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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you usually break the negativity cycle?

Been a bit in a negative thought path all day , u know like the thing that leads to the other and keeps going and going and makes you feel like a total failure… well was wondering, what’s your way to break that chain of thought? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find my cycle of negativity is largely dependent on my mood and any sort of activity in my routine can lift it wether it's eating, going to the gym, watching TV etc. It's just something different from what was getting me overwhelmed

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Completely change what I am doing, physically move, you may not always identify what is making you unhappy but thats ok

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good workout, or getting out into nature with the dog - great to clear the mind.

A good laugh can really help -stand up comedy can be a tonic. That and a good nights sleep (or even a power nap).

Hope you feel better soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find my cycle of negativity is largely dependent on my mood and any sort of activity in my routine can lift it wether it's eating, going to the gym, watching TV etc. It's just something different from what was getting me overwhelmed "

Yeah same, I guess I get bad days like everyone on Earth, just gets so overwhelming when the mind wonders and it’s just some neggy self judging thoughts over ha x

It is also is good to know that we aren’t alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hit the gym hard or jump on my bike and hit some trails,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dedicate time in the day to reflect and try make sense of the emotion, then move on… repeat daily where needed and look at also dedicating time for positive thinking etc

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By *argaryen starkCouple
over a year ago

pinxton

Ride my bike . You never see a motorcycle outside the psychiatrists office

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

You're definitely not alone ducky. I've found jogging really helps. Also a good sitcom or podcast helps. Try Blindboy's podcast if you haven't heard it before and /or the American version of the Office which is funny and sweet. There's also a million episodes so it'll keep you going for a while. Hugs x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I take myself to the seaside. It always calms me and helps me refocus x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I take myself to the seaside. It always calms me and helps me refocus x"

This sounds the best way! There’s so much piece coming from the sea/ocean. So jel, I think that’d rebalance me as well x I could lose myself watching the sea

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By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Channel in to creativity. Usually some from of craft work

Can beat the feeling of creating somthing "beautiful" from nothing or what some might think is junk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're definitely not alone ducky. I've found jogging really helps. Also a good sitcom or podcast helps. Try Blindboy's podcast if you haven't heard it before and /or the American version of the Office which is funny and sweet. There's also a million episodes so it'll keep you going for a while. Hugs x"

Awww thanks u, I’ll definitely give the podcast a go x and yes we all get these crappy days

The rain doesn’t help either I must say haha

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

We need more blue underwear threads, but i may be bias.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"We need more blue underwear threads, but i may be bias. "

I dont suit blue....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find my cycle of negativity is largely dependent on my mood and any sort of activity in my routine can lift it wether it's eating, going to the gym, watching TV etc. It's just something different from what was getting me overwhelmed

Yeah same, I guess I get bad days like everyone on Earth, just gets so overwhelming when the mind wonders and it’s just some neggy self judging thoughts over ha x

It is also is good to know that we aren’t alone "

Exactly, and if you can't do anything different immediately, screaming into a pillow always helps

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"We need more blue underwear threads, but i may be bias.

I dont suit blue.... "

We'll go shopping and find a shade of Blue that suits you. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find my cycle of negativity is largely dependent on my mood and any sort of activity in my routine can lift it wether it's eating, going to the gym, watching TV etc. It's just something different from what was getting me overwhelmed

Yeah same, I guess I get bad days like everyone on Earth, just gets so overwhelming when the mind wonders and it’s just some neggy self judging thoughts over ha x

It is also is good to know that we aren’t alone

Exactly, and if you can't do anything different immediately, screaming into a pillow always helps "

Can I grab anything that might resemble a baseball bat and hit it instead? Or would I come off to much like a crazy woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do something different. Break the routine. And switch off and really listen to what you need in a moment. Then just follow that ASAP. Self poke..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find my cycle of negativity is largely dependent on my mood and any sort of activity in my routine can lift it wether it's eating, going to the gym, watching TV etc. It's just something different from what was getting me overwhelmed

Yeah same, I guess I get bad days like everyone on Earth, just gets so overwhelming when the mind wonders and it’s just some neggy self judging thoughts over ha x

It is also is good to know that we aren’t alone

Exactly, and if you can't do anything different immediately, screaming into a pillow always helps

Can I grab anything that might resemble a baseball bat and hit it instead? Or would I come off to much like a crazy woman? "

Tried that, got too expensive when I eventually cooled off

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I think of the past memories of my dog, that always grounds me

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Go for a walk

Listen to music

Have a bath

Hope you feel better soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go for a walk

Listen to music

Have a bath

Hope you feel better soon "

Thanks lovely! I think also a good night sleep will be a good reset button x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Exercise and make some time for myself.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Go for a walk

Listen to music

Have a bath

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks lovely! I think also a good night sleep will be a good reset button x "

Ohh it will everyday is a new beginning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go for a walk

Listen to music

Have a bath

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks lovely! I think also a good night sleep will be a good reset button x

Ohh it will everyday is a new beginning "

"Everyday is a new beginning"

I like that alot, what a great quote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distraction. I usually find going for a walk or reading a book - even if to start with I can't focus on it if I 'make' myself stick with it then it becomes the main focus.

Roughly it's about bringing youeself into the now rather than thinking about the past or future.

Look-up Mindfulness or CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) for tips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do something that requires my full attention so my mind can't slip off into negative patterns, or go to the woods or somewhere else lovely and green. If my mind keeps going back to negative places I take a moment to notice and ask myself "is this helpful?". After interrupting the cycle enough times it tends to fade away.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Go for a walk

Listen to music

Have a bath

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks lovely! I think also a good night sleep will be a good reset button x

Ohh it will everyday is a new beginning

"Everyday is a new beginning"

I like that alot, what a great quote "

Thank you

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