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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not managing to have a proper conversation with the people I am interested in. I get a lot of messages from men and TV/CD but that’s about it. What’s wrong with my profile ?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Not managing to have a proper conversation with the people I am interested in. I get a lot of messages from men and TV/CD but that’s about it. What’s wrong with my profile ? "

You're far from ugly, OP. Good photos & interesting bio.

However, your profile sounds more like a bucket list. Maybe say more about what you can offer, rather than what you want?

But that's just me nit picking.

Also bear in mind that you've only been on for a few weeks. Be flattered that people are messaging, but sort out your filters if you don't want a particular group messaging you.

Good luck, OP. X

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Block them contacting your via messages

That would stop it

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

You've only been here 6 weeks and there's a pandemic going on.

As above said your profile reads like a to do list.

Your personality isn't coming across.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

‘mentally stable’ I couldn’t get beyond that

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Pics are ok. Profile could sound friendlier.

Take the mentally stable bit out and you’ll definitely have more luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, noted, good points there, will work on my presentation! thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops I thought this was a thread about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be in the minority

I get loads of messages from women and I am ugly and boring

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

OP you know your neither x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah and your profile is not even available

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yeah and your profile is not even available "

Whos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the tv/ts you have it categories as your looking for them so you will apper on they search list if you don’t want them messages you take them off your looking for list witch will stop you from appring on they search then go in to message filters and block all messages from tv/ts so you don’t get cold called

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

I clicked on your profile and your name is 'Jalebi baby' ......

I'm not a gay bloke but I think that's a pretty name and very attractive.

There are more men on here than women you are bound to be contacted by men more often than by women.

If you don't want contacting by men then use your filters to block them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Your profile says you are looking for TV's

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We've only just started to allow meets from the site, after over a year of many people waiting. So you're at the back of the queue for many people, along with other new users. People have been waiting to see friends etc. And many people just are not meeting yet.

Outside of exceptional times, your issue is very typical for men here, who wait months for progress. It's standard that you'll send loads of messages and feel ignored - that's a tough experience. You can control things to a limited extent by using the site to maximum effect and by deciding what realistic expectations to have. Once clubs are more open, you can meet others there too. Single men typically don't sell themselves well, often by not letting that be the focus of their communication - think in reverse, what would people viewing you be likely to want to know and feel good about seeing from you? It's marketing ABC. Photos, if they give someone enough to be able to imagine you being with them and it giving them a positive desire for you, is perfect. Always have good clear pics that allow the best possible perception of you. Avoiding being in dark clothes, against a dark background, can be very helpful, as it lets us grasp your physique better. A wider range of pucs can be good, as each positive extra impression that others form, may be enough to increase their certainty that you could be a good match.

You will probably do well here, it's just that it could take some time and a lot of effort.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Your profile says you are looking for TV's "

He's got taste, Granny!

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"On the tv/ts you have it categories as your looking for them so you will apper on they search list if you don’t want them messages you take them off your looking for list witch will stop you from appring on they search then go in to message filters and block all messages from tv/ts so you don’t get cold called "

About to say the same. It looks a bit suss having having them listed as looking for but then saying you don't want to meet them. Kind of he doth protesteth too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you are looking for TV's "

In a group setting with a woman, while wearing a blindfold so he can say he didn’t touch anything and doesn’t have the ghey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s a catchy song

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for a very elaborate breakdown, it makes sense! Very analytical

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A discussion is brewing regarding my preferences - my profile clearly outlines I am not interested in tv and cd, however ts I am very much interested in. It’s a shame that transgender people don’t get their own category because being transgender is fundamentally different to being a tv / cd. But you are making a valid point that I didn’t see before, maybe I should mention that from the TS CD TV, I am only interested in TS. Although my profile says no tv and cd, which only leaves out ts but yeah, thank you for sharing

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"Your profile says you are looking for TV's

He's got taste, Granny! "

Obvs

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