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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley

So dating apps ....

Most of them give you an option that says “ looking for something casual “

What is your understanding of casual in terms of relationships ....

Not clothing

Jeans and a T-shirt replies will be unappreciated to all the comedians

To me it means no labels dating, fun , a little play if the connections right

I think some see it completely differently ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it their euphemism for NSA sex, FB/FWB or a hook-up rather than dating as such.

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Is it their euphemism for NSA sex, FB/FWB or a hook-up rather than dating as such."

No it’s not all about NSA sex for me but the commitment they require is not what I see as casual

I may just be getting it all wrong just wanted other opinions

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems"

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to "

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to "

You don't want introducing to mum you mean?

I think the number of people who genuinely want casual is tiny, personally.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I see it as a fwb found the perfect one on pof but sadly he wanted more as time went on! That's why I find here better think expectations are different x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB."

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '"

Bluntly put but if you’re both aware it can finish at any point surely that’s the casual no commitment aspect

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

You don't want introducing to mum you mean?

I think the number of people who genuinely want casual is tiny, personally. "

Yes I’m finding that out

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '"

Bit pessimistic, I took it as I’ll turn up for a date in my jammies at mcdonalds.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I always took it to basically mean no commitment and that you'll probably be one of many.

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '

Bit pessimistic, I took it as I’ll turn up for a date in my jammies at mcdonalds."

Did you wear a onesie?

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"I always took it to basically mean no commitment and that you'll probably be one of many. "

I agree to no commitment but I’m not looking to play the field And sleep around just I can’t commit as I want to go and work abroad but

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '

Bit pessimistic, I took it as I’ll turn up for a date in my jammies at mcdonalds.

Did you wear a onesie? "

I have done but I prefer the tartan joggers and dressing gown.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '

Bit pessimistic, I took it as I’ll turn up for a date in my jammies at mcdonalds."

better than a wedding dress

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Don't be introducing me to your mum or asking me to listen to your problems

That’s exactly what i don’t want !!!! But these ladies seem to

What the ladies want I would say is definetly not casual. You may go on dates, have sex, you could even go through problems with each other but you're not looking at commitment and can break off anytime. Casual, for me, would be an FWB.

I often think casual is code for ' I'll just dump you with no further thought when I'm fed up with you. And then I'm not an arse cos it was just casual '

Bit pessimistic, I took it as I’ll turn up for a date in my jammies at mcdonalds.

better than a wedding dress "

fair point

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I take it to mean enjoys ons and fb.

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"I take it to mean enjoys ons and fb. "

I wish it did

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

casual to me means either of you can walk away when you want with no drama

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"casual to me means either of you can walk away when you want with no drama"

I wish everyone had this view

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"casual to me means either of you can walk away when you want with no drama"

Yes this exactly! Dont work like that though I find! Which makes me reluctant to meet sometimes! I dont want one offs ! Or even more than one! But I've got my own happy life with limited time x

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By *ooroo2019Woman
over a year ago

Chester

Casual dating is different to fwb for me. As in I want to go on actual dates as well. And what makes it casual is that I know it isn’t leading anywhere realtionshippy. Only works if everyone is really honest about expectations at the outset.

I’ve had some great short term flings.

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley

realtionshippy

This needs adding to the Oxford dictionary

I’d like a casual fling

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By *ooroo2019Woman
over a year ago

Chester

Ah crap I misspelled it, relationshippy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA. Just a hook-up/fuck or maybe FB xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nsa sex

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"NSA. Just a hook-up/fuck or maybe FB xx"

I wish this was the general view of the term

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Nsa sex"

If only everyone had that view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun without the drama

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Fun without the drama "

Haha I’m not sure that exists

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Fun without the drama

Haha I’m not sure that exists "
It does for me

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Fun but with no expectations of anything more. Both free to see other people if that's what is agreed.

Kx

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Fun without the drama

Haha I’m not sure that exists It does for me"

Lucky you

Stop rubbing it in though

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Fun without the drama

Haha I’m not sure that exists It does for me

Lucky you

Stop rubbing it in though "
its not that hard to find if you make it perfectly clear from the beginning what your intentiond are

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Casual on a dating site to me is less than FWB - one night stands or booty calls, not monogamous, just scratching an itch.

It's all open to interpretation though, so I always made sure to be explicit about my expectations in my profile when I used those sites, then brought it up again in the first messages exchanged. Pointless wasting time if we're not on the same page.

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By *ememberTheName OP   Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Fun without the drama

Haha I’m not sure that exists It does for me

Lucky you

Stop rubbing it in though its not that hard to find if you make it perfectly clear from the beginning what your intentiond are"

When you say perfectly clear.... is saying it enough or do I need a written document with a space to sign as an agreement ?

Everything was said in the beginning

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