FabSwingers.com forum: Replying to message etiquette?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After opinions from couples and single women....

I've striked up a handful of conversations with ladies and couples who have replied and we've sent messages back and forth. On the odd occasion replies have sat in thier inbox unread. I've always left it as is, and never followed up with another message.

I'm aware that couples and ladies are inundated with a mountain of messages, what is your opinion on guys following up on messages that you've not seen in your inbox?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If we've been chatting and got on well, we wouldn't object to a further message if you haven't heard from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know it hasn't been seen? I'd take a no response as a no thank you, even with the amount of messages I get I can still pick out the ones I actually want to talk to.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Don't send another msg, it's really annoying.

We'll get around to replying when we have time/if we're interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we have been chatting and getting along well, I wouldn't mind if he sent another message a few days later.

Sometimes I see a message and intend to read and respond but get distracted or I am not feeling well, and then it gets lost.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Delete the sent messages and voila, you don’t need to worry if it’s ever been read and see it as a bonus if they reply.

If you are high on the agenda with them you’ll get a reply.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I wouldn’t mind if the messages were going well because sometimes this happens, you get along and then an influx of messages means they get lost. What I don’t like is when people message saying I messaged you but you haven’t replied, or start moaning about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If you have already built a rapport then I don't see the harm in a follow up message *but* only after a respectful period of time has passed and not starting with an "I see you've not read my last" type opener.

It's a fine balance though to firstly know you have that rapport and secondly what a respectful period of time is.

Go with your instincts based on your knowledge of the other people I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i usually follow up ... Peeps are busy, or sometimes not in the mood to reply.. Or sometimes I think oh I'll reply to that when I have more time and then forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t mind if the messages were going well because sometimes this happens, you get along and then an influx of messages means they get lost. What I don’t like is when people message saying I messaged you but you haven’t replied, or start moaning about it. "

Oh yeah, god don't moan.. Just be light, breezy, chatty ... Don't be needy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After opinions from couples and single women....

I'm aware that couples and ladies are inundated with a mountain of messages, what is your opinion on guys following up on messages that you've not seen in your inbox? "

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If I’m in a conversation with someone I often read their replies in the preview if it’s short or from my sent items folder if it’s longer

Just because a message isn’t open it doesn’t mean it hasn’t been read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just leave it.

They'll reply if and when they want to.

Everyone has a life outside of FAB.

I'm guilty of not replying or just going cold on messaging, just happens.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Sometimes I read a msg and think I will reply later and then I forget and it gets lost in other messages, only the other day I had to delete all my messages as it was getting too much to reply to, most people I msg regularly will msg again or I will contact them.

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