asking what ever she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the Q to ask is how many 40 and 50 year olds are still in a healthy and happy relationship with their partner of 60 or 70? Not trying to stir, but I expect that they are few and far between.

Yours is another question but it isn’t the the one the OP is curious about. She has asked how many current young men desire this now, as they are, without the experience of a life lived.

Quite true.

But the data point of ‘try’ is already there. The data point of ‘succeed’ is what’s really needed to comprehend the outcome probability.

I’d hazard a guess that the responses of ‘hell yes’ at the younger and of the spectrum may well be a little more skewed too - given the intended purpose of this site

Therein lies my point about experience of a life lived; the priorities we have in our youth differs greatly from that which life offers through experience. What we try in our youth and how we factor our success rate then is in direct correlation with a lack of wisdom at the time.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Did no one ever teach you that if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all? What a dreadful comment to make.

It matters that we hear opposing opinions lest we rest on our laurels and free speech stagnates for fear or speaking up because it isn’t a nice to hear."

I wasn’t suggesting he shouldn’t have an opinion. We can all have whatever opinions we like, but if we’re not capable of expressing them in a way that isn’t offensive then my view is we should keep them to ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did no one ever teach you that if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all? What a dreadful comment to make.

It matters that we hear opposing opinions lest we rest on our laurels and free speech stagnates for fear or speaking up because it isn’t a nice to hear.

My comment was in reference to the adage of saying nothing if ‘you have nothing nice to say’. It is a sentiment with which I disagree.

It may not be a ‘nice’ thing to say, which suggests it is not a nice opinion according to the majority.

Perhaps the adage could be amended to ‘if you can’t say things nicely, say nothing at all’, which puts a slightly different spin to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I'm curious to know...Would any young lads ever see themselves in a long term relationship with a woman way older..like say up to 20yrs older???

I'm talking a life partner. I know I've seen many statuses of young men wanting to "try" an older woman...But is that just it...??? Wanting to use her as a "try" or an "experiment"..."

I’d say yes, all of my serious relationships have been with women substantially older, yes I find an older women really hot and sexy but also love the emotional maturity and being challenged (in a good way) that’s pulls me towards being with an older woman

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

i.e., there are ways and means of getting your point across without being offensive,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez, the stench of desperation,ugh!!

You're extreme arrogance gets you points for cheek!

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Who wrote the above comment??? It's not very clear who...

Firstly I don't see anything arrogant about my question...

Also can you explain the term "fleshy old bird"...

I don't think I fit that term...

Ammmmmmmmmm some young lads already have kids & don't want anymore & I don't have baggage lol...Some young lads have way more baggage then me TRUE...

What can I offer a good looking man you ask...

Firstly I'm still good looking without sounding big headed...& Believe it or not 48 isn't that old at all...& I'm far from "desperate"...

So as I said it's not very clear who wrote the messed up comment but I gather from it that you are quite bitter, judgemental & narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is 20 years between us and still going strong after 15 years. Still love eachothers company etc.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

""Jeez, the stench of desperation,ugh!!

You're extreme arrogance gets you points for cheek!

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Who wrote the above comment??? It's not very clear who...

Firstly I don't see anything arrogant about my question...

Also can you explain the term "fleshy old bird"...

I don't think I fit that term...

Ammmmmmmmmm some young lads already have kids & don't want anymore & I don't have baggage lol...Some young lads have way more baggage then me TRUE...

What can I offer a good looking man you ask...

Firstly I'm still good looking without sounding big headed...& Believe it or not 48 isn't that old at all...& I'm far from "desperate"...

So as I said it's not very clear who wrote the messed up comment but I gather from it that you are quite bitter, judgemental & narrow minded

Whoever wrote that comment is vile. Absolutely no need for it whatsoever.

My kids aren’t baggage, they rock.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I suspect who ever wrote that has been banned and the post removed, so we will never know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just found out who it is...Thanks to a lovely kind gent who informed me...He has trolled another thread of mine...& I've just discovered that he has me blocked Lol so he won't even face up to his unexplained behaviour... He's just let himself down.

Anyway thanks for the feedback...I see 3 younger guys are quiet happy, content & satisfied in relationships with older women...Thanks also for the DMs...

Keep smiling & head up & all times...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*Keep smiling & head up at all times...

PS: I've never had any interaction whatsoever with the `troll`...not unless he mailed me & I didn't see it & it was automatically deleted...who knows...

As we know ratio of M:F is vast...

Anyway Happy Trolling To You who wasn't Man enough to explain your uncalled for unprovoked behaviour.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'd dated a few women considerably older than me when I was young. And by dated I mean in a sense that if that I was open to the relationship growing into something long term should it have worked out. Compatability for me has always been the driving factor and I just seemed to connect better with older women. Age wasn't really anything that factored into my head.

(Mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a long term relationship with someone 16 years my senior. Was never a "try" or "experience".

We met out of the blue, not online, and started dating so to speak. Age never was a factor really.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It worked for Barbara Windsor.

It works for Michael Ball, Jason Mamoa, Ryan Gosling, Emmanuel Macron to name but a few.

You fall in love with who you fall in love with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anything is possible.

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