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"Such ignorance makes me rage! I would have sooo wanted to hurt her. Well done for showing restraint and dignity. My cousin was born premature and was severely disabled for 8 years before she gave up the fight, but she bought so much joy to our lives like any child disabled or not, would. I have no time for people like this and am equally angered by so called 'jokes' about disabled people. Idiots! Well done pork x " I mean Porky | |||
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"One of those jaw breaking moments Admire your restraint" Yep!! Well done! I normally find verbal responses work well in this situation! One that I may have used in this scenario would be 'You do know this is the wrong bus stop for the service to 'I'm an ignorant bitch'?' Or simply! 'I'm sorry my daughter has more social skills than you - it must be hard being so fucking rude all the time! Take a break one day - you might enjoy it!!' | |||
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"Top marks for staying calm. I spend many hours with people who enjoy downs syndrome. They are amazing. Had a similar incident, but David replied. "Your not a nice lady" the whole queue cheered. (I say enjoy downs as opposed to suffering because they get a real genuine buzz out of life. I've never met one who didn't make me smile and laugh) They are amazing people. " Yes they truly are adorable... | |||
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"Such ignorance makes me rage! I would have sooo wanted to hurt her. Well done for showing restraint and dignity. My cousin was born premature and was severely disabled for 8 years before she gave up the fight, but she bought so much joy to our lives like any child disabled or not, would. I have no time for people like this and am equally angered by so called 'jokes' about disabled people. Idiots! Well done pork x " Even if those jokes are made by disabled people? Some of the most un-pc people I know are disabled people!! My sister was in a wheelchair for 18 months when we were kids and people used to stare at her so my dad told her to stick her tongue out at them, they soon looked away. One woman came over and asked if she wanted a sweet so he told her 'its her legs that don't work not her brain, ask her yourself!' You won't change a persons attitude by confronting them in the street or lashing out at them, all you can do is teach your daughter how to deal with negativity when it comes her way. | |||
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"OH by the way just looked at your profile and noticed that you went to Southampton today. Does not surprise me they are all rude bastards there. She sounds like a local" That's Pork that went to Southhamton, this happened in Essex (Perky) | |||
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"OH by the way just looked at your profile and noticed that you went to Southampton today. Does not surprise me they are all rude bastards there. She sounds like a local That's Pork that went to Southhamton, this happened in Essex (Perky) " I see..maybe it was a southampton local on a day out in essex or something. | |||
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"One of those jaw breaking moments Admire your restraint" My mother had bi polar and was often hurling abuse and nasty comments ... i spend so much time apologizing for her words and actions. At times she was also taunted off others for her state of mind and how she appeared. Unfortunately she used to go on "walkabout" and got into all kinds of trouble when alone. Inner strength helps get through these awful situations. | |||
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"Top marks for staying calm. I spend many hours with people who enjoy downs syndrome. They are amazing. Had a similar incident, but David replied. "Your not a nice lady" the whole queue cheered. (I say enjoy downs as opposed to suffering because they get a real genuine buzz out of life. I've never met one who didn't make me smile and laugh) They are amazing people. " (Pork) | |||
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"I'm not going down the woman had mental health issues route to be honest....basically, I've found more people I've cared for in the last 10years , who have mental health problems better than those without.Rarely ever had I been verbally abused by clients(in various states of mental wellbeing)..regarding my colour.So i would rather take the stance that this woman in the street was in fact...just a total cunt.These people exist!" Yes, they do, I agree with you - however, I would like to say that in my definition of MH issue I include not just the severe end of the spectrum of diagnosis. And from that stance... I can see that the behaviour experienced here....MAY be due to serious issues, prejudice and an inability to see the world in anything but black and white. Hope I make sense? | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint." But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vile | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint. But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vile" No, it is not what I meant. I was trying to say some rude behaviour, perceived or otherwise, may be down to MH and some may be down to plain ignorance, lack of social skills and empathy - having said that, the latter two could also be indicators of MH issues. Its a bit of a grey area, I think. | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint. But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vileNo, it is not what I meant. I was trying to say some rude behaviour, perceived or otherwise, may be down to MH and some may be down to plain ignorance, lack of social skills and empathy - having said that, the latter two could also be indicators of MH issues. Its a bit of a grey area, I think." She could have mental health issues but there is 3 in 4 chance that she doesnt. There used to be so much stigma attatched to metal health people assuming they where violent ect, in fact most people i know with mental health problems are not nasty or violent. Its taken years to get rid of that stigma | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint. But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vileNo, it is not what I meant. I was trying to say some rude behaviour, perceived or otherwise, may be down to MH and some may be down to plain ignorance, lack of social skills and empathy - having said that, the latter two could also be indicators of MH issues. Its a bit of a grey area, I think. She could have mental health issues but there is 3 in 4 chance that she doesnt. There used to be so much stigma attatched to metal health people assuming they where violent ect, in fact most people i know with mental health problems are not nasty or violent. Its taken years to get rid of that stigma" Again, it is not what I meant to say - Yes, there is a 75% chance that the person is not suffering from MH issues. And yes, there (still) is a lot of stigma attached to MH issues, their signs and symptoms and it is one matter that is very close to my heart so I am with you on that front. I am also aware that neither of us were there to witness the incident. I do feel though that a distinct lack of empathy for a fellow human being and the subsequent aggressive behaviour MAY be a sign of underlying MH issue. Then again, it may not. Either is possible - would you agree? | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint. But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vileNo, it is not what I meant. I was trying to say some rude behaviour, perceived or otherwise, may be down to MH and some may be down to plain ignorance, lack of social skills and empathy - having said that, the latter two could also be indicators of MH issues. Its a bit of a grey area, I think. She could have mental health issues but there is 3 in 4 chance that she doesnt. There used to be so much stigma attatched to metal health people assuming they where violent ect, in fact most people i know with mental health problems are not nasty or violent. Its taken years to get rid of that stigmaAgain, it is not what I meant to say - Yes, there is a 75% chance that the person is not suffering from MH issues. And yes, there (still) is a lot of stigma attached to MH issues, their signs and symptoms and it is one matter that is very close to my heart so I am with you on that front. I am also aware that neither of us were there to witness the incident. I do feel though that a distinct lack of empathy for a fellow human being and the subsequent aggressive behaviour MAY be a sign of underlying MH issue. Then again, it may not. Either is possible - would you agree? " Yes i would agree that there is a chance but a larger chance that she isnt suffering MH, i spent half my younger life being asked if i was violent as people automatically linked mental health and violence, thankfully we have come along way and its years since ive been asked the question. You often see headlines in newspapers saying "sctzephrenic murders someone" but they dont ever say that the majority of perpetraters have no sign of mental illness. Its a bug bear of mine having to spend most of my life trying to change peoples attitudes | |||
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"It does sound like the woman has a mental health issue - far more common that we think with more than 1 on 4 adults experiencing MH problems. I feel for you and admire your courage and restraint. But thats equivalent to saying people can only be nasty if they have mental health problems, sounds to me this woman was just vileNo, it is not what I meant. I was trying to say some rude behaviour, perceived or otherwise, may be down to MH and some may be down to plain ignorance, lack of social skills and empathy - having said that, the latter two could also be indicators of MH issues. Its a bit of a grey area, I think. She could have mental health issues but there is 3 in 4 chance that she doesnt. There used to be so much stigma attatched to metal health people assuming they where violent ect, in fact most people i know with mental health problems are not nasty or violent. Its taken years to get rid of that stigmaAgain, it is not what I meant to say - Yes, there is a 75% chance that the person is not suffering from MH issues. And yes, there (still) is a lot of stigma attached to MH issues, their signs and symptoms and it is one matter that is very close to my heart so I am with you on that front. I am also aware that neither of us were there to witness the incident. I do feel though that a distinct lack of empathy for a fellow human being and the subsequent aggressive behaviour MAY be a sign of underlying MH issue. Then again, it may not. Either is possible - would you agree? Yes i would agree that there is a chance but a larger chance that she isnt suffering MH, i spent half my younger life being asked if i was violent as people automatically linked mental health and violence, thankfully we have come along way and its years since ive been asked the question. You often see headlines in newspapers saying "sctzephrenic murders someone" but they dont ever say that the majority of perpetraters have no sign of mental illness. Its a bug bear of mine having to spend most of my life trying to change peoples attitudes" I can see where you are coming from. | |||
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"my dads disabled, and when out with him im always amazed by peoples attitudes, from rudeness to plain ignorance. but the worst is that because hes in a chair people assume his brain doesnt work aswell, infact hes one of the smartest men i know, i remember beeing in a car dealership helping him choose a new car, now remember this is for him not me and the salesman ignored him totaly and kept directing his answers at me even if asked by dad, in the end he asked me a question about something and i just said, why dont you ask the person whos going to be paying for it, he looked at me blankly. so guess what we left and got a car somewhere else...." Good for you. I'd have got on to their Sales Director and got him fired too. Teach him a lesson he wouldn't forget in a hurry. And, no, I wouldn't worry if he had kids and a mortgage. | |||
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"my dads disabled, and when out with him im always amazed by peoples attitudes, from rudeness to plain ignorance. but the worst is that because hes in a chair people assume his brain doesnt work aswell, infact hes one of the smartest men i know, i remember beeing in a car dealership helping him choose a new car, now remember this is for him not me and the salesman ignored him totaly and kept directing his answers at me even if asked by dad, in the end he asked me a question about something and i just said, why dont you ask the person whos going to be paying for it, he looked at me blankly. so guess what we left and got a car somewhere else.... Good for you. I'd have got on to their Sales Director and got him fired too. Teach him a lesson he wouldn't forget in a hurry. And, no, I wouldn't worry if he had kids and a mortgage. " it was enough to see the look on his face as he realised there was a big fat comision walking out the door | |||
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"my dads disabled, and when out with him im always amazed by peoples attitudes, from rudeness to plain ignorance. but the worst is that because hes in a chair people assume his brain doesnt work aswell, infact hes one of the smartest men i know, i remember beeing in a car dealership helping him choose a new car, now remember this is for him not me and the salesman ignored him totaly and kept directing his answers at me even if asked by dad, in the end he asked me a question about something and i just said, why dont you ask the person whos going to be paying for it, he looked at me blankly. so guess what we left and got a car somewhere else.... Good for you. I'd have got on to their Sales Director and got him fired too. Teach him a lesson he wouldn't forget in a hurry. And, no, I wouldn't worry if he had kids and a mortgage. it was enough to see the look on his face as he realised there was a big fat comision walking out the door " I used to work in Sales, and that wouldn't have been anywhere near enough for me, but I hope your Dad got treated properly at the dealer you eventually bought from....? | |||
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"Give Josie lots of fab hugs from us swingers. My sister and neice are both disabled, not physically though. I have taken taunts and hidings since we were kids because my sister never missed a chance to verbally abuse her attackers. She used to laugh her socks off that they saved the physical abuse for me (they wouldn't hit a 'daft' lass) and she'd say, who's the daft one? I give them shit and you get the hidings! " Josie is non-verbal and i think always will be, so she relies on the people around her to do the talking for her, and because she has low muscle tone it's awkward for her to sign. Ever since she was diagnosed at the age of 2 1/2 i have got myself into all sorts of situations. It used to embarrass her sister when people stared and pointed, now she just tells them to get a life lol. There is more awareness out there today but some people just choose to stay ignorant!! Pork has said i need to learn some great one liners to put this people down in an instant........ | |||
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"Having read the thread and considered all the comments... I want to say that sometimes you just don't know about other people. The lady could have had mental health issues, she could have been a total bitch, a close relative may have died the day before and she was just lashing out without thinking, you just don't know. Similar with a person in a wheelchair or a person that has a mental disability but nothing that would physically show it. You just don't know, and often you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Perhaps you talk to the person in the wheelchair and the carer with them shouts at you for speaking to them, saying they don't understand you as they are also mentally disabled. You try to help a blind person across the road and they get cross and say how rude you are as they are perfectly capable of managing by themselves. The man shaking on the floor and people pass him by thinking he's d*unk when he's actually having an epileptic fit. I am not trying to be rude by posting this, I'm just trying to point out that there can be many different reasons for anything you may see or hear. Hope that makes sense. " Normally when i take Josie out she is in her wheelchair but this time i thought that she could the short distance that i wanted to do. Because i am 51 and she is 13 and stronger than most men on here because of her Autism. When she goes into melt down and she dosn't have her wheelchair (this when she has a lot of people around her) She will drop to the floor and try to hide her self, i can-not pick her up my self and have to rely on someone stronger.... When Josie is in her wheelchair then all happens even traffic stops.... | |||
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