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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It would depend on what the mess was.

If it's overflowing ashtrays, beer cans, lots of empty food packages I wouldn't go there.

In my bedroom at the moment are bags of clothes waiting to be sorted out, and boxes of my mum's things I need to wrap and put in the loft.

The room it all was in is now occupied temporarily by a family member.

I also have a few things on my bedside table I keep for easy access at night.

If I take a photo I keep everything out of the background.

I did take an off the cuff photo for someone recently and apologised for all the dog toys in the background.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Untidy is fine, everyone leads busy lives, dirty is another thing, but unless she was like that woman Ross met at her flat on Friends that time, it wouldn’t bother me, saying that she was hot so I’d probably just ignore her place being like a tip.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I agree with what's been said.

Untidy (general clutter etc) is fine, unclean/dirty is where almost everyone draws the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what's been said.

Untidy (general clutter etc) is fine, unclean/dirty is where almost everyone draws the line."

So basically nothing new here

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I love looking at what’s in the background.

And of course I judge!

But OP it looks like you tidied up your pics before posting this thread. No incriminating evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love looking at what’s in the background.

And of course I judge!

But OP it looks like you tidied up your pics before posting this thread. No incriminating evidence

Not so much in my friends pics, haha!

I love looking at people's houses too. I've seen some lovely bathrooms on here. Saved them to my Pinterest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not usually looking at the background. Unless there's books.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

For me, it's about the person(s) - if a couple.

More interested in their personality, whether they can have a laugh. Whether they are easy to chat to. To basically see if there's a connection. Their house doesn't factor in, at that stage.

It's only when, to quote a tune: t'ings start getting serious, I would start to think about the state of their house and their possible untidyness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes no difference to me as I would never play at someone's house anyway but if the house is untidy, at least you know they are single

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Makes no difference to me as I would never play at someone's house anyway but if the house is untidy, at least you know they are single

How is that true? Maybe they are an untidy couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Makes no difference to me as I would never play at someone's house anyway but if the house is untidy, at least you know they are single

When I was in a couple, my house was still a mess. I create chaos.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It would put me off.

We live in our homes and at certain times during the day they become disorganised BUT ..........

Why would someone 'sell themselves in front of their own mess?'

Says something. Doesn't say I care about my appearance or how you perceive me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah it’d put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a wicked picture the other day in my full length bedroom mirror. No matter how much I cropped it I couldn’t get the background out of the pic without cropping one of my tits off or a leg.

My bed was made but there’s just piles and piles of clothes and shoes everywhere.

I try on loads of shit, Chuck it on my bed then I’m off to work so clothes go from floor to the bed, bed to the floor.

I even woke up this morning thinking what the fuck is on my leg, it was the plastic bag from my latest clothes purchase stuck to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them. "

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

Ages ago I was speaking to a bloke from here and we arranged a last minute meet. He sent a message saying to ‘don’t judge the mess’ an hour before I was due over... if you feel the need to excuse mess before someone has even come over then it’s too messy.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Don't get me started on dust and dog hairs

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

I've said sorry about the mess to my regular partners, when I'm really busy and they want to see me.

The responses have been silence or "I'm not here to look at your house".

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Sorry, untidy and unclean are both turn-offs on a picture in the context of fabs. I don't care how people live their lives outside fabs.

Here. for me it is about the impression somebody wants to create of them - if that picture was taken paying little attention to the surroundings/ background, it tells me something about the person and the attention they are likely to give a prospective meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently had my front grass cut and what a ball ache that was trying to get someone to do it. Grass was so high like up to my knees. The guy that done it said he was strimming along and knocked against something. Upon investigating he found my two witches legs on spikes, they’d been there since fucking Halloween. I was like aww my witches legs, haven’t seen them for ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

I've said sorry about the mess to my regular partners, when I'm really busy and they want to see me.

The responses have been silence or "I'm not here to look at your house".

I don’t go around to look at their houses either but that doesn’t mean I want to be tripping over their mess, looking at overfilled bins, piles of dirty dishes and junk they can’t be bothered to put away all over the sides when I go around either. We all lead busy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How you present yourself to the world gives a pretty good clue as to how you feel about other people.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

I've said sorry about the mess to my regular partners, when I'm really busy and they want to see me.

The responses have been silence or "I'm not here to look at your house".

I'm not talking about filth, but, if you really wanted to see them and they gave you say an hour before they arrived and you had to choose between getting ready or vacuuming and tidying up, would you say yes, come over but sorry about the mess?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

And, some peoples' lives are a lot busier than others.

Must admit, I do like going to my long term partner's flat, as it's always spotless and clutter free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends really.. im a clean freak the type that hoovers daily because he likes hoover lines in the carpet

but yes it can put me off alittle, but not fully.

A filthy bathroom asin not shown bleach every yeh that puts me off and old plates or potnoodle tubs piled up in the background puts me off

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

I've said sorry about the mess to my regular partners, when I'm really busy and they want to see me.

The responses have been silence or "I'm not here to look at your house".

Unless I've had the grandmonsters over, my house is never that bad that I could not manage to do both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean but untidy I can live with but filthy untidy it would definitely put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

I always look at the background and it does put me off if it’s messy. Iv not replied back to people if the background is a tip.

I've said sorry about the mess to my regular partners, when I'm really busy and they want to see me.

The responses have been silence or "I'm not here to look at your house".

No I wouldn’t tell someone to come over to my house if it was a mess. I’d be too embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them. "

The picture someone posts is just that; a snapshot of a moment in time that the person wants to share. So it would depend on other factors about that person and the circumstances that we meet in for me to make a judgement on whether I want to be in that environment with them or not.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes, would definitely put me off

Sweep crap to the side if you have to

But we are all different

Jo x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I did once get a message saying my room was untidy. Luckily most men go tit blind.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

Surely it's more than that?

It's a conscious act of self-marketing, this is a picture that many people are going to make that first decision on.

If someone doesn't take a little care with that, I'm probably not "buying"!

But as with most things, we all have different approaches and feelings around things. I'm sure for many this is not a consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely avoid anyone where it looks like they haven't cleaned their skirting boards

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Definitely avoid anyone where it looks like they haven't cleaned their skirting boards

I put my white gloves on when entering a house. That's the first thing I check...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

Surely it's more than that?

It's a conscious act of self-marketing, this is a picture that many people are going to make that first decision on.

If someone doesn't take a little care with that, I'm probably not "buying"!

But as with most things, we all have different approaches and feelings around things. I'm sure for many this is not a consideration. "

Very well put!

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Makes no difference to me as I would never play at someone's house anyway but if the house is untidy, at least you know they are single

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I'm single and my flat isn't untidy, not really got the space for it to be, but then I am a tidy person

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'd probably be the opposite if the mess in the background was books or art/craft supplies.

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By *tamina260Man
over a year ago

west midlands

Theres a differance between untidy and unclean so no. Plus due to my ocd id probaly just want to tidy up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I post a picture and realise that it looks like a bomb has gone off in my house behind me. I'm ridiculously untidy.

Does this put people off? Would you look at a picture and think they're just too messy and avoid them?

I'm not unclean. Just untidy.

If I see a bloke's picture with a dirty bathroom mirror, that definitely puts me off them.

Surely it's more than that?

It's a conscious act of self-marketing, this is a picture that many people are going to make that first decision on.

If someone doesn't take a little care with that, I'm probably not "buying"!

But as with most things, we all have different approaches and feelings around things. I'm sure for many this is not a consideration. "

It’s a consideration, but you’re making an assumption based on your perception of the OPs claim of being ‘unnecessary untidy’. My judgements of someone run much deeper than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Theres a differance between untidy and unclean so no. Plus due to my ocd id probaly just want to tidy up"

Really? I've washed all of my clothes and shoved them into a clean wardrobe where they're overflowing out. That's untidy but clean so there's definitely a difference.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Yes would completely put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes no difference to me as I would never play at someone's house anyway but if the house is untidy, at least you know they are single

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Theres a differance between untidy and unclean so no. Plus due to my ocd id probaly just want to tidy up

Really? I've washed all of my clothes and shoved them into a clean wardrobe where they're overflowing out. That's untidy but clean so there's definitely a difference. "

Yes, a big difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it looked like a Channel 5 hoarder show it would put me off. Or if there were kids toys in the background.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the house is unclean or untidy I wouldn't meet. It says something about the person that I don't particularly like.

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