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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just go through a kinda weekly clear out of my inbox just to try and keep it somewhat organised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I send a message I never check it again, I pay it no mind, i dunno what’s going on in other peoples heads/ lives so it saves a lot of wasted energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on."

Why do you need to delete the messages?

Some people don’t use FAB on a daily basis, it not being a core activity to the sustainment of life (I know, unbelievable!).

I delete old messages if I’ve received a no thanks/rejection, and also Block that person/profile so I don’t embarrass myself by contacting then again in a few months (it happened before and I was pilloried).

Good luck and be patient

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually just go through a kinda weekly clear out of my inbox just to try and keep it somewhat organised"

It has to be done to make sure that you only want the promising people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll do a weekly clean out and only keep messages where it's an ongoing conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on.

Why do you need to delete the messages?

Some people don’t use FAB on a daily basis, it not being a core activity to the sustainment of life (I know, unbelievable!).

I delete old messages if I’ve received a no thanks/rejection, and also Block that person/profile so I don’t embarrass myself by contacting then again in a few months (it happened before and I was pilloried).

Good luck and be patient

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I bet that block list is in the hundreds lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete my sent box so I wouldnt know. I don't demand a response within a certain amount of time, time doesn't matter between people you actually want to talk to

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on.

Why do you need to delete the messages?

Some people don’t use FAB on a daily basis, it not being a core activity to the sustainment of life (I know, unbelievable!).

I delete old messages if I’ve received a no thanks/rejection, and also Block that person/profile so I don’t embarrass myself by contacting then again in a few months (it happened before and I was pilloried).

Good luck and be patient

I bet that block list is in the hundreds lol "

Its the best way to do it though, otherwise people who aren't interested in you continually appear in searches/local updates etc.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on."

Delete it from where? Your sent items? You know that doesn't delete it the other end, right?

I've said it before and I'll say it again. The best thing thi ssite can do is just remove the sent items box. Too many people spend too much time fretting over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why torture yourself and look in the sent items?

Apart from "who looked at me" it is the most un-needed element of fab.

Send a message? If you get a reply, it was read.

No reply? Does it matter if it was unread, read or deleted? The fact you haven't got a reply is all you need to know.

Same as the look at me.

Someone looked at you. Wow. If they were interested they'd wink or message. No wonder so many use stealth mode to avoid the "I noticed you looked at my profile, fancy meeting up?"

If someone likes the look of you, they'll let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on.

Why do you need to delete the messages?

Some people don’t use FAB on a daily basis, it not being a core activity to the sustainment of life (I know, unbelievable!).

I delete old messages if I’ve received a no thanks/rejection, and also Block that person/profile so I don’t embarrass myself by contacting then again in a few months (it happened before and I was pilloried).

Good luck and be patient

I bet that block list is in the hundreds lol

Its the best way to do it though, otherwise people who aren't interested in you continually appear in searches/local updates etc. "

Exactly this. And I avoid looking like a nagging stalker-cunt too!

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By *lessedXXXWoman
over a year ago

“I never meet”


"How long do you leave messages up from those who you’ve messaged and they’ve read it but not replied?

I use a 12 hour rule of thumb that means if they haven’t replied 12 hours after they’ve read the message I delete it and move on."

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I delete my entire inbox every day or so, if someone messages back again I see the message history

If I’ve messaged someone back to say I’m not interested I immediately block them and delete their message. The reason I block them is that some are like dogs with a bone and keep coming back for another try.

If someone messages I check their profile before opening the message and if it’s a ‘not way Jose’ and not compatible with what I’m looking for (they’ll know because my profile is VERY clear what that is) I will delete their message unread.

If they message again I block their profile and delete their message unread again.

If I’ve been actively messaging someone then they stop messaging but still log in on a regular basis I block them as it’s obviously not going to go anywhere

Like most women on here I get tons of messages so I am very proactive in blocking profiles of people I am not interested in and having strict messaging filters set up.

This does help keep the inbox manageable, I like to focus on men I regularly message rather than those who are flitting by

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By *ojobinksMan
over a year ago

swindon

I delete it as soon as I’ve sent it then it stops you from keeping checking if they’ve replied

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