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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.

I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it

It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..

Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.

I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA

#bekind

Cute n Sassy xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay!!

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

But you have a wonderful body, very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enmbrace what you have and live each day to the full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Op, glad you are here to chat! Have fun...

Love the double pun also - good!

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Good for you OP

Being comfortable and feeling sexy on your own skin is amazing

Happy Summer

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?"

Yeah absolutely flower..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you. Love to see a positive post x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I love this post. xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Good for you!

Jo.Xx

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

This post makes me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

"

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying? "

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.

Sounds like you have the right attitude.

There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.

if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Amazing! I love this! Beauty is inside aswell as outside.

You could be the most gorgeous woman ever but if you have a horrible attitude or personality then it means nothing.

Good for you!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.

Sounds like you have the right attitude.

There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.

if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine."

I love this guy! On his banjo yeah? xx

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Hey OP long time no see on the forum. Love your thread, live life now you never know what's around the corner

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Self confidence, self love (not in a vain or arrogant way) and a free spirt are very sexy traits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To many lush comments and stuff to reply to you all but THANK YOU for the welcome backs and positive vibes. Truly is wonderful to read and its awesome to be back here.

I am 33 years young... and i saw a picture of my size 16 self back when i was 18. I WISH i had loved my body back then. I WISH id have forgiven myself and been kinder to myself.. I WISH i could have accepted i wasn't and will never be 'perfect'..

I went on crazy crash diets, would fail and regain AND MORE what id lose.. and it spirals out of control.

I WISH i could have looked in a mirror and just accepted that I AM ENOUGH. I do not need to be anymore,, and i do not need to be any less.

I have worth, i have value.. and guess what ladies and gents. You all do too!

I know perfection doesn't exist and therefore i will not chase it.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Amazing! I love this! Beauty is inside aswell as outside.

You could be the most gorgeous woman ever but if you have a horrible attitude or personality then it means nothing.

Good for you! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bravo OP. Live with no regrets because you are not doing harm to others and there is no reason not to enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yay!! "

Outsider…..stop flashing your tits at me. You know what they do to me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Love this.. why cant we love our body’s!! I have loved mine in all sizes ! Positivity and confidence is way sexier. Plus we are better shags

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"

I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "

If it's any consolation, you're not alone in this. Pregnancy changes the body so much... my gran hated her pregnant body so much she stopped at 1. Quite something in her day.

OP glad you're able to accept your body.

As you quite rightly say... there's no such thing as a perfect body. Only others perception of what that is.

I hope this positively continues for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "

Oh hun embrace the peace and quiet while you can. hehe

Pregnancy is a bat shit crazy time with hormones all over the flipping place.. just breathe. Your bump is 'perfect' because it is YOURS. Don't compare to anyone else, you are the best at being you and YOU are fucking beautiful and doing the most remarkable thing by growing a human.

Your baby wont care what you look like, and when he or she arrives all little one will desire is love and safety and i am positive you will offer than in bucket loads, x x x

You got this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

"

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I really love this post. I personally am struggling with body confidence and acceptance. With me being so heavily pregnant I just feel huge and I’m envious of slim people with perfect bumps. My body is also failing me and my baby in so many ways at the latter end of my pregnancy. I’m hoping to get some body confidence once the baby is born. "

I remember this. People used to say I was the biggest pregnant woman they’d ever seen, it was hard.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If you're happy with your size and don't have any health problems.. just enjoy who you are and don't fret your life away over it

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?"

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked "

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Easier said than done I know, but once you learn to accept yourself and seek out others that accept you for who you are the happier you will be.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire


"Positivity is sexy - regardless of a person's appearance.

Sounds like you have the right attitude.

There is a song we rather like, it's called, "No More Fucks To Give". By Thomas Benjamin Wild.

if you can live by this mantra you'll be fine.

I love this guy! On his banjo yeah? xx"

That's the chap. Really nice guy & very funny!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Good for you OP xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give a fuck what people think you will never impress anyone be yourself ignore the idiots and enjoy your beautiful body

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Well done babe,

We all have something we would love to change about ourselves, I know we have loads but lets just get on with living and trying to accept we are never perfect and if other ppl dont like it then thats their problem.

X

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

Well done! Good for you for you for posting as well as I am sure it will ring true for many!

Good to have you around

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to have some fun with your body.

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious. "

Wow how rude are you?

To the OP: Keep rocking that stunning body darling! You are gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good post OP.

Body acceptance is the best thing you can do for yourself. We all come in different shapes and sizes, no one should ever be made to feel like they aren't good enough. Anyone who takes a pop at this post or at you is a reflection on them not you.

We are all good enough just as we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious. "

I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.

It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.

I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.

It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all."

How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.

She isn't being mean.

Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.

Wow how rude are you?

To the OP: Keep rocking that stunning body darling! You are gorgeous xx"

She isn't being rude. She asked a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.

I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it

It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..

Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.

I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA

#bekind

Cute n Sassy xXx

"

What a lovely post, I think you are gorgeous in all ways! Have a wonderful weekend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to know where you get your lingerie from. You look hot in it xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Acceptance is the road to confidence and happiness.

Fill your boots, OP. It sounds like a major milestone for you

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.

I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.

It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all.

How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.

She isn't being mean.

Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different. "

It's the intent behind the question which is to put someone down. Why feel the need to pick away at someone's post and its a pattern of behaviour not just this one.

Im not slagging her off, I'm calling her out on her behaviour which seems to be her specialty towards others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being positive is so attractive.

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Your coming across a bit shitty if you ask me! The op may have other struggles that she doesn’t need to discuss on a random forum!

Not everyone shares their full life stories on here!

So let’s congratulate her on her expectance of her body and not try piss on her cornflakes

Sorry spellchecked

Well I didn’t ask you, nobody did. If I wanted to come across shitty then I wouldn’t be trying to choose my words carefully. My intention isn’t to hurt or be unkind but I am curious.

I don't know if it's narcissism or if you are just unkind but your attempts to put people down are exhausting. Everytime I see you post it's an attack on others and that bullying behaviour speaks volumes on who you are. I don't believe your happy with who you are because your posts scream insecurity.. but guess what that's okay. What's not okay is pulling others down to make you feel better about yourself.

It might just be a curious question or a comment on your part but these things affect people and stay with them. You see people as leagues not human beings with feelings. If you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all.

How has she put the OP down? She has just asked a question.

She isn't being mean.

Interesting how the people slagging Annie off think they are different.

It's the intent behind the question which is to put someone down. Why feel the need to pick away at someone's post and its a pattern of behaviour not just this one.

Im not slagging her off, I'm calling her out on her behaviour which seems to be her specialty towards others "

She should be called out. I've seen her fat shame in here before so I tend to aviod any thread she's posted on. Fab forums should be a safe place for us all.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Such a shame that this thread couldn't start positive. This thread should have remained as someone celebrating their body.

So let's get back to that. OP i commend you.

Keep loving yourself. You photograph really well.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?"

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"To many lush comments and stuff to reply to you all but THANK YOU for the welcome backs and positive vibes. Truly is wonderful to read and its awesome to be back here.

I am 33 years young... and i saw a picture of my size 16 self back when i was 18. I WISH i had loved my body back then. I WISH id have forgiven myself and been kinder to myself.. I WISH i could have accepted i wasn't and will never be 'perfect'..

I went on crazy crash diets, would fail and regain AND MORE what id lose.. and it spirals out of control.

I WISH i could have looked in a mirror and just accepted that I AM ENOUGH. I do not need to be anymore,, and i do not need to be any less.

I have worth, i have value.. and guess what ladies and gents. You all do too!

I know perfection doesn't exist and therefore i will not chase it. "

Don't think you're the only one OP to look at old photos and wish they could give their head a wobble.

People are allowed to feel pretty, sexy whatever regardless of size. Thanks for this thread it was a good reminder to myself to accept myself

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters

You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters "

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

You've got this.

Jo.Xx

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yer, you go sista, it's your body, your life, go get em and enjoy every minute babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

Love this Cute!!

It is a long journey but I absolutely think the best bit is being happy with you now. I have friends who have lost lots of weight and it can take a couple of years or more. Even walking to the garden gate and back is an achievement for some of them. They gradually increased this to walking to the end of the street and more.

Some people took the piss but who cares what they think..! X

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Being happy where you are now is the first step to looking after yourself better.

You don't water s but you do water flowers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

That’s why I was asking because my sister deals with severe trauma counselling with victims of sexual assault where they’ve chosen to eat and put on extreme amounts of weight, she had a 19 year old girl go from 8 stone to 22 stone in a year and she didn’t want to lose weight because in her mind she was assuaged when she was thin and didn’t want to be that person. That’s all kinds of levels of barriers and things to get through but eventually she did it.

I’m not arrogant to believe that I could make a difference for you when you’ve had professional nutritionalists and medical help but if you ever wanted normal things that could help with weight loss alongside being a mother and keeping a home and stuff that doesn’t require time consuming food prep I would help if you wanted.

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By *ature BBW Lover 69Man
over a year ago

exeter

I think you are fantastic , love your body , would love to chat with you , and I’m local , check my profile and hopefully you come and say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve read it all but I’m just gonna ignore all that shit that’s been said about me. I honestly wasn’t trying to be rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you’ve posted this thread and stated you don’t give a fuck are you okay with being asked questions regarding your body?

Yeah absolutely flower..

I can’t. Like, I dunno, like are you happy happy or do you think you’d be happier losing a bit, if so are you trying?

Nah course im not HAPPY HAPPY.. like i say its just 'acceptance'

but i can choose to be grumpy and miserable. Hide in the shadows and become depressed, or embrace what ive got.. and thought id just suck it up and accept it.

My entire adult life i have been on one diet or another, had crazy amounts of drama/trauma and had councelling. Shoveled more food in my gob than id like to fess up too.

I do have a thyroid problem but not gonna blame it soley on that.

Ive been under dieticians and weight management programs most of my life. Trialled all kinds of medications.. and been to SW and WW etc

But again.. what do i do? Mope about and whinge or get out there and accept what i have?

How can’t they help then? Like if someone else was the same as you is that it for them they could never lose any weight?

If the counselling has helped and there’s no mental health issues like what’s the thing that stops the weight loss?

Think the counselling etc addressed issues from trauma etc id experienced historically which has lifted a huge emotional weight. I've managed to free myself of those hang ups and dealt with things logically.

Counselling on the other hand will not remove the damage that years and years of self neglect i caused to my own body. Emotional eating is something i have done.

Just because i am at 'peace' with my past, doesnt mean i am mentally ready to tackle a HUGEEEE weight loss journey.

I am actually probably the strongest and happiest i have ever been in my life and that is just being mindful with what i eat. I do not beat myself up if i have a curry or a packet of crisp. I do not write food down, or photograph every meal like i used too. I do not weight 18 times a day like i used too.

The NHS has educated me A LOT on good foods and what is right and wrong. Its taught me coping techniques to do with the hunger scale and what i can do when i do get stressed. I am on a weight maintenance program with them and about a year out i have been successful.

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters"

I'm happy that you're in such a good place after not being.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Being happy where you are now is the first step to looking after yourself better.

You don't water s but you do water flowers. "

Forgot about the word restrictions.... You don't water weads

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By *rs-sensual-meWoman
over a year ago

gwynedd

Good on you OP. I think I'll be taking a leaf out of your book.

Much love xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity. "

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"...

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters

Love this Cute!!

It is a long journey but I absolutely think the best bit is being happy with you now. I have friends who have lost lots of weight and it can take a couple of years or more. Even walking to the garden gate and back is an achievement for some of them. They gradually increased this to walking to the end of the street and more.

Some people took the piss but who cares what they think..! X "

Imho

That's the main thing really - health, longevity and being able to go on little walks and stuff. Which you can absolutely build upto with zero dieting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "

Interesting you say that because the condition I have with my memory (highly superior autobiographical memory) is on the spectrum with Aspergers and I always need extra information, always feel like I need to understand motives or what people are thinking or why they do the things they do.

It does hurt when people say I’m a bully.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"

I am happy.. some might not believe that. But its my truth right now.. and that is all that matters

You know what - that last sentence really is all that matters

"

A great position to be in OP, much respect..

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.

I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it

It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..

Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.

I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA

#bekind

Cute n Sassy xXx

"

Congratulations for finding acceptance. I have been much larger and much thinner. The size you are has little to do with inner confidence imo.

It’s a very liberating feeling when you accept yourself warts n all. It doesn’t mean that you stop working on bits you want to change, just don’t beat yourself up as much when you have a bad day.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "

Yes I can relate to this with my daughter. Often has no filter, but innocently.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

OP sending you love xxxx

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

There is only one of you, enjoy being you, make the most of being you.

Embrace who, how and what make you, you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No fucks given....

So many suck arses on this thread with 'good for you' and 'yeys'...but....good for you anyway...so fuck it i'll join them too..

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness. "

This is what happens to me a fair bit. I now caveat my questions with being my curiosity and I do try and carefully ask questions and rein it in a bit. But sometimes it's tough - I was told recently that I was doing one thing when I was asking for clarification so I could understand better what the person means. It can be really hurtful.

Anyway, OP. I think it's great that you're not going to hide away; life is short and you can't just spend it locked in an ivory tower of guilt and self loathing. I've recently been trying hundreds of dresses and I've realised a lot of it is in my head and that's tiring. Time to enjoy hot girl summer and stop beating myself up about being me.

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over a year ago


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness.

This is what happens to me a fair bit. I now caveat my questions with being my curiosity and I do try and carefully ask questions and rein it in a bit. But sometimes it's tough - I was told recently that I was doing one thing when I was asking for clarification so I could understand better what the person means. It can be really hurtful.

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I like to know why and the reasons behind people's behaviour (as Annie mentioned above). And if it's not spelt out or ambiguous I can get trapped in overthinking (stuck between 'just ask them' and 'give them space') and 'creating' reasons.

Best of luck OP!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Haven't seen you on here for a while OP so I'm just glad you're happy and keep being you xx

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over a year ago


"Thus isn't an attack Annie post or a call out Annie post. She asked cute if she could ask questions and cute said yes.

Perhaps the wording of her question wasn't great but she hadn't been rude and personal unlike some.

Maybe get this back on track and celebrate body positivity.

My mum and my son get accused of being unkind because of similar things. They both have asperger's and have infinite curiosity and a need to understand everything. Their questions come from a place of non-judgement and kindness, but because they don't drape them in social niceties neurotypical people often misconstrue the motivation behind them. Both of them are always crushed when their behaviour is attributed to nastiness.

Interesting you say that because the condition I have with my memory (highly superior autobiographical memory) is on the spectrum with Aspergers and I always need extra information, always feel like I need to understand motives or what people are thinking or why they do the things they do.

It does hurt when people say I’m a bully. "

Sometimes you can say mean things but on this thread you were just asking for information. We learn from finding out information. If we don't ask we can't learn new things.

I ask questions a lot for clarification but I don't usually bother to frame them in a better way (as Meli mentioned).

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By *ature BBW Lover 69Man
over a year ago

exeter

Body positivity is a big thing and why should people have to hide away because they don’t conform to the “norm” you look great and why shouldn’t you enjoy things , just being in here you will find plenty of men and women who like a curvy woman . I’d love to chat with you but can’t message as just come over your age limit I’m a young 47 , check my profile and we could chat and I’m not far away

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

We are what we are - embrace it x x

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By *ature BBW Lover 69Man
over a year ago

exeter


"So i have spurts of body confidence,, but over the few months ive been 'away' from this place i've gained a lot of body acceptance.

I might not love my body, but i accept i have one. Im OK with it

It's certainly not gonna be for everyone. Im 5ft 3, Dress size 32 and wider than i am tall..

Stretch marks, loads of wobble, rolls of fat, cellulite and creases in my inner thighs and upper arms.

I don't wanna get to 80 and regret not living my best life because i loathed the way i look. Its summer (kinda) and i have a body... I'm summer bod ready HAHA

#bekind

Cute n Sassy xXx

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Hey , i think what you do and other BBW/SSBBW do is brilliant, be body positive, embrace it , there are plenty who like it , be great to chat to you , come and say hi

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yes OP YES!!!

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