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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Hello.

I was just wondering what people's thoughts are on the following.

Is it odd or not?

How would you react ?

So

Many years ago when I was a just a young sapling, my family and I purchased a very very old house, like hundreds of years old, when we moved in the previous owner had been a 98 year old lady who had been born and died in the house.

The house needed tons of work doing to it which our father did.

During the renovation lot's and lots of interesting stuff was found walls moved secret staircases found etc...

Unfortunately we never got to finish the project and moved out well over 40 years ago, subsequently the grounds have been split up and house's built, but the original house well house's actually two joined together one 250 year's old the other almost 500.

I have many times over the years wanted to return and introduce myself to the current owners and explain everything we did and discovered during the work.

I am the only surviving family member who knows what happened.

How would people feel if a complete stranger knocked on the door and introduced themselves,

Weird or not?

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I think I’d write a letter first.

V x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Personally I would welcome it, I wish I knew more about our house

Jo x

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x "

Yes I'd make an initial contact first but if I were the owner now, I'd love some background on the house

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x "

I’d do this, and maybe mention a few defining characteristics that only someone who has been inside the house would know.

But then I am highly suspicious of most, and maybe they aren’t!

But I understand your curiosity. I don’t think it’s odd.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

An interesting one. I've felt the same about the house I grew up in as some very odd things happened there and I've often wondered if they continued after we moved out.

I agree a letter might me the best way forward as not knowing people's circs they might not be so accomodating to someone just turning up on the doorstep.

Good luck OP

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

I don’t think it’s weird, you’ve got a connection to the past which you look at fondly. Go and knock at the door but beware it could go well or badly. They may tell you to politely go away which you must do without trying to be invasive. Or they may invite you in but the realities of the house aren’t as good as the memories. Or you may be invited in and it go brilliantly sharing your memories and awakening more. Just be open minded before you knock on the door.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x

I’d do this, and maybe mention a few defining characteristics that only someone who has been inside the house would know.

But then I am highly suspicious of most, and maybe they aren’t!

But I understand your curiosity. I don’t think it’s odd.

"

It leaves the choice with them. They can ignore if weird to them or send you a text if they think it’s great. As a solo woman I wouldn’t relish the doorstep surprise.

V x

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x

Yes I'd make an initial contact first but if I were the owner now, I'd love some background on the house "

One of the more interesting facts is the older part of the house used to be an inn and was frequented by one Dick Turpin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, although just rocking up with a 'can I come in' might be a little off putting. Perhaps post a letter explaining all the above, with your phone number asking to call if they'd be willing to show you round.

I did something similar a couple of months ago; I'm now working up North, closer to my roots, and on a bike ride made a detour to the village I left as a youngster. Took a couple of photos of my old house but didn't bang on the door!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

My friend did this to her old house a few years ago. They moved back abroad after their eldest was born & wanted the kids to see it. The new owners were very accommodating luckily

J x

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Most people who buy an old property are interested in the property and it's past. It wouldn't bother me at all if someone knocked on my door, but that's me.

Put a note through the door

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I think a note is the way forward, I may spend a weekend in the area and post a letter with my number if they are happy to hear about the place cool if not it's no problem we have family friends still in the area we can go see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x

Yes I'd make an initial contact first but if I were the owner now, I'd love some background on the house

One of the more interesting facts is the older part of the house used to be an inn and was frequented by one Dick Turpin.

"

I think it would be really interesting. I love old places with stories attached. Hope you contact and they are interested x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I used to live in a house that had a particular feature of the village. People would just knock and almost be in before the words “I’m busy” had even been uttered.

It doesn’t mean the story isn’t appreciated ….. totally the opposite, but doorstep encounters are not great not just for single women but lots of people.

Please don’t just knock. Write and post. Let them decide. It’s their home.

V x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I think I’d write a letter first.

V x "

I think this a great option. Especially in these covid times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a letter with your contact details is the way I would approach this.

Keep us updated as its very interesting. Good luck

NBVN x

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By *traight_no_iceMan
over a year ago

Stoke

Not weird. If I was living there, I would be interested to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had that happen twice. Once it was fascinating, the other not so much.

The first time it happened was in a pub that I was managing 20 years ago. An elderly gentleman who I'd not seen before came in not long after opening and started to tell me about the history of the building. Turns out that he was the grandson of a couple who ran it decades before I was even born. He asked if he could show me something in the cellar, so I took him down and there and he headed straight for the spirit store. Once inside, he pulled a couple of bottles away from the top shelf and was delighted to see that 'it was still there'. There was a name and the year 1931 carved into the brickwork. Showing me his bus pass, it was the same name.

The second time it happened was whilst I was still at that pub. My grandmother lived only a few houses up the road and rang through, quite distressed about someone sat outside in a car watching her house. I was there within seconds. The chap in the car was actually quite a nice, local bloke who I'd seen around before and had recognised her house from some very old family photos he'd found from clearing his own grandfathers house out after he'd passed away. His own grandparents were the people whom my grandparents had bought the house from 40 years prior. When I explained that the person living there now was an old lady and had been quite unnerved by someone sat outside looking at her house, he was extremely apologetic and headed off on his way.

You just have to be careful about arriving at someone's house unannounced and remember that no matter how interesting your knowledge of it may be, it's someone elses home now. Some people may very well be fascinated to hear its history, but some people might just want to be left to live at home in peace without strangers turning up. I'd suggest perhaps writing the current owners a letter to introduce yourself, explain a little about your interest in their property and leave a contact number. If they want to know more about its history, they have the option then of inviting you to their home.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

It's a lovely idea but you do not know them or how they will react.

So drop them a line. Say you are willing to write to them further with information about the house if they want.

There's NO need to knock on the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this before or after the little girl gets sucked through the TV?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.

I was just wondering what people's thoughts are on the following.

Is it odd or not?

How would you react ?

So

Many years ago when I was a just a young sapling, my family and I purchased a very very old house, like hundreds of years old, when we moved in the previous owner had been a 98 year old lady who had been born and died in the house.

The house needed tons of work doing to it which our father did.

During the renovation lot's and lots of interesting stuff was found walls moved secret staircases found etc...

Unfortunately we never got to finish the project and moved out well over 40 years ago, subsequently the grounds have been split up and house's built, but the original house well house's actually two joined together one 250 year's old the other almost 500.

I have many times over the years wanted to return and introduce myself to the current owners and explain everything we did and discovered during the work.

I am the only surviving family member who knows what happened.

How would people feel if a complete stranger knocked on the door and introduced themselves,

Weird or not?"

Not a weird thing to do at all . Many years ago I visited one of the farm houses my grand parents owned and my mother was brought up in , during WW2 they took in American servicemen & also had Italian and German prisoners of war work the land . I had original photos of the farm house with pictures of the POW’s on the land , ( dads army watching over them) the new owners were more than welcoming & over joyed to hear the history of the property & were given copies of the photographs on another visit ( Mr)

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

Letter is way to go id love it if i owned the place.love to know how this ends

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

Not weird but deffo make contact first.

Back in the early noughties I went to Naples with my now wife, my sister and her boyfriend. We went to the district where my mum grew up and where we'd spent time on holidays when we we kids, staying with my grandparents.

Now, this district ain't the most salubrious (if you've seen Gomorra, it's the district down from 'the sails' in Scampia) so we were taking a bit of a risk just being there, but we had a coffee and I started chatting with the cafe owner and dropping names. He gets on the phone and before I know it, I'm invited in to what used to be my grandparents' flat.

These total strangers knew some people from the old days and got on the phone themselves and got in contact with a guy that used to be my uncle's best friend. Long story short, we went to meet them at their place for supper, called my uncle up and it was lovely! They'd lost touch totally, but for the last 20 years they've visited each other regularly and rekindled the friendship.

May similar good things come from your initiative x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Hello.

I was just wondering what people's thoughts are on the following.

Is it odd or not?

How would you react ?

So

Many years ago when I was a just a young sapling, my family and I purchased a very very old house, like hundreds of years old, when we moved in the previous owner had been a 98 year old lady who had been born and died in the house.

The house needed tons of work doing to it which our father did.

During the renovation lot's and lots of interesting stuff was found walls moved secret staircases found etc...

Unfortunately we never got to finish the project and moved out well over 40 years ago, subsequently the grounds have been split up and house's built, but the original house well house's actually two joined together one 250 year's old the other almost 500.

I have many times over the years wanted to return and introduce myself to the current owners and explain everything we did and discovered during the work.

I am the only surviving family member who knows what happened.

How would people feel if a complete stranger knocked on the door and introduced themselves,

Weird or not?"

It’s not specifically weird, so long as you approach it in the right way.

I’ve seen enough horror films to know that a mysterious stranger knocking on the door, with secrets about the land they’re living on, is never a good sign!

Send a letter with your number on first, then they can contact you if they want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I've done it a few times! The last time was in 2019 ... love things like this, but as you'll never know who and how the person is until you knock the only thing to do is knock! The worst thing that can happen us they can say no and that hasn't changed your life at all!

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'd invite you in, make you a cup of tea and enjoy listening to your story

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not weird at all...go for it...I'm sure you'll receive a good welcome

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes I would deffinately do it but maybe write a letter first asking if you could go as just turning up they might think a bit weird

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I don’t think it’s weird. The letter writing route is a good idea but if someone knocked on my door I would probably entertain them when the full restrictions lift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I would deffinately do it but maybe write a letter first asking if you could go as just turning up they might think a bit

weird"

Yea Defo contact them first

Don't just arrive at the door unannounced...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Letter first - gives them opportunity to think about how they want to respond.

Turning up on their doorstep might catch them at an inconvenient time and it might even make them feel vulnerable.

Good luck with this - I would want to do it as well.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Nothing weird about that at all.

As others have said, write first.

I expect a positive reaction, as it tends be those with an interest in history that buy such properties.

If I lived in one, I would love to know all about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely send a letter and let us know what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all just depends on the person who currently resides there. A letter is the safest bet, but I would only offer to discuss things, rather than ‘show’ them. Then if the conversation begins, you can then offer to explore if they are aware of the quirks or not. I have lived in houses of character before but would also flit between the mood of welcoming someone who may know the house better, and also not wanting to welcome a stranger and probably just discuss them with the things they observed.

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