Where to begin on giving general advice to guys who haven’t hit the ground running…. hmmmm.
I think the usual stuff has been covered… profile, photos, etc.
OK, two things:
1 – compensate
2 – timing
Sometimes guys are told they need to put more effort in…. I don’t like referring to it as effort, it makes it sound like you should be made to work for something which is meant to be fun and recreational. But… unlike in a regular social setting where people can see you, you make lots of eye contact, read body language, pick up subtle flirting gestures, hear the changes in tone and get a much fuller picture of you……… on here it’s pretty much type on a page and a few snap shots. So what would be a good opener or approach in the flesh, doesn’t always work the same in a message. Hence the word ‘compensate’……… the more you can compensate for what is missing when you approach someone with a message, the more interest you will likely capture.
Timing is everything when your preference is spontaneity. Just as you are busy a lot of the time, quite often so are other people who are seeking the more spontaneous meets. This meeting malarkey is like a giant game of battleships….. E4 miss! They are looking for someone they can get to know. … J6 miss! They aren’t looking at the moment as they have someone lined up…. D8 miss! They just aren’t feeling the love in your message. But sooner or later, and it is partly down to pure luck…. B5 hit! They fancy a change, wanted something quick, you came along at the right time and place. Use the chatrooms, use the search functions, use meet today, use as much of the site as you can so they don’t miss you when sailing by on this great big ocean.
This is by no means a comprehensive guide, just a couple of things to think about.
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There are some fantastic people on fab, and another is always welcome. Good luck!
