FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling to find meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pictures shit profile text. I know my profile text is shit too but I rely on my pictures to do the talking.

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By *ndrew025Man
over a year ago

west lancs

"No pictures shit profile text. I know my profile text is shit too but I rely on my pictures to do the talking. "

Them pictures certainly do all the talking you need lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say OP but that is normal for this site.

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here "
get a profile picture. This may help. Didn't for me but hey worth a shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, Annie has summed it up in a nutshell.

Most people you message will check out your profile before even thinking of looking at your message.

Your profile gives them nothing to go on.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Wait a few years someone might message by accident.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

No pictures, it's easier to just move on. Harsh reality as you need to stand out from the very large single guy crowd

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lool you know that

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"No pictures shit profile text. I know my profile text is shit too but I rely on my pictures to do the talking. "

What she said... Put some effort in!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Plus your a women you dnt need to write anything lool

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

The "Variant" thing ain't helping either.....!

If it's important to you...

Get yourself/ves pic verified.

Get a profile pic.

Some pics to fab or perv at for us all.

Be patient - Rome wasn't built in a day.....

Softly, softly catchy monkey....

I need to go and watch some football -STAT!

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By *tamina260Man
over a year ago

west midlands

Want to rate mine for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus your a women you dnt need to write anything lool "

Mate until I had my recent complaint from the powers that be my profile stated that I would kill you in your sleep. You’d think it would have stopped some of the 2,614 messages coming through but nope.

I was toying with the idea about writing that I shit myself every time I sneeze but that would just turn some people on even more. Honestly I can’t win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Want to rate mine for me?"

Far better to start your own thread rather than hijacking someine elses fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing to remember is that men outnumber women massively on here, and get hundreds of messages a day. Even if you have a decent profile, there's no guarantee you'll get a meet, so be patient and don't pester.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Want to rate mine for me?

Far better to start your own thread rather than hijacking someine elses fella"

He was maybe asking the OP

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By *tamina260Man
over a year ago

west midlands

"Want to rate mine for me?

Far better to start your own thread rather than hijacking someine elses fella"

Fair point well made pal.

Think its the same for all men its hard to connect with single women as the ratio of single men to single women is insane

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"The other thing to remember is that men outnumber women massively on here, and get hundreds of messages a day. Even if you have a decent profile, there's no guarantee you'll get a meet, so be patient and don't pester. "

Nah, it is extremely easy for a guy to stand out on fab.

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Plus your a women you dnt need to write anything lool

I was toying with the idea about writing that I shit myself every time I sneeze but that would just turn some people on even more. Honestly I can’t win. "
but you profiles so tame. Lol. Bloody love it. Made me laugh

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Nah, it is extremely easy for a guy to stand out on fab. "
pray tell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm rubbish at writing a profile if it was in a club etc I would talking and be soon easy to lol it is what it is

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here "

Hello Joe,

some nice pictures might help, and perhaps some work on the profile words content too.

all the best,

Lizzie

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I always think these threads are self flagellation really. My advice OP. Are you selling your “best self” with your profile? If not. Do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public pictures help…

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Sorry to say OP but that is normal for this site."

I can tell you from a womans' point of view that some of us get overwhelmed with messages and invitations and we have every right to be picky and choosy in replying and meeting up even socially, let alone in the buff as it were.

Good pictures help (not just a hundred dick pics either) but a lot of it is what you put and how you put it in the text.

I for one need more than "can I shag you?" in a PM before I will even chat.

Put more effort in is my advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Put up a new one properly shit again but I dnt like outside lifts

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Do you attach any pics with messages op?

I delete any messages from a blank shadow.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Put up a new one properly shit again but I dnt like outside lifts"

Dear OP. 3/4s of peoples profiles say “I’m shit at writing profiles”. Again sell your “best self”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes always send photos with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t write your profile for you because then it’s not your own wants and needs and it’s not your real authentic self coming through. I would say to use punctuation though. When you’re writing a sentence say it out loud, where you’d naturally pause for a breath put a , or a .

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'm rubbish at writing a profile if it was in a club etc I would talking and be soon easy to lol it is what it is "

There's your forte then. What I tell every person to do if they're unhappy with lack of virtual interest. Get out and mingle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes always send photos with messages "

Are they just photos of your cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes always send photos with messages

Are they just photos of your cock? "

That reminds me, might have to have fried chicken instead of pizza tonight...

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

"Yes always send photos with messages

Are they just photos of your cock?

That reminds me, might have to have fried chicken instead of pizza tonight... "

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'll be honest. The other side of the coin is that when you try to be polite to answer and the after investing time you find out that there's chap on the other side who has clearly fake pics and profile.

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By *ojobinksMan
over a year ago

swindon

It is difficult I’ve been thinking of editing my profile to make me stand out, but being short that never helps either lol, I’ve got my best profile pic on and that hasn’t helped but one day soon I might get lucky lol, keep trying and living your best life I’m sure you will find someone and good luck and happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No pictures shit profile text. I know my profile text is shit too but I rely on my pictures to do the talking. "

"I don't speak French but I let the funky music do the talking"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No avatar, no public pics, I wouldn’t even get as far as reading your bio before I deleted your message.

The bio doesn’t say anything either. You need a complete overhaul.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes always send photos with messages

Are they just photos of your cock? "

Not always

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Put up a new one properly shit again but I dnt like outside lifts"

Please spell check and use punctuation.

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By *igtatsMan
over a year ago

gravesend

Well I’m learning a lot lol carry on

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"No pictures shit profile text. I know my profile text is shit too but I rely on my pictures to do the talking. "

This is spot on.

It isn't hard to find out how to make a good profile bearing in mind the amount of advice ob here.

Too many guy put nothing in and yet expect free sex back.

Nothing comes from nothing.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Yes always send photos with messages

Are they just photos of your cock?

Not always "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get out what you put in

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

I think you should add a talent like juggling or you have decent hand writing. That will get you a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah everyone has summed it up well:-

Providing you're not famous or worried about being recognised, put a face photo up. Or at least a creative artistic photos of yourself, you can show off a lot of personality in photos alone.

Don't have a dick shot, if people want to see it they'll ask (majority of girls or couples won't ask unless they're a size queen or something)

Write some interests or a bit about you on your blurp. Answer the question why someone would want to sleep with you? What will they get out of it?

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, pictures and some text would help greatly but not a cure all. If you haven't already, join tinder for a week and see how many times you swipe right. Not many I'll bet. It's going to be the same here (if you could swipe), you wouldn't fancy everyone and everyone won't fancy you. Patience is your best friend.

Good luck sunbeam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others have said, pictures and some text would help greatly but not a cure all. If you haven't already, join tinder for a week and see how many times you swipe right. Not many I'll bet. It's going to be the same here (if you could swipe), you wouldn't fancy everyone and everyone won't fancy you. Patience is your best friend.

Good luck sunbeam."

Wait, there's other directions in which to swipe?

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

U needs some public pics my friend. Women and couples won't reply 2 a blank profile .

Get involved in forums atleast then people start 2 get 2 know u and see wot ur about ...but be patient not pushy

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Well I’m learning a lot lol carry on "
you have less to learn anyway, you have face and body pics and even a smile, that's a very good start for people to judge if they are interested or not.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Since i have simplified my profile to state that I'm not looking for meets I've had more offers than ever. People are contrary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate I do to. Just be patient sort your profile out and enjoy it here.

It's the pains of being a single male in a pool with millions of other single males.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Since i have simplified my profile to state that I'm not looking for meets I've had more offers than ever. People are contrary. "
they just assume you are playing hard to get

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Since i have simplified my profile to state that I'm not looking for meets I've had more offers than ever. People are contrary. "

I mean I’ll try it. Can’t see it working though.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Op you are not really selling yourself, nothing jumps out to say meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you attach any pics with messages op?

I delete any messages from a blank shadow. "

I think the majority do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bog standard for here just got to roll with the punches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The usual advice is to join in the forums or, better still, go to socials or clubs when you can. Your experience is very normal, especially during a pandemic.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here "

Imagine you are looking to buy a new house. You see the estate agent website and looking through listings you come across a home with no photographs. You accidentally click on the link and the page opens.

The description says “has rooms, a toilet, and some doors”

Would you buy the house?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here

The description says “has rooms, a toilet, and some doors”

Would you buy the house?"

Yes of course

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Hi all I'm struggling to find meets I send a polite message but end up getting deleted or ignored I know I'm not the hottest guy on here

The description says “has rooms, a toilet, and some doors”

Would you buy the house?

Yes of course "

Yes you’d buy the house?

I’ve got this item here to sell. Won’t tell you about it, would you want to buy it? I’m only asking for £10,000

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I'm rubbish at writing a profile if it was in a club etc I would talking and be soon easy to lol it is what it is "

So imagine you are in a club and someone walks up to you and starts asking you about you and your interests.

What do they ask? How do you reply?

Write that down and you are sorted.

Good luck with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus your a women you dnt need to write anything lool

I was toying with the idea about writing that I shit myself every time I sneeze but that would just turn some people on even more. Honestly I can’t win. "

Hahaha

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