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By *hat Bloke OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

We have all seen empty or the ubiquitous “will fill in later” profiles, which give absolutely no idea as to what a person is or isn’t looking for. But when is a profile too large? Do we really need to know that you grew your baby teeth and 8 months and once you borrowed your next door neighbours dads bike?

Please feel free to add your thoughts and musings.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Your own profile can’t be too long or too short can it? If you’ve decided what to put then it must be right for you. You won’t please the others, they are a fickle lot

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There's so many preference boxes so all that is needed is a few well strung together sentences.

Any longer than this reply to you and it's too long.

We get it. Photo short blurb. Done

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I prefer longer profiles as they give me some idea of who the person is and what they're looking for.

One sentence profiles just have nothing to pique my interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer longer profiles (says me who wrote war and peace) as it shows the person is willing to talk about themselves their likes and dislikes and I think it gives you insight ..... so for me the longer the better xxxx

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By *hat Bloke OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Your own profile can’t be too long or too short can it? If you’ve decided what to put then it must be right for you. You won’t please the others, they are a fickle lot "

I think it’s a wholly subjective issue but for me, if you are looking at chapters and chapters of text. It’s a little off putting. It also means you have nothing to start a discussion on because every question has already been answered.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I prefer longer profiles as they give me some idea of who the person is and what they're looking for.

One sentence profiles just have nothing to pique my interest. "

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

People who are really interested in what people seek, offer and what makes them tick, will read those profiles. Those who are looking for any female profile with a pulse, won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little tip: If guys want their profile to be shorter, get rid of the Sydney University shite

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Your own profile can’t be too long or too short can it? If you’ve decided what to put then it must be right for you. You won’t please the others, they are a fickle lot

I think it’s a wholly subjective issue but for me, if you are looking at chapters and chapters of text. It’s a little off putting. It also means you have nothing to start a discussion on because every question has already been answered."

Wrong, you can mail to say you notice they are seeking......a particular thing or type of person, then introduce yourself as possibly being who they seek. The mails can then continue clarification etc.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I prefer a shorter profile. I looked at G's and Babs and they are the perfect length.

I look at it this way.

I am NOT interested in what YOU think about YOURSELF.

I'll decide what I think of you and NO amount of advertising gets past that.

We make our minds up very quickly about every aspect of life.

All I need is :- A pic ,clothed will do but I do need a face and general physique.

A chat on the phone. Maybe two but certainly at least one.

Some idea of sexual interests or at least let you know what you can and cannot expect from me.

I get so much from body language and attitude and modes of speech on the phone and in person.

So to be honest.... write war and peace it doesn't alter my way of working.

I'd never meet on the strength of what someone tells me about themselves.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And a first meet is usually a reccy . It doesn't guarantee sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than a couple of paragraphs is too long for me. Unless it's something funny. I talk to people like humans, not a sex tick list.

I also prefer private people, not the types who blab their entire sex life on their profile to thousands of viewers.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"More than a couple of paragraphs is too long for me. Unless it's something funny. I talk to people like humans, not a sex tick list.

I also prefer private people, not the types who blab their entire sex life on their profile to thousands of viewers."

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I think that a phone screen's length is a good estimate (not including any Sydney Uni/ publicly traded etc. statements)

LvM

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think that a phone screen's length is a good estimate (not including any Sydney Uni/ publicly traded etc. statements)

LvM"

I've never phone fabbed. Don't think im missing anything...... maybe I am.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Surely the whole point of fab is to match like-minded people. Those that like to share some detail will more likely attract those that are interested in some detail, and similarly the inverse.

We don't mind getting a 'Hi' message if the sender has a well written profile, but send a 'Hi' message with a single line profile and we'll know they're not for us as we like those that enjoy good communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely the whole point of fab is to match like-minded people. Those that like to share some detail will more likely attract those that are interested in some detail, and similarly the inverse.

We don't mind getting a 'Hi' message if the sender has a well written profile, but send a 'Hi' message with a single line profile and we'll know they're not for us as we like those that enjoy good communication. "

Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer longer profiles (says me who wrote war and peace) as it shows the person is willing to talk about themselves their likes and dislikes and I think it gives you insight ..... so for me the longer the better xxxx"

I can vouch for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer a shorter profile but I like to get a sense of the person behind the screen. Something that doesn't make me think I've read a variation of this 100 times before. And if you make me laugh then that's a winner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you get to the end and have forgotten what was at the beginning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as a too long profile. As with everything here, it's a case of each to their own; our thoughts want's and needs are all going to have differences. Why is profile write up any different?

If someone is prepared to put the time and effort in to bang away on the keyboard, then I'm prepared to read to it all.

I also find/think, the majority of times, a longer profile is written with a sense of humour and wit that (for me) catches the eye. Case in point is @CrystalEyes123, it does say to make a cup of tea first, but I spat mine out reading; funny as fuck.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

When it’s poorly written.

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By *hat Bloke OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

There is no right or wrong answer. We all have our preferences, but what I can see is that the majority of us like to see through the hype and blurb to the real person underneath.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Read what it says at the bottom of my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read what it says at the bottom of my profile "

Derby nice is it?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Read what it says at the bottom of my profile

Derby nice is it? "

Centre of the Universe mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit that there have been one or two profiles I've visited where the bio text has been so long as to be off putting.

Usually you get get a sense of whether you're likely to be compatible fairly early on, and if so, you'll invest the time to read it all the way through, but on other occasions, especially if it starts off negatively with a whole lot of 'don'ts' then I won't read further and it'll be a 'no' from me.

It's all about striking the right balance

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If a profile bio is the fab equivalent of a CV then the same rules should apply.

It's a proven fact that we want as much info in as few words as possible hence why a CV is more effective when written as bullet points and doesn't refer to me and I.

Making an effort doesn't have to involve writing a dissertation.

Personally speaking anything more than 5 or 6 sharp and to the point paragraphs and I'd move on to the next profile regardless of content.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Read what it says at the bottom of my profile "

Still in a padded cell?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

When it starts to send you to sleep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When your brain goes into Homer Simpson mode

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If a profile bio is the fab equivalent of a CV then the same rules should apply.

It's a proven fact that we want as much info in as few words as possible hence why a CV is more effective when written as bullet points and doesn't refer to me and I.

Making an effort doesn't have to involve writing a dissertation.

Personally speaking anything more than 5 or 6 sharp and to the point paragraphs and I'd move on to the next profile regardless of content.

"

I like yours

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

If a profile is too long I will pass it by, unless it is a funny read but then I'll probably end up bored of it too.

I don't want to know every single detail, I want something to engage a conversation.

But everyone is different, some like long profiles and each to their own.

What bugs me about profiles is the warning to syndey University being triple the length of the profile.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"If a profile bio is the fab equivalent of a CV then the same rules should apply.

It's a proven fact that we want as much info in as few words as possible hence why a CV is more effective when written as bullet points and doesn't refer to me and I.

Making an effort doesn't have to involve writing a dissertation.

Personally speaking anything more than 5 or 6 sharp and to the point paragraphs and I'd move on to the next profile regardless of content.

I like yours "

Yours is just bananas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any feedback on my profile would be hugely appreciated

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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For me it's more about the contents than the length. If a profile is entertaining then I'd prefer it to be longer, especially if it's making me laugh. But the second a profile gets ranty, I don't care how long it is because I'm not reading any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a profile is too long I will pass it by, unless it is a funny read but then I'll probably end up bored of it too.

I don't want to know every single detail, I want something to engage a conversation.

But everyone is different, some like long profiles and each to their own.

What bugs me about profiles is the warning to syndey University being triple the length of the profile. "

Site owners would rather people didn't put that pointless warning on their profiles.

It's pointless and takes up valuable server space - it's even mentioned in site FAQ's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read mine it seems long, but there’s a lot that I felt needed to be made clear.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"If a profile is too long I will pass it by, unless it is a funny read but then I'll probably end up bored of it too.

I don't want to know every single detail, I want something to engage a conversation.

But everyone is different, some like long profiles and each to their own.

What bugs me about profiles is the warning to syndey University being triple the length of the profile.

Site owners would rather people didn't put that pointless warning on their profiles.

It's pointless and takes up valuable server space - it's even mentioned in site FAQ's"

People struggle to read profiles and you expect them to read the FaQs

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