FabSwingers.com forum: The dilemma

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So last week I was working at a customer's house. She was chaty and flirty.

Talking in code about things we both like etc.

She said fab alot.

We got rudely interrupted by other trades coming in to work.

So I look around on here and can't find her but I found her on another social media site in the sub description saying "fab friends page".

Now do I just pop around her house and have a deeper chat or do I message her on the other social media site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither

Just have a wee smile at the memory of what was probably just some innocuous chat

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Neither.

Saying fab isn't an indication of anything.

best to just leave it alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither

Just have a wee smile at the memory of what was probably just some innocuous chat "

This ^^

NBVN x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Missed a bit of a chance there... should have slipped her your fabname

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely do not pop around to her house, you were there to a job so don’t take advantage of that.

If you were doing work there then I assume she would have your contact details? If she wanted to pursue anything then she’d make up some crappy opener about the job you’d just done and would use that to contact you. From there you could gauge from there if she wants to progress the conversation into something more.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

No dilemma, it's quite simple, you do nothing.

You might have thought she was talking in code, she may have just been talking normally for her, some people say "fab" a lot without having ever heard of this place. She might just be a naturally outgoing and flirty person without any intent.

To be honest it's kind of creepy that you've traced her to a social media site, so contacting her there is definitely a no.

All you can do is smile at the memory, and *if* you ever have to return to her house legitimately because of work, see if anything comes of it then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a polite message where she contacted you saying you hope she's pleased with your work and she knows how to get in touch.

That way, you've not sought her out on other platforms and it's reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I best put a bit more detail on what had gone on.

The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.

He got very jealous over time and the relationship came to an end as it become volatile.

Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".

Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.

So maybe I should of pointed that out first but also understand the comments.

Also I am a sub contractor it wasn't my job I was just contacted to do it so the doesn't have my details knows my name but not my details.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe a polite message where she contacted you saying you hope she's pleased with your work and she knows how to get in touch.

That way, you've not sought her out on other platforms and it's reasonable."

Hummmm I may do that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wish people would just say outright what they mean. You were on her house,she held all the cards. Either she was hinting outright OR she was teasing. If she didn't give you a very clear, unambiguous indication that she wanted to take things further you need to see this as a flirtatious interlude and nothing more. As a man you are in a very vulnerable position with regards to anything sexual in that situation and I'd always say it's better to walk away than regret things later

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ok I best put a bit more detail on what had gone on.

The conversation that I had with the woman was pretty in-depth. She told me about a past with her ex-husband having extra company within the relationship.

He got very jealous over time and the relationship came to an end as it become volatile.

Any early afternoon she came into the room and said " sorry i had to go to my bedroom to release a bit of tension".

Pointing out as I was on my hands and knees that a lot of things are running through her mind.

So maybe I should of pointed that out first but also understand the comments.

Also I am a sub contractor it wasn't my job I was just contacted to do it so the doesn't have my details knows my name but not my details."

See if a man did this to a woman who was working in his home it would be harrasment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a polite message where she contacted you saying you hope she's pleased with your work and she knows how to get in touch.

That way, you've not sought her out on other platforms and it's reasonable."

Yep this.

If you still had work to do there I'd see if she mentions all the stuff again and then indicate you're interested in similar. She has been open with you so no harm in asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do nowt, if it’s gonna happen it will, or it won’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do know that fab is short for fabulous and has been in use a lot longer than this site has been around.

It was even used in Thunderbirds in the 60's for goodness sake.

Some people use the word as an alternative to good or great.

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