FabSwingers.com forum: My interpretation of the workings of fab.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A gentleman will make flirtatious comments towards you a few times in the forum, you don’t acknowledge them as forum flirting isn’t something you partake in, gentleman then sees this as a rebuff and from there will be nasty towards you.

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Forum flirting is part of the game, and definitely not to be taken seriously.

For me, if I want to find out if someone is actually interested in me or I am interested in them I will message them directly.

If I get a negative response or it's just ignored, I leave it, I don't feel the need to ask why.

I am comfortable in my own skin so don't feel the need to man bash. As I have said a few times we are like marmite, some will like us some won't and visa versa

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

"A gentleman will make flirtatious comments towards you a few times in the forum, you don’t acknowledge them as forum flirting isn’t something you partake in, gentleman then sees this as a rebuff and from there will be nasty towards you.

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys. "

I agree with what you've said, but in agreeing I'v just become part of the white night brigade,can't win

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys.

I agree with what you've said, but in agreeing I'v just become part of the white night brigade,can't win"

Nope, you are safe. Agreeing is fine. Once you step in to defend when somebody disagree however, then you have put on your armour and are ready to do battle for the lady's honour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't flirt. Or rather Meli calls it 'intelligent flirting' which I think has more to with the 'size' of my brain than my willy.

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys.

I agree with what you've said, but in agreeing I'v just become part of the white night brigade,can't win

Nope, you are safe. Agreeing is fine. Once you step in to defend when somebody disagree however, then you have put on your armour and are ready to do battle for the lady's honour. "

Ahhhhh thank you good man

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Reading the OP post - I don’t put other men down or at least not intentionally - but I realise that much of the frustration suffered by guys on here is as a result of the fancy a fuck brigade who get arsey when they don’t get one.

For me fab works the same way as the real world - if you’re attracted to someone and they’re attracted to you then great. Often the difference is only the expectation- I don’t see many people in here looking for a life partner - but just fun and friendship

There are always exceptions but just in general.

I like the banter in here and sometimes I’ll chat with someone in particular - but if I message someone and they don’t message back - there’s a million reasons why that might be - just have to try and be a nice guy. It should be a fun place to come - not a chore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thing I’ve noticed as well is that people don’t like it if you’re happy with how you look. It’s frowned upon. You must always be moaning about things to be accepted.

Also some men will deliberately say nasty things because it is the only way they can get people like myself to interact with them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol the Knight in shining amour routine happens often...

You have never responded to my flirts but I've never been nasty to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men expect too much of this place. Never met anyone for sex from here. Now tinder that's a different story lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing I’ve noticed as well is that people don’t like it if you’re happy with how you look. It’s frowned upon. You must always be moaning about things to be accepted.

Also some men will deliberately say nasty things because it is the only way they can get people like myself to interact with them! "

OP you are not upto the high standards of perfection I demand in my women.

You, yes YOU! That man stop slouching ... Look lively ... call them muscles hahahahahahahahaha!

My penis is great but if it had another 10' on it then it would be FABULOUS!

do I get all the clunge now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol the Knight in shining amour routine happens often...

You have never responded to my flirts but I've never been nasty to you "

No you’ve never been nasty and that just shows your character.

I don’t flirt with anyone equally though so dunno why anyone should feel singled out.

If I flirted with every guy apart from the one who had just flirted with me then maybe they’d have a stronger argument but it’s just not something I’d do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol the Knight in shining amour routine happens often...

You have never responded to my flirts but I've never been nasty to you

No you’ve never been nasty and that just shows your character.

I don’t flirt with anyone equally though so dunno why anyone should feel singled out.

If I flirted with every guy apart from the one who had just flirted with me then maybe they’d have a stronger argument but it’s just not something I’d do. "
well start flirting with me then

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys. "

Not really a ‘gentleman’ then? Only some men OP surely?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful. "

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Most generalisations contain some truth but not all truth!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone "

Oh and men apologising to women on behalf of other men. That’s a common one too!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone

Oh and men apologising to women on behalf of other men. That’s a common one too!"

“What kind of body do guys prefer” post

“I think all bodies are beautiful it’s what’s inside that counts please pick me ladies pretty please!”

Boring

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone "

Agreed. Though often just agreeing with a woman gets called out as white knighting.

And soft answers don't always equal that attitude.

I'll often give soft answers, or I'll agree or defend/stand by what a woman has said, because it is how I feel myself but I sure as shit am not scared to disagree with them or call them out on something or some bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone

Agreed. Though often just agreeing with a woman gets called out as white knighting.

And soft answers don't always equal that attitude.

I can confirm what you are saying is true. I’ve had times where you’ve agreed with me and times where you’ve told me when I’m being a dick.

It’s cos you want nothing from me or the women you’re agreeing or disagreeing with.

That’s the difference. When a guy doesn’t give a shit what people think and they’re just stating their opinion because that is their opinion and not hoping to be rewarded with sex, it’s unfair to be labelled a white knight.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I must admit I have more time for the men who will actually post and stand up for themselves against the posts that are seen as man bashing. Most ignore, probably because they don’t want to upset any women or ruin any chances they have. I have noticed this a lot. Women will be straight on a post if they think they’re being bashed/shamed in any way and the thread will fill up in no time! Men however don’t tend to, only some of them and usually the same ones. I have more respect for those men

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

This. The level of simping and white knighting on here from guys is disgusting. Giving soft answers to everything because they hope it’ll get them laid.

Have a back bone "

Yeah pretty much this. I hadn’t seen this before I posted.

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I must admit I have more time for the men who will actually post and stand up for themselves against the posts that are seen as man bashing. Most ignore, probably because they don’t want to upset any women or ruin any chances they have. I have noticed this a lot. Women will be straight on a post if they think they’re being bashed/shamed in any way and the thread will fill up in no time! Men however don’t tend to, only some of them and usually the same ones. I have more respect for those men

Though don't forget, as we said in another thread recently, some men just can't be bothered with the fallout from it. Just go for the easier life and not deal with drama, just let it slide etc. It's less effort to just agree than try to fight your side of things on here. And often I don't blame them.

Unfortunately that's not me, I can be an argumentative prick that likes to discuss things, even if I do come across as a sanctimonious dick about it at times. I often do have moments of total cba and give those soft answers because I know where things will end up.

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

The amount of times iv deleted a post just because I think 'I can be arsed'

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

There's no winning on here... Call someone out and you are being a dick, agree and you are simpering, defend and you are white knighting!

I think you just have to be yourself and be happy that that won't suit everyone. X

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

True. Lots just don’t get involved in the threads. You’re actually one of the ones I was thinking of

. That’s fine though! I try not to but I usually find I can’t help but have my say

. I suppose me being that kind of person draws me to others who are like that too. It probably makes a difference that I’m not really looking to impress anyone or gain likes etc so I’m not too bothered if people agree with me or not. Im just drawn to people who stand up for themselves I suppose. I've never been a sheep or a people pleaser and I don’t find myself attracted to those kind x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

There could literally be a thread about burning all men alive in cages and guys will still post on it like “yeah we kinda deserve it btw I’m free tonight if anyone fancies meeting a sophisticated guy that understands all the women problems and supports them”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also people like to call you a bully but can’t back it up with evidence of when you’ve actually bullied someone.

Think the last time I was accused of bullying was when I called seeside a virgin.

The fact he used to call himself a virgin at least 10 times a day and took great pride in saying he was a virgin was irrelevant. Also when everyone was applauding him for wanting to be a surrogate father to some lesbians and was giving them sperms without any legal or medical guidance. I was accused of bullying then when I said the whole thing was mad and that he should at least seek guidance from professionals.

If that’s bullying then I’m guilty, but to me I don’t see that as bullying.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is amazing how many opinions on the Forums can be be unhappy, but nothing changes. One minute people are the star of the Forum - next they are the target of the forum - it is the same as life and the nature of the beast.

For the most part people use the forums to get round filters, moan about not getting any, get noticed, get attention, get adoration and be told constantly they are amazing people.

People tell each other what they think they want to hear that will get them closer to their goal, change depending on who they perceive as the audience, often at the expense of others. People use vailed threads to that end actually read "I'm great person it's all the others"

"Communicating is easy telling people what they want to hear"

"higher you are the further you fall"

Just remember there will always be someone to kick that pedestal out from under you.

Be nice

Lord of Darkness

Master Of Negative Posts

Professional Elite

Entitled

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"There could literally be a thread about burning all men alive in cages and guys will still post on it like “yeah we kinda deserve it btw I’m free tonight if anyone fancies meeting a sophisticated guy that understands all the women problems and supports them”"

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Also people like to call you a bully but can’t back it up with evidence of when you’ve actually bullied someone.

Think the last time I was accused of bullying was when I called seeside a virgin.

If that’s bullying then I’m guilty, but to me I don’t see that as bullying.

To be fair you’re a lot of things and I won’t lie you have rubbed me up the wrong way on occasions but a bully isn’t a word I’d use to describe you. You make me laugh more than anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also people like to call you a bully but can’t back it up with evidence of when you’ve actually bullied someone.

Think the last time I was accused of bullying was when I called seeside a virgin.

If that’s bullying then I’m guilty, but to me I don’t see that as bullying.

To be fair you’re a lot of things and I won’t lie you have rubbed me up the wrong way on occasions but a bully isn’t a word I’d use to describe you. You make me laugh more than anything

Thank you, that genuinely means a lot to me.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

#notallmen

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't get too involved in any thread in the lounge but anyone who knows me in the Irish forum will agree that I say it as I see it and will often argue against double standards.

The funny thing is although I have no problem telling a woman or couple if I believe they are man bashing the vast majority of abuse I get in return is from other men and if I pull a man on his attitude it's usually met with complete silence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't get too involved in any thread in the lounge but anyone who knows me in the Irish forum will agree that I say it as I see it and will often argue against double standards.

Probably because some men believe that they’ll look good in front of the women by joining in the man bashing.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't get too involved in any thread in the lounge but anyone who knows me in the Irish forum will agree that I say it as I see it and will often argue against double standards.

You clearly don't know the women folk of the lounge very well.

You breath wrong (fuck knows how they know with it being online, but they know!) and you have just signed your death warrant. It's like a beacon. Do it, and they will come... For your life.

A different breed of the women folk here, my friend. Dangerous territory. Only the brave, or very stupid, or both tread here.

As for the men folk, we are harmless, chilled, and friendly! Most of us...

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

People seem to forget though that the forums are only just a speck in fab. You will notice that it's the same people over and over again that post in threads.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Another thing, men putting other men down in the hope that women will look at them and think they’re wonderful.

Women do this to other women too.

Also *most* women do not care about penis size, it’s usually men who are obsessed with the size of their willys. "

And then there are those of us (men and women) that just like to flirt or chat or generally piss about on here….

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What if you tend to agree with what’s being said?

Often the ‘man bashing’ threads are pointing out bad behaviour, which I tend to agree with.

I’m not going to stand up for an asshole, just because they have the same genitals as me

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that you’re automatically labelling anyone who agrees with an alternative point to yourself as a negative stereotype. Which in itself is reflective on you.

Sometimes people’s opinions align with different genders, that doesn’t mean that they’re doing it to curry favour. Claiming so is doing the very thing that you’re saying that you dislike

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over a year ago

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Men also put other women down in an attempt to pay you a compliment.

This really annoys me.

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