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People who lie about their age

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are we saying?

I know I've certainly changed my age limits to something I'm more comfortable with. But recently there's there's guys who say they're above that age on their profile with a lower age on their account messaging me.

I don't know about you but I find this a bit odd and perhaps disrespectful? That may be the wrong word.

If someone has set a boundary that these are the ages they're willing to meet, why are you changing your age to get into that boundary?

I just don't get it myself. Perhaps someone else can explain it to me?

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

No idea, we only meet men 60+ and we have had alot messaging us saying they put the wrong dob and are infact over 60.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No idea, we only meet men 60+ and we have had alot messaging us saying they put the wrong dob and are infact over 60.

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So either way they've lied to get someone's attention haha either yours or someone else's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read a profile last night that was 10 years off, but declared in the text.

I get why people do it but unless age filters are removed i guess it'll continue to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's misleading. You aren't wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe it's just me being an arsehole. But if I've set this age limit, I don't really want to chat to someone over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it's just me being an arsehole. But if I've set this age limit, I don't really want to chat to someone over it "

I don't get offended by chatting to any age group , but it'd be unlikely that I'd ever meet if they were much younger than me.. I like my men mature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd better chat now then. I've only got one more year before I'm out of range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, cause women never do that on here, not ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people do it to get around age restrictions but I don't see the reason why people lie.

I'd probably be okay with it if someone changed by a year or two to make theirselves less recognizable. But if I think your 35 and you turn up to a meet with a walking stick you've gone a little too far

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people do it to get around age restrictions but I don't see the reason why people lie.

I'd probably be okay with it if someone changed by a year or two to make theirselves less recognizable. But if I think your 35 and you turn up to a meet with a walking stick you've gone a little too far "

Yeah, absolutely!

To be honest, my age range is higher than I'd normally go for mainly because you don't know if someone a bit older might pique your interest... but it's down to me whether I meet at the end of the day!

No harm in chatting, just rather people didn't lie to be able to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, cause women never do that on here, not ever. "

No one said they don't lol I'm just speaking from my own experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone does it to an extent but one thing is maybe go a bit older or young by a year or two. (I admit I’ve put an older age to disguise in case)

But I mean, those ones who say they are 10 years younger… how can they get away with it??

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I just think a lot of people will say anything to get shag!

I had a guy message me who was 12 years older than my top limit, I got cross with him and he blamed me for not making it clear on my profile - how much clearer do I need to be than having written age limits?

Or there are the ones listed as 42 but profile text says "Actually 47, can't change it now" - what's that about?

My least favourite though is mean who are older than me, whose age preferences are younger than both of us but still message me anyway. I feel like a consolidation prize. I don't even like it when I'm at the upper end of someone's age threshold, feels a little like sailing close to the wind!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just think a lot of people will say anything to get shag!

I had a guy message me who was 12 years older than my top limit, I got cross with him and he blamed me for not making it clear on my profile - how much clearer do I need to be than having written age limits?

Or there are the ones listed as 42 but profile text says "Actually 47, can't change it now" - what's that about?

My least favourite though is mean who are older than me, whose age preferences are younger than both of us but still message me anyway. I feel like a consolidation prize. I don't even like it when I'm at the upper end of someone's age threshold, feels a little like sailing close to the wind!"

Right?? I've been told off for questioning why somebody has a different age? As if because they've given their real age on their bio that I'm the one with the problem?? like what? I even tried explaining why I didn't agree with his method and he got more angry with me... haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t bother putting my proper birthday, just the year so it defaulted to January 1. That means I’m now coming up as 36 and not 35 (my birthday isn’t for another few weeks yet)

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I didn’t bother putting my proper birthday, just the year so it defaulted to January 1. That means I’m now coming up as 36 and not 35 (my birthday isn’t for another few weeks yet)"

Same, my age is real but birth date is not. That's just privacy, not deception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hands up, my profile age isn't accurate but not to deceive age prefs, more to hide if that make sense? It's a couple of years tho not decades.

I have age prefs too but tbh, only because I have to. It's more about maturity and respect, neither of which are limited to a certain age. End of the day, if you connect and it feels right then a number isn't going to change that. Though, someone claiming to be way younger than they are is just daft cause if they meet, other persons gonna notice so what's the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t bother putting my proper birthday, just the year so it defaulted to January 1. That means I’m now coming up as 36 and not 35 (my birthday isn’t for another few weeks yet)

Same, my age is real but birth date is not. That's just privacy, not deception."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hands up, my profile age isn't accurate but not to deceive age prefs, more to hide if that make sense? It's a couple of years tho not decades.

I have age prefs too but tbh, only because I have to. It's more about maturity and respect, neither of which are limited to a certain age. End of the day, if you connect and it feels right then a number isn't going to change that. Though, someone claiming to be way younger than they are is just daft cause if they meet, other persons gonna notice so what's the point. "

Agree with this, yeah

I prefer a certain age due to maturity too but maturity isn't often found even within that age range haha

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I know of someone whos fab age was 55 in 2018 when I was in a group chat with him. He admitted to the group that he was actually 58 at that time.

However he has a new profile now showing his age as 50?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know of someone whos fab age was 55 in 2018 when I was in a group chat with him. He admitted to the group that he was actually 58 at that time.

However he has a new profile now showing his age as 50? "

What?? That's out of order!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of someone whos fab age was 55 in 2018 when I was in a group chat with him. He admitted to the group that he was actually 58 at that time.

However he has a new profile now showing his age as 50? "

Benjamin Button?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age"

Surely that's an inflated estimation??

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

Surely that's an inflated estimation?? "

No. Why would anyone put their exact age on here. May as well post your last 3 digits on the back of your card in your profile text as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

Surely that's an inflated estimation??

No. Why would anyone put their exact age on here. May as well post your last 3 digits on the back of your card in your profile text as well. "

I didn't realise age revealed that much about you haha

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

Surely that's an inflated estimation??

No. Why would anyone put their exact age on here. May as well post your last 3 digits on the back of your card in your profile text as well.

I didn't realise age revealed that much about you haha "

You’d be surprised the lengths that some folk go to.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If I'm attracted to them in person it wouldn't bother me if they weren't the age on their profile, but pretending you're 15/20 years younger than you are might be a problem.

I changed my age due to close family and friends messaging me, who I don't want knowing it's me..I'm also taller than my profile states.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

Surely that's an inflated estimation??

No. Why would anyone put their exact age on here. May as well post your last 3 digits on the back of your card in your profile text as well.

I didn't realise age revealed that much about you haha

You’d be surprised the lengths that some folk go to. "

I think you might be right. Im new to this so might be quite naive

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’d say 90%+ on the site lie about their actual age

Surely that's an inflated estimation??

No. Why would anyone put their exact age on here. May as well post your last 3 digits on the back of your card in your profile text as well.

I didn't realise age revealed that much about you haha

You’d be surprised the lengths that some folk go to.

I think you might be right. Im new to this so might be quite naive "

Just be careful is the only advice I can give you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no! Mines my real age should I change it?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Age limits are there as guide only and easily bent for the right individual, someone’s age doesn’t necessarily reflect their maturity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Age limits are there as guide only and easily bent for the right individual, someone’s age doesn’t necessarily reflect their maturity"

I agree which is why I broadened my range but I may be regretting it now haha

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Age limits are there as guide only and easily bent for the right individual, someone’s age doesn’t necessarily reflect their maturity

I agree which is why I broadened my range but I may be regretting it now haha "

You’ll find your way

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Oh no! Mines my real age should I change it? "

My DOB on here isn’t exactly right (about 2 weeks out…..ish)

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

My age is my real One

I do have age filters on, so it does annoy me if someone changes theirs to get around a filter. Or puts their age as say 35 and in text reads I'm 28 not 35.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

My fab age is my real age and it's never been an issue.

The only time it has ever come into conversation is when I get a message from a couple who are able to bypass my filters because he is older and she may be in her 20's.

Then it's a polite no thanks from me.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

My age is my real age, I could probably white lie and say younger as I've been told constantly I don't look it but I don't see the point, you'll always get found out eventually x

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Everyone has told a lie in there life

And to even say they haven’t is one it’s self

With technology now you can SEE instantly if someone looks too old for you

Ignore the numbers on profiles

They are just a guide

Seriously would you meet someone with out verifying

There face ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of someone whos fab age was 55 in 2018 when I was in a group chat with him. He admitted to the group that he was actually 58 at that time.

However he has a new profile now showing his age as 50? "

Haha is he Benjamin buttons?

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